Lydia McLaughlin

The newest Orange County Housewife reflects on why she joined the show and how it's changed her life.

on Jun 26, 20130

The 100th episode of RHOC was really fun to watch. I moved up to Orange County when I graduated from college and the first season of the show was just beginning to air. I have to admit. . .I didn't watch the show back then, but I remember hearing about it and what a cultural phenomenal it was. Never in a million years would I have predicted that seven seasons later I would be a Houeswife. It's so funny how life works out!

I really loved walking down memory lane with the various ladies and witnessing their respective highs and lows -- from their dramas to their fashion choices to their amazing travels to their romantic situations to their friendships to the parties they hosted and attended and everything in between. This show really did and does put it all out there for you to see.

104 comments
vivian.crumpler.1
vivian.crumpler.1

I am afraid Lydia you jump the gun to fast you haven't been in the group long enough to take the go ahead at the girls like you do .I don't like the way you are so pushy ..stand back its not your time yet you haven't payed your dues.

 

pattiryan4
pattiryan4

Not everyone is supportive of you, Lydia.  You have proven to be a rude young lady.  You stir the pot and call it being "up front" with people.  You embarrass people in a public setting.  It is just RUDE.

jensmt
jensmt

I have extremely mixed feelings about Lydia.  On the one hand, I appreciate the kindness and humor she often shows.  I also like seeing someone for whom faith is just a part of life (with Alexis it often seems performative- and I enjoyed seeing Lydia lead the prayer with her husband).  On the other, the Mexico trip showed Lydia in a terrible light.  What she did, in ditching Heather and Gretchen, was reprehensible and cruel.  It was shocking to see someone who considers herself a friends whisperer go along with a mean girl plan to exclude others.  Her apology seemed empty and without any real regret or conscience.  There was a vague apology with a strong current of "get over it", which means not a real apology.  It's meaningless when someone apologizes, then continues to laugh about what she did, and then shouts about giving up a child to make amends, and complains about others' negativity.  Saying I apologized already without any real remorse isn't an apology.  Lydia often shows insight into the other housewives, ie Vicki needs a more cohesive grasp on reality, but on this occasion, she behaved horribly and didn't take responsibility.  She might look at herself and gain a more cohesive grasp on reality.  If she wants to be the good, moral, and positive person that she thinks herself, a bit more self-reflection would be important. 

Tjjoanna
Tjjoanna

At first I didn't think I was going to like u but I was completely wrong! U r my favorite...u r sweet, direct, funny and take no crap. I also adore ur mom! Good job on putting Slade in his place...what a prick.

Quirkydi
Quirkydi

Glad you are having such a great time at our expense. I watch the franchise to be entertained and if not for your darling Mom you have not made the cut. How is it possible for you to be raising a family and not be able to prepare the most simple meal possible? Also, the blatant attempt to pit one person against the other has gotten stale and predictable. I find it hysterical you see yourself as silly and lighthearted. Two words I would never use to describe you. Twice you have suggested men on the show are checking you out. Honey I hate to break it to you but that is not happening. The women on the show can be accused of a lot of things but boring is never one of them. I'm sorry but boring combined with a mean spirit is a poor combination. I would love to see your Mother on the show. Now there's a lady that is silly, lighthearted, fun and genuinely a nice person. It was so painful to watch you bully her in order to make some statement on your moral superiority. You have an alcoholic beverage in your hand in most scenes yet you demean her for smoking a little weed? Who do you think you are kidding?

shirley.taylor.9216
shirley.taylor.9216

i LIKE what you said at table Gretchen not here so lets not comment on it hate how ya left Heather AND Gretchen in Mexico and To understand Alexis and what set the girls off you have to understand every other word out of her mouth was what she owns or has!! sometimes u have to understand the history before you can mend the heart

KirschyGirl
KirschyGirl

I love the way you are so positive, kind, and direct. You are my favorite house wife!

mvsclan5
mvsclan5

Lydia you shouldn't be so sensitive. Slade was making a joke. I thought you were a kind person. My mistake you judge people just like old fat Vickie, You need to go and while your gone get your ears fixed.

Ghretta
Ghretta

I think you're a great addition. It can't be easy to fit into this group, but you stand up for yourself without screaming. Some may call that boring. I don't. Thank you.

Bonnie3644
Bonnie3644

Please Lydia, when you are speaking don't say "like" every 5 words, you sound like a teenage girl with no command of the English language.  Drives me crazy, just what is your talent?

amylove
amylove

It's hypocritical to have a "drink" and tell your mom not to smoke pot.

warhwfan
warhwfan

You`er boring really all you have to talk about is your mom smoking weed! So to seem more interesting you start dumb fights with Slade...wow that's original 

scorcher
scorcher

Do you honestly believe what you write? Are you deluded enough to see yourself as the voice of reason? You don't seem capable of thinking for yourself. You involve yourself in other peoples fights. You call names and then criticize others for doing the same. You try too pas yourself off as caring and nurturing. You are actually superficial and petty. 

mmcruz5
mmcruz5

More to you Lydia:  Extend grace to those who hurt you.  And do not talk about people behind their backs. Because you are behaving the same way the unbelievers are behaving.  You have no excuse, because you know better.  You are called to a higher standard. Remember who you are in Christ and do not let them drag you to join their bad behavior.  You want to be the peacemaker. That is nice. But first, you need to be a doer of the Word, not only a preacher of the Word. Not nice to call Gretchen Malibu Barbie. That was backstabbing.  You were hurt, you dont react by hurting back.  What did Jesus said....;you dont gossip back, you dont call them names behind their back, etc. Be a light in this show, or you will be dragged down with all of them.

 

Fil007
Fil007

Lydia, at first I thought you were an interesting addition, but that's no more.  Your only storyline has evolved into mostly taking digs at Gretchen and Slade and trying to "innocently" ask questions and provoke the other women.  *yawn*  Please..hope there's more to you than this.

mary.j.leiting.schmidt
mary.j.leiting.schmidt

Why wouldn't you let it go when Slade said you need to eat a cheeseburger?  Why were you so rude to Gretchen?

ladyfromthebay
ladyfromthebay

You come across as so dang petty and jealous. When you are on the show I fast forward it most of the time. I don't appreciate pot stirrers or jealous women.

MissMaryMac
MissMaryMac

I'm still 'on the fence' when it comes to you....there's something 'off' about you and I can't place it......

Jord3058
Jord3058

sorry I dont think you fit this show at all you just seem an odd addition tagged on. Not sure what the producers were thinking tbh. The shows on its last legs but if anything it needs a strong alpha female to come in and whip these menopausal wrecks into shape. Thats not you.

Password
Password

I turned off this episode quarter of the way through because it was so boring!

Allegra
Allegra

Don't be two faced; don't be petty.  Then you'll distinguish yourself from most of the housewives in all the franchises.  Continue to stick up for your beliefs as you did with Slade and stop with the juvenile mannerisms (you are over 30), and viewers may grow to respect you. 

Reba39forever
Reba39forever

Here is to your rookie year also being your retirement year! Hip hip hooray. Hip hip hoorayyyy. Off ya go

dragonslayer
dragonslayer

Lydia - you are a doll. Stay true to your faith and who you are. Just remember that you will not be able to please everyone all of the time. You know that's just how life is. There are always going to be different views perceived by others but as long as your making choices based on reaching a positive outcome and one that doesn't compromise your integrity or hurt someone then it's probably one you can walk away from without regret.  Slade needed correcting...you were right - he showed ignorance, poor manners and poor etiquette at the table of your Salsa party. I hope he learned something. I'm curious if he will ever comment on a woman's weight or appearance again?

 

perry13
perry13

I am very impressed with you! You seem to truly live your values, which is a rare and admirable quality. You also have effective communication skills. Questioning Slade's behavior, in a confident and direct way, was startling to watch because it's so unusual to see people deal with issues directly. Your husband is kind of a mystery, though. He just stands around and smiles. I hope he has balls, too! Keep it up, Lydia.

MaryA807
MaryA807

I Love YOU and your Family! Stay away from Gretchen and Slade. I too have complete faith in GOD and the path he has given too us! But there is Evil in this world as well. G._Slimey,ans Tamara is an opertunist. Enjoy your summer and be patient with your mother. I lost both my parents,my mom when I was 21,she never held my boy's,Chrstopher and Kevin and I have been married 24years,so you an do it .It is not always easy,but only some one who no's this .We only take with us when we die the love that we gave and the love that was given too us . Money is only good for making our lives on earth easyer.That is it! I no Tamara and Grethen are very greedy selfcenterd and love themselves as well as money more than anything! Take care Darling.xo Mary A Harada.

Cards
Cards

If you truly haven't watched the show before, I suggest you give it a look. Go back and see how your good friend Vicki and Tamara treated Gretchen, and Slade for that matter. It might help you understand why Gretchen has animosity towards Vicki and why she is the way she is. If you truly are the "nice girl" and the "peacemaker" you'd stop being so nasty to Gretchen, and take a better look at who Vicki really is.  

southernfried
southernfried

I love, love, love Lydia!   She's the best addition to any Housewives show, ever.  I love how she is strong, confident, direct, and honest.  As a total newcomer to the show, she practically created the concept of MAKE PEACE, NOT WAR!!  Quite an accomplishment on a show that has thrived on petty meanness.  She stirs the pot, alright!!  And the pot needed stirring, didn't it!  Thank God for Lydia, shaking up the status quo.  Lydia, you are great.  Don't go changin'!

fancy@home
fancy@home

I like you Lydia - you are strong and confident, and you don't seem to 'need' the show the way the others do.  You are direct, concise, and willing to stand your ground for what you like/don't like.

 

dwaters1952@yahoo.com
dwaters1952@yahoo.com

I don't understand you! You talk about doing what God wants you to do & then you turn around & go crazy because Slade said you needed to eat a cheeseburger! I would be extremely happy if someone said that to me! I'm glad you enjoyed the 100th episode of the Housewives, but they can really change you! Is that what you want for you & your family? Is that what God wants for you & your family?

vivian.crumpler.1
vivian.crumpler.1

 @jensmt

 she always seems to get in the middle of things just to start a problem. she hasn't been on the show long enough to be so mouthy .slow down Lydia and take it easy .you will get your turn .you are moving to fast................

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @jensmt I find it odd of her to tell everyone to get over their issues, yet, she uses almost every moment to whine about how her mom was a pot smoking hippy and she felt soooooo neglected.  Yet, she openly admits that when she wanted to go shopping when she was younger, she made sure she took her mom while her mom was stoned so that she could get a little extra.

For someone so privileged, "get over it".  She also never mentions her father which kind of makes one wonder if she is displacing her issues about that upon her mom.  Have some respect for your elders, Lydia.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @Bonnie3644 Furthermore, I found it rather RUDE of her to state that Americans knew nothing outside of America.  I'm choking on your self sense of superiority.

midnighttulip
midnighttulip

 @mmcruz5

 How about how she criticizes her mother on national TV,  or gets drunk and dances on top of cars?

UThousewife
UThousewife

 @squirl38 Usually when I put "funny" down I'm being sarcastic. This really is funny!! Love it!

Reba39forever
Reba39forever

@Password it seemed liked the Vicki Tamra show soooo not interested. I turned it off about 20 minutes in.

dragonslayer
dragonslayer

 @perry13

 Perry her husband quietly menioned why Lydia had become upset at the cheesburger comment  [ he said that she is very sensitve about her weight.) 

She realizes she is very thin - and didn't receive his remark as a compliment. Slade then started to patronize her and that set her off even more so... she's no dummy.

lieuelle
lieuelle

 @Cards

 I'm not a fan of Vicki's but I also have no respect for Gretchen or Slade.  I think Lydia has been spot on with her assessment of all the women.  She never liked or trusted Gretchen OR Slade and that was a wise assessment.

dragonslayer
dragonslayer

 @dwaters1952@yahoo.com

 That's not fair - your remark that you resent her for not being "happy"  about the cheeseburger comment Slade used. Did you hear husband explain it?  (why she overreacted) He said that she is very sensitive about her weight? He also  mentioned her frustration when she wasn't able to breastfeed her children because of her weight. Just as many people have issues with too much weight gain there are other's who have trouble not being able to gain weight and are very thin - skinny.  

 This was not a compliment to her - she took this remark as meaning that she was TOO THIN - unattractive etc. Had he simply said Lydia, you look great...it would have been a different outcome. When Gretchen arrived at the party -Terry mentioned  how great she looked...he liked her dress...that was a pleasant well received compliment... Guess I remember all of the times growing up as long as into my 30's  - everyone asking me if I ever ate...it made me feel badly. I had a very high metabolism...now I have to watch calories like a hawk....be nice :)   

hilda.lepew
hilda.lepew

 @dwaters1952@yahoo.com

 I find it interesting that you used the term "go crazy" for Lydia defending herself.  She was being strong and confident.

kelsey30259
kelsey30259

 @lauriels agree! i dont even smoke but i hate when people talk down to other people who smoke weed. Its only a bad stigma cause its illegal. Alcohol is way worse but you see lydia drinking. Hypocrite much? Also I feel like she had no story line coming into the show so she used the fact her mom smokes and through her under the bus. Poor lady. And you could tell she was just nitpciking with slade. Im skinnier then her and people say remarks like that to me. They dont mean to be mean they are just envious and complimenting you. Also slade was just chiming in on the conversation he wasnt "saying it behind her back" Im not buying her whole im so innocent act!

24hrhousewife
24hrhousewife

@lauriels I agree. I like her directness but she seems to but into things that she doesn't know the history of and she picks odd times. Lade should've just said sorry and moved on but at the same time she acted like she was waiting to have a confrontation with him.

Allegra
Allegra

 @kelsey30259  @lauriels We have not seen her drink to excess nor have we seen her drinking when she is caring for her children.  Her complaint about her mother seems to have been that she was stoned when she was caring for Lydia.  Lydia could tell she was in an altered state and resented it.  Kids don't like seeing their parents tipsy around them either.  My friends and I indulged mightily in the weed when we were young and single, and we all decided that if we were lucky enough to have children,  we would never smoke when they were were awake.  And yes, the illegality of weed does make a difference.  Children want their parents to walk the straight and narrow.

Gatorgirl1
Gatorgirl1

@squirl38 @dragonslayer @dwaters1952@yahoo.com Slade just needs to shut up and not comment on a women's appearance.

DANNYE
DANNYE

I do think Lydia overreacted making everyone around them uncomfortable. That being said, a man Slade's age should've learned by now not to ever, ever, EVER say anything about a woman's weight. Period. What an idiot.

Allegra
Allegra

 @squirl38  @hilda.lepew  @dwaters1952@yahoo.com We've seen plenty of crazy on these franchises--tables tossed, hair pulled, screaming like banshees.  In no way did Lydia go crazy at Slade's insult or his b.s. excuses.  And yes, his comment was meant as an insult, and Lydia interpreted it correctly as an insult.

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

@squirl38 @Allegra .....Actually, Allegra wrote, "when THEY (meaning the children) were awake." LOL, squirl! :-D