I  really like you on the show.  Most of the time I think you are great., but sometimes its difficult to watch the way you talk to Terry.  He is your husband, not your child.   It looks like he works really hard to provide for his family and sometimes it feels like you talk to him the way you would talk to your children.  You told him in front of everyone to 'stop'. "Enough".  Those are words I say to my children.   Why couldn't you have onion rings too?  If your husband wanted onion rings and you love him why not just have onion rings?  Today I watched the episode where you were eating at the restaurant with your children and you again spoke to him like a child.   He worked all day and then he joked around.  Obviously you didn't like it but it was obvious he was just kidding.  Can you see how differently it could have went had you just laughed?  We all as women blow things up sometimes when we're not in the mood, but you're on TV.    How embarrassing for him to be apologizing and apologizing to his wife on TV.   He loves you and that had to be embarrassing for him.  Again, most of the time, you seem very level headed but can you see how it looks like you treat him like a child?  I couldn't imagine what you would do if he told you "ENOUGH".  I don't think you would handle it as patiently as Terry did.  I also don't think you would apologize to him the way that he did to you.  I just don't see it happening.    

I absolutely love you and Tamara!!!! Alexis is my least favorite wife and she owes you an apology. Love seeing you with your kids, you are such a genuine gal. Keep it up.

You are a very judgmental and critical person.  If you really took an honest look at yourself I don't think you would stand up to your own scrutiny.  And quit pinching people, it's MEAN!

As I read the blogs, let me say that these people are bullying you!  HAHAHAHAHAHA!   When i started watching Real Housewives I was hopping to see the lives of famous, rich, beautiful and CLASSY people!  Boy! So disappointing.

Heather - love your family, love you!  You put a positive spin on absolutely everything you touch.  Your presence has really freshened up RHOC!

I do not think you gave Alexis a fair chance. You immediately started judging her as soon as you met her. Tamra got in your ear whether you want to admit it or not. It's strange though because I think you are much smarter than that to have someone influence your decision. 

I love you! Keep on keeping it real. You are so much to admire. And PS- you look great this season. Your face looks softer and its gorgeous!

Heather girl, I'm on your side. Why would you invite people to a "party" if your not really friends. Alexis is a phones and you called her on it. That makes you honest and I like that. I wouldn't invite someone I had to tiptoe around or fake a friendship at party at my own house. Don't fret. You put the realness in reality t.v. And I love it.

I didn't realize she had a walk on part on General Hospital.  I don't think it should be, and obviously isn't, mandatory to invite all the ladies to an event.  I suppose Bravo likes it better when all are there, there is greater opportunity for a cat fight, but shouldn't be necessary.  The viewers do like to see calm times as well.

And one more thing, if Terry still wants onion rings just send him to me and I'll fry him up a batch! Me and a thousand other women! No problem!

You called Alexis pretentious. That is so funny. You must be the most pretentious housewife on all the housewves shows! The perfectionist thing is scary to watch and what is up with you being so snotty to Terry? You have these beautiful childre and this fancy house and money to burn because of Terry. Stop treating him so mean. I really liked you last season. What happened?

I am not a big fan of Alexis, but I am definitely disappointed in your behavior and comments to her. I like how rational and neutral of a role you generally play.  Don't let Tamra influence you, she's mean spirited.  Hope you and Alexis make amends.

Sorry, I have to agree that Heather is a snob ! How can you speak to Terry the way you do? And Terry, why do put up with her...There are plenty of women out that would respect and cherish you...

Heather,

I have enjoyed your presence on the show.  Mostly I appreciate your balanced way of approaching and reacting to situations and your emphasis on the positive rather than the negative.  It is a refreshing change to what is usually going on amongst the ladies.  However, I do think that if you are going to criticize Alexis for talking about wealth and status that you need to be a bit more observant of the fact that you sometimes refer to your husband as "one of the best plastic surgeons worldwide" (or similar verbiage).  My husband is also a plastic surgeon and I can tell you that while Terry is, I am sure, a very competent plastic surgeon with a thriving practice he is not "one of the best in the world".  And even if he were, it would be hypocritical of you to say so in light of your comments to Alexis .

I really can't believe you. Try to cover it up and blame your husband for "pushing your buttons", but you are an unbelievably self absorbed person. Then going to Temple you talk to Terry about atonement. What about YOU!! You have an evil heart! You are bossy, a control freak, judgemental. You do know that all the material things you like to flaunt are because of your husband, to which you show VERY little respect!! You just think you are better!! Period!! I really don't believe the bs you wrote about Alexis! I do not believe that you aplogized either. You PLANNED a gang up on her when she was defensless. She is not a hateful person like you! All of your wealth does NOT impress me. I would not jump on the band wagon with you every time you decide what other people should think, act, or do!!!! You are SO distaseful!!! Now talking behind Alexis' back and about her ring being fake??? Talk about two-faced!! I would never trust you.

omg...guess its ok to pinch people in front of others...especially your husband..glad he can put up with the crap.

Let me first start off by saying I love you!!!! You're my favorite. You are not pretentious...you don't go around bragging about what you have (in Costa Rica, it was Alexis who pointed out your Channel bag & its cost!!!!)...even though you obliviously have been blessed by being successful... My opinion is if you're having a party, you invite who you want....Alexis and you don't have a friendship, therefore you are not obligated to invite her. Surround yourself with people whom you enjoy their company and forget about everyone else...stay strong I have the feeling you're going to need it.

REALLY HEATHER!! You have the nerve to call Alexis pretentious. Do you realize how you come off.  I agree  with the blogger that said maybe you should be on The Beverly Hills Housewives show. Get off your high horse (your husband earns the big bucks) and quit being such a snob!!!

Where is Heather's beautiful dress at the clambake party from?

wow...when did heather become the least fav?  i luv heather!!

Not loving your superior wifey attitude towards your hubs! Taking the housewife role a tad too far? You are a bit of a mother superior towards him and the gals. Not exactly endearing, charming or even convincing. Putting other down or using others' weaknesses as opportunities to define your role is predictable and tiring. When Tamra closed the wine cellar door on you, I thought, well done T! And I am not a fan of hers! Mind your own, tend your own and lose the bossy pants!

Dear Adrienne, oh i mean heather, you are so unpleasant to watch. 

I see that Tamara is now rubbing off on you or are we seeing your true colors? Why could you not let Terry have his onion rings?? After all he is the one paying for them. Last I recall you did not get a part that you auditioned for last season so you made a huge tado about taking his last name. It's funny that you hate Alexis. The way I see it, you are exactly the person you describe Alexis as except your husband has a great job. No guarantee that the bank account balance is what you want us to all think it is. I have worked in the private baking department for years that only deal with top surgeons and lawyers and believe me they have the worst bank accounts and credit scores.

Hi Heather, I have been watching housewives for years now and my husband watches some episodes with me, not by choice but because he is just in the room at the time and he likes to put his two cents in.  The other day, you came on the tv and he was watching for a while and he said that out of all the housewives he has heard, he believes you are the most level headed and intelligent one!  I happen to love you too!!

did you reallly have to get tips on how to eat lobster... I'm sure they've all eaten lobster before. If Alexis would have done that, OMG!

You are so uptight, maybe its time you have an "intervention".

I'm so glad you explained this episode.  I was stunned to watch you behaving like the other ladies on this show.  I enjoyed watching you last year and enjoyed watching you negotiate life as a mother, actress, housewife and reality housewife.  You earned lots of props last year and this year I'm kind of embarrassed as to your behavior.  It isn't cute.  It's disgusting.  You are better than that.  I hope you didn't play me for the rest of the season because at the end of the day you live with you and so you only play yourself.  I'm good.  Real good.

Oh so stuffy!  I prefer Alexis over you 1000 times, you think you are smarter than everybody else well not!  I feel sorry for husband.

Heather-  Someone else wrote that you do come off holier then thou, and you do.  No matter how hard you try to hide the fact that you are a snob, it still comes across.  Your husband is so much more layed back then you.  He earns the big bucks, give him the friggin onion rings.  Pleeeaassee!  Who cares if you made up the menu, he pays for it. And you should of invited Alexis and Jim.  If you are always the bigger one for other housewives on the show, why not be the bigger one for your own issues with others?

I thought you were the "smart" housewife.  Apparently you don't understand what EXCLUDED means.

Last year you were my favorite housewife.  This year you're just another mean girl.

Why are these women so mean to their husbands? Seriously you're not all that,and neither is Marissa from RHOBH.

Wow, I am amazed how many people respond.  You have a pretty house. Remember when you came on the first time with Tamara,  looking for a property to build a bigger house. What happened or is this it?  

So, you sat Vickie and Tamara across from each other because...? Here's a thought, maybe not your place or business to get in the middle of their issues.  You aren't a therapist.  You've come across as holier-than-thou and and seem to think of yourself as having more insight  or wisdom than "regular" folks.  You can makes all the excuses for it that you'd like, such as culture, upbringing, etc, but in the end, it's meddling.

I find it amusing that you're so put off by Alexis' apparent pretentiousness, when it's actually you who is the most pretentious housewife on the show. Who cares if your husband wants onion rings at your fancy clambake, or he jokes that the desserts came from Costco. It seems appearances are very important to you. When you spoke of your house on last year's reunion, you had to not only mention the square footage, but also note that this figure didn't include loggias or pool or some such nonsense. If that exact phrase had come out of Alexis' mouth, you would have jumped all over her. I do like that you sincerely tried to get Vicki and Tamra to talk and hopefully rekindle their friendship (unlike Gretchen), but it escapes me how a seemingly intelligent woman such as yourself can befriend someone as vile as Tamra, while jumping all over Alexis for the most benign things. Being insecure and a bit braggy isn't nearly as off-putting to me as someone who constantly feels the need to spew negativity and belittle others.

So now you think you are a "Star" and can treat your husband with no respect, he wanted onion rings what was the big deal? 

Heather I love you and I think you and your husband are adorable - and out of all the ladies that are married/in a relationship - yours is the most real, honest and entertaining. Your a straight shooter, your not vindictive or mean. Keep doing you and ignore the haters - the ones that love you out weigh them by far!

I think it was ridiculous you wouldn't allow onion rings too. Sorry, you do treat your husband like a child. Maybe he needs mothering, I don't know. But, I have a feeling a man who managed UCLA , chief of plastic surgery, published articles in medical journals is a pretty capable man. I don't know why you would deny such a silly request. No room in the kitchen does seem absurd. You could land a plane in your house. But, in saying that... I like you. At the end of the day, if your husband doesn't mind your hen pecking.. then that's all that matters. :)

Sorry Heather. You saying Alexis wasn't excluded is absurd. The viewer isn't as naive as you think and it's belittling to us that you even stated that. Don't you realize that Alexis' behavior is out of insecurity and has become an unintentional habit? On the other hand, your behavior is intentional! It is meant to hurt her....over and over and over again. While it may be irritatiing to hear her try to elevate herself with pointing out her "things," it's just plain cruel of you to consistently treat her like dirt on your boot and malign her character. We all have friends who act like that, but I would never "call them out" on it, because it stems from how they feel about themselves. You shouldn't take Alexis comments personally...it is NOT about you and if you were a little less self-absorbed you'd see that. Your behavior is snide, elitist, and just plain cruel. Time for a little self-reflection and a reality check.