Cast Blog: #RHOC

Lydia Was the Voice of Reason

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Lydia Was the Voice of Reason

Heather doesn't understand why Alexis is so hung up on Costa Rica, and why the haters don't realize they are just being bullies.

Well, I don't know about you -- but I'm glad that dinner party is over! Wow.

There is no excuse for Tamra's behavior at the height of this party. She definitely was like a nuclear bomb ready to explode. I tried to diffuse her a bit -- but you can see that had mixed results.

I thought Lydia was a true voice of reason. If you had been sitting at the dinner, as she was, you could see that everyone was trying to say their point of view. Alexis wasn't allowing it. It's very hard to have a conversation that way, heated or otherwise. As far as my comment about being medicated for "rich girl" problems goes, I regret saying that. Mental health is a serious issue and people go on medications for all kinds of reasons. I was just exasperated that this issue from Costa Rica -- which had been discussed between Alexis and myself and had moved on from in my opinion -- is still the focus of Alexis' dialogue. At some point you need to stop blaming others and take responsibility for your own life and choices you make.

Despite the bad ending to the dinner, we did end up blessing the building. It was a nice moment and clearly worked because Tamra's new gym C.U.T. Fitness is doing really well. Congrats Tamra!

Collette in the car. . . I know she's mine and I may be biased here, but I think she's the cutest thing ever! I had to rewind the scene of us in the car a few times! I'm going to save that footage for her rehearsal dinner someday!

I loved watching Brianna and Vicki together talking babies and eating pizza. It was a small glimpse of their beautiful relationship and how much they love each other. It made me think of my kids and what it will be like when they are grown up. It made me yearn for it and sad all at the same time.

Vicki's family is a riot. I've hung out with them all and they are a very close, fun family. I feel for Vicki though. It seems that she's always trying her best to please everyone around her and ignores her own needs, which makes her a great mother, sister and friend -- but it can also leave you lonely.

Terry and I have also spent a lot of time with Brooks. He has always been fun, funny, gentlemanly and appropriate. Terry and I have never witnessed any of the behavior that Ryan was talking about. Vicki just wants to be happy and live her life. I wish everyone would let her.

Lastly, RHOC is a television show meant to entertain. An interesting part of the show is the interaction between the cast and viewers via social media. Twitter, Facebook and Instagram have become an intrinsic part of the show and so have viewers comments. I am not a close-minded person, nor do I think I am always right. I freely apologize when wrong and make amends. What I find so ironic is that the haters that find their way to the cast members social media are nothing more than cyber bullies. And yes, that is bullying. . .and cowardly. To hide behind a computer and an anonymous persona to spew hate at another person is despicable. I don't care who is your least favorite out of the bunch. Tamra, Lydia, Alexis, Gretchen, Vicki and myself are all human beings with real lives and real families. You are all absolutely entitled to your opinions, and we are all happy to hear them -- good or bad. Please be passionate, engage with us, give us your take on what happened -- it's part of our job. However, when I look at some of the comments on everyone's blogs and there is such venom about our looks, families, and sometimes our religious beliefs I am in shock. That will receive the ultimate karma hit.

For all of you out there that enjoy RHOC, thank you for watching and supporting all of us. We appreciate it so much and hope it entertains, as it's meant to.

Until next week. . .

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Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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