Heather Dubrow

Heather defends the ebbs and flows in her marriage to Terry and gives her first thoughts on Lydia.

on Apr 16, 20130

An eight year old boy died senselessly today in Boston, and many others were hurt or killed. Made me want to hold my family closer and love and hug my husband and my babies a little longer. Having said that, RHOC is here to entertain and make us forget reality for a while. I hope you all watched it and escaped for an hour.

Alexis, Vicki, Briana seeing baby Troy. He is TOO cute! Tough conversation talking about Brooks. I guess Alexis doesn't know Vicki and Brianna's back story because she is giving advice to Vicki that's although good advice in my opinion, not particularly sensitive to Briana's position.

Later we see Briana and Vicki in Vicki's office talking about it again. Although I am completely family first, and I would feel the same way as Vicki does to do what's best for my daughter. . .I would hope that my daughter would care enough about me to want me to be happy even if the man is not her choice.

622 comments
deby22
deby22

Heathers little "blurp" on ok interview, about bullying...well she should know it apprears she is an expert also in bullying! You think just because you are not in  a school yard it is exceptable behavior...clue, it is never appropriate to gang bully so if you choose to join the gang it apprears you also can dress up but tough to get the ghetto out of your personallity. let 's hope you never have to deal with it with your kids and the hurtfullness it causes... so yes you do not have to go to the dinner but if you do  , careful the horns on Heathers head will be transparent..evil comes in all sorts of sizes and zip codes including ones that think "they are immune to the rules of how to act towards others" ..Heathers bully club is now live and well,no one wants your advise on how to treat others, even you appear to show your true colors on national TV  just remember what goes around will come around,,,, get yourself a raincoat because you may not like what gets thrown back at "Cha".. and so well deserved! little advise: money does not buy class...in that department you are tapped!

Lionetta
Lionetta

Frankly: You are a mean girl with a very loud voice and you treat your husband shamefully. If this is what you want to teach your children to emulate, then keep up the drama queen meanness and disrespect your husband in front of everyone. It's too disgusting to watch and I now hit the fast-forward button the moment you come on. Alexis is sweet, kind, thoughtful, and decent. You certainly could take some example from her and be a nicer person. She's the better person in all of this. And yes, you are a bully with bad Karma hovering.

StephieM
StephieM

I'm reading some of the comments below and I feel like I'm watching a different show. I personally like Heather and Terry a lot. Heather is honest and outspoken, I can appreciate that. Id' much rather have that, then someone who is two-faced and says things behind your back. Honestly, I feel like Heather says what everyone else is thinking, but is too afraid to say. I do agree that she tends to get a little short with Terry at times, but we are not in their marriage. We don't know what goes on behind closed doors. They've been married for 16 years, so what ever they're doing must work for them, and that's all that matters.

evymarie
evymarie

I have to say I really liked you at first.  You have turned into a mean almost bitter person.  Terry works hard to provide you with the lifestyle you almost don't deserve.  You are so hard on him, he can't catch a break with you.  He is always begging for your forgiveness when it should be the other way around. I hope you grow and learn from watching yourself on this season.  I want to enjoy the show when you are on again.....Team Terry!

mslala
mslala

Heather i find you a little harsh and and hard on Terry he's cool and funny, you should be happy, he has a great personality. I watch all the housewives and Terry and Muricio are the best husbands. So smile more with that pretty face!!

kalola
kalola

I just have to tell you after watching the show tonight I really dislike you and Tamara. I do not enjoy RHOOC anymore because of you two...so disapointed in the show.

lcurry
lcurry

Heather,

I always loved you however, recently, I see a different side of you. You can be quite demeaning to your Husband, over and over again. Additionally, I' noticing some mean girl behavior towards others. Why? Truly, not necessary. When you joined the show, you were strong, but kind, Now..your mean streak has surfaced. I don't get it. You have everything but appear to be bitter and it's growing. Quite unattractive and very unbecoming of you;.

irisheyes185
irisheyes185

Heather,  I liked you so much the first season.   Now, you act like Tamra and Gretchen.  I am really surprized at this. 

Also,  watching you out to dinner tonight with your husband and childlren was so disturbing the way you treated Terry.  As I wrote one other time. you have no respect for him.  I will be surprized if your marriage lasts.  What can could take it ??????

JDegs51
JDegs51

I've been watching the new season and it seems to me that either Heather is always having problems with Terry or the camera man is being selective about these scenes.  But I will say that it doesn't paint Heather in a very good light.  I'm a woman, married for almost 43 years, 3 children, and have not had the advantages of the Dubrow's.  I only mention that because financial difficulties only add to the everyday stresses of life.  Money doesn't buy happiness but it sure buys security.  When I see Heather react to some of Terry's attempts at humor I come away feeling sorry for Terry.  Again, we don't see the whole story but it's hard to believe Terry is unsympathetic, uncaring, and not supportive of Heather.  I didn't see these exchanges last season so it makes us wonder what changed?  I can understand why people would think that the Dubrow's marriage  will be the next "Real Housewives" divorce.

Prsamuel1234
Prsamuel1234

Heather I watch you every week and while I love your class and sophistication I am always surprised how you treat your husband..he works extremely hard to give you and your children a wonderful lifestyle and each episode you treat him rather mean and you need to lighten up not be so serious. He obviously adores you and wants to share a laugh but you degrade him and make him feel like he is unworthy...very sad. I can def identify with you raising kids and having your career as a back burner but still show your husband respect!

Bravososexy
Bravososexy

Heather Please don't lower yourself to the the high school mean girl tactics of Tamra, you are much classier than that. You can separate yourself from the mean girls, do what Jesus would do, hold your head high and keep your dignity. If your daughter was on TV would you be happy if she was behaving the way you do? Say your daughter was in Alexis's position, would you want her treated that way by other people?

CoffeeQueen1111
CoffeeQueen1111

Stop acting like such an arrogant, haughty b*tch and treat your husband better!  Enjoy his silly sense of humor and drop the uptight "i am so put out" drama.  He's just having fun....loosen up!   Also, I think many people are getting tired of the free promotional advertising of Terry's practice.  Everyone clearly knows by now what your husband does.  If he needs that much continuous advertising on the show, it looks a little suspicious like maybe business is bad! Terry, get out of the scrubs and buy some clothes!  I also think it's VERY sad that you couldn't be in Lydia's magazine if you weren't on the cover.  So snobby of you!  Shame, shame Heather Dubrow!  

AngelaCotter
AngelaCotter

Terry I thought you had class but after watching you attack Alexis I'm not sure.

Christinaa1301@aol.com
Christinaa1301@aol.com

Heather Darling....You are nothing but a PHONY!  Treat your husband right...or he will leave you!  I thought you had Class...But I WAS WRONG!  Keep your mouth shut!  You really are nauseating. 

CG2012
CG2012

You should have gotten the onion rings.  Give in a little.  Geesh.

NYgirl521
NYgirl521

Please. You're awesome. Don't even defend yourself when it comes to the nonsense people say behind the safety of their computer screens. You are always genuine and honest. That's all anyone can ask for. Don't change.

beachgayle
beachgayle

I am shocked and appalled by your behavior at the warehouse/gym dinner.  I always thought you would bring some class to the show, but since you decided to tear down Alexis in front of the group in Costa Rico I have changed my opinion.  Now tonight at the dinner you had to get into the fray by thinking Alexis was  insulting you.  I watched and rewound so I could see, but all she was doing was going to the face that she was replying to.  You seem like a snob now to me.  You are in on the bullying, and yes I said bullying.  You have no right to tell anyone how they should be till you get your nose down out of the air.

amsm001
amsm001

Heather, I absolutely believe that you are very intelligent maybe the most out of all the women, but you use this to demean others including your husband.  I honestly can not understand how you haven't been able to see Tamara and Gretchen clearly.  Could it be that you once felt like an outsider as a young girl and now want to be part of the crowd(bullies)? 

In life we all meet people we don't like, respect or want to associate with but is it our duty to school them on how to conduct themselves?  You don't like Alexis but what gives you the right to show her the light?  I believe of all the housewives you are the most likely to see how you have behaved and try to do your best to be a better person. 

Lovebravo1
Lovebravo1

You can not kiss the ground where Lisa V walks on. PLEASE!!! Get a grip of ur self.

sadams0815
sadams0815

DISGUSTING! Heather, I TRULY hope that you are "acting" on this show! The antics of the women are entertaining and as I watch each episode, my husband always gets a good laugh! However, I'm really disgusted with the way you treat your husband! The clam bake (lobster) dinner made me disgusted and at that moment I had to re-think whether I wanted to watch this show or not. I've seen some very un-classy behavior on this show and I know that's what sells it. However, to treat your husband the way you did on national television was absolutely inexcusable. If I were him, I'd leave you in a NY Minute! Changing your name might have been your way of showing him you love him but it means nothing when you roll your eyes at him, scoff him like he's a child and make fun of him right there on TV. Unbelievable! Your condescension and egotism is disgusting! You're no better than anyone else.. and the other women are much better looking than you. Please, tell me that you're acting on here and that this isn't your real life! Either way, I feel sorry for your husband!!!

shame_on_you
shame_on_you

Alexis is by no means perfect, but it certainly wasn't your job to point it out to her in Costa Rica or at any point in time.  Who died and made you queen?  And just because you mask your insult and degrade others more eloquently than Tamra and Gretchen, does not exempt you from being called exactly what you are...a bully!  And yes, I too am quite well versed in that word's definition and perhaps you need to watch that episode again.

 

Funny, you often point out that people are defined by the company they keep...well, you're friends and allies with Tamra - enough said.

 

Oh and one last thing:  Your psychotic friend Tamra didn't blow up at her dinner party because she was offended on your behalf from your exchange with Alexis.  Tamra flipped her lid because Alexis had asked her to basically "shut up".  Goes to show where your head is at - it's not always about you.  Get your head out of your @$$ 

Mom2threegirls
Mom2threegirls

You and Alexis both looked ridiculous trying to get the last word at the dinner part. Frankly it was just embarrassing to watch.

Suz_Huz
Suz_Huz

Agreed- Husbands can be very annoying!  I heard a rumor that wives can also be annoying but I don't think that's credible information.  When it comes to irritating behavior the difference between men and women is women halt annoying behavior the moment they become aware of it while men ramp it up.  Probably for the same reason our older brothers pushed their obnoxious behavior to new heights ~ they just want to hear us scream!!! ;o)

katyama
katyama

Alexis Bellino has a gentleness, freshness, femininity and innocence that you cannot abide. You assault her mercilessly with pure pettiness... with issues that, in the grand scheme, are neither here nor there. ( like counting her blessings in front of you).  The morbidly JEALOUS   Tamra is only too happy to act out  'your' angst.  I am amused by the image you exhibit as you and your 'nasty nice' husband have the gall to demand a magazine cover to market yourselves... using 'your stuff.'   Yes, Alexis is the real lady here... and has been from the beginning.  

BravoFav
BravoFav

I think you are being mean. I used to like you but your true colors are showing. All you gals at Tamra's dinner could of just made a nice dinner and not pounce on Alexis. What ever petty stuff that happened last season, should be water under the bridge. Poor Lydia, I hope she doesn't get sucked in. I guess this makes for good TV. I thought you were better than how you acted last night.

rosyposy
rosyposy

The  fans do not watch the show just  to watch the jealousy-ridden mean women.  Alexis is part of the cast, and we want to see her.  you have got to get over your unreasonable jealousy of her.  The fact that you insisted that your home be on the cover of a magazine is just gag city.  There are many homes in the area more beautiful than yours.  You have revealed yourself as a mean spirited, spiteful woman.  Watch out.....what goes around comes around.

Murphymax
Murphymax

You were disrespectful to terry at his office. He just spent the morning in surgery and you expect him to be super attentive to this potential interview. Then you tell him to work out before surgery because that's convenient for you. Wow. He should be in top rested form for surgery and allowed to workout as his stress relief. Selfish.

TXAAJ
TXAAJ

Liked you last year but this year you have really gotten this holier than thou attitude! You are not as bad as Tamra & Gretchen but if you keep going you will be just as trashy as them! As for Terry, I know we don't see the whole dynamic of your marriage but I do believe you will run him off if you continue to act so disrespectful & ungrateful. I thought it was a beautiful gesture when you changed your name last year but this year it seems you are always putting him down. Don't let this stupid show go to your head like so many of the other housewives have!

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

You think Alexis brags about money?????  Wow, Mz. everyone is so "low rent"  and "I only drink 'champs'"???? You are such a hypocrite, it's scary.  And your backhanded comments about not judging people for breast implants?!!! Honey, your entire life was built by money from breast implants - show a little respect!

zookeeper
zookeeper

Oh, Bravo...listen: There is a tipping point on these "real housewives,"shows that make them no longer appealing to sane viewers. Thanks to your idiotic decision to bring Heather on, to enhanse the equally distasteful Tamra and Gretchen, the scales have tipped. These women have no character content that any decent woman could possibly identify or feel aligned with. This show, of all the RHO shows has become gruesome...and uninteresting. I, for one, am out.

zookeeper
zookeeper

You are a nasty, immature, phony cretin. And, I would never consider having a gossipy, "girlie man," like your husband perform any procedure on me. Your opportunistic staging on RHOC seems to have backfired!

twincesses@1
twincesses@1

I have to agree with you on the husband thing.  Lord knows I love my husband BUT, he can pick that last nerve.  Then again I do the same thing in return.  It is real life and I agree. I do think your husband is hilarious though.  He is a tad childlike in nature.  Not immature but very innocent and honest.  People tend to judge what they don't know.  It takes some serious thick skin to put your life public.  I don't know if I could do it.  Props to you!!! 

jaonnheidi
jaonnheidi

You have no idea what bullying  is cause Tamra, Gretchen and you all are doing it! I liked all of you, but after seeing really how childish you all are, I'm now on team Alexis. You all should be ashamed of your selves. No class at all and I believe in karma, so you 3 will get yours I'm s ure.

MalibuPrincess
MalibuPrincess

Who cares if you are or not?  Why so concerned about what others think?

Action01
Action01

So sad watching tonight's episode ,you are such a bully along with your wolf pack ! Shame on you !!!!!

alana7
alana7

Heather,  Alexis came to Tamra's gym celebration with good intentions, but you and the others weren't going to let peace happen.  Blessed are the peacemakers Heather.  I really didn't expect peace or any better from Tamra and Gretchen, but you're a believer and have given the church a black eye with your back biting.  So what, Alexis isn't as quick with the lies and insults as you, Tamra and Gretchen.  Does that mean you try to walk all over her.  Yes, that IS bullying.

Alexis isn't perfect, but she does try to let her light shine. Why can't you do the godly thing

and encourage her?

SweetAnnie
SweetAnnie

I really like you Heather, you and Terry adorable!  I think you're probably the most levelheaded and diplomatic out of the bunch.  But tonight, you got a little defensive when Alexis made eye contact with you, the claws came out.  I would not want to get on your bad side, because I think you would shred me to pieces, mostly because you seem very smart and articulate.  I did not like to see your mean side though.

Bellevueteachmom
Bellevueteachmom

Heather, Thank you being the classiest woman on tv. I love everything about you. Thank you for wearing classy modest clothing and for having morals. You always represent yourself well and I love how you are a mom first but you know its important to also do things for yourself. I love that you also know it's important to have your career too.

karenmom
karenmom

 @Lionetta I agree. If the worst things you can say about Alexis is that she pretends to have more than she actually does and maybe isn't the smartest of all the women, well, that's not so very bad. She and Jim are getting along well and her children are well taken care of. She is smart enough to use her "fame" to sock some extra cash away for when her 15 minutes are up. And all the women of the Housewives franchise are on the clock. I too think she is a decent human being but I sure can't say that about some of them.

deby22
deby22

 @StephieM so you agree with gang bullying? she not only perticipated she helped lead the gang....hmmm not to sweet ..if we all said everything we thought , there would be many more law suits..maybe it is okay to "think" it if mentioning it would be hurtful to someone, especially when the whole gang seems to want to speak thier minds all at the same time...apprenty she was never taught , if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all! Then you never have to explain why you feel like you have the right to judge others...after all is Heather the higher power here???

karenmom
karenmom

 @mslala And show your children how much you love and respect their father. If you stay this course, your children will not respect him and teenagers are a tough time ahead of you. And Terry, we see that you love her but you need to have a little private talk with Heather and say "No more."

deby22
deby22

 @Bravososexy To late and if you see it , it has always been there, nothing new here!

Luv_Ashia
Luv_Ashia

 @Lovebravo1

 Sorry, but Heather's statement is true.  Lisa is not an international superstar.  More people will know her since she was on dwts this spring but she surely does not have notoriety as Doug suggested the cover needed.

 

"Kissing the ground that Lisa walks on."  Who is trying to do that for anyone?  Smh and LOL!!!

suzik7
suzik7

 @sadams0815 YOu put it to her straight! Thank you, I couldn't have said it better, although I tried! lol

Well done!

Mspaula47
Mspaula47

@jaonnheidi Well said....thank you.