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Didn't Vicki Almost Have It All?

Lydia shares why she thinks Vicki should move on from Brooks and why she chose to share her faith in this episode.

Coming off of the girls trip to Canada, it was good to get back to our normal routines. This episode really showed all of our personal lives rather then our relationships with one another. . .and I kind of liked that.

There was something very tender about the scene with the Dubrows. Sure, they sold their huge mansion, which is like a modern day palace, and that may not be that relatable. However, the love, adventure and family aspect which they talked about is something that I think we all can connect with. I like picturing Terry at home with his family having dinner nightly. Apparently, they will have better views and taller ceilings, but at its core their conversation is what we all want and strive for. It gave me the warm fuzzies and was a sweet moment to share with them.

The Vicki, Brianna, Brooks love triangle stresses me out. I want Vicki to be happy, but Brianna's concerns seem to hold weight too. Brianna and Vicki are obviously super close. So, for Brianna to feel so negatively about Brooks makes me think Vicki's relationship with him is doomed. A woman can never choose between her children and a man. The children will always win. Love should always be enough, but it seems that Vicki needs to listen to Whitney Houston's "Didn't We Almost Have It All," pack up, and drive away…

Gretchen and Alexis lunch didn't seem to resolve anything. Maybe they needed the presence of the "friendship whisperer," but something tells me there is just too much water under the bridge. They didn't have to say any words, just looking at their faces said it all. At least they tried to communicate. Sometimes a reconciliation just doesn't happen. Maybe they can take baby steps and rebuild that friendship, but they definitely have to start from ground zero. From what I can tell, they aren't picking up where they left off or hugging it out anytime soon.

I loved showing my Life Group in tonight's episode. I believe in Jesus and my faith is very important to me, but it's also very personal. I know I'm not perfect. In fact, I am keenly aware of many of my flaws. That is why I try to spend time with the Lord asking Him to help me with my life. Life Group is a time when I can reflect, be honest and have people support and pray for me. I would encourage anyone struggling with their purpose, or faith, or loneliness, or anything to seek a similar type of group. A lot of people ask me how I am so positive, and this is my answer. None of us have it all together, but together we have it all.

My friend Wendy, who attends my Life Group shared about her amazing charity called iSanctuary. If you are interested in learning more please go to They provide rehabilitation options for survivors of human trafficking. I love this organization and give a portion of my LYDIA M Jewelry sales to them.

Until next week,
xo Lydia

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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