Lydia McLaughlin

Lydia explains why she had to get up at the reunion and what she thinks about Briana's behavior.

on Aug 26, 20130

Whoa, that was brutal!! It's kind of a bummer that such a fun season of my life ends with such a sour taste in my mouth. This last episode was pretty hard to watch, and extremely hard to sit through.

Briana came onto the set with such an intense vibe, which you instantly see on her face. She has been through a lot -- a new baby, getting married, having her husband deployed, seeing her parents divorce and on and on. Having to deal with all of that on display on a reality show must be hard. I really don't know Briana, but for the record let me say that I have no ill feelings towards her and I really do wish her and Ryan the best.

What happened between my mother and Ryan was unfortunate. However, I feel Vicki, Ryan, and Briana are trying to steer away from the facts. Ryan shouldn't have yelled at my mother. End of story. He should apologize for his actions. She wasn't drinking red wine, but if she had been, don't you think he would have mentioned that while he was verbally assaulting her!?

I was upset with how Briana acted at the reunion. She said she didn't want to talk about "it," but then went on to insinuate that my mother was somehow responsible for "mud and red wine" on the couch. Why wasn't this mysterious glass of red wine ever mentioned before and where is this magical mud patch my mom supposedly walked through before resting on the couch? My mother doesn't drink red wine and Vicki's home has all cement in the back. Oh and let's not forget that my Mom was wearing all WHITE! Brianna is clearly making excuses for Ryan. What's upsetting to me is that there was no acknowledgement that he was out of line.

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RobCog
RobCog

How did I miss that Ryan is a bully misogynist? He is such a creep! He's awful to his wife, his mother in law and a strange woman. He's simply an awful, awful person, and a liar.

Sam64
Sam64

I'm glad you are not on this season. You and your mom need to grow up. Smoking pot and sprinkling fairy dust on people at a swanky party at age 64 is just weird. And you cannot let the cheeseburger comment go. Wow.

DeeDee5304
DeeDee5304

Lydia,

You will surely be missed.  I loved your honesty and thought you brought something to the show that none of the other shows do.  I know you were asked to return and you turned them down.  You are one smart young lady.  I think you did what you needed to do and move on.  Again, I think you were wise to bring attention to your magazine and I read that you would like your own reality show to bring light to your business.  I would definitely watch the show. 

I don't think you would have changed like the other ladies, because you come off so genuine.  I have to say for the most part the characters of the RH change and it is not pleasant to watch.  I wish you and your family the best.

PS, I think Brianna had to protect her husband since he is in the military.  He was dead wrong and Brianna knew it.  He does seem to have an anger problem.  He snapped with Brianna on one of the episodes.  I hope Brianna didn't take that trait from her mother.  I hope Brianna husband doesn't come back and lose his temper with Brianna.

glitterbubble
glitterbubble

How anyone can defend Ryan and Bryanna is beyond me. They are both controlling of Vicki. I've served in the Forces and Ryan shows himself as one of the nastier troops out there. Why he is even allowed to be on the show is questionable. He sure is not a good example of a serving forces member.

Bryanna better hope her mum shows her understanding should Ryan flip on her. He hasn't got PTSD. He's got control and self entitlement issues.

How anyone can live at someone else's house and dictate to them who can come into their house is Makes you scratch your head.


He had no right speaking to Lydia's mum like that.

He then lied that she swore at him...


Awful pair, please don't have R&B on the next season.

chelmabelle
chelmabelle

I saw the episode where Ryan went off on Lydia's Mother... it was crazy stuff.  I would NEVER treat a guest in my home in that manner ... whether they spilled something, or put their feet up on my couch., absolutely NEVER.. he was completely out of line and his anger was way out of proportion to the alleged offense.  He clearly has some other issues bubbling beneath the surface... he simply should have apologized for his outburst and acknowledged his rudeness.  Briana has her hands full.  She was between a rock and a hard place with regards to defending her husband or acknowledging his poor behavior.  She chose to defend him.  I understand that choice.. don't agree with it, but, understand it.  Perhaps he is having some sort of PTSD issues and should seek some help for it.  I sure hope that isn't his normal personality.  It would have been nice if he was able to come on the reunion with his wife and own his behavior and offer a sincere apology to Lydia's mother.  I know she would have graciously accepted it. 

freshidea
freshidea

I love you Lydia and enjoyed watching you this season. So refreshing and something different added to the desperate catty cast. I look forward to seeing what you add to your 2nd season on the show. Watch out for Tamara she will be gunning for you since you are younger than she is.

angryinnv
angryinnv

ryan was wrong to yell at her mother, but her mother was equally wrong in putting her feet while wearing high heels on vicki's couch.  who does that?  ryan should apologize to lydia's mother, but lydia's mother should apologize to vicki for putting her feet on the couch while wearing high heels.   i would never walk into someone's home and put my feet on their couch while wearing shoes, and i would not appreciate someone doing that in my home.  it's just rude and disrespectful, and shows a lack of class.

Sherryspooner
Sherryspooner

I don't trust anything Ryan says.  He definitely has problems and let it slip it was his house.  No it's not so just get over yourself.  If you hadn't gotten Brianna pregnant no one would not know your name.

jkeenumurbina
jkeenumurbina

Lydia, you were spot on in your observation of the behavior of Ryan toward your mother. It does not matter what the underlying reasons for his behavior were, that totally disrespectful, unacceptable and down right scary. Your Mother had such  a sweet unassuming positive vibe. Usually a good spirit like hers is unaware that they are leaving a door open to let the evil that Ryan displayed in. It is unfortunate that Briana is blinded by Ryan's obvious manipulation of her. Anyone can imagine that he is seeking all the things she is accusing Brooks. Trust me when I tell you he will show his true colors soon. In reality Briana is reacting to all the instinctive behavior she is being subjective to. I apologize for their ignorance and behavior to you and your mother in their steed. 

 

Ruby-Lena
Ruby-Lena

I felt really bad for your mom because Ryan went way overboard. His anger toward your mother seems so bizarre and misdirected.His tirade had the stamina of a pit-bull attack. I'm surprised you and your mom decide to stay. You should have left-- you didn't trust your first instinct. Thank the goddess nothing worst happened. You & your mom seem really sweet. I hope we see more of your mother on the show. Best of the Fairy's Dust to You. 

BeachedBlonde
BeachedBlonde

Lydia - Bravo to you for stepping away when you needed a moment! Briana had negative energy from the moment she walked on that stage. She was so angry and unreasonable, it was scary. You handled it with grace and warmth. It really inspired me to rise above negativity in my own life and keep my own peace.

terry244
terry244

I love ur mom but u are such a trouble maker! Quit acting like ur in high school and grow up! You have nerve scolding ur mom when u arent any better!!! Get a life u are very boaring and brought nothing to the show!!

bzshannon
bzshannon

Your mother is a hoot. She is probably the only really sane person on that series. I do think she is great. But I will say however, she is very lucky she has had money to keep her from harm. Being hook on pot and being poor would have had a much more drastic outcome to your childhood. I do believe pot is a better choice than alcohol. Pot does not lead to other drugs. I was from the 70's and pot was just one of the drugs we were going to try anyway. Alcohol has killed so many of the people I went to high school with. No one I know died from pot. Anyway, she is good. I am truly worried for Brianna she has blinders on. Ryan is so frightening. The way he took over the house and made demands. His temper comes out of no where. He should be supporting his family not taking advantage of all Vicki's hard work.

rosyposy
rosyposy

Ryan is a crude, rude person.  Being a service member has nothing to do with it.  Being deployed has nothing to do with it.  I am an ex-Army wife, and have several family members either deployed or just home.  They would NEVER sink so low as to attack a guest like Ryan did.  Brianna is spoiled and feels so entitled to the life her mom (and mom alone) has generously and with love provided for her.  Spoiling our children to that extent just is not a good thing, especially when they have a snotty unappreciative personality like Brianna.   If you attend another of Vicki's parties, you should go with the memory of what can happen if Ryan is there.

mp.212
mp.212

I think it's interesting how many comments are on here about Ryan, the fiasco with Lydia's mom, and Brianna.  Get over it people.  I'm not saying that what Ryan did by raising his voice to Lydia's mom was okay by any means, but I am saying that I think when people say, "Oh my gosh, I would be so worried for my life if I was Brianna," or "He has such anger issues, Brianna better watch out cause he will start hitting her," that's going only a Lot overboard people.  He got pissed because someone disrespected his mother-in-law's home, and he overreacted yes, obviously, but that does NOT mean he has anger issues, or is a bad person, or is going to physically abuse his wife, child or anyone else.  Geez.  You mean to say that you yourself haven't gotten overly excited about something and freaked out??  Please.  The man was going to be shipped to overseas, leaving his wife and baby at home by themselves with a crazy woman.  I'd be freaking out too.  And why is it that when Vicki FREAKS out over nothing and screams at people it's considered funny, but when a man is defending his mother-in-laws home from disrespect he's looked at as an abuser??  So stupid.  Open your eyes people.  You're all like Vicki.  Hypocritical and uninsightful.

tjjpt
tjjpt

How did you enjoy Tamra's wedding? Hopefully it would keep her happy and forget to be nasty for a season or two. Keep your value and stand your ground against the likes of Heather and Gretchen and Tamra and you will come out unscathed.

Victoria-from-WA
Victoria-from-WA

Lydia is the least Christian Christian I've ever seen!  If someone insults her, she attacks and attacks and attacks, and never ever lets it go.  If she insults anyone, they're expected to DROP IT RIGHT NOW.  No turning the other cheek or forgiveness for this faux Christian. 

bambiladrian
bambiladrian

Brianna's husband has anger issues and did you notice how he was about to say that he owned that house. Ryan is a renter and far from being the man of the house.  I think that Brianna and her husband should find a home of their own. He was completely out of line! However, it was Vicky's job to deal with Ryan. If this is Ryan's behavior every time he gets upset or people don't do as he says, I worry about Brianna and her child. That child should not be around someone with obvious anger issues.  He has never had respect for Vicky and Brianna needed to put her foot down from the get go. It appears to me, that she is afraid of Ryan and that is not good.

I am not a big fan of Vicky however, that is her home and she needs to put her foot down.

bambiladrian
bambiladrian

Brianna's husband has anger issues and did you notice how he was about to say that he owned that house. Ryan is a renter and far from being the man of the house. I think that Brianna and her husband should find a home of their own. He was completely out of line! However, it was Vicky's job to deal with Ryan. If this is Ryan's behavior every time he gets upset or people don't do as he says, I worry about Brianna and her child. That child should not be around someone with obvious anger issues. One of them may get hurt.

simmaron
simmaron

I thought your mother handled the situation with the utmost of grace and maintained a very dignified manner upon returning to the party. There is no excuse for such ill mannered behavior. Noone deserves to be spoken to in such a crude fashion. I think your mother is an angel and has an amazingly interesting personality. Why just look at the beautiful daughter she raised. Your very lucky. God bless.

chatty
chatty

Your mom did not deserve to be spoken to that way by anyone but I don't agree with you on Brianna. She never said your mother spilled red wine and mudd on the couch she said that she cleaned if off the couch later that night. She never said it was your mother. I think you take things just a little to serious. I agree that your attack on Slade was wrong, went way over board on the cheeseburger deal. I agree that Ryan has some anger issue but I also take into consideration what he is up against going to war, alot of things on his mind, that is no excuse for what he said to your mother. I think all of it is out of contrl

Tiramisu
Tiramisu

Ironic that in the argument with Slade, Lydia actually looks like the mean girl.  Slade is not a very likable person, but the attacks on him were personal and extremely judgmental.  After the nasty, personal attacks against him, he actually showed a lot more restraint than Lydia or Vicky did.  

 

When one sets the bar so high -- self-identifying as a Christian, moral individual, be careful with the nasty behavior. The sarcastic comments and snide asides don't fit into the whole cute, hippy, Christian persona.  Slade's comments were also snide and sarcastic -- actually a lot like yours.  Don't play holier than thou....

Jerseygal1
Jerseygal1

I really think Brianna was desperate to have a man in her life and she has gotten caught up in a big mistake online meeting Quickie  wedding ,elopement, and instant pregnancy .I would watch this guy Ryan and protect all my investments and funds around this guy he comes in like a lion as if he owns it all and is the man of the house there is no need for a man Vickie is doing pretty good without him .Before she doesnt need him there and Brianna may be getting brainwashed to protect Vickie from men so Ryan can have it all in the end .He is 1 scary little guy and I say little not a very big man but in his own mind he is up to no good . And as for what he did at the party he should have been thrown out and if Brianna does not respect her mothers home she should go with him and see how things go maybe she will wake up but hopefully she doesnt suffer his wraith .I honestly think Brianna is after her mothers money too Vickie should watch out for being too good.Vickie should apologize for him ,take back her home and tell them to move out .What a MAN!!!! for picking on an older woman now the marines should straighten him out fool.

 

Mo-MoRocks
Mo-MoRocks

Lydia, I agree with you 100%.  No one, but especially your mom, deserves to be spoken to the way Ryan spoke to her.  I was mortified.  I know that their family is going through some rough things, but he is completely out of line.  He and Briana both.  It is none of their business who Vicki decides to be with and it is completely uncalled for what was done to your mom. 

golfcar48
golfcar48

You claim to be the nice, easy going peace maker of the group but you aren't.  My granddaughter watches with me and you are the one housewife who she really does not like.  She says you are passive aggresive and play games with the other housewives to cause problems.  At first I didn't agree with her assupmtion but I saw what she was talking about.  I am not impressed with your little rich girl attitude.  Shape up!

Redridinghood
Redridinghood

think your great for the show, but had issue with your reaction and treatment and comments of Slade.....  awful lot of bashing for such a small error!  his history with Vickie is horrendous.  she has been as truthfully MORE) abusive to Slade, and in ways that gave his children pain!  other than that I've enjoyed your open end honesty.  hope you revisit the Slade issues, and can see them for what they were, your not Vickie., And I wonder why they continue to say Slade can't talk about women like that.  But they ALL say some pretty ugly hurtful things about Slade in every episode? I have decided that they have REAL Double Standards and they can do it, but shame on anyone else for doing it to them..... hmmmm It's wrong on all levels.  But if you can dish it out, then prepare to take a taste of your own medicine.  Vickie again is the one that fired the first shot, and drew the first blood,  she was the sniper, and still is today.  hope you read and pray on it, I really don't believe that Slade ever meant you harm  in any way.  He just isn't perfect, that's all, but are you? am I? and we all know Vickie isn't either.

 

Thanks for being on the show, not sure that Reality TV is for you, as most of it is brutal, and negative, and demeaning.  I often chastise myself for watching it at all.

Wyn
Wyn

Vicki is afraid that if she confronts Briana about Ryan then one day...she won't see that grandbaby anymore. The writing is on the wall. Ryan is a loose canon and very troubled. Briana enjoys the power she yields over her mother and while Brookes might not be the best...she uses that as a wedge issue to control her Mom with. I've lost a lot of respect for Briana and have none for Ryan.

Wyn
Wyn

I saw first off that Ryan had real attitude issues with Vicki from the get. He didn't respect her role as Briana's mom and let her know it. Briana has become less and less appealing overall. While I'm not a huge Vicki fan, she at least is a decent mother and has given a lot to Briana. Brookes aside -Ryan has major anger problems and is stirring the pot and Briana is in denial.

Wyn
Wyn

Lydia, I like how you 'handled' Heather...she tried to twist and deflect and you didn't let her. Please try to stay friens with Alexis even Gretchen and don't get sucked into Heathers, Tamra's and Vicki's chaos.

ClaudMonet
ClaudMonet

Lydia has grown on me this season, at first I was unsure if she was a real deal but she certainly seems like she is.  She is too sweet to go head to head with those crazies!!    I also love how honest she was about her mother and how she accepts and loves her mom regardless of her enjoyment of a lil' ganja. The world would be a better place if we all partook now and again.  Gain some real perspective and not take yourself soooo seriuously in life.  Lydia if you do not come back for another season we understand!! You will be missed!

Four Twenty for all!

Leeney
Leeney

I am so glad that you are standing up for your mom. Ryan had absolutely no right to talk to her the way that he did and Briana, even though I like (d) her, was just trying to make stuff up so that he would look better and your mom would look bad so Im happy that you called her out on that. He needs to apologize, period!

KrissyU
KrissyU

I do not think you make a good fit for TV the show or this group of women. You are like a hand scratching on a chalk board

Fil007
Fil007

Lydia,

 

It's been a wild ride for you this season.

 

I have, at times, doubted your sincerity and your presence on the show.

 

However, I did feel bad for you and your mom at Vicki's party when Ryan viciously attacking your mom.  He was 100% wrong and he AND Brianna should apologize to you both.  And him being in the military is no excuse (besides, he has always been quick to insult and speak up to Vicki in her own house when he gets agitated).  

 

And, as you can see, Vicki will look the other way when it comes to her children and their business.  She's also afraid of Brianna and Ryan--though Vicki won't cop to that either. 

 

I also appreciated seeing your reaction (and the other women) when Vicki was on the bus talking about the "Greek Guy with teeth issues."  Vicki denies it completely on the reunion but there it is--the LIVE footage captured and for all the viewers to see.  Lauri isn't the liar, Vicki IS!

 

Hope you come back for a second season because there's got to be more to you than just your inflated rage at Slade for that somewhat small comment.  Maybe, it was blown out of proportion by editing, but it did seem to be your "storyline" this season.  Maybe, as a newbie, you wanted to be cool with the older, meaner women.  

 

It sounds like you and Gretchen are in a better place and, maybe, a real friendship will develop.

 

It would be interesting to see more about your magazine and what goes on as it pertains to you and your husband.  

 

Thought it was great that you called out Heather on the reunion.  She has such a sense of entitlement and always acts beyond reproach.  It's like she's acting like she needs to "school people" as a higher authority.  You rightfully called her out ---and this is when I thought there is more to Lydia...  

 

Lastly, hope you can see how much Tamra and Vicki manipulate the truth, and arrogantly so.  Perhaps, you and Gretchen (and maybe Alexis) can team up and not let the older--and unhappier for whatever reason--women run the show.  

 

You are definitely no "shrinking violet" and that's a good thing.

 

 

jonesin4rh
jonesin4rh

For some reason my comments aren't getting posted so I will try editing it thi time and see if that works. I can't believe Ryan got a pass because Brianna played the military card. If you are abusive and out of line, I don't care who you are, you should be held accountable. What Ryan did was wrong and egregious - PERIOD! If I were Lydia I would be more than upset.

Enauter-titov
Enauter-titov

@chelmabelle When I heard that voice-over of Marine Ryan ripping into Lydia's mother I was embarrassed and disgusted and it was hard to listen to. Notice how Ryan began telling her that he owned Vicki's house when she asked who he was and quickly changed his tune. Ryan's the poster boy of how a Marine shouldn't act and seems to have a hard time telling the truth. I understand why Briana defended him but she was wrong and I think she knows that. She's not the first woman on Earth to have divorced parents, a new marriage and a baby. She isn't the first woman who's shared a husband with the military in times of war, so those who make excuses for her are hurting rather than helping her. I also found her very uninteresting to say the least. Ryan and Briana were made for each other. He says "jump" and she says "how far?"

chelmabelle
chelmabelle

 @angryinnv I disagree -- Lydia's mother doesn't need to apologize to Ryan if indeed she did put her feet up on the couch ~ it's Vickie's home not his.  Also, frankly a good host(ess) NEVER EVER makes their guest feel uncomfortable no matter what.  It is unkind and unacceptable.  I have a home that is for living...and if heaven forbid something get's spilled on or whatnot...I clean it up.  My friendships and family and shared moments are WAY more important to me. 

nanag
nanag

 @angryinnv So in your world someone putting their feet on your couch is as bad if not worse than a young man abusing a 60 something year old grandmother? Wow, I feel sorry for your guests.

midnighttulip
midnighttulip

 @rosyposy

 Maybe Ryan has a hard time learning like Vicky but all in all, his sin was no worse Vicki's screaming and hateful conduct toward others. He learned it from her.

twiddledeedum
twiddledeedum

 @mp.212

 Thank you! It seems everyone wants to jump on the hate bandwagon and are now making up crazy things to say about him. I Don't understand what the difference is from him and any other housewife. He was loud and incorrect but so is Vicky.

glitterbubble
glitterbubble

@chatty Going to war is no excuse to behave like that one Television with Camera's present, imagine how he manages himself in real stressful situations and behind closed doors with the cameras off.

J.Mobile
J.Mobile

 @chatty Going to war? What war? Are the US at war with Afghanistan?

sherryberry10
sherryberry10

 @golfcar48 seriously because she is a Christian she should play dead... not!!

go express yourself Lydia

karenmom
karenmom

 @J.Mobile  @chatty I know it's hard to recognize sarcasm in emails and replies so I hope you are being sarcastic. And if you are not, please ignore my reply.

 

J.Mobile
J.Mobile

 @karenmom  Please ignore my comment if you don't read foreign press.