Terry made a mistake about confessing the D word incident to those people. But his motive was in order to explain to those housewives why Heather might seem too harsh on him. He took the blame for her putdown comment on his joke that morning in front of those women. He was not a chauvinist. He was a man deeply in love with his wife but at this point in their marriage, every thing he did annoyed the heck out of her. Terry became a man who had no self confidence around Heather and it showed in his face, very uncomfortable to watch. Heather seemed to have an upper hand on her husband...like she made him feel so privileged that she forsook her 'career' to marry him. Heather placed herself very highly for some reasons. maybe she could have a career and a billionaire but instead ended up with Terry, an OC plastic surgeon. Poor Heather. Sheesh grow up, Heather. You are not that hot commodity you think you are.

Heather, Heather , Heather, what am I going to do with you. I guess I can say good luck on your road to anothr Bravo divorce. I understand you are overwhelmed, but you constantly belittle your husband in public and even infront of your children. That is unacceptable. How do you think others will even respect him if you keep doing that. Your personal trials can be filmed in the comfort of your room. I see what you're trying to do, it's not a first on Bravo; trying to paint your husband like the devil so that when you do announce your divorce people will feel sorry for you. You have a chance of making it work, if you just stop worrying about people not percieving you as strong and independent.

Just my 2 cents!

I think your marriage is just fine! And your children are adorable. I hope they never see last night's episode. Get away from Tamra! I thought you were the only one with class but last night's episode at the gym may have shown your true colors.

Heather, I liked you a lot but you seem to be spending a lot of time with Tamra and Gretchen lately and they surely are a very bad influence. The way you've been treating Alexis is really disturbing at times and you've been too harsh on Terry, it's starting to look like Maloofs... Take care of your family, you've been very blessed! Stay away from those two mean girls, they are nothing but trouble!

Heather,

You are wrong to treat Terry like you do.  Look at yourself, what you have and how fortunate you are.  Your bit part on Hot in Cleveland will not make you a star, nor provide you the ability to live the lifestyle you currently do.  Get over yourself!

Shame on you! To stoop to the Tamra level , bully Alexis and call her fake and materialistic, don't you think that is a little rich coming from you, when your incredible luxurious affluent lifestyle is a result on your husbands remoulding people's bodies and faces into "fake" !!!! Please show some kindness to Alexis she doesn't deserve such viper behaviour it is embarrassing to watch! Try to be as lovely on the inside as you are on the out! Hopefully it is not fake!!!!

I am so confused as to why so many seem to side with Heather's husband. Did anyone else notice the fact that Terry is a major passive aggressive who purposely antagonizes his wife and is blatantly disrespectful to her? He is also clearly a chauvinist who views child-rearing and work around the home as beneath his realm. He is not witty, he just chooses select moments to diminish his wife's needs and concerns and then plays it off as humor. Also, what kind of man is so concerned with his appearances around his friends that he would choose to expose a touchy topic like an argument over divorce to them, rather than potentially have them think that he and his wife are being petty? Even though Heather seems like a pretentious blow-hard, Terry grosses me out on an astronomical level.

Hey Heather,  I like yourself have a man that has what I call "Funny Man Syndrome" They don't know how to shut it off !! Unfortunately I do not have a solution to our problem but I did make him watch this episode to kind of show him what its like and all I got was a "Wow I like that guy He Is Funny."  It might not help but just so you know, You are not alone And my fingers are crossed he might have taken the hint so thank you for being so honest.    Stephanie

I disagree with the rest of the comments. I think your husband displays passive aggressive behavior and I would be annoyed, too. He constantly says the wrong thing with a quick apology and a half smile. I think he is threatened by your wanting to go back into acting, but cannot express it, so he does little undermining things such as making mommy look bad in front of the kids and telling all your friends that he threatened you with the "D" word. I do think that was a threat, too. He wanted your friends to know that he is not as much of a wuss he appears to be. He got you so upset that you were crying in front of your friends. I say that he is a master manipulator.

I don't blame Terry for bringing up the D word. Have you seen the way you treat him?? If I closed my eyes I wouldn't be able to tell if you were talking to him or one of your kids.

Most religions speak of karma. Do you notice anything similar between the way Terry made you feel at the table vs. the way you made Alexis feel?

I guess us commoners should bow and curtsey in your presence. Your imperious tone to your husband is really revealing. He doesn't get legitimate attention, so he seeks illegitimate attention, like a child. I feel for him. He is so off his masculine self confidence, and your constant depriving him of his legitimate "right to even be in your sight," is so painful to watch. Until he has legitimate power, he will continue to get attention by tugging on your sleeve and bugging you. When is the last time you showered him with appreciation for who he is, what he provides, and his basic worth in the universe,

Hi Heather I like you a lot and feel you are a classy lady for sure!

 I do however feel you are way to hard on Terry and may need to take a breath and look around at everything that man has provided for you and how much he respects and loves you!( I don't know either of you personally, I  am going off of what is shown on air). As a viewer I see you as overreactive and desperate for a different man . ( No offense) He is trying to amuse you or be funny not cut your black AMEX !

You need to be a little more easy on him!

I lived in Cost Mesa for several years and was born and raised as well as currently live in Las Vegas your husband is a very good catch!

Im sure you don't want to loose him to your neighbor or his next patient.

I have a husband who is great too me as well  and luckily I am not filmed or some viewer may want to say the same to me at times.  I

I am saying this because you have a beautiful family and I get it  I have children ( no nanny or housekeeper mind you) you are tired and Terry feels like joking or  playing but you are being watched and judged, unfortunately.

So enjoy your husband on air and the veiwers will respond better :) 

I would hate for you to loose your husband and breakup your family on your second season of RHOOC.

Take Care and Appreciate what you are blessed with!

Thank you for representing the smart, complicated, flawed, vulnerable, authentic women of the world. Thank Terry for being an intelligent, strong, vulnerable, evolved man. For those of us who get it, you are a powerful example of how to make it work... through sickness and in health. Namaste.

I am sorry that so many people have said things in a  very nasty way to you about your faults.  You should not have to face verbally abusive language, no one should.  No one is perfect and it acceptable to have flaws even when you do have a hard time trying to see and accept them like Alexis.  I hope you take this in love.  I think you mean well in general although you come across so uppity at times it is hard to tell.  You and Terry state that Alexis is the most phoney person you know.  You say Alexis is materialistic but in the same season, you and Terry go and buy 2 suits and a tuxedo for about $40,000 and you cannot say that you could not find quality for less money.  If you were modest about it, you would not spend so lavishly in public on TV.  I would say that would be nice to see you spend that kind of money on charity but really how much money you spend on anything should be a private matter.  You also told Alexis at the reunion that if people say you are dead then its time to lay down (a paraphrase, I don't want to misquote you).   Well many, many people have been telling you that you have attitude problem and treat your husband poorly yet you continue to justify yourself.  Maybe you should be the one to listen to what others are telling you.  I am not a pillar of wisdom but I do know that a man will not tolerate the way you treat Terry and you will NEVER have the full respect of your children either.  They love you but cannot respect the way you behave.  You should watch the replay of the restaurant scene.  If you notice the only one your children seemed to keep looking at during the entire argument was you.  Your son also addressed you directly about the fighting not Terry.  Your children even see the truth but you cannot see the truth.  Terry may leave or he may stick it out for the duration but you will not be truly close unless you respect him.  He does not love you perfectly and should be more attentive at times.  But he does seem to love you!  You both are imperfect.  Also, you claim to be a lady and proper but you never talk to Tamra about her potty mouth and the perpetual swearing.  The main problem you have is that you have trouble not admitting that you are not perfect.  God loves you the way you are right now but that does not mean that He intends to leave you there.   god will continue to help you grow.  I think He is trying to show you some things even now, you should try to listen.  Most of us like myself have had to learn the hard way at times.  you can turn this around.  A great start would be to listen to some of the advice (kindly worded advice) that you have received from so many here.  From one struggling person to another.  God bless you!

I love my husband very much.  We have been married for 20 years this month and we have a beautiful 18 year old daughter.  That being said, my husband is similar to Terry..the jokes are funny the first time and maybe the second time but then it gets old fast and he just does not know when to stop.  Our daughter goes through the same thing with him.  He knows that we are not morning people, yet he insists on making jokes and trying to be funny.   Love him, but sometimes he just needs to stop.

The party at Tamra's gym was yet another sad case of 3 women ganging up on one. Alexis tried again and again to address anyone's issues with her one-on-one, but no, that was sadly not to be, again. Kudos to Alexis for being such a kind-hearted person.  She is the one most would choose as a friend. I loved the footage with her and Jim with their new business. I hope it is a great success for them.  Heather you have it all, be kind, loving and refuse to join in on this shameful behavior. No one is for it, can't you see that?

There is absolutely no way we are believing that you take care of your children alone. Let's see- nanny, housecleaner, driver, pool boy, private schools... And a husband that your children appear to love. 

Heather the way you speak to your husband is deplorable!! Why don't you just chop off his balls and hang them over the mantel?!!!

Tamera says I have special glasses for my special friends. OMG how freakin lame!! YOU HAVE 4 KIDS. You should know what childish behavior is. I can't believe your going along with this woman. I am a dark haired woman myself, I was really hoping you represent but I guess you need a leader too. And you have more than any of these girls. You should be setting the tone of how a woman that has it all should act. I just watched  the episode again. I use to like you soo much. No that girl should not of eaten the bow off your cake. how would you feel if somebody was treating your daughters like this. I hope tonight you change my mind about you and be the first to reach out to Alexis. And stop trying to make Lydia not like her.  

Heather, Heather, Heather. You are so phoney. You give real housewives a bad name.

Watching the repeat of your radio show were you describe how the sophomore girl "bullied" you.  Sounds like the same behavior you three exhibited to Alexis. 

Gosh I wish I was as "perfect" as you.  NOT.

Many of us did not have role models on how to be completely respectful partners in marriage. Yet, what you showed us at the restaurant was in no way normal in my world. My husband had grandparents who showed him the road to complete respect in a marriage and he has taught me a bit more about it. I could never treat my husband like a child, or the way you do yours, without him feeling hurt and angry. Maybe next season show us you've practiced some of that class you speak of! Possibly Teri's parents didn't have a great marriage, and he allows you to treat him like you do, yet at some point he will feel something isn't right, or resentful of your treatment! Don't be too cocky about your irreplaceable self! Also, if you treated him better, and he stood up for himself, you would be a happier couple.

I felt for you in this episode. Although I only have one baby- I often feel sensitive (perhaps overly so) to my husband's "jokes" about helping out. I just wanted to jump up and say- HEY! What wife/mom hasn't been there. And to all the people jumping all over your reactions- perhaps they don't know another way to respond to their husband. It IS okay to say "my feeling are hurt" or "I am angry right now and do not want to talk." 

After watching you on camera Heather, one quickly realizes the depth of your insecurities.  Befriending women as toxic as Tamra and as clueless as Gretchen truly speaks of your character.  Your husband Terry deserves someone kind and loving with a sense of humor.  He is witty and outstanding while you are pretentious and dull.  It is clear that you hold yourself in the highest regard, but let me assure you that this is a mistake.  You are no better than the most common mean girl around.  I think a panel of psychologists would find your behavior very interesting.  If I were Terry, I would go to a place where I was celebrated instead of staying somewhere I was tolerated. 

You had no business getting involved in the Alexis mess at Tamra's event. She was sitting there politely until Tamra asked why she was there.  After she explained it, Gretchen pops up with "If you wanted us to have a good night, why did you come?" Alexis handled it nicely by saying she would be happy to talk about it one on one and that this wasn't the time or place.  She asked people to drop it several times and again offered to have lunch or dinner with them to discuss their issues privately.  Then you go and join in when you had no business too.  Why didn't you just drop it like she asked and enjoy the evening? Gretchen brought up LA and Costa Rica not Alexis.  When you 3 continued to harass her after she asked you to stop, it became bullying.Then by saying you were "glazed" over.  How childish!

i loved it when the baby yelled Daddy!

RICH GIRL PROBLEMS!!!!

Thanks for all the pictures, but let's be honest, just trying to distract your fans from seeing the real you. 

Heather

I am concerned at how you handled your behavior while on camera with your husband. And weren't opened to his apology. He clearly stated he was just joking. You made the matter worse. Now you're writing about the poor guy in a blog. When do you stop? Both of your jobs are important. Not one more than the other. You knew what you were getting yourself into. As I watched you last week....I saw in front of me Adrienne. She was doing the same thing.....everything seemed to bother her about her husband. You might want to look at a few clips from the show. You just might see yourself in some of them. And you see where that marriage went. Right??? A person can only handle so much criticism. As for Alexis and her 'holier than thou' image. I get it! I don't like it a bit. It bothers me. I agree all of you have a fair gripe with her. Alexis tends to over analyze everyone. NOT GOOD! It's never good when people are too judgmental. You three are getting pretty close to that judgmental behavior.......since none of you are perfect. Personally I think Alexis is more fitting to be teaching bible study than to be exploiting herself and family on a reality show. It's sort of like trying to mix oil with vinegar. They just don't mix!

If I was here husband, I would run. No other man would put up with her overly sensitive, cold fish behavior. Terry you can do sooo much better.

Good Lord people you are all getting all upset over a tv show and some blogs, doesn't everyone know these things are put together to create the most drama, it obviously gets everyone to watch and comment.. Just sayin.. these ladies are no different than any other group of women together. they fight, get along, backstab eachother, hate eachother love eachother, etc....

Heather, when you first came on the show, I thought you were a tad pretentious. Some of your early comments (I live on billionaire's row, my house is 20,000 sq. ft.), alluded to extreme materialism. Yet, I did not judge you based on any of that. It's your money. How you spend it is none of my business. I wanted to like you because I know so many wealthy people are socially conscious. So, I reserved my opinion. The Costa Rica "intervention" was pivotal. That you were a willing (dare I say, eager) participant in that public scourging was alarming. I understand you and Alexis came to terms about it. Someone posted that you apologized. I hope that's true. Good for you if you did. However, that you continue to actively cultivate a friendship with Tamra, is baffling. Even if I had the time and inclination to do so, I dare not list, in nauseating detail, the extensive offenses of which Tamra is guilty. Suffice it to say, we have all witnessed her fits of unbridled rage, her callous disregard for common decency and her self-serving manipulation of the facts. I can, however, confidently predict Tamra will top the list of the most hated housewives in Bravo history. That you have gleefully chosen to align yourself with this wretched creature, tells me everything I need to know about you.

If you are smart....and want your career to go good....I would decide to stop with the fighting, make up with Alexis, even if you lose Tamra and Gretchen, which would not be a big loss if they never forgive you for not being a follower....its time to reassess your likeability, your credibility, your image and your future....be nice, girl....quit looking like a B word.