Cast Blog: #RHOC

Heather: I'm Not Competing With Gretchen

Heather shares why she asked about Gretchen's part in 'Malibu Country' and why she told Tamra about it.

I can't believe it's already July 4th week! I have been enjoying amazing time with my family and friends so far this summer. (Follow me on Instagram @heatherdubrow to see pictures! ) Hope you all are having a fantastic summer too!

On to the show. . .

Tamra and Eddie: So hard to open a new business! It must have been very frustrating for them to be so behind schedule. Thankfully, they are now in full swing and doing SO well! I wish I lived closer -- the few classes I've taken there were amazing! Check out CUT fitness if you live nearby!

Tamra and I have a running joke about our stomachs! So funny. It cracked me up to watch Tamra explain it to Eddie! It's a good reminder to always stand up straight AND always have your friends back (or stomach as the case may be!).

So exciting to be offered another guest star role less than a month after my appearance on Hot in Cleveland! Terry was so supportive, helpful and great -- just like the old days. So nice that the balance is back in our marriage and in our lives.

Speaking of balance, what I said on the show is true. In this one tiny moment I have it all. Obviously it won't always be that way. . .So I'm glad that I can appreciate this period of time and enjoy it!

In the limo. . .It was nice to see everyone excited for Tamra's big day of wedding dress shopping! I was bummed I couldn't drive with them, but I had the table read for Malibu Country and I didn't want to pull focus from Tamra's day -- so I decided to wait until later to share my news.

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Dress shopping was SO fun! Who doesn't love to see their friend try on wedding dresses?!? Plus, they served chocolate and champs! What could be bad???

Tamra looked insane in every dress. Her figure looked incredible! For the record, I said "INNER CORSET"!!! Oy!

Drama amongst the dresses...Why does everyone feel the need to keep asking questions about Brooks? Vicki is visibly upset. This is the time to shut this conversation down.

Also, Lauri looks like she waiting for her moment to start trashing Brooks. Vicki just said they broke up -- why does she need to know this? Is Lauri saying these things just to hurt her? Because I don't see any other reason. And why today ?!? At wedding dress shopping??? Unnecessary and inappropriate.

Malibu Country. . . I was so excited to tell the girls about getting offered a guest starring role on Malibu Country. I didn't originally intend to tell the girls what I had learned about Gretchen. However, when Tamra asked me, I told her what happened.

If you are wondering why I chose to share this information, I was annoyed on Tamra's behalf. There is a difference between discussing an incident that happened among friends and spreading idle gossip that you are a third party to and whose only purpose is meant to offend.

I said to the group "They called to check availability for Gretchen and a few other girls for a small walk on role. Gretchen was never 'offered' anything and that small part ended up getting written out of the show. The role I was offered was entirely different."

I only asked the casting director about Gretchen because I was excited for her. She wanted to get into this business and I thought maybe we would be working together. Let this be said. I am not a competitive person -- I truly believe there is room for everyone. I don't however condone using getting "offered a role" as a way of having Tamra disinvite Alexis to dress shopping. Calling to check one's availability for a few lines on sitcom and being offered a guest starring role are two different things. Also, if there was a tangible opportunity for Gretchen to do a network sitcom, which I don't believe she has done before, she wouldn't turn it down. Nor would Tamra want her to. She wasn't offered a role. Period.

Until next week. . .

I will be co hosting Good Day LA this Wednesday July 3 starting at 9am PST! Be sure to check me out with the amazing Steve Edwards and my fabulous restaurant partner and chef extraordinaire Fabio Viviani will be making an appearance as well!

You can see my performance in the sitcom Malibu Country on my website HeatherDubrow.com.

Of course, the drama continues next week as Lydia takes us all to Canada! You will NOT want to miss this!

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Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Lizzie weighs in on Tamra's nickname for her -- and opens up about her body issues.

We have finally made it to the Reunion and I am happy to say I survived my first season of Housewives. . .Well almost. Next week is Part 2 of the Reunion and I have to admit I pretty much left in tears. I am not a large part of this week’s reunion, but I would like to take this week’s blog and focus on female bullying and body image. As women, I think it is our job to build each other up. We are all mothers, sisters, and daughters. There are so many body image issues among young women and I write this blog for any woman who has had insecurities about her body. If it talks to any of you than it will not have been a waste of time.

I am sure everyone is aware of Tamra's nickname for me, "Kentucky Fried Titties." When I first heard her call me this I thought, "Nah, I won’t even give it energy."  It really is trashy and frankly low-class. However, it was a trigger for me and it really touched on something that I had been self conscious of for my entire life. It sounded exactly like the pre-pubescent boys in my middle school P.E. class. "Hey Lizzie, can I get some fries with that shake." The girls would snicker, "Lizzie's sprouting!!" I grew up hearing a lot of derogatory names targeted at my large chest. I was the girl in fourth and fifth grade that cried when friends had pool parties and wore T-shirts over my swimsuit to cover up my chest. My mom's friends would laugh and say, "One day you will love your assets." But I was always self-conscious.

I grew up dancing and cheerleading and finding uniforms and dance recital costumes was always such a struggle for me. I literally thought about quitting just because of my boobs -- I was so self-conscious and embarrassed. Thank goodness I have such a loving mother that made me feel so much more important than that and didn't let me walk away from something I loved because of body image issues. Even when I started competing in beauty pageants the swimsuit competition was a big thing for me to over come. Some mothers assumed my mom bought me implants at 15. My boobs have always been "up for discussion." At Miss Teen USA, I had to have a special seamstress come in and sew cups in my BodyGlove competition suit because I was bouncing all over when I walked. When I competed in Miss USA, I also had to call in a special seamstress to alter my competition bikini top so it fit my little back and large chest. And, as many of you naturally larger chested women know; real boobs do not "stay put." After I moved to Los Angeles to pursue an acting career I found myself victim to my large chest yet again. I would only be called in for "Hot Girl #2" and roles like that. How could anyone take me seriously with these 34DDD natural boobs at age 21? I had a college degree. I graduated top of my class, I was so much more than "Hot Girl #2", or so I thought.

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At age 23, I couldn’t take it anymore, I cried enough over being insecure about my body. It was time to do something about it. I talked to my mom and she took me for my first breast reduction. It was the best thing I ever did. I felt free! It felt so great to go swimsuit shopping and to buy dresses that I didn't have to wear a minimizing bra with! I can honestly say it was the best thing I could have done for myself. I am 5'7" and I always had boobs, so one thing I didn't want to do is get rid of them completely. I still wanted to feel like me and keep some of my natural curves. Perhaps going 34D wasn't small enough or maybe I just have incredible growing breast tissue. Whatever the case, my boobs were huge again six years later. I decided to have another breast reduction right before my wedding. I was the perfect size. Not too big and not too small. . .and then I had kids. So, now I have very large boobs again. I will probably get another reduction when I am done having children, but we want more kids so now is not the time. I guess God wants me to have big boobs! So, excuse me everyone for finally embracing my body.

I know some of you are probably thinking, "Oh poor Lizzie and her big boobs." But it was a real thing to me and I think as women we all struggle with insecurities. We have all struggled with body image issues at least one time in our lives. I have always been a big believer in beauty shining from within. Think about it. How many people do you know that have such beautiful personalities that it shines through and makes me them even more gorgeous human beings? How easy is it to overlook an attractive person who is mean and ugly inside? People start looking like their personalities sooner or later.

How does all this translate into adult female relationships? I think there are many similarities. I think it has a lot to do with self-esteem, acceptance, and respect for others.

I am sure there are tons of people that applaud Tamra for her name calling of me, or of Alexis when Tamra coined the term "Jesus Jugs." I see nothing more than a 47-year-old bully when I see Tamra. I see bullying. Tamra didn't just call me a name in a fit of anger. She made up the name and announced in her interview. Later, she announced on Watch What Happens Live. My question is why? Why is she so proud of this name? (Which, I have to be honest, I have heard before, it’s not even original.) What kind of message does this send to young women? I don't have girls, but I have nieces and I would never want to teach them to be "mean girls." This may seem trite, but I always felt sorry for the bully. Why do they act like that? It always seemed like bullies have a difficult time connecting with people in meaningful ways and thus use relationships for manipulation. Look, if we can put someone on TV and afford them fortune and fame for being a bully, we are exalting that poor behavior, and sadly we as a society give it life.

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