However, once Lauri decided to bring it up and confirm all the things I had been hearing, I found myself in a very hard predicament. How do I not get angry and address the woman that was accusing me of cheating on my dying fiancé, all the while she was the one actually having multiple affairs? What’s worse is that I now know that she was projecting and deflecting her own actions onto me as a means of covering it up. I was disgusted by what Lauri was telling me; however I knew if this information was going to be made public, it was up to Lauri too address Vicki, not me, no matter how upset I was. So I tried to rise above it and not say anything to Vicki – even though she was giving me opportunity after opportunity in Mexico just by the things she was saying and doing.
Of course she claims I was a filthy human being and should be ashamed of myself for discussing her actions, but who is she kidding? I mean she says I should be ashamed, yet she's the one deep throating a penis lollipop in the car and talking about how much she loves penis and is good at the gesture she was doing with that lollipop. What a joke. I simply did what all Housewives do, we have an opinion of each other’s actions. It’s not like Vicki has come up short in that department when it came to her opinion about me the last five years. In every interview I do, I'm just responding to what she was doing in that moment. It seems to me that Vicki can never take responsibility for her own actions, it's always everyone else's fault.
Here's what I believe the truth is: she's mad that she had no clue Lauri was telling me about all her affairs while being a married woman and in a desperate attempt to show she was more fun and the life of the party to Tamra, she did some pretty raunchy things that ended up validating Lauri's comments about her and she's mad she got busted. In the last two episodes, she basically ran herself over with a 9000 lbs bus, by HER OWN actions. I didn't even have to say anything to her and she just kept proving Lauri’s point. I really hate to say it, but as the saying goes karma is quite the bitch right?
My biggest question for this woman has always been, why throw stones when you live in a gigantic glass house? But I guess Vicki never thought it would catch up with her. I believe she has become very accustom to just living the lie. Laurie is the third person to come forward. Vicki’s own daughter Brianna confirmed she was aware of the cheating, then Tamra spoke about the guy in Mexico last year on our reunion and now Lauri. Vicki has been caught lying and cheating and somehow it’s my fault? What a crock of bull-pucky! Laurie was sure right about one thing, Vicki likes to deflects everything about herself onto those around her!
Superb!!! Keep being the strong, graceful, business woman that you are! The best sort of reaction to those who try to drag you down, because of jealousy, is to have no reaction at all. If you let them get under your skin, then you hand over your control of your emotion. You don't have to answer any of them. You have much to be proud of. Don't give them the satisfaction of being upset at anything they throw at you. The truth is, you don't owe anyone an explanation of how you live your life. You do have a caring heart, but guard it from silly jealous people.
I love you!! I am the same way u are & my family still asks m when am I gonna learn... well I have a heart of gold & now one person will ever change that!! I am sickened from watching Tamara & Vicki attack you once again!! I feel for u girl.... I will be boycotting Tamara's special... The way they treated you was truly horrible & heartless!! Keep being you, cause these two deserve each other. Best of luck to you!! xoxo
Gretchen, you are the only reason I watch the show. I admire your brains, beauty and strength. If I were in your shoes I'd be defending myself as well. Vicki is digusting. I hate watching her on your show. Best of luck!
Gretchen, take the high some time. You keep ragging on Vicki and you are looking like a fool. You see how all of this got turned around on you when you guys were in Canada. Laurie is liar, she couldn't keep her story straight.
Why is Vicki even on the show. Just like Teresa Guidice, she is stupid, ignorant, hypocritical and just a MEAN OLD HAG!! Vicki get off the show and go be a GrandMa
Also, why are you so jealous of who Tamara is friends with? You don't want her to be friends with Alexis, you don't want her to be friends with Vicki.... What is your problem?!? Guess what, adults can be friends with more than one person at a time, and guess what you don't have to like the people Tamara is friends with. It is none of your business! Grow up and stop acting like a spoiled school girl!
ou want to spread gossip, true or not, ugly gossip, against Vicki yet it was primarily Tamara. You apparently you have to have someone to put down. You are definitely a mean girl! You are the one who never takes responsibility for nothing.
I love love love you Gretchen! Go easy on Vicki tho, she's not as pretty as you PLUS she's in her 50's, and (god willing) someday you will be too! Then you'll know----it's not easy being her!
Gretchen you and you hubby are a phony, your laughing is a nervous response you talk and laugh is annoying really , you hubby should stop talking about the women ,he is not that handsome himself and is not a men job to make fun of women ,he is so out of social life ,he puts his foot in his mouth! I am glad Lidia put him off of his high horse, let him know she is not going to put up with that kind of attitude not like Tamara or Vicky ! I notice a big chance on you is jealousy is madness you want your friends just for you, remember you are doing a show and not one there is your friend ,you guys hate each other all of you! you are pretty but you should be more pretty inside indeed!
Softsbeam, I could not agree more with your assessment of Vicki, I'm amazed that Brianna seems to be such a wonderful person having had Vicki as her role model. There isn't a single redeeming quality that I can find in Vicki.
One more thing... haha Vicki shows the world what she's made of with the way she treats Brianna. She lies to her constantly about that Brooks-dog-man. She was upset that Bri got married but not for the right reasons. It was all about her own selfishness. It should've been about Vicki, not Bri being happy. She'll be sneaking Brooks into the house soon, now that Brianna's hubby is gone.
And look.... Brooks treats Vicki horribly. He's dating, he's doing what he wants, and he is just downright nasty to Vicki. So what does this say about Vicki? She'll take any kind of attention, even negative. I think Don was too nice and understanding to her and that's why she dumped him.
Vicki would let Brooks destroy her family in a heartbeat. OOOOOOH, I can't stand that woman.
I was really disappointed in Lydia. At first I thought she was going to be fair minded and openly honest like Heather.
There's not a soul on earth that would think that leaving you guys in the car was right. No checking in to see if you were ok or anything. Zippo.
You wrote so much and I want to comment on all of it. LOL But I can just say, "Ditto!" Because everything you wrote was true.
I was so upset with Tamara throwing you to the side of the road like she did. She really went against the speech she had just recently given. ---Support each other, be open and communicate, blah blah blah...
Why anyone would want to be friends with Vicki is beyond me. She's so dishonest and it all has to be about her. Remember her telling Tamara that she should defend her to Simon? After all, Vicki "should" come before Tamara's marriage.
Ok, that's all I can handle right now. I get too emotional about people being unfairly treated. I can feel that I'm throwing up in my mouth right now. LOL!
Keep on being yourself. You do good.
You may not realize this, but the ugly looks on your face anytime Vicki is spoke of or actually in your presence does not suit you. You're a gorgeous girl, I give you that; voice can be annoying as Freddy Krueger claws scratching a metal pole, but you used to be my fav... and I NEVER thought I'd say this, but even Tamra is starting to look better than you. You may win most hated this season. While you blame Vicki for all the bad "she" used to do to you... I wonder why in the heck you can't just admit that it was actually Tamra who did all that to you, and you know it, Vicki was just her puppet. Pretty much like you are now. Even Tamra's starting to admit what a self-centered, high maintenance kinda friend you are. That's why they ditched you girls in Mexico, it was the fun girls, vs' the boring that night. I didn't get why you were both so mad as you kept saying you didn't want to go out. So Tamra changed her mind at the last minute... Vicki and Lydia said all night they were going to party... and I didn't see nothing raunchy going on.... speaking of raunchy... you at the stripper party was the raunchiest thing I've ever seen on this show. You have a lot of nerve to talk to Vicki constantly, looks like you're doing the reflecting... not her. No matter how much you go on and on (I didn't know you were a writer, too, wow!), speaking in circles.
Am I the only viewer who is utterly baffled by two women duking it out over Tamra--a person who is capable of being no one's friend? Who could ever trust her, FTLOG?
Gretchen you are my fav house wife , I think you are beautiful, funny smart and could have a great future . Sorry to say us women think with our hearts when we should not, it blocks the truth from us to see. I see Slade as not the guy for you to be totally happy (to much baggage.) As far as the rest of the cast, I know Tamra hurt you , but you need true friends around you , try to make peace with Alexis. just be yourself and true friends will love you for that alone. Stay as far away from Vickie as possible
With all the bitch slaps you get here I have to say you take it with more grace than Alexis. Perhaps the college degree has helped you with that. As for Alexis, I find it interesting to see her evolve, her evolution is set around everyone elses life circumstances. When you were interviewing with FOX, she suddenly became and anchor (LMAO) because she didnt know what an anchor was. She sucked at it and we all know they fired her. Then it was a designer after you were designing your own cosmetic line and handbags, suddenly that was also her dream and she decided one day thats what she would do because her inspirations were Valentino, Chanel (who she things was a man) and Alexander McQueen and she says she takes ideas from their designs and includes them into her designs. WHAT????? That has to be a misprint right? First of all none of her trashy designs have any elements of any of those designers, Gabrielle "Coco" Chanel was one of the influential and innovative designers of our time and is known for her classic, and timeless suits, that start at $5,000. McQueens designs are provocative, and nothing she could dream could have elements of his designs so for her to say i have their elements in my designs is a real slap in the face to true designers. Her stuff is cheap, trashy and no style. Now since Heathers TV show she wants to get into acting, she has the bug and now this is her true dream and she is going for it. She is like a little girl shopping and she wants everything she see's because she isnt happy with what she has. Can't wait to see what career she will go for next season. By the way, with all the sophistication she touts and grace why hasn't she entertained any of the gals at her house??? Bet ya Jimbo won't allow it.
And I just have to add that I think its funny that the title of your blog has to do with Karma since the rhoc reunion that I just watched from a couple of seasons ago you had no idea what karma was and Andy Cohen had to explain it to you.
I've been watching the housewives from the beginning and it seems like you lie alot. I just watched the reunion for your 2nd season and Andy asked you about the time period between dating Jeff and Slade, you and Slade tried to say it was 8 months after Jeff passed away that you began dating and Andy pointed out it had to be only 4 or 5 months bc you guys were together during filming. Then you tried to say Slade didnt want to be a part of the show yet on the 100th episode special he admitted to bidding $2500 to get Jo and him on the show. Then on the 100th episode Jo said you met Slade through her, which you claim is a lie. The preview for this week shows Heather telling the other ladies that you lied about having an audition for a tv show. So I am wondering what else you have lied about (i.e. saying that you were offered Alexis' job on Fox 5 before she was).
Do you remember why you forgave Tamra? Because you heard the sermon at church, about forgiveness, and how not letting something go gives the other person "power", and it destroys YOU? Well, I'm a Christian and I believe in that wholeheartedly and live it. What i do NOT understand is how you decided to hate or intensely dislike Alexis, the ONLY lady that stood beside you and supported/defended you when no one else was your friend, even when your old friend Lynn abandoned you for Tamra. Even if you no longer like her, viciousness and vitriol against her...just uncalled for! Yet, though she didn't do anything vicious to you at all, you've decided to be obnoxious (as a CLEAR example, your disgusting hand gesture at Tamra's gym party when Alexis was speaking), and relentlessly mean to her, to DEFEND Tamra...from WHAT??? What could Alexis ever do to her that Tamra needs your protection? I think you really need to reexamine yourself, your motives, goals, and rationale.. Btw, where is your blog?
I agree with you! Vicki will never look at herself as she should. She IS a hypocrite and a nasty person. She and Tamra are exactly the same type people, who you don't need in your life.
Change the words "old woman" to "Gretchen" and you got the story of your life with Tamra.
THE OLD WOMAN AND THE SNAKE: A PARABLE
An old woman was walking down the road when she saw a gang of thugs beating a poisonous snake. She rescued the snake and carried it back to her home, where she nursed it back to health. They became friends and lived together for many months. One day they were going into town, and the old woman picked him up and the snake bit her. Repeatedly. "O God," she screamed, "I am dying! Why? I was your friend. I saved your life! I trusted you! Why did you bite me?"
The snake looked up at her and said, "Lady, you knew I was a snake when you first picked me up."
Copyright © Hunter S. Thompson, 1994
I never comment, wrote, FB or tweeted to any of the house wives and yet I have been watching since the first day its aired, but I have to say it has been nice to see you get some sort of redemption against all the haters with all the truth that is being reviled. Just remember the truth will always be brought to the light!
First of all, you are my Favorite out of all the Housewives series. Love you laughter, loving personality and REALNESS. Don't let Vicki get to you. She is washed up, needs attention 24/7, something is wrong with that. And, do not put all your trust in Tamra, I don't.
You should have never invited Vickie. It is obvious that she is so jealous but that is HER problem not yours. I think Tamra owes you a big apology for her behavior. By the looks of that suite I'm sure you spent a pretty penny on that weekend getaway. As my husband & I were watching the episode, he said " I would have asked a 3 of them (Tamra, Vickie, Lydia) to leave"! They obviously don't appreciate what she did for them. Seriously, who treats a host that way? Personally, I would have packed their bags up when they were out partying and when they returned they would NOT be staying in my suite. That's just me. I don't believe in treating people like shit who have went out of their way to do something nice for me. If Tamra wants a friend like Vickie let her because its only a matter of time before Vickie turns on her, again. Your better off without any of their friendships (excluding Heather), stay positive and keep living your life. Peace & Love.
Gretchen, do not let them bring you to their level. I think that you are slipping a little. Take some time and think about it. Tamra is definitely showing you that your friendship to her meant very little. Let Vicki & Tamra have each other, you are not losing anything. ..
If I were you, I would move on from this show. You are better than these women and they will just bring you down. You can't fix stupid! The way Vicki and Tamra treat each other and everyone else is disturbing. Wouldn't it be interesting to see who they turned on if you left? I understand drama is entertainment but I think I have had enough.
Gretchen.......I LOVE LOVE LOVE you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You keep it real. No fake breasts, no fake "marriage", and you are 100% you all the time. A Crazy Wild Child who is not afraid to let it all hang out and be silly. I had gastric bypass and lost 150 lbs, I want to get my "girls" done, but every time I see you I think, eh, heck with it, just be me. Thanks:):):):)
You, Gretchen, have held yourself above the antics of Vicki. It's been hurtful but Vicki's truths will come out and when they do many of the people she has hurt will be vindicated and people will see Vicki for the type of person she really needs. What goes around comes around, take solace in that and continue to keep your head up high.
You are beautiful and I agree with every word about Tamra and Vicki. Web you look up hypocrite in the Webster dictionary, they should have a picture if Vicki gunvalson. You have turned yourself into a successful brand and you should be very proud!! Keep doing you!
I agree; Vicki is out of control, a freak, and totally self absorbed. She needs to give it up and leave!!!!!!!!!
I totally agree with Glchapp. Gretchen is a fake, and acts like a junior high kid who is not getting here own way. She needs to grow up and stop acting like a spoiled brat.
Agreed. Phonies and hypocrites. Two adjectives for Gretchen and her boyfriend. Bad attitude, jealous heart...need I say more? Leave Vicki alone. You are obsessed with her. You mistreated Alexis, you mistreated Vicki, you would like to do the same to Tamra...even when you were trying to spread your vicious rumors to Heather, she did not want to hear it. GET A LIFE. Leave other people alone.
Totally agree. Vicki only knows how to scream and make a fool out of herself.
Amen to that, Judy. Brianna is a polar opposite of her mother (maybe she was switched at birth).
And I'm awfully slow.... but I just realized that as soon as Tamra and Eddie get married, Vicki will start the destruction. It'll be Simon all over again.
Eddie has already hinted on the show that he's not a fan of Vicki. She'll be out to get him.
It'll be interesting to see how long before she starts with the little hints to Tamra that Eddie isn't treating her right.
@Softsbeam Someone better start watching out for Brianna. Her husband is a psycho. I think Vicki got that part right. With Brooks though she needs to send his but to the curb.
Didn't Jim tell her not to speak about the girls to him? Must be his way of showing his love and concern for her... (puking)...
That was a wonderful synopsis of Alexis. She has approximately 2 brain cells, and Jim controls both of them. You failed to touch on how she can't listen to anyone and feels that everything said to her is an attack. (But, I know... we only have a small amount of time.) LOL
BTW, she did lead that attack against Vicki when they had that little trip to San Francisco(?)... totally Alexis all the way.
Oh please, I know men with 2 degrees that didn't know what KArma meant. If they dont use it daily or it has nothing to do with sports they dont need to know.
ooooooooooo. I hope it's not true. I expect truth from Gretchen. Gosh, I'm 62 years old and still hold out hope for people to do and say the right thing.
Gretchen seems to never write a blog when she doesnt come off as great during the episode
WOW! right on!
That was perfect!
@Vap Vicki and Heather stood up with Tamra. Where was Gretchen?
I really do agree about Brianna's husband. The way he treated Lydia's mom was insane. He tends to get TOO commanding very easy. He "needs" things to be done his way, immediately. I hope Brianna can handle it. (She handled Vicki reasonably well, so maybe there's hope.) LOL
I didnt know karma was a word that too many people didint know. I didnt think it was bad she didint know. I just thought it was ironic that I just saw an episode where it was explained to her and then I saw it in her title.