Lydia I must say that as a grandmother myself that was such a mean thing to say to your mom on National TV no less, that the reason you don't allow your mother to take care of her grandchildren is because she smokes MJ.  Your mom even said she would never do that around your children and I do believe she meant what she said.  I would be devastated if my daughter has said something like that to me either alone but to say it publicly was beyond hurtful.  I'm sure you love your mom but her.  I'm just speaking as a grandmother myself and I know it would hurt me greatly if my daughter had said that.  Just because you had a bad experience with it which is common the first time you use it doesn't mean a long time user would have the same reaction.  There are millions of people in California that take it for medical reasons and they are very productive members of society who have no problems handling their job after using it and in fact it can make them more productive if they are without pain from their medical condition  Yes maybe your mom does it just for pleasure but maybe you should consider she is telling you the truth when she says she wouldn't use it around your children.  I just hope that you can make up to your mom for the hurtful words you used but it could take time for her although I suspect she is a very forgiving soul, because to be frank it was shocking to me to hear you say that to your own mother on TV in front of cameras.  How would your children feel about their grandma hearing you say that?  Have you thought about that?  Please think before you speak especially when it comes to family.  I know you tell it as it is but there are times it just isn't the right thing to do and in this case I feel it was insensitive to her and hurtful.

Lydia - I am still trying to figure you out.  So far I like most of you - - but be careful how you play the game . .  these ladies are veterans!

It was funny that you say when Alexis became the topic of conversation it made you "uncomfortable". YOU BROUGHT ALEXIS UP!!!!!! Stop instigating then feigning ignorance.

With friends like you...

Did anyone else catch that Lydia said " Vicki called Tamra  a Biotch" instead of the other way around when Terry and Heather came out?

I doubt anyone expected you and Alexis to be a "package deal" like you stated in your latest online gossip article but to so blindly judge Alexis when you don't know the past history of any of these women wasn't fair and it makes you look bad when you judge her and yet defend the bullies actions and words when you don't know their history. Remember wolves travel in packs so this particular human bunch of wolves are not IMO right in their judgment of Alexis but acting like a pack of wolves do. Just remember these ladies bite is much worse than their bark and I wonder how fast your opinion will change if you become their target of hatred. I have a different take on you being a self labeled "straight shooter".  I think it's about who is going to benefit you and your husband's business ventures (money, status, connections, etc.) more than it's about telling it like it is.  I could be misjudging you and none of us are perfect but so far this is my impression which seems to be getting confirmed with each episode you've been in thus far especially after lying and saying that Vicky called Tamra the B word when in fact it was the other way around. 

One breath your saying that you are a Christian and people should not be mean to one another but then on the other hand your talking behind Alexis back when she is not around to her haters.  I just don't know who you are right now.

Lydia, be careful trying to defend any of them.  It is liable to come back to bite you.

love your mom.. not sure about you. but like so far most of what i see.. you seem to be a straight shooter and that is great.. a bit of a smugly buggy in the mix that part i do not care for one little bit.. 

love your mom... cause she is herself.. no matter what.. and you have that in you.. now its time to show that... with the other ladies.. 

Love Lydia!  You have that earthy crunchy California vibe. Very refreshing compared to some of the others...

Lydia,

You are not defending Alexis... you're actually trying to divert the convo into ALexis...(again)..

and when Gretchen started beretting Alexis, you became so silent... and have not said a single word to defends Alexis.... You are not a friend... you are  a potential foe....

But you are the one who first brought up the subject of Alexis!

Not sure about Lydia yet. She is sweet and fun, but seems a bit naive and childish.  Not innocent though.   I like that she's tried to make both Alexis and the other women look at their issues and how they are all perceived, but it was annoying that she "tattled" to Heather about Tamra calling Vicki a b#*ch.  Not sure what to say about her Mom either.  LOL

You keep surprising me. I like the Lydia I find here in the blogs much better than the Lydia I see on television. On the show, you seem so silly and somewhat of an airhead, but your blogs are great -- reasonable and intelligent.

Maybe my impression of how you are on the show is because you are new to the group and still trying to find your place, so rather than getting into it with anyone, for now you just smile and keep quiet. I hope the "blog" Lydia shows up on television, too,.

Tamra is poison....you will find out if you last long enough.

Last night I heard you INCORRECTLY tell Heather that "Vicki called Tamra a bitc*..." What? You got it wrong..Tamra called Vicki a b. I think that since it is your first season you should adopt a wait and see attitude. You are trying so hard to be included, and you are coming off as a trouble maker.

Tamra, that  B is insane, stay away, from her.... your mother is great and Funny. I stop watching the show for a long time, because all the drama was getting old, you my friend should work with the producer to have you own show with your mother, before you go bananas in this one. Best of luck kiddo :)

Lydia,

You said that there must be something wrong with Alexis because all the women (Heather, Gretchen & Tamra)  don't like her.  FYI, when it comes to bullying, a group of friends usually come together to pick on one person.  It's the cowardly trademark of bullies.  How can you not see that this could be the case here? Yes, Alexis has her imperfections, but not so much as to deserve this treatment.  Not to mention, they all have their imperfections...including you.

Like the majority of the fans who post so far, it's the best policy to stay out of the conflict and abstain from talking about anyone behind her back to her enemies even though the motive was good. It is more likely to lead to troubles. I think you should just be the observer in your first season and just don't throw advices around until the dust settles and the picture is clear to you. AND that takes watching this series from the first season and keep quiet for the whole season. Sure you can talk your opinion to us on the one on one section but NEVER to those rattlers.

Lydia you said you didn't click with Gretchen when you first met her. Maybe you should stick with your first impression. They are always right. 

Lydia I think you are a refreshing change from some of these other ladies.  Like to see you stay on for future seasons but would like to see Tamra go.  I've had enough of her.  Your hubby is a cutie with a great smile.

lydia,

you are a trouble maker, pot stirrer, and a gossiper. seems to me that you loved to be in the middle of the drama... I am over you and hope this will be your first and last season . hope Alexis sees you for what you are.. You will never be a friend to Alexis...

I like you Lydia and I always joke about how I collect dust bunnies but my sister keeps getting rid of them..  On to the wine tasting, Tamra rolling her eyes is a clue as to Tamra's problems.  Tamra opening up is an act because she is seeing that Eddie is questioning her behavior as well..  She pulled that on WWHL and it sounded fake then too..    Vicki has known Tamra for a long time and Heather was right - they are NOT on the same page.  Tamra thinks they are still friends who had a fight, even tho she lied to Eddie and said Vicki wanted back in..  Vicki said they are not friends and not sure if they ever will be again..  Vicki is used to Tamra's bad behavior and sadly the new person - you - are put into situations with "first time" eyes, while everyone else has been there, done that, already...

Lydia you never going to be the peace maker!! What you don't seem to realize the only two woman that need to be checked are Tamra and Gretchen!!!! I'm sure after watching the episode you see that!! I mean really Gretchen and Tamra can't open their mouths without dissing Vicki or Alexis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So pathetic!! If you want to be the peacemaker and advice giver you should probably start with the two wicked stepsisters!!! (Tamra and Gretchen)

You really need to pick a lane Lydia. You can't have it both ways and be on all teams. Go back to previous episodes and watch what Tamra did to Gretchen, she tore her and Slade to ribbons. Now she's Gretchens best friend and Vicki will be the cast off. Gretchen seems to be comfortable on team Tamra and Heather is turning as well. Tamra is like a snake in the grass, she will turn and bite them in the a$$ in a heartbeat. When you are with them don't poke the bear by bringing up the things you know trigger Tamra's ire. I know the show is all about the drama because that's how they make money but try to stay neutral and enjoy the ride.

You need to stay out of the middle of the other women's bickering.  That is their issues and you don't know their history.  It is simply none of your business.

You are such a phony. Here, you say you were so "uncomfortable" "when the conversation at dinner that night started to revolve around Alexis". If that's the case, why did you feel the need to bring her up? The conversation did not start to "revolve around Alexis" until you brought it up in an attempt to stir the pot at dinner. There was no reason to bring Alexis's name up, she wasn't even there.  Oh yeah, and I like how you instigated that fight with Vicki and Tamra at the end, Tamra wasn't even saying anything until you opened your mouth and tried to tell Vicki what to do and Tamra how to feel. Just stay out of it. You are a snake.

why did you feel the need to be in the middle of Tamra and Vicki?  stay out of it..it's none of your business...go back to your fairy godmother