When you are a true Christian, you don't have to advertise it.

Lydia - I like what I've seen so far from you.  You seem like a strong lady who is not going to blindly form an opinion of anyone by what the other ladies say, but you are going to develop your own opinions, which is very refreshing.  Being a friend does not always mean agreeing with that person, it sometimes is more about being honest with that person.  Again, so far, I like what I've seen from you. I hope you continue to contribute to the group in a positive manner.  You are a beautiful girl, and seem to really have your life together and seem to be able to handle yourself in the situations you have been put into on the show. Welcome to the show!  Looking forward to seeing more of you.

I'm starting to like you lydia because you told Alexis the truth. She doesn't want to hear anything bad about herself. Just wait she will be calling you a bully next.

You earned my respect when you told Alexis that she wasn't being bullied. Gretchen took 2 seasons worth of beatings from mean Vicki and meaner tamra, and she never claimed that. People call Alexis phony and she's being bullied?Get real!

Being verbally attacked by 3 GROWN women is bullying!! Hopefully you won't become the 4th and turn your back on Alexis!!

Lydia, bullying comes in many degrees and all don't end with suicide or an attempt. When a person is berated, ridiculed and treated badly by the same group of people every time there is contact, I consider those people bullies! Tanra should never have agreed to allow Alexis to come, but then it did provide her with a perfect time to show off again. The entire thing was embarrassing to watch! I stopped watching RHONJ because I didn't want to tune in and watch Teresa get attacked every week although I'm not really that fond of Teresa. I'm on the verge of dropping out of Orange county although I'm not fond of Alexis. Just can't stand watching such really mean spirited women showing off to insure their place on the show and camera time!

Lydia, you're just so cute! Congratulations on your anniversary and renewing of your vows! You seem to have something truly special with your husband! I myself am planning my wedding right now and I can't wait to start my life with my amazing husband-to-be!!On that note, I can see how Eddie would be stressed about wedding planning, with starting a new business, adjusting to living with not only Tamra, but her kids and everything else, it can definitely turn into a stress, which sucks because it's supposed to be fun! So I agree with you that maybe they should wait a while first. Anyways, last episode when you ran after Alexis, I thought it was the right thing for you to do (even though she went all sorts of crazy, like the other women did), I also agree with you that it was NOT bullying! It just infuriates me when an ADULT claims they are being bullied, what kind of bull is that?? Is Alexis twelve?? Can she not stand up for herself?? Are they attacking her for no reason, or are they just simply trying to tell their side of the story?? Come on, let's be honest here people! I didn't like Alexis, then I started to not mind her, now I'm back to not liking her because all she does is scream victim. How unattractive is that?? She doesn't even have any reason too. Did she get it in Costa Rica from Tamra? Yeah, Tamra went overboard and should've been nicer, but all Heather and Gretchen did was try and offer constructive criticism. Alexis only saw what she wanted to see, because she wanted the sympathy vote. Period. And she did the same thing to you. the ONLY thing you were trying to do was help Alexis by offering constructive criticism and what did she do?? "Oh, poor me, poor me, everybody's attacking me, they all ganged up on me, I'm being bullied, just feel bad for me!" She's not a victim. She's just simply pretending to be one. After watching the last episode especially, I lost alot of respect for Alexis. I really like you though! I think you're smart, sweet, and I love your honesty!

Lay off your mom man. Let her smoke the "green plant." No one ever dies from doing that. If you can chug down lemon drops like there is no tomorrow and wake up with a massive headache while being at risk for alcohol poisoning, then whats wrong with your mom tugging on the chronic and getting the munchies later?

I am afraid Bravo has made a mistake.  When do people have words of prayer on TV and discuss drugs in the same conversation?  You do not have to "prove" you are a Christian. 

God bless you, Lydia. You are keeping it real and honoring God by making your allegiance to Him before anyone else. God bless you for being such a faithful Christian and honoring and loving your mother despite all of the hurts you probably endured being raised by an addict your entire life. I pray that The Lord will restore the years the locusts have eaten in your relationship with her and entire family. I am praying for your mother's sobriety. It is a spiritual condition, so if she is truly willing to change and surrenders to God I have NO DOUBT that she will remain sober. Your LIGHT SHINES SO BRIGHT!

Your mom needs to pour a bottle of fairy dust on the mean threesome!! And you are definitely not a good friend to Alexis!!

You're playing both sides of the fence!  That's playing dirty.  Be true to yourself and be honest.  Hopefully, you'll stick with the nice girls, including Alexis, and run for your life away from the 'mean girls,' Gretchen, Tamra (the most horrible human on earth), and Heather.

Lydia ... Four words of advice.. Don't fall for it Don't be desperate to be part of the group by needing to be excepted. Take it from a viewer...the other girls ARE mean to Alexis.

You want to know "why the ladies don't like Alexis."  Well, it's because she's a nice person that they knew wasn't going to fight back in a nasty way.  They see that as a weakness.  You seem like a very disloyal friend.  I liked you for the first hour.  But, your true colors came out quickly.  Be loyal to your friends.  Don't be afraid that if you don't play nice with the mean girls, they will go for you next.  You are either fear motivated or you can't see evil if it's staring you in the face.  Tamra, Gretchen and Heather are clearly the mean girls.  I consider what they do bullying.  Some people may not consider it bullying, but it's just a matter of definition. 

A real friend doesn't cave into peer pressure, they rise above it and stand up for their friend. You call Alexis your friend, so be her friend then. Pick a side and stay with it. Have a backbone.

You are so two-faced. You got in the limo and said, WE took one for you. Really, you just claimed you were a genius. Whoever your with is who you agree with. You are so wishy washy.

Lydia, it is always nice to see someone in a big house using wire coat hangers...it makes you seem normal....and not over indulgent.....your husbands closet was not a second home, it was an actual closet....with wire coat hangers from the cleaners.....i am impressed

    It wasn't about the word bully. It was about how Tamra and her flying monkeys treated Alexis.  

Lydia I think you are just wonderful a fresh air. You are a true christian in believing in what the bible says thank you. You have given me a new belief in people thank you again. All the best to you and your family. Good luck on the show I think your going to need all you can get.

it isn't your decision whether someone feels bullied or not.

you have no right to tell someone else how they should feel.

Feelings of someone is personal and you can't judge them.

Lydia, I think you are great! You are clear with what you believe and what you say. You made a great point that I have been waiting to hear from someone for ages regarding friendship, that you do not simply say what someone wants to hear, that you choose to express an honest opinion from your own perspective. That is true friendship, telling someone what they need to hear as opposed to what they want to hear. You were in no way or rude or lacking compassion, you acted as a good friend and person trying to help Alexis to understand the other side. Are we not all taught, and should we not at least strive, to try to look at things from other perspectives? You tried to help Alexis in a good way to see the other sides, from your objective point of view towards the situation, in a clear effort to help her to better understand how to process, deal with and move forward from that evening for her own benefit. Your suggestion for her engage with each of those women one-on-one was great ad to start with Heather a good one, being the perhaps easiest to actually sit and calmly discuss their issues together.

You are about as "real" as Heather!!! You are already stabbing Alexis behind her back...

Oh Lydia, what have you gotten yourself into?  Why would you subject your beautiful family to this??  You've probably already found out some of what you "signed up for". 

What is your preoccupation with the word "bully"?   I can't believe that you would choose THAT MOMENT to harp on a so-called "friend" about semantics when she is in tears from a blow up with such horrid women.   You really should learn how to exercise discretion if you lack enough  compassion in moments like that.   You could have simply closed your mouth - kept your opinion to yourself, and said "Let's get out of here.  This is a toxic situation".   Nobody needs your two cents in moments like that.

We need more of you on tv, you're a sweetheart and wise. I'm not sure how you got tangled up with these people, but sometimes God plants you where you can help folks the most. Go Lydia! You're one of the few housewives on any show that I wouldn't be completely ashamed for the rest of the world to see. You seem like you have your priorities straight. Stay strong and don't let them drag you down. 

I hope to see more of you, and your beautiful family.  Time will tell if you are truly sweet natured and a good friend.  I also commend you for speaking truthfully to your friend, and the other ladies.  But, stand by Alexis and be the bridge between the groups that is much needed.  Build on your relationship with Heather and help in the healing process.  If you are as Christian as you say, we'll see it not in the vocal preaching, but by your actions.  Keep in mind, you are teaching your children by your actions.  I also have two boys, so fun.  As a mother, I am always concerned whether the example I am setting is the best I can offer them.

You have pretty hair what products do you use....your hair looks great!

Lydia, I love you girl!  Stay positive and continue to give your opinions as you see fit.  People are saying that you supported the mean girls but you didn't you actually went to Alexis before Vicki did and you said what you thought was going on from your perspective.  People are thinking you have not been briefed or you are not aware of whats happening but it seems you were on point with a lot of things.  And you are right Alexis is not being bullied but the other women have to learn how not to speak to her harshly at the same time, she can't handle that. 

Lydia stay true to who you are and continue to be a positive person.

It always amazes me when there is a me housewife they throw themselves smack dab in the middle of something they were not around to experience. The fact that you didn't"t feel that Alexis was being bullied took a lot of nerve sense you're just beginning in the series. It was misplaced and inappropriate to say you were not bullied while Alexis is sitting in the car crying. Should have consoled your friend instead of jumping her like the others. She is entitled to her feelings and you may not see it as bullying but a lot of other people do. These are really mean girls that go for blood. They want Alexis off the show and maybe you do too. If the behaviors continue in this nasty mode towards Alexis. I will be missing this season. Hope you are a od addition to the show. So far I don"t care for you. Alexis asked you to come to be her support. Who needs enemies with a friend like you

Lydia has replaced Heather as the voice of reason of RHoOC.

Lydia, I like you but you seem to mention more than once how well off your family is. We heard you the first time...no need to continually mention it. With that said... Don't fall into all this drama that started way before you came along. Deal with the woman one on one as your friendships develop.

You should have stayed.  I sure one of the other women would have given you a ride home.  You could have enjoyed the little witchcraft-like ceremony to bless the gym.  Wouldn't that have been fun.  And, to make things even better, the three jealous hens  would have been more pleased with you.

Lydia, I will be watching tonight, thank you for keeping it real.

Making someone feel uncomfortable or unwanted is not BULLYING. It is MEAN and RUDE, when these women first addressed Alexis on her cronic "bragging/boasting".  It was not done with the intent to bully.  However, it did hurt Alexis. As a result she opened the door to Vicky who was just mean to Alexis all along. It was Alexis who made a choice push Gretchen away.  It hurt Gretchen's feelings to be rejected.

I do hope that you noticed that Alexis found fault in Vicky for not following her out of the party, and that it was Lydia who went in to see what was going on with Vicky.

For the record, Tamara and Vicky are the QUEENS of Mean..... They always have been. 

Vicky did not find fault with Tamara being mean till Vicky was on her Brooks "penis high" and flipped out on Tamara.

Lydia, You obviously want to be accepted by the majority instead of doing what is right. You are just a follower , a sheep. If Alexis is smart she will not have a friendship??? with you because you are a fairweather friend. You want to do what is popular .  What a sell-out.  I wouldn't want you for a friend if you were the last one on the planet . Alexis is really too pretty to have friends...   all women seem to be jealous of her.

A true friend has the other one's back, especially when it's 3 on 1.  Quit hiding behind the whole bullying controversary.  Your tune sure changed when you saw Tarma walk up.  Shame on you.  And judging from your behavior next week, it's obvious you want to be on the mean girl's team.. Good luck with that!  And since you called Alexis out on her Christianity, doesn't the Bible also have something to say about gossiping???