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Lydia: "I Am the Friendship Whisperer"

Lydia explains why pushed Alexis to meet with Tamra -- and shares why she's so shocked by Alexis' blogs.

By Lydia McLaughlin

The Lunch: Lunch with Tamra and Alexis went really well. Just like I knew it would! I wasn't setting Alexis up and I would never bring her into a firestorm especially after the whole experience at the CUT party.

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Since Alexis knew it went well last week when she posted her blog, I was kind of baffled by her post where she accuses me of not being more understanding about why she was dragging her feet and asking me not to push it with her and the other woman. I knew she was gunshy, but having already spoken to Tamra, I knew that once Alexis and Tamra met in person and cleared the air all would turn out well. I like people to get along. I know some fans think I like to stir up drama, but that couldn't be further from the truth. I'm actually a peacemaker. I say what's on my mind and if a situation is tense -- because the ladies aren't getting along -- I will try to get everyone together to talk about it and move forward.

Mexico: It was a long day of traveling to Puerto Vallarta so going to bed after dinner wasn't far-fetched. However, I was gravitating towards Vicki's carefree attitude of "whooping it up." Plus, we were only there for two nights, it was Tamra's bachelorette, I didn't have my kids with me and I love to dance and have a good time.

After dinner, Vicki made it sound like Andalae's was right around the corner (which it wasn't). I did text Heather and called the restaurant and asked the hostess to relay to Gretchen and Heather that they should meet us at the bar. I bought them headbands and I really did expect them to show up. It wasn't a secret where we were going. Vicki said she wanted to go to Andalaes maybe 15 times.

In retrospect, we should have just waited for them. It was lame that we didn't and you will see in next week's episode that we apologize for being thoughtless. I am in no way excusing our behavior, but I'm just trying to explain it. Once my phone broke and we had walked for a good 30-minutes, there was really no other option, but to "Whoop it up," right!!??

Until next week, you can check out my website LydiaM.com or follow me on Twitter @OCLydia. I know the show doesn't show the charities we are involved in a lot but I would like to give them a shoutout. Doug and I met through YoungLife.org and iSanctuary.org is also near and dear to my heart. I give a portion of my profits from my jewelry line to them so check them out too.

xoxo Lydia

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