Lydia Loves Her Mom (Pot and All)
Lydia explains why she wants Alexis and Tamra to make amends, and her thoughts on the pot smoking debate.
Happy Memorial Day. I hope you all spent the day with family, friends, and loved ones. It is a wonderful way to kick off summer. We live in an amazing country because of the sacrifices of so many.
At this point in the season, I feel like I have figured out my place amongst the woman. I spent a weekend with them in the wine country, and have hung out with each enough to feel bonded and close to most of them. I have my own true relationship and friendship with them. Therefore, when Alexis and I meet for coffee, I feel comfortable bringing up the idea of making amends. I know Tamra yelled and hurt Alexis, but I also have seen a softer side to Tamra.
On the ride up to LA for Heather's Hot In Cleveland episode, Tamra was caring and sweet. Now, I understand that may be hard for some fans to hear, but from my experience, I felt like she was a genuine, understanding person. I have seen another side to her from the CUT party. A softer side that she showed with her mother this episode. I've started to think perhaps my "role" in this whole group of woman is to be a peacemaker and help everyone get along. Maybe Alexis and Tamra could put their past behind them and move on. I know it is not good to hold onto such negativity and so I wanted to encourage Alexis to talk to Tamra. I couldn't picture Tamra yelling and cussing at Alexis if we all met for coffee in the middle of the day and had a real heart to heart.
There is a lot of good going on in everyones' lives and friends are there to celebrate the good times and the bad. I didn't want Alexis missing out on that. I enjoy having her around and felt it would be nice if everyone could make up. I know that's a big mountain to climb so I figured, one step at a time. Tamra seems like a good first step. From the sneak peak of next week's episode, you see us all meeting to talk. You will have to tune in to see how it all unfolds. . .Are my instincts right?
My mom and I have a very close relationship. I say this many times on the show, but she is the most important person to me outside my boys. We talk every day. When there is something bad in my life, I call my mom. When there is something good, I call my mom. She is free-spirited and fun. She is all about joy and laughter and happily every after. How can you not love my mother!?!
However, when I talk to my mom about pot, her free spirit seems to feel caged and she gets very defensive. I've noticed that having this conversation with her in the public eye has made this a very controversial subject. People seem to be on one side of the fence or the other. The pot supporters out there condemn me for drinking alcohol while opposing my Mom's pot use. Conversely, I have heard from many fans who admire my Mom's and my transparency and say that my concerns have validated their own feelings in their own lives. All you can do is stay true to your convictions and who you are.
As you can see in this episode, I have a conversation with Doug that opens my eyes a little to my Mom's point of view. At the end of the day, I love my Mother. I don't love her pot habits, but I love her. I am in no way perfect. I'm sure there are many things that I do that bother her. The bottom line is, we are family and we will always be in each other's lives. There is way more good then bad and I would never want to jeopardize our relationship. When you love someone, you love all of them. She has always been there for me and is an amazing mom and grandma. I am thankful for her in my life. I wouldn't be who I am, or where I am, without my mom. Love, laughter, and happily ever after; just as she has engrained in me.
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