Alexis Wasn't Excluded
Heather explains why Alexis wasn't invited to her clambake and why Terry didn't get his onion rings.
Hi Everyone! Here we go again!
I hope you enjoyed the first episode, I thought it was nice to start the season with the birth of Briana's son! I am very fond of Vicki and her family. Briana is an amazing girl and an amazing mom. I got to see Troy a few weeks after he was born and he is just adorable! Made me miss Collette being so little!
I think Vicki is in a good space, renovating her life (as she says!). Her house looks beautiful (you will see the final look later in the season) and so does Vicki! Plastic surgery is a very personal thing. I think Vicki was beautiful before, and I think she looks beautiful now. The important thing is that she is happy and confident. I support her 100 percent.
Tamra and Eddie are a great couple. It must be very difficult to blend a family together -- and they make it look easy! Eddie is used to living alone and takes care of his things, so it's not easy to have three kids running around, I'm sure!
I understand Tamra's need to redecorate. The house needs to feel like "their" house -- not a bachelor pad. Again, you will see the end results this season -- Tamra did a great job. The house looks amazing.
Tamra and Eddie have a lot going on: moving in together with the kids, planning a wedding, promoting her "Wines by Wives" business, and now opening a fitness center. Obviously there will be growing pains. . .We will see how it plays out.
Gretchen: it must get old to constantly have to defend your partner. I'm so happy for Slade that he found something he loves to do and is getting paid for it! Satisfying for both of them! Go Radio Slade!
Alexis. This is hard, because Alexis and I are in a much better place now -- and I don't want to jeapordize that. So, I will try and go back to that time without starting anything new. . .Bear with me. After the reunion last year, I held out the proverbial olive branch (champagne), and then Alexis and I stood in the parking lot and apologized to each other for a lot of hurt feelings and misconceptions, but mostly this:
I was sorry for Costa Rica. Not the content of what I said, but that when she brought it up at the table, I should have shut it down and taken the conversation private. It wasn't necessary for everyone to chime in.
She apologized to me for maligning my career -- which was very hurtful to me, especially when she barely knew me.
This is where Alexis and I disagree. . .
After we had made up, She gave an interview about me and said things that were very unkind. It really hurt me because I thought we were in a new place. She has her own opinion about what happened after the reunion, but from my point of view I went into this season feeling betrayed by her and that is why I didn't "want her in my life." I felt she owed me an apology.
So, that is my frame of mind at this point.
Also, she wasn't "excluded" from my clambake, she just wasn't "included." Alexis had no relationship with me, Tamra, or Gretchen. It didn't make sense. When Jim and Alexis are in their house talking about my party, Alexis says I should apologize. I feel I already did. I was still waiting for mine. . .
Then, hearing Alexis talk about my acting career again, right out of the gate felt punitive. She knew it would hurt me. I've never commented on her dress line or her hosting skills, and I was very supportive when she had a cameo on General Hospital last year. I wish she had left it alone. (Side note: Alexis did warn me that she said that so I wouldn't be completely blindsided. It still stung, but I appreciated the heads up).
On another note, I think Alexis' house looks so beautiful! She did a great job decorating. I'd also like to say that you don't need a Masters degree in Fine Art to know what you like! I agree with Alexis (sorry Jim!) get rid of those sculptures!
And now on to me. . .
I love entertaining! I thought it would be fun to throw an east coast style "clambake" at our home. (Yes, Gretchen, you can name a meal. Like when you have people over for a BBQ? Or Taco night??? Haha!)
I had so much fun with the kids, trying the different lobsters and planning the party!
Just for the record, I love my husband. He is treated like the king in our house.
It may look otherwise, but here are some facts. . . The Australian lobsters were only the tails, and I asked Brian Dobbin (my caterer) to serve whole lobsters like we do in the East.
Host Chair: I had originally planned for two large chairs at the dining table (with Terry sitting at the other head of the table) however, it didn't work for production purposes. So I had to rearrange the seating.
ONION RINGS! (Yes, this will be a recurring theme.) Terry definitely likes to push my buttons at times. You may think "just give him the onion rings already"! Well I probably should have run to Burger King and picked some up just to appease him. Truth be told, the fryer and the lobster pots didn't all fit in the kitchen. I asked -- but I didn't think it would turn into such a big deal. . .If it was Terry's event or his party, I would have asked him to choose the menu. However this was my event, and I wish he just could have let it go. (He doesn't, keep watching. . .)
I love the way the table looks! Alex and David from The Square Root are geniuses. Did you catch the enormous yellow arrangement in my entryway? Beyond fabulous!
Watch next week to see what happens in Part 2 of my party. . .It's worth it.
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Thanks for all of the support and I hope you enjoy the season!