Cast Blog: #RHOC

Lydia Was the Voice of Reason

Heather doesn't understand why Alexis is so hung up on Costa Rica, and why the haters don't realize they are just being bullies.

Well, I don't know about you -- but I'm glad that dinner party is over! Wow.

There is no excuse for Tamra's behavior at the height of this party. She definitely was like a nuclear bomb ready to explode. I tried to diffuse her a bit -- but you can see that had mixed results.

I thought Lydia was a true voice of reason. If you had been sitting at the dinner, as she was, you could see that everyone was trying to say their point of view. Alexis wasn't allowing it. It's very hard to have a conversation that way, heated or otherwise. As far as my comment about being medicated for "rich girl" problems goes, I regret saying that. Mental health is a serious issue and people go on medications for all kinds of reasons. I was just exasperated that this issue from Costa Rica -- which had been discussed between Alexis and myself and had moved on from in my opinion -- is still the focus of Alexis' dialogue. At some point you need to stop blaming others and take responsibility for your own life and choices you make.

Despite the bad ending to the dinner, we did end up blessing the building. It was a nice moment and clearly worked because Tamra's new gym C.U.T. Fitness is doing really well. Congrats Tamra!

Collette in the car. . . I know she's mine and I may be biased here, but I think she's the cutest thing ever! I had to rewind the scene of us in the car a few times! I'm going to save that footage for her rehearsal dinner someday!

I loved watching Brianna and Vicki together talking babies and eating pizza. It was a small glimpse of their beautiful relationship and how much they love each other. It made me think of my kids and what it will be like when they are grown up. It made me yearn for it and sad all at the same time.

Vicki's family is a riot. I've hung out with them all and they are a very close, fun family. I feel for Vicki though. It seems that she's always trying her best to please everyone around her and ignores her own needs, which makes her a great mother, sister and friend -- but it can also leave you lonely.

Terry and I have also spent a lot of time with Brooks. He has always been fun, funny, gentlemanly and appropriate. Terry and I have never witnessed any of the behavior that Ryan was talking about. Vicki just wants to be happy and live her life. I wish everyone would let her.

Lastly, RHOC is a television show meant to entertain. An interesting part of the show is the interaction between the cast and viewers via social media. Twitter, Facebook and Instagram have become an intrinsic part of the show and so have viewers comments. I am not a close-minded person, nor do I think I am always right. I freely apologize when wrong and make amends. What I find so ironic is that the haters that find their way to the cast members social media are nothing more than cyber bullies. And yes, that is bullying. . .and cowardly. To hide behind a computer and an anonymous persona to spew hate at another person is despicable. I don't care who is your least favorite out of the bunch. Tamra, Lydia, Alexis, Gretchen, Vicki and myself are all human beings with real lives and real families. You are all absolutely entitled to your opinions, and we are all happy to hear them -- good or bad. Please be passionate, engage with us, give us your take on what happened -- it's part of our job. However, when I look at some of the comments on everyone's blogs and there is such venom about our looks, families, and sometimes our religious beliefs I am in shock. That will receive the ultimate karma hit.

For all of you out there that enjoy RHOC, thank you for watching and supporting all of us. We appreciate it so much and hope it entertains, as it's meant to.

Until next week. . .

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