Heather Dubrow

Heather discusses why she got so upset with Terry over dinner -- and why it's perfectly normal.

on May 7, 20130

Well, here we are again. . .show night!

The pumpkin patch: I love being with my kids! They were so cute in the pumpkin patch! We had to get a wheel barrow to carry everything to the counter to pay! They got big ones this year!!! We go every year and get lost in the corn maze. This year was especially nice because Collette could walk around and check out the pumpkins. We always end the day eating a loaf of pumpkin bread that's made locally. Having four little ones is fun, crazy, messy, and wonderful. I wouldn't trade it for the world! Thank you for your continuing hospitality Tanaka Farms and my pal there Rojelio! It's an amazing organic farm in Irvine. If you are in the area, check it out!

733 comments
piscesgirl33
piscesgirl33

Hi Heather,

As a fellow hands on, stay at home Mom of 2 elementary age daughters and married to a busy physician (but I'm not an actress), I really can relate to you.  I can tell by the little I've watched, that you and your husband have a good relationship, and maybe it's hard to have conversations with undivided attention, with four children.  It's also hard, going into a conversation with hope and expectations of how another person is going to react to good news, because you set yourself up for disapointment, and it's not necessarily a reflection of how Terry is feeling, just simply distracted by perhaps, thoughts of work, children, etc.  I can see how Terry does like to joke around alot, and that may be endearing most of the time, that's just who he is, and he can't turn off and on his personality, just as you can't.  With all this said, I have faith that you guys will ride out this short wave, and keep blossoming as a family, with every new chapter that opens.

Blessings, Lisa

snooganups
snooganups

Heather is just a spoiled brat that always want things to go her way. she talks to her husband like a child and that's why he acts and says the things that  he do. who cares how much a bottle of wine cost, or how many paid help's she has to have an affair/dinner party put together, and leave alexis alone she mean to alexis just like gretchen and tamra is. alexis has class and god in her life. so just back off.

KellyLu
KellyLu

Heather,

 

I want to take this opportunity to let you know just how much I really do like you and enjoy watching you on RH's and shows you act in.   Of course, I only know you from what we are shown on a television show, however, I just think you're adorable. You have one incredibly lavish lifestyle and I like how you don't apologize for it but also don't flaunt it like others around you.  (I'm just a very middle class girl myself) I highly commend you for the fact that you don't flaunt it.. you just exude class.  Seems to come naturally.  Others on your RHOOC do tend to flaunt their wealth and that's just not becoming.  Some make sure to "give to the less fortunate" but while doing it, they tend to almost knock themselves out with their patting on their own back!  You are beautiful on the outside but also seem the same on the inside. 

 

 Honestly, I didn't know if I was going to like you when you first came on the RH show just because it's change.  I've really grown to think you're fabulous and I like how you say what you're thinking/feeling and you stand behind what you say.  It's truly refreshing.  

 

I wish you and your family all the best.

dragonslayer
dragonslayer

I read some of these blogs and I laugh so hard...today I thought - this show has become really,  really funny.  I see these ladies now as caricatures  Am I the only one that laughs this hard? If these women knew how their snotty and better than thou attitude makes them look silly and how we laugh at their expense...they might start to have more sense....yes there’s lots of nonsense. We hear most viewers voice the same sentiments over and over....basically, that these women should look at their flaws and imperfections before they start firing orders for another HW to change their ways...And for others to mind their own business.                                                                                             Ladies - Thank you for the melodrama and laughs. In the beginning I felt such disappointment for how you treat each other. I believe it is true ...that a person can become immune and desensitized to something that is over exploited....                                                                                 I think the viewers have beat out each character flaw for each of these women and now we all just sit back and watch them meet each definition over and over...none of these women are going to change....Tamra loves drama - last night she practically had an orgasm hearing heather's line "cut you like a bad haircut or bang...something like that. Slade is buying a car he can't afford...hmmm isn't that what Alex was accused of. Heather loves being the BOSS and thinks she knows it all – the expert. Once again we watched her have “her moment” as we get to watch her take the seat at the head of the table...sorry Heather no way am I worshipping your BS. Please get over yourself....Lydia - fair warning stay out of the fray and mind your own business...look at what is already happening to Gretchen... she is being pushed out. Heather said we only see a snapshot of what is filmed...Getchen  knows it’s just a matter of time  - already, Tamra is rolling her eyes...Tamra knows that Vickie and Heather are building a new alliance and soon Tamra will make sure she is part of that triangle to save herself....and Gretchen will be left holding an empty table...without friends. She turned on the ONLY true friend she had....Alexis. The Moral to the story – Tamra -  has just about achieved  "checkmate".  Gretchen she has played you like a guppy! No more swimming with sharks...what’s your plan C?

patticakz
patticakz

During your appearance on "The Dish" last night, thank you Heather for facing the camera, lecturing us, the viewing audience, and setting us straight regarding your, oh so justified belittling of your husband in public.........let's all break open some "champs" and toast "Ms Perfect in every way"

 

 

MareBearG
MareBearG

Heather, you seem like someone who truly has an AMAZING life. You are beautiful and have a fabulous house, darling kids and your husband is a handsome, wealthy doctor. To some, it would easily appear that you are living the fairy tale life that we wished for when we were children~you are the modern day Cinderella. People are jealous of this. You have MANY jealous step sisters, but what people fail to see is that Cinderella was and is (in your case) hard working. She's the hard working girl who did good in life! 

 

I don't really love watching the disputes between you and your husband because this seems private, but love everything else about watching you! Your life is the fantasy that any girl would love to have! Just stay away from Tamra if you can...she's no one's friend and is bringing the show down.

 

Lots of luck to you------not that you need it!

Luv2rocku
Luv2rocku

I think the so called friendships Heather has for the show are just,, that for the show, Other than Tamra showing her a property I don't think Heather would have been friends with any of the other cast members had she not joined Even crossed paths with the RHOC. I also could feel Heather from the moment she got the part although she tried to act happy her face and stressed out mood showed she is very torn..I don't think Terry deserves being her whipping boy, She probably would have been snippy at anyone in her line of fire . My heart strings were so pulled in Malibu when I saw the hurt and confusion on both Heathers and Terry's face, They really are a very endearing couple..I am not worried at all about thier marriage . It's hard being a full time Mom of 4 children and to actively Persue an acting career, I have a disable son and have been in the business since I was 12 yrs old,,Terry did his husbandry duties and took in full stride.He is a great father and a man in full..His eyes say it all,. Heather also I saw how showed her vulnerability and sadness over thier bad week.. And absolutely was receptive forgiving and in a very conservative modest way she owned up to it.. And it shows she is not a shallow person but a great Mother who I think takes her job as a mother very much to heart..But at the same time still love perhaps the if idia of acting than the job itself .when you are shooting you can't just walk out after 8 hrs , I have been in set at 545 am and left at 3:30 or later the next morning, going into over time and golden time,,It's streesful when all you want to do is get home to your family, I kept an apartment up in LA for that very reason . There were times I would be working on 2 shows series and have a movie part and things would over lap..I felt like I was living in set trailers . Although I was so lucky so blessed to get work, at the same time I have a family also..I would at times get less than 24 hrs notice .to be on set,, Acting and working in entertainment can be so fun and rewarding but there is much sacrifice involved..I wish you nothing but luck, break a leg Heather..Luv2rockU.:-)

tjjpt
tjjpt

Terry made a mistake about confessing the D word incident to those people. But his motive was in order to explain to those housewives why Heather might seem too harsh on him. He took the blame for her putdown comment on his joke that morning in front of those women. He was not a chauvinist. He was a man deeply in love with his wife but at this point in their marriage, every thing he did annoyed the heck out of her. Terry became a man who had no self confidence around Heather and it showed in his face, very uncomfortable to watch. Heather seemed to have an upper hand on her husband...like she made him feel so privileged that she forsook her 'career' to marry him. Heather placed herself very highly for some reasons. maybe she could have a career and a billionaire but instead ended up with Terry, an OC plastic surgeon. Poor Heather. Sheesh grow up, Heather. You are not that hot commodity you think you are.

kuku25
kuku25

Heather, Heather , Heather, what am I going to do with you. I guess I can say good luck on your road to anothr Bravo divorce. I understand you are overwhelmed, but you constantly belittle your husband in public and even infront of your children. That is unacceptable. How do you think others will even respect him if you keep doing that. Your personal trials can be filmed in the comfort of your room. I see what you're trying to do, it's not a first on Bravo; trying to paint your husband like the devil so that when you do announce your divorce people will feel sorry for you. You have a chance of making it work, if you just stop worrying about people not percieving you as strong and independent.

Just my 2 cents!

Micheline
Micheline

I think your marriage is just fine! And your children are adorable. I hope they never see last night's episode. Get away from Tamra! I thought you were the only one with class but last night's episode at the gym may have shown your true colors.

vesnaMI
vesnaMI

Heather, I liked you a lot but you seem to be spending a lot of time with Tamra and Gretchen lately and they surely are a very bad influence. The way you've been treating Alexis is really disturbing at times and you've been too harsh on Terry, it's starting to look like Maloofs... Take care of your family, you've been very blessed! Stay away from those two mean girls, they are nothing but trouble!

cap1123
cap1123

Heather,

You are wrong to treat Terry like you do.  Look at yourself, what you have and how fortunate you are.  Your bit part on Hot in Cleveland will not make you a star, nor provide you the ability to live the lifestyle you currently do.  Get over yourself!

Chase1951@
Chase1951@

Shame on you! To stoop to the Tamra level , bully Alexis and call her fake and materialistic, don't you think that is a little rich coming from you, when your incredible luxurious affluent lifestyle is a result on your husbands remoulding people's bodies and faces into "fake" !!!! Please show some kindness to Alexis she doesn't deserve such viper behaviour it is embarrassing to watch! Try to be as lovely on the inside as you are on the out! Hopefully it is not fake!!!!

jsmith425
jsmith425

I am so confused as to why so many seem to side with Heather's husband. Did anyone else notice the fact that Terry is a major passive aggressive who purposely antagonizes his wife and is blatantly disrespectful to her? He is also clearly a chauvinist who views child-rearing and work around the home as beneath his realm. He is not witty, he just chooses select moments to diminish his wife's needs and concerns and then plays it off as humor. Also, what kind of man is so concerned with his appearances around his friends that he would choose to expose a touchy topic like an argument over divorce to them, rather than potentially have them think that he and his wife are being petty? Even though Heather seems like a pretentious blow-hard, Terry grosses me out on an astronomical level.

onederfulsteph
onederfulsteph

Hey Heather,  I like yourself have a man that has what I call "Funny Man Syndrome" They don't know how to shut it off !! Unfortunately I do not have a solution to our problem but I did make him watch this episode to kind of show him what its like and all I got was a "Wow I like that guy He Is Funny."  It might not help but just so you know, You are not alone And my fingers are crossed he might have taken the hint so thank you for being so honest.    Stephanie

cgbarb
cgbarb

I disagree with the rest of the comments. I think your husband displays passive aggressive behavior and I would be annoyed, too. He constantly says the wrong thing with a quick apology and a half smile. I think he is threatened by your wanting to go back into acting, but cannot express it, so he does little undermining things such as making mommy look bad in front of the kids and telling all your friends that he threatened you with the "D" word. I do think that was a threat, too. He wanted your friends to know that he is not as much of a wuss he appears to be. He got you so upset that you were crying in front of your friends. I say that he is a master manipulator.

lovelymimi
lovelymimi

I don't blame Terry for bringing up the D word. Have you seen the way you treat him?? If I closed my eyes I wouldn't be able to tell if you were talking to him or one of your kids.

 

Most religions speak of karma. Do you notice anything similar between the way Terry made you feel at the table vs. the way you made Alexis feel?

lamancha61
lamancha61

I guess us commoners should bow and curtsey in your presence. Your imperious tone to your husband is really revealing. He doesn't get legitimate attention, so he seeks illegitimate attention, like a child. I feel for him. He is so off his masculine self confidence, and your constant depriving him of his legitimate "right to even be in your sight," is so painful to watch. Until he has legitimate power, he will continue to get attention by tugging on your sleeve and bugging you. When is the last time you showered him with appreciation for who he is, what he provides, and his basic worth in the universe,

chrissyLV
chrissyLV

Hi Heather I like you a lot and feel you are a classy lady for sure!

 I do however feel you are way to hard on Terry and may need to take a breath and look around at everything that man has provided for you and how much he respects and loves you!( I don't know either of you personally, I  am going off of what is shown on air). As a viewer I see you as overreactive and desperate for a different man . ( No offense) He is trying to amuse you or be funny not cut your black AMEX !

You need to be a little more easy on him!

I lived in Cost Mesa for several years and was born and raised as well as currently live in Las Vegas your husband is a very good catch!

Im sure you don't want to loose him to your neighbor or his next patient.

I have a husband who is great too me as well  and luckily I am not filmed or some viewer may want to say the same to me at times.  I

I am saying this because you have a beautiful family and I get it  I have children ( no nanny or housekeeper mind you) you are tired and Terry feels like joking or  playing but you are being watched and judged, unfortunately.

So enjoy your husband on air and the veiwers will respond better :) 

I would hate for you to loose your husband and breakup your family on your second season of RHOOC.

Take Care and Appreciate what you are blessed with!

 

rachel.n.lee.7
rachel.n.lee.7

Thank you for representing the smart, complicated, flawed, vulnerable, authentic women of the world. Thank Terry for being an intelligent, strong, vulnerable, evolved man. For those of us who get it, you are a powerful example of how to make it work... through sickness and in health. Namaste.

prov31ruth
prov31ruth

I am sorry that so many people have said things in a  very nasty way to you about your faults.  You should not have to face verbally abusive language, no one should.  No one is perfect and it acceptable to have flaws even when you do have a hard time trying to see and accept them like Alexis.  I hope you take this in love.  I think you mean well in general although you come across so uppity at times it is hard to tell.  You and Terry state that Alexis is the most phoney person you know.  You say Alexis is materialistic but in the same season, you and Terry go and buy 2 suits and a tuxedo for about $40,000 and you cannot say that you could not find quality for less money.  If you were modest about it, you would not spend so lavishly in public on TV.  I would say that would be nice to see you spend that kind of money on charity but really how much money you spend on anything should be a private matter.  You also told Alexis at the reunion that if people say you are dead then its time to lay down (a paraphrase, I don't want to misquote you).   Well many, many people have been telling you that you have attitude problem and treat your husband poorly yet you continue to justify yourself.  Maybe you should be the one to listen to what others are telling you.  I am not a pillar of wisdom but I do know that a man will not tolerate the way you treat Terry and you will NEVER have the full respect of your children either.  They love you but cannot respect the way you behave.  You should watch the replay of the restaurant scene.  If you notice the only one your children seemed to keep looking at during the entire argument was you.  Your son also addressed you directly about the fighting not Terry.  Your children even see the truth but you cannot see the truth.  Terry may leave or he may stick it out for the duration but you will not be truly close unless you respect him.  He does not love you perfectly and should be more attentive at times.  But he does seem to love you!  You both are imperfect.  Also, you claim to be a lady and proper but you never talk to Tamra about her potty mouth and the perpetual swearing.  The main problem you have is that you have trouble not admitting that you are not perfect.  God loves you the way you are right now but that does not mean that He intends to leave you there.   god will continue to help you grow.  I think He is trying to show you some things even now, you should try to listen.  Most of us like myself have had to learn the hard way at times.  you can turn this around.  A great start would be to listen to some of the advice (kindly worded advice) that you have received from so many here.  From one struggling person to another.  God bless you!

SAC
SAC

I love my husband very much.  We have been married for 20 years this month and we have a beautiful 18 year old daughter.  That being said, my husband is similar to Terry..the jokes are funny the first time and maybe the second time but then it gets old fast and he just does not know when to stop.  Our daughter goes through the same thing with him.  He knows that we are not morning people, yet he insists on making jokes and trying to be funny.   Love him, but sometimes he just needs to stop.

debmerc888
debmerc888

The party at Tamra's gym was yet another sad case of 3 women ganging up on one. Alexis tried again and again to address anyone's issues with her one-on-one, but no, that was sadly not to be, again. Kudos to Alexis for being such a kind-hearted person.  She is the one most would choose as a friend. I loved the footage with her and Jim with their new business. I hope it is a great success for them.  Heather you have it all, be kind, loving and refuse to join in on this shameful behavior. No one is for it, can't you see that?

gawed
gawed

There is absolutely no way we are believing that you take care of your children alone. Let's see- nanny, housecleaner, driver, pool boy, private schools... And a husband that your children appear to love. 

piperbeau
piperbeau

Heather the way you speak to your husband is deplorable!! Why don't you just chop off his balls and hang them over the mantel?!!!

CrisMic81
CrisMic81

Tamera says I have special glasses for my special friends. OMG how freakin lame!! YOU HAVE 4 KIDS. You should know what childish behavior is. I can't believe your going along with this woman. I am a dark haired woman myself, I was really hoping you represent but I guess you need a leader too. And you have more than any of these girls. You should be setting the tone of how a woman that has it all should act. I just watched  the episode again. I use to like you soo much. No that girl should not of eaten the bow off your cake. how would you feel if somebody was treating your daughters like this. I hope tonight you change my mind about you and be the first to reach out to Alexis. And stop trying to make Lydia not like her.  

wellmary
wellmary

Watching the repeat of your radio show were you describe how the sophomore girl "bullied" you.  Sounds like the same behavior you three exhibited to Alexis. 

 

Gosh I wish I was as "perfect" as you.  NOT.

rudy90210
rudy90210

Many of us did not have role models on how to be completely respectful partners in marriage. Yet, what you showed us at the restaurant was in no way normal in my world. My husband had grandparents who showed him the road to complete respect in a marriage and he has taught me a bit more about it. I could never treat my husband like a child, or the way you do yours, without him feeling hurt and angry. Maybe next season show us you've practiced some of that class you speak of! Possibly Teri's parents didn't have a great marriage, and he allows you to treat him like you do, yet at some point he will feel something isn't right, or resentful of your treatment! Don't be too cocky about your irreplaceable self! Also, if you treated him better, and he stood up for himself, you would be a happier couple.

emily.scherer.50
emily.scherer.50

I felt for you in this episode. Although I only have one baby- I often feel sensitive (perhaps overly so) to my husband's "jokes" about helping out. I just wanted to jump up and say- HEY! What wife/mom hasn't been there. And to all the people jumping all over your reactions- perhaps they don't know another way to respond to their husband. It IS okay to say "my feeling are hurt" or "I am angry right now and do not want to talk." 

smithpk66
smithpk66

After watching you on camera Heather, one quickly realizes the depth of your insecurities.  Befriending women as toxic as Tamra and as clueless as Gretchen truly speaks of your character.  Your husband Terry deserves someone kind and loving with a sense of humor.  He is witty and outstanding while you are pretentious and dull.  It is clear that you hold yourself in the highest regard, but let me assure you that this is a mistake.  You are no better than the most common mean girl around.  I think a panel of psychologists would find your behavior very interesting.  If I were Terry, I would go to a place where I was celebrated instead of staying somewhere I was tolerated. 

RHOMW
RHOMW

You had no business getting involved in the Alexis mess at Tamra's event. She was sitting there politely until Tamra asked why she was there.  After she explained it, Gretchen pops up with "If you wanted us to have a good night, why did you come?" Alexis handled it nicely by saying she would be happy to talk about it one on one and that this wasn't the time or place.  She asked people to drop it several times and again offered to have lunch or dinner with them to discuss their issues privately.  Then you go and join in when you had no business too.  Why didn't you just drop it like she asked and enjoy the evening? Gretchen brought up LA and Costa Rica not Alexis.  When you 3 continued to harass her after she asked you to stop, it became bullying.Then by saying you were "glazed" over.  How childish!


Gayle51
Gayle51

@dragonslayer I forgot this: lol. U said Slade bought Gretchen a RR he couldn't afford, well no he took her leased car and upgraded it $200 a month therefore she's paying for it. Like she needs a RR setting in her little driveway! Lol. What's wrong with people? If I can't afford I don't get it. I also could care less when Andy ask everyone "who are u wearing?" Instead of just saying "wow you look great!" Why does it have to be who you r wearing? I might be wearing a $29 Clavin Klein dress and it looks as good as some of these so called designers dresses that cost $3,000! Outrageous! Lol

Gayle51
Gayle51

@patticakz lol you r so right! We should open a bottle of cham's or however u spell her pronunciation of champagne. Lol. That in itself sound snooty to me. I like Terry and he works just as hard as Heather and I'm sure she has plenty of side help at home. It's ridiculous the way she whines about and berates Terry all the time. Heather u act like a drill Sargent most of the time. This year u are stepping into piles and piles of mess when u butt in to other people's arguments. It make u look very mean girl just like the gruesome twosome and soon to be a threesome and if I had your life I wouldn't have ever gone on the show in the first place. U sure don't need the money, you must need the attention real bad or maybe a kick start to the career you had, that I've never heard of in all my 62 years. Im I've never once heard of u, so maybe this was your reason to do this show, bc it obvious u don't need the money and if y'all wanted four kids and u wanted to be a stay home mom, then stay home and save that marriage that will soon be another statistic as we've all seen before on these kind of shows. Yes u r gorgeous but you attitude towards your humble husband stinks and actually I have seen him before I had ever heard of u when he did the Swan. That show may have brought more money into your home and increased his career and caused people to use his services. You need to really be grateful for all u do have and not gripe about what you're not getting. I'm not jealous nor envious of anything u have no matter what others maybe envious of. I don't dislike u at all I just don't and cannot comprehend why u want to do this show. Stay home and do your acting, but inserting yourself with all these bickering women who seem to despise each other is not your kind of lifestyle. U r far above that. Do not let this cause u and you husband any problems, they're enough problems in marriage as it is don't bring more to it especially this petty mess.

pyin
pyin

 @tjjpt

 Very much AGREE! She is so ugly on the inside it's doing damage to the outside too. I cannot see any beauty in her because the ugliness of her self-consumed attitude covers it up.

kuku25
kuku25

 vesnaMI, you hit the nail on the head. Those are same people I was thinking about when I look at Heather and Terry. She is so caught up in painting him black so that when she does announce the divorce, people will feel sorry for her. All she does is belittle the man. I believe Heather already wants out of the marriage, but wants to make sure that people think it's because of how Terry treats her (which I don't see). Anyway, I wish her luck.

LiveLife
LiveLife

 @Chase1951@

 I'm not at all jealous of Heather and she is lucky to have the life she has but seriously, doesn't Heather get that "fake" is constantly bringing up the name of a very expensive wine that the majority of people can't afford?  Doesn't Heather realize that she says and does the very things she has accused Alexis of saying and doing?  I think Heather and the rest of the mean ladies of Orange County need to look at themselves before they step out and criticize Alexis.  Doesn't Heather and Terry realize that not choosing to have their home photographed just because it isn't a "cover" is also being fake?  I could point out tons of things they say and do that are "fake" but my point is that this group of women need to realize they can't criticize another person when they are doing the very same things and in fact in many cases much worse.  That is why they need to apologize to Alexis and move on with their lives and quit bullying her for the same things they do.

LiveLife
LiveLife

 @jsmith425

 To be honest I think that both Heather and Terry are passive aggressive to each other.  Not a good mix but hopefully they will work on this together.  I seriously doubt and I most certainly don't get the idea that Terry is a chauvinist.  I have to disagree with you on that.  I suspect that maybe Terry isn't sure what to do and how to do it when it comes to taking care of the children.  Heather or the nannies have done it from the time they were born and most men just aren't schooled in the area of child care.  Why it's a problem with either one of them is beyond me to begin with as they have two nannies so why they are even fighting with each other about this is just flat out confusing.

LosAngelesBravoLover
LosAngelesBravoLover

@rachel.n.lee.7 -awesome post!!! I sure wouldn't want to be this vulnerable to America. People are obviously haters. None of us is perfect and relationships are hard and take work. They adore each other, this is just bickering.

lovelymimi
lovelymimi

 @gawed she even had an assistant at the pumpkin patch for goodness sakes.

debikk
debikk

 @piperbeau

 I agree. I feel bad for Terry. It is like he can't do anything right or say anything right at all.

TulaneMom
TulaneMom

 @CrisMic81 Heather came on the show thinking she would play the role of the intelligent, strong, classy doctors wife. However, she has consistently shown the viewers that she is none of those. An intelligent woman would think for herself, and would never be influenced by someone like Tamra Barney. A strong woman would have gotten up from the table  and left the gym dinner when Tamra verbally attacked first Alexis, and then her . A classy woman would have never behaved as Heather has towards Alexis, for no reason other than Tamra told her not to like her!

Apparently, now the doctors wife role may be in jeopardy as well.

Heather is the biggest phony of them all!!

Hulali
Hulali

 @wellmary

 Its the same thing as Heather calling Alexis out for her "rich girl problems".

TulaneMom
TulaneMom

 @smithpk66 She recently  described Terry as being the "annoying little brother she never wanted" . The pathology in that sentence alone sums it up for me. I'm surprised that her husband has not 'shut her down' as far as continuing to be on the show. Her behavior has to be hurting his practice, what woman watching would want to help fund that snobs lifestyle??

sweetcher62
sweetcher62

@smithpk66 TOUCHÉ ! I agree completely! BRAVO! :)

jerseymaria1991
jerseymaria1991

 @smithpk66 Wow, I could NOT have said it better. I am re-watching Tamra's dinner party episode now and just in total confusion over how anyone can continue to take Heather seriously? I always pull for the level-headed person and as much as Heather tries to portray herself that way, I can see right past her and clearly several others do, too. She speaks like she has all this class and knows the answer to solving every situation but she is a total fraud and a complete joke. I adore her husband on the show and I think it's a shame that he doesn't find someone better. How Heather can continue to act like she has all this class and then be friends with the two TACKIEST people in Orange County is really baffling to me. Alexis handled the situation at the dinner table PERFECTLY by saying "Tamra, your event can still go nicely-- let's just talk about this later if you want" and instead of "classy" Heather saying something like, "You know, I don't really care for Alexis but she did the right thing" she acted like a total child and just couldn't STAND not being in on the action so she had to pipe up with her "why are you looking at ME?!?" when clearly, everyone else in the room forgot that she was even there. Heather has truly ruined the show for me and Alexis is the only reason I watch anymore. By the way, Heather... if you have a problem with the word "bullying" maybe take it up with the dictionary? If Alexis said something like "kids bullied in school don't matter, I'm the only one in the world who is being bullied!" then I would see a problem. She's just using the word "bullying" because that's what it is and as much as you're trying to use every episode as a PSA in an attempt to be taken seriously by viewers, why don't you take a step back and look at the REAL message you're sending? The one that says, "hey kids being bullied in school... get used to it because it'll never end! Even when you're an adult." And lastly, bullying isn't just something that exists among people of certain races, ages or SES's. Please do your research...

LiveLife
LiveLife

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 Even more childish was Heather sticking her fingers in her ears like Tamra did and screaming la, la, la, la, la, la at the dinner party.  For me that was one of the most shocking behaviors I've seen from so called adult women.  All three of you need to realize that bullying isn't just for children or teens any longer and that adults are also bullies and that is has become a huge problem in real life and in the social media.  I honestly believe that you Heather, Tamra and Gretchen need to read the following article and then admit that in fact they have been bullying Alexis: http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/adult-bullying.html  There is currently a lawsuit that has been filed by a anti bullying group and a former reality star who has been bullied on the social media for years with even the former start AND her fans are being bullied by a group of ADULTS, and both the former star and her fans have had death threats made against their lives and been stalked by this group.  I find it interesting that Gretchen and Tamra are now being very hypocritical and screaming "bully" to the viewers and fans.  Why can't any of you three, Heather, Tamra and Gretchen see that you all are also being bullies to Alexis?  Even to the point where one of the women is "bullying" her husband and the other is "bullying" her fiancé.  I could be wrong but I'm seeing Gretchen as being a "follower" and her bullying of a former friend is more influenced by her new friendship with Tamra who has bullied other housewives from the start of the show. 

 

I know that marriages go through their ups and downs but to publicly embarrass your husband like you have done to Terry with your passive aggressive remarks is shameful.  Your husband is a respected doctor and had many years of education to get where he is today.  Don't you think that he at the very least deserves respect from his wife to not embarrass him in public and in front of friends?  Wasn't Terry a joker when you met him?  If he was, you knew what you were getting into and in my opinion you shouldn't now suddenly years later resent the very thing you might have found charming about him?  There does seem to be quite a bit of anger and resentment in you Heather and it seems to be coming out in many ways and maybe some counseling might do both of you some good. That anger and resentment appears to be coming out by your remarks right and left to Terry and your bullying of a very nice, loving and gentle woman like Alexis.   Find out the source of your anger Heather with some possible counseling and I think you'll find your marriage and your friendships will flourish again once you get to the source of your frustrations.  We all go through good times and bad times but to ignore what is troubling you will only cause you to become more bitter and angry.