Happy Memorial Day. I hope you all spent the day with family, friends, and loved ones. It is a wonderful way to kick off summer. We live in an amazing country because of the sacrifices of so many.
At this point in the season, I feel like I have figured out my place amongst the woman. I spent a weekend with them in the wine country, and have hung out with each enough to feel bonded and close to most of them. I have my own true relationship and friendship with them. Therefore, when Alexis and I meet for coffee, I feel comfortable bringing up the idea of making amends. I know Tamra yelled and hurt Alexis, but I also have seen a softer side to Tamra.
On the ride up to LA for Heather's Hot In Cleveland episode, Tamra was caring and sweet. Now, I understand that may be hard for some fans to hear, but from my experience, I felt like she was a genuine, understanding person. I have seen another side to her from the CUT party. A softer side that she showed with her mother this episode. I've started to think perhaps my "role" in this whole group of woman is to be a peacemaker and help everyone get along. Maybe Alexis and Tamra could put their past behind them and move on. I know it is not good to hold onto such negativity and so I wanted to encourage Alexis to talk to Tamra. I couldn't picture Tamra yelling and cussing at Alexis if we all met for coffee in the middle of the day and had a real heart to heart.
There is a lot of good going on in everyones' lives and friends are there to celebrate the good times and the bad. I didn't want Alexis missing out on that. I enjoy having her around and felt it would be nice if everyone could make up. I know that's a big mountain to climb so I figured, one step at a time. Tamra seems like a good first step. From the sneak peak of next week's episode, you see us all meeting to talk. You will have to tune in to see how it all unfolds. . .Are my instincts right?
Are you 12 years old? Why did you overreact about Slade's comments about your weight. His comments were so harmless and nonsensical. An adult woman would have laughed it off or handled it in a more mature way. Get off your high horse.
Lydia, you see nice and you act like you're to good to have some fun. Just because there were strippers at the party didn't mean you have to participate and/or leave. If you felt that uncomfortable, you shouldn't have gone in the first place.
Yaaaaaay Lydia - you did great - just what was needed. let's hope that this drama ends and the story gets better.... Mexico looks like more insanity..... It will be interesting to see the rest of the Mexico trip....so far - more hurt feelings.
Who let the cat out of the bag about JIm and Peggy getting it on? I remember it caused a lot unease and uncomfortable tension among the three of them....and Alexis's had a hard time with it...I would too. Can you imagine the imagery and that your friend knoew your mate that intimately ....there's been quite the drama on this show.
wow & I thought u were nice...what u did to Heather & Gretchen was sooooo not nice - u followed Vicky's advice & Tamara well she's a follower & did not have the decency to tell them that u guys were not coming back to the limo - really would u have like to b treated like that shame on you - I guess ur not as nice as I thought u were
If we were talking about being drunk vs. being stoned, I doubt the tolerance would be the same. "Pot" is a drug. Period. Your mother has a drug problem. And what is so typical in families were there is a substance abuse problem, there is a very high threshold and tolerance for inappropriate behavior. So as mama bought her drugs of choice from a dealer, and exposed her children to being stoned all their childhood, in a continued altered state of mind, numbed from the world, I am very grateful that this behavior was not imprinted on you Lydia. It sounds like your more the mother than the Flower Child. Sorry.
Nobody ever died from pot.....plenty of drunk drivers, liver disease, inability to function.
The tolerance is not the same for both drugs...one is socially acceptable, one is not. One is very harmful to your health, one is not.
Give me the joint over the drink anytime.
Nice and good for u for trying to be peace maker. I think if Alexis feels she is being bullied, then she is being bullied. Perhaps you could use your peace making skills to ease up on your mother. As long as she isn't smoking while babysitting for your children, the
n ease up on her. She soooo obviously loves you, your children and your husband. I just think she is open and honest and awesome. The break out star of RHOC???
Wow Lydia! Alexis's comment about you was that you were like a" Christian on steroids" but I tend to disagree. At first, you seemed like a good Christian girl but now I can see that you really crave drama. You are the reason that a lot of drama happens on the show. You need to watch yourself on TV and see how you like to stir the pot. You can't be a friend to everyone on this show, so you need to decide who you really want to hang out with. Just remember, you become like the people you hang with, so be careful.
Lydia, My husband is Christian and I am a believer in our Lord, God. I have the same pot struggles in my family, only I am the user and my marriage is challenged because my husband hates it. I tell him that I love him for who he is, and I would like him to accept me, and show me unconditional love. I use very little, but I have no desire to remove it from my system because I believe in the medical benefits. I have seen the direct benefits in my own health. I love how your husband helped you realize that you love your mom, regardless. I hope one day my husband will come to the same understanding. Thank you so much for you opening this topic in public. I absolutely adore your mom!!!
It would be best to keep your Mom off of the show. She comes off as a real flake. Pot is not legal and she is breaking the law too. And you? You need to have something interesting of your own instead of feeding off of others.
This girl contributes as much to the show as the one who ate the bow off the cake. What was her name? I quit watching New Jersey in the middle of last year because of the lameness and the face Mama Manzo makes me want to puke. Now I'm saying adios to Orange County. I also have no plans to watch Tamra's wedding spinoff or the divorce drama that I'm sure will follow.
Lydia, I really liked you in the beginning and thought you'd be my favorite but every episode you seem to bring up drama out of nowhere. The girls will be talking about makeup and you chime in with some negative drama from the previous episode....it's really disturbing watching you do this. To me it seems like you are trying to stay relevant on the show and it's out of desperation....but if it is your real personality, it's not very Christian-like.
Also, leave your mom's pot smoking alone already....again, it seems like you are just trying to do anything to stay relevant. the same pot storyline has been going on for 3 weeks...it's getting old.
I totally agree about the pot. It is a weak storyline that has gotten really old. I can understand that it may have been a sore spot for her growing up and all, but the way she keeps it going makes me think she should be talking to a therapist about it.
I think you shouldn't have approached your mother the way you did and, as a Catholic, I find it offensive that you basically said her strict Catholic upbringing drove her to smoke pot. Not cool.
Lydia, you seemed like you were going to be down to earth yet you come off as spoiled, pretentious and an undercover instigator of drama. Seriously, is the only thing you have going in your life the fact that your mother smokes weed? Other than that you seem to have nothing to add. At least your stoner mom can throw together a lasagna!!! You don't clean or cook, I'd hate to be in your house. If you want to use your faith on Alexis re: turn the other cheek, then why don't you also respect your mother and not chastise her on national television and learn to cook for crying out loud. Just sayin.
portlandiagirl haha...yes, I forgot to mention in my post that I can't believe she has 2 kids and does not know how to cook! good call out Portlandiagirl!
vanesss portlandiagirl I know a mother of three who knows how to cook and refuses to do it. It's really not a big deal that Lydia doens't know how to cook. I've known a lot of people who get married and make spaghetti four times a week for a year because it's all they know. I guess learning isn't a big focus anymore.
Jodibelle vanesss portlandiagirl
I understand that nowadays mom's are busy so they don't want to learn how to cook....I don't really get that (unless you have a helper/nanny)...b/c homeade food is much healthier and cheaper for kids than all this processed, canned, or food in a bag meals......
all this processed and fast food is one of the reasons so many kids are overweight and have diabetes nowadays. when I went to HS in the late 80's, there were maybe 2 overweight kids in my class of 400. Now the numbers have grown to over 50%....studies have attributed this to kids not having homeade foods anymore. but I get it...moms are busy. However,my mom was a single working mom and she still managed to cook a few times a week.....it's cheaper and healthier.
If you can afford someone to cook for you (like Lydia)...I guess that excuses her. but if she doesn't do housework or cooking...what does she do all day??
portlandiagirl I was wondering, when the dryer buzzer went off, and the hubby commented on it, and Lydia wondered how he knew it was the laundry ... obviously neither of them were doing laundry. So do they have a maid?
And, Lydia blamed her mother for not teaching her to cook but instead had her pick flowers and remove the petals to toss them in the air. Huh?
What's she been up to since she got married and had two children? I guess no access to the internet, foodtv network, or cookbooks.
You are unbelievable....really Lydia...you are always asking Alexis to go the mean girls and apologize. I don't care if you like the mean girls better than Alexis she should not go to them...they should go to her. Do you tell Tamra, Gretchen & Heather that they need to go to Alexis? No you don't...leave Alexis alone...go be with the mean girls. I think you are worse than they are bcuz you act like you're Alexis' friend but you're not...you are fake and two faced. Also, I can't believe that you have never done laundry and you don't cook for your family...instead of telling Alexis she needs to go to the mean girls and apologize spend your time learning how to do laundry and cook a meal for your husband and kids. You are a troublemaker and you enjoy it...Wow...and you call yourself a Christian?
IF lydia wants to help to create the "opportunity for these women to have the chance to reconcile - then why doesn't she host a party - she is Alexis's friend which means all would be welcome. As a matter of fact Vickie could do the same thing...( well Vick might not invite "stupid " Gretchen.) ..I'm joking of course....
Motorcitywife dragonslayer Cgorham5 While I agree with much of what you say-- I think a party hosted by Lydia and included all the women who be different than the gym party simply because Tamra wouldn't be the hostess. If she got mad, she would have to leave-- she couldn't kick Alexis or anyone out of a party that she isn't hosting. All the women's issues with Alexis are petty and childish and nothing that they aren't all guilty of. Tamra threatened to sue Jeanna yet J still sat down with T and talked it out. Heather is just way too sensitive (especially for a thick-skinned actress and New Yorker)- she can't take anyone saying anything about her. Gretchen really has no reason to have a grudge against Alexis- ALL of the women have said and done far worse to her and she has no problem forgiving. Their dislike for Alexis really seems to have little to do with anything she has said or done.
dragonslayer Motorcitywife Cgorham5 Because a party is not a good situaion for mending a friendship. It's not just magically going to erase the hurt feelings, and could make matters worse, especially with Vicki involved.
SelaLeah Motorcitywife dragonslayer Cgorham5 Alexis is always playing the victim. She made comments about Heather's career, she expected Gretchen to be at her doorstep almost immediately after she had her surgery, and she and Jim threatened to sue Jim for calling her Jesus Jugs, which I can't see being held up in court anyway.
SelaLeah Motorcitywife Cgorham5
If it doesn't create an opportunity for peacemaking at least the women are forced to be ALL be present. And, it would be interesting to see their behavior. How would they carry themselves. Would they show discretion or would they flip out?
Jodibelle Motorcitywife Cgorham5
Both you amd Motorcity make good points - a one on would be better - but I think the chance of that happening (the way it should happen) would only work by Tamra picking up the phone and making the first move...everyone saying that Alexis plays the victim - think of each housewife and when they've taken the same stage - They all play the victim card. Tamra started this animosity with Alexis. None of these people are firends...(this is a strange dynamic)...these girls are co-workers in a life setting made to entertain (and most uf us were also hoping to see Killer fashions - that's definitely not happening). Alexis's supporters would like truce - an apology inititated by Tamra. Ice queen has made it clear she's not budging so we'll have to wait and see where her storyline goes and gretchen i agree - gretchen is all messed up...i wish the old cretchen was back....
SelaLeah Motorcitywife Cgorham5
you and I are on the same wavelength. We are seeing these dynamics with the same outlook. And, there are others who see things differently have their the same viewpoint. This is very interesting to me. Although I have stronger acceptance for Alexis's feeling and current standing I do not hate the other housewivesbut I find their manner and atttude horrilble...I'm from the mindset - they need to grow up - I think they are sad...
Jodibelle Motorcitywife Cgorham5
No maybe it's not a place to have a heart to heart but it's a start...and it would be more interesting seeing all the women at one place for a change. I say this with tongue in cheek - because I realize that although I think it would be a nice change - many viewers have their own faves and this may not be their wish....the currrent storyline is boring. And I would like to see Lydia hositng a gig...A matter of fact i would like to see Vickie host somehting as well....if you remember in the limo she made a comment that Alexis wasn't able to attend the wine tasting, because of the grand opeining of their business - she made it sounds like she had extended a welcome...and I noticed those in coach didn't utter a word...just blank stares...
Jodibelle Motorcitywife Cgorham5
agreed nothing magical will erase the hurt feelings except an apology
Jodibelle SelaLeah Motorcitywife Cgorham5
They have all played the victim -I've seen crocodile tears and some childish behavior from grown women whining and wanting pity or attention when their luck (bad behavior) was in the dumps or they weren't getting attention ...
@Motorcitywife ...You may be right, Motor. I'm still on the fence about Lydia. Personally, I haven't seen enough of her yet, to form an opinion. My feelings about the women can change from one episode to another, so I'll wait and see how the season plays out and what I see of her on the reunion show, before I decide! LOL
Motorcitywife 4doggies Cgorham5
I will be watching....a little excited and a lot wary too...
Cgorham5 I think Alexis wants everything to just magically have everything be fine. It doesn't work that way. One or both sides have to reach out. Alexis refuses to see that she has some responsiblity in the situation between herself and the other women. Lydia has also spoken with the other women about the problem with Alexis, or did you turn those parts off?
I think she keeps bringing it up to Alexis because she knows her best. She doesn't know Tamra or Gretchen well enough to suggest that they apologize, and quite frankly she is probably afraid of them. They are vicious!
Seriously, don't feel obligated to be besties with Alexis. She is boring and not too bright. Do your own thing girl.
Ok so I'm getting a bit tired of the constant boring story line of Lydia and her pot smoking mother! Who cares? In my opinion they add nothing to the show at all. Lets move on to something new people.....or find someone more interesting to add to the cast.....yawn...yawn....
I love your mom - what a hoot!!!!!!!!!!! Bravo, keep Judy and get rid of Lydia. She's too boring and a spoiled brat.
Please stop with the pot smoking! You are embarrasing your mother and it's not right for you to bring it up on national tv. She seems like a wonderful person. Be respectful.
romita Pretty sure her mother signed off to be on National tv. She's a grown woman who is clearly not concerned about the pot smoking perception.
kris3186 Cards romita And unless she is a medical user, it is also a state crime in California. I hope for her sake she does have a medical marijuana ID card, otherwise both Lydia and her Mom would be a couple of the least intelligent people on reality TV.
romita I think if Lydia didn't have two little boys it probably wouldn't matter. Lydia's mom lives across the street. It would be awesome for them to be able to say, "Let's go surprise Grandma and take her to lunch." But she can't just drop in with the boys if she doesn't know if Mom is toking up. One doesn't usually have to phone first to see Grandma, but with Grandma Judy it's a must.