Girl, your one-liner about Xanax and Alexis' "little rich girl problems" was the sound byte of the season! Love how you don't let these women under your skin. Keep 'em coming, Heather! :)

I felt sad whenever you rolled your eyes and sigh very heavily at your husband.

I don't know how anyone could do a "blessing" after the way Tamra acted.  Perhaps they should have done an exorcism on Tamra.  That person blessed to get rid of evil.  If it truly worked - Tamra would've disappeared on the spot.

And I would be happy if I saw you distancing yourself from the mean girls.  Gretchen and Tamra.  How about hanging out with Lydia.  She seems real.

You like Lydia because you think she is worthy of your friendship and she has money. Phony, Phony Heather lets hope Lydia has enough common sense to see through you.  She has already made a few comments about you not being rich or famous enough to be on the cover of her magazine. 

I'm thinking this might be a better show if we saw more of Heather's husband and his warm, easy humor and far, far less of Heather's angry, scowling pinched face.  Children form many memories around the dinner table.  How sad for yours that a family dinner is merely a chance to see angry mommy at her worst.

Wow.. People have such mean stuff to say to someone they really don't know. Sorry you have to deal with such negativity Heather. No one is perfect and no ones life would look so played out on tv.. So everyone relax!! People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones!! I like Heather and her family.. I think you have a good balance in your life and can relate. Keep being you and just don't let these ladies bring you down to their level.. Tamara for one is terrible I think. She used to be nice and humble, now she is just a b****.. Even her fiancé seems all set with her.. Don't fall into the trap of negativity.. Try to take everyone for face value as to how they treat you. Don't get wrapped up in others drama with each other.. Live and let live.. We are all different, that's not a bad thing. Forgive and be friends and most importantly be happy!! Thanks for sharing your life.. Your one of my favs!!

Heather i hate you behavior and your attitude and i think you treat your husband really bad he should leave you and get a woman who will treat him right

Wow.... You are mean and then people call you out on it and now we are the bullies!!! You guys keep talking how you hate that word and now you are saying the viewers are bullies..... I have never seen such delusion in my life.... I am glad growing up with Midwestern values mean we still have some integrity.... You my dear truly need help.... And oh I am the wrong when in your eyes.... You are so extremely delusional.... You need to apologize to Alexis and the viewers.... I would love to say this to your face honey.... Bring it on!.... Calling us cowards.... We would love to meet up with you! Uuuugggggggg..... So annoyed by your gross behavior

How nice that you we're able to bless the building after completely enighelating or at least participating in a display of cruelty to Alexis..It's amazing to me that an intelligent woman like you are even friends with the likes of Tamra..She is just horrible...Don't you see a pattern here? I'm not a big fan of Alexis, but I would take her as a friend over Tamra any day....

heather, do you really think you husband will continue to put up with your deplorable behavior toward him? he does not have to and probably will not.  you seriously need to treat him with respect that he deserves. your self righteous attitude is just hard to watch

You calling others a bully! I guess you should know.

...yawn...

Heather so the haters are bullying you ? LOL...bullying is a very serious thing & you and your rich girl problems do not qualify as being bullied (familiar?). Anyway , you speak of Alexis being phony and that she tends to appear materialistic , it's funny you say that , you appear very materialistic and phony  too actually eg. not wanting to be featured in a magazine if you're not on the cover page & talking about Alexis wearing a fake ring (how does it matter) .The same way you tell Alexis to let go of Costa RIca, you have to let go of what you feel towards her. 

I just think you're jealous and I find you quite stupid on the show and Terry seems to treat you that way too. Maybe before talking about how Alexis husband treats her take a long hard look at what's going on in your house.

Seriously, Heather...in your own words, if enough people are telling you that you are dead, lie down. If enough people are telling you that you are a bully...own it and apologize. You try to present yourself as as intelligent woman. Please think this through. If you were actually a victim of bullying, as you allege, what did you learn from it? The obvious lesson is that it is wrong to bully, gang up on or pick on another person...especially as a group. It is not fair or moral. You should be able to remember what that felt like, if it happened to you. The obvious take away is to prevent this type of behavior, especially as a grown, confident woman. Instead, you are one of the bullies...one of the worst. Further, you make it worse by relentlessly pursuing this horrid behavior and then attempting to justify it by BLAMING THE VICTIM. You justified your behavior by saying Alexis knew what she was walking in to...which is actually an inadvertent admission that you are a group of bullies. Do you think women in mini skirts deserved to be raped too? Are they just asking for it? If they don't want to be raped maybe they should just cover up? Is it not the rapists fault because the woman is out in public looking attractive...no one forced her to be out right? See how ludicrous your arguments are? Do you see how hypocritical your judgements are? Do you see that there is no excuse for your deplorable treatment of Alexis? If you had really ever been bullied, I would have hoped you learned the lesson not to tolerate bullies. Instead, tragically, it seems that you simply learned to join them. In your words...you are the company you keep. Well said.

I'm gad that I read your blog tonight Heather. I feel that people that need medication in order to get through a day is truly sad and yes, everyone is different. Mental health is a SERIOUSLY

glossed over subject here in the US. Since most state hospitals have been closed, some people's problems in mental health have been ignored until sadly, the person loses control and winds up in the criminal system before they're addressed. I'm glad that you thought about what you said. I was surprised that you did, but we all say regrettable things from time to time.   ;) I try not to blog anything very negative. We only see snippets of your lives on that show and I DO believe that it's very easy to take things out of context. People need to remember that. 

I hope all is well with you and yours and that your spot on "Hot in Cleveland" was fun to do for you.   :)  Take care and God bless...   Melinda 

Heather --Something occurred to me --how would you have felt if Betty White, Wendy Malick, Janes Leeves et al, would have given you the cold shoulder when you appeard on "Hot In Cleveland"?  It is not as if they need your star power to make the show work and imagine being demoted from a starring role in a prime time TV show to a reality star role.  I just hope they were far more gracious towards you than you were to Alexis.  Just maybe you should strive to be like those you admire so much instead of this ratched old snake you are playing now on RHOC,

Heather seems to be quite irritated with her husband alot these days.  She is as mean as Tamara and Gretchen.  Vicki's daughter and son-n-law should be replaced. They are not revelant, but are boring.  And I'm wondering about the new lady Lydia.... 

Heather, out of all the women on the show, I relate mostly to you. I'm only in my 20's but I'm educated and extremely family oriented. Therefore, I find it diffucult to converse with women who do not have those two things in common with me. I hold myself to a high standard, I speak with integrity (sometimes I slip up, I'm human), I am NEVER afraid to stand up for myself, and I'm genuinely here on earth to help others.  I understand your plight when it comes to Alexis; women like her do not speak our language. You tried to make things right with her, but her selfish mind and low self-esteem gets in the way. I wish it was easy for you to move on from her, but she keeps bringing out the negative in you. It's not fair because I see the person you truly are! Your words of wisdom and advice have influenced me greatly. THANK YOU for being a strong, intelligent woman

Heather, why do I always feel like you are scolding the viewers like we are a bunch of stupid children?  Yes, we are all human and have our opinions and vicious comments are uncalled for, but you really should seriously consider how the viewers are seeing you.  Like you said to Alexis, when everyone is telling you that you're dead, it's time to lie down.  Right? 

I really liked you last season but this season you have changed.  I hope this is all part of the plan with the Producers of HWOC.  I cannot believe you would be involved with this drama with Tamra.  I thought you were more mature and self confident.  Also, how spoiled and entitled are you.  The scene at the restaurant with your husband was ridiculous.  You said it yourself, you are judged by the company you keep.....hence, TAMRA!!! You are becoming just like her!!

Now this is rich ... Heather refuses to believe her (and Tamra and Gretchen's) behavior in Costa Rica was bullying, but now the viewers are bullying her on social media.  She is ridiculous!  And it is so transparent that her "friendship" with the new girl is strictly to turn yet another girl against Alexis.  I don't even care for Alexis (any more than the rest of them), but she is definitely being tormented by the group and they just will not own up to it. 

I like each and every cast member.  I do think you all are too hard on Alexis.  Yes, she's annoying, but the poor thing just wants to be loved.  Maybe your tough love is too tough for her.  I think she just needs big hugs and acceptance.  Maybe then she'll see she doesn't have to try so hard. As for cyber-bullies... ugh... I hate them, too.  BUT - they're everywhere... involved in everything... annoying everyone.  Ignore, ignore, ignore... Best wishes to you and the rest of the cast.

Once you stop hating on the show - people will stop hating you!  Itz called "what you put out, you will receive back"   KARMA!!!!

Wait, I'm confused. You first said bullying can only happen if the person being bullied is forced to be somewhere. So you are forced to be on twitter, facebook, IG and the blogs against your will?? So funny how the definition of bullying keeps changing to suit you! Heather, if you want people to start leaving you nice comments, you need to be a nicer person. And that will never happen while your are BFFs with Tamra. Grow a backbone and stand against her for once.

Angry because your husband is "stealing the show" with his humor??   Sounds like a "rich girl problem" to me...

Heather honestly no ill intent meant.  I really liked you last year as the funny, lighthearted voice of reason.  I'm not sure what has occured recently but you an official member of the mean girls club.    I think you have displayed such a priviledged, snotty attitude much like or even worse than the one you have accused Alexis of.  If Alexis had turned down a magazine for not being on the cover you would have slaughtered her!  Also, holy crap be a little nicer to the hubby cause I'm sure there is a line up of women who would treat him with the respect you don't.  

@Notsoreal I did see that also. I guess you can say I am praying that Vicki does the right thing and stands by Alexis and other good people. My glass is always half full. I am hoping Vicki doesn't get swayed to be not a true person. I would just like to see everyone be kind to each other and be real friends to each other.

I found it ironic on last night's episode that you said all Terry should have said to you was "whatever you need" but he couldn't have onion rings!!! I hope that you see how fortunate you are to have a nice, supportive husband and how you come across towards him when you watch the show. Everyone has flaws and tryst me, a sense of humor isn't the worst thing!! Men that are spoken to like that eventually move on to someone that appreciates them!!

Not sure why everyone is so mad at you? I need to watch the latest episode! In Aust, we have something called 'tall poppy syndrome' (not sure if you guys use it too?) when people are successful and 'together' people tend to pick them down. I'm not sure your delivery is always very tackful, but you remind me of myself sometimes so I don't think you mean it the way it comes out! Isn't that the point of this show? For the public to find someone they identify with? I'm sure our credit card limits aren't quite the same, but I don't believe that means you don't feel the same things regular mothers do. People on here are saying you should never complain because you have so much. Items don't make relationships easier. Please don't be discouraged by the comments, the season only just started! xx

IT WAS A JOKE!

It is amazing to me how you view the situation going on around you.  You are correct RHOOC is supposed to be a show that entertains the viewers and it used to be until you, Gretchen and Tamra began your witch hunt for Alexis.  I am in no way responsible for anyone who makes horrible comments to you about your religion, families, or looks and you are correct that is despicable.  However, I assure you I would have no problem telling you to your face how I feel about your bullying behavior or Tamra's constant comments about Alexis's religion.  We are not hiding behind our computers, we just do not have the opportunity to tell you to your face. I have a feeling the three of you are beginning to feel what its like when a group of people relentlessly tell you what they think about you.  I have also noticed Tamra hasn't wrote a blog since the fans became outraged about the party.   To use your own words " At some point you need to stop blaming others and take responsibility for your own life and choices you make." 

you talk about Alexis and how she over reacts but you want to act like a kid b/c your husband doesn't think your 3 minutes of d list fame on a show isn't a big deal.  Something you should keep in mind is many women have successful careers raise 4 young children and buy themselves large houses and all the amenities that goes with them......you should be greatful that you get to be a stay at home mom and don't have to also be a working mom as well.  (like millions of other women in the world)....once in a while you may want to say a kind word to your husband b/c how he can put up with someone as rude and mean spirited as you is a second job in itself.

I didn't even watch the show last night. I was debating watching it this morning and I did but now regret it. Lydia and her mother were the only scenes that were fun to watch. You and Tamra didn't disappoint with your negativity e and ugly behavior.

Just watched last nights show, I'm sorry Heather but the way you treat your husband is so selfish. He can't do anything right in your eyes, most women would be so happy that after a long day you both got to go to dinner with your family and because he was happy and joking you ruined the dinner. You really do treat him lke a child, and I know you think he is but clearly he's not. He's have a successful business given he's family the best of everything. And I do realize you as a mother of 4 work just as hard but you have to stop treating him the way you do it's like you enjoy embarrassing him. Most women would be so happy that there husband would do anything for them but its seems he can never do anything right. I'm sure there's allot of editing but you need to respect your husband you know the cameras are on you and it seems like you do it on purpose to show who's the boss. I think you acted like the child at dinner, he's says the wrong thing (in your eyes) then he apologies and you don't like the way he did that either. Can he ever do anything right in your eyes. You need to respect him before he finds someone that does.

Heather you need to ease up on your hubby. He seems like a nice guy and he was trying to joke with you tonight and the looks you gave him were terrible. You acted worse than a kid would. And you talk about being a actress and I am sorry but until you joined the RH I had

never heard of you. To me you need to be a little more humble and thankful for what you do have. You act as though you are so much more mature and better than everyone else and your not. Good Luck with the role on Hot in Cleveland they are a great cast and a show. So remember to thank your lucky stars.

The issue is not the content of what you said at Costa Rica but that  you started a whole conversation of what is wrong with Alexis to her in front of the others; which had a ripple effect. You claim to have apologized and spoke to her afterwards in private but you never did it in front of the cameras.  If  you each had spoken to her individually and not in front of each other than it wouldn't have been so bad.  It was not the content but the delivery method; and, that's why many of us viewers see it as bullying.  It is the victim that defines the  bulliness not the perpetrator.