There is no disputing that this show is full of drama. We are all strong, opinionated, different woman. We butt heads at time, but we also are a family. At least, that's how I see it. I have been hurt, frustrated and angry at some of the ladies at different times, but each of them has qualities that I admire and love. I don't do well with tearing each other down. I like building people up. It's kind of an oxymoron being involved with a show like this, knowing at my core who I am. . .But I don't regret this journey for a second and who knows. . .Maybe I'll be back. . .
I realize this show only lets you see a small glimpse into my life, so here are some charities that are close to my heart and some of my other businesses, if you are interested.
Charities I'm involved in:
iSanctuary: Reintegration for survivors of Human Trafficking
Friendship Shelter Laguna Beach: temporary housing for homeless men and women in OC
YoungLife: Doug and I met as volunteer leaders
Doug and my businesses:
Beverly Hills Lifestyle Magazine: Our nationwide luxury-lifestyle magazine
LYDIA M Jewelry: My line of handmade jewelry, designed by me, made in OC
SKYLAB Modern Art: Our contemporary art gallery in Laguna Beach
SKYLAB Weddings: Luxury wedding films and photography
I saw the episode where Ryan went off on Lydia's Mother... it was crazy stuff. I would NEVER treat a guest in my home in that manner ... whether they spilled something, or put their feet up on my couch., absolutely NEVER.. he was completely out of line and his anger was way out of proportion to the alleged offense. He clearly has some other issues bubbling beneath the surface... he simply should have apologized for his outburst and acknowledged his rudeness. Briana has her hands full. She was between a rock and a hard place with regards to defending her husband or acknowledging his poor behavior. She chose to defend him. I understand that choice.. don't agree with it, but, understand it. Perhaps he is having some sort of PTSD issues and should seek some help for it. I sure hope that isn't his normal personality. It would have been nice if he was able to come on the reunion with his wife and own his behavior and offer a sincere apology to Lydia's mother. I know she would have graciously accepted it.
I love you Lydia and enjoyed watching you this season. So refreshing and something different added to the desperate catty cast. I look forward to seeing what you add to your 2nd season on the show. Watch out for Tamara she will be gunning for you since you are younger than she is.
ryan was wrong to yell at her mother, but her mother was equally wrong in putting her feet while wearing high heels on vicki's couch. who does that? ryan should apologize to lydia's mother, but lydia's mother should apologize to vicki for putting her feet on the couch while wearing high heels. i would never walk into someone's home and put my feet on their couch while wearing shoes, and i would not appreciate someone doing that in my home. it's just rude and disrespectful, and shows a lack of class.
angryinnv So in your world someone putting their feet on your couch is as bad if not worse than a young man abusing a 60 something year old grandmother? Wow, I feel sorry for your guests.
angryinnv I disagree -- Lydia's mother doesn't need to apologize to Ryan if indeed she did put her feet up on the couch ~ it's Vickie's home not his. Also, frankly a good host(ess) NEVER EVER makes their guest feel uncomfortable no matter what. It is unkind and unacceptable. I have a home that is for living...and if heaven forbid something get's spilled on or whatnot...I clean it up. My friendships and family and shared moments are WAY more important to me.
I don't trust anything Ryan says. He definitely has problems and let it slip it was his house. No it's not so just get over yourself. If you hadn't gotten Brianna pregnant no one would not know your name.
Lydia, you were spot on in your observation of the behavior of Ryan toward your mother. It does not matter what the underlying reasons for his behavior were, that totally disrespectful, unacceptable and down right scary. Your Mother had such a sweet unassuming positive vibe. Usually a good spirit like hers is unaware that they are leaving a door open to let the evil that Ryan displayed in. It is unfortunate that Briana is blinded by Ryan's obvious manipulation of her. Anyone can imagine that he is seeking all the things she is accusing Brooks. Trust me when I tell you he will show his true colors soon. In reality Briana is reacting to all the instinctive behavior she is being subjective to. I apologize for their ignorance and behavior to you and your mother in their steed.
I felt really bad for your mom because Ryan went way overboard. His anger toward your mother seems so bizarre and misdirected.His tirade had the stamina of a pit-bull attack. I'm surprised you and your mom decide to stay. You should have left-- you didn't trust your first instinct. Thank the goddess nothing worst happened. You & your mom seem really sweet. I hope we see more of your mother on the show. Best of the Fairy's Dust to You.
Lydia - Bravo to you for stepping away when you needed a moment! Briana had negative energy from the moment she walked on that stage. She was so angry and unreasonable, it was scary. You handled it with grace and warmth. It really inspired me to rise above negativity in my own life and keep my own peace.
I love ur mom but u are such a trouble maker! Quit acting like ur in high school and grow up! You have nerve scolding ur mom when u arent any better!!! Get a life u are very boaring and brought nothing to the show!!
Your mother is a hoot. She is probably the only really sane person on that series. I do think she is great. But I will say however, she is very lucky she has had money to keep her from harm. Being hook on pot and being poor would have had a much more drastic outcome to your childhood. I do believe pot is a better choice than alcohol. Pot does not lead to other drugs. I was from the 70's and pot was just one of the drugs we were going to try anyway. Alcohol has killed so many of the people I went to high school with. No one I know died from pot. Anyway, she is good. I am truly worried for Brianna she has blinders on. Ryan is so frightening. The way he took over the house and made demands. His temper comes out of no where. He should be supporting his family not taking advantage of all Vicki's hard work.
Ryan is a crude, rude person. Being a service member has nothing to do with it. Being deployed has nothing to do with it. I am an ex-Army wife, and have several family members either deployed or just home. They would NEVER sink so low as to attack a guest like Ryan did. Brianna is spoiled and feels so entitled to the life her mom (and mom alone) has generously and with love provided for her. Spoiling our children to that extent just is not a good thing, especially when they have a snotty unappreciative personality like Brianna. If you attend another of Vicki's parties, you should go with the memory of what can happen if Ryan is there.
Maybe Ryan has a hard time learning like Vicky but all in all, his sin was no worse Vicki's screaming and hateful conduct toward others. He learned it from her.
I think it's interesting how many comments are on here about Ryan, the fiasco with Lydia's mom, and Brianna. Get over it people. I'm not saying that what Ryan did by raising his voice to Lydia's mom was okay by any means, but I am saying that I think when people say, "Oh my gosh, I would be so worried for my life if I was Brianna," or "He has such anger issues, Brianna better watch out cause he will start hitting her," that's going only a Lot overboard people. He got pissed because someone disrespected his mother-in-law's home, and he overreacted yes, obviously, but that does NOT mean he has anger issues, or is a bad person, or is going to physically abuse his wife, child or anyone else. Geez. You mean to say that you yourself haven't gotten overly excited about something and freaked out?? Please. The man was going to be shipped to overseas, leaving his wife and baby at home by themselves with a crazy woman. I'd be freaking out too. And why is it that when Vicki FREAKS out over nothing and screams at people it's considered funny, but when a man is defending his mother-in-laws home from disrespect he's looked at as an abuser?? So stupid. Open your eyes people. You're all like Vicki. Hypocritical and uninsightful.
Thank you! It seems everyone wants to jump on the hate bandwagon and are now making up crazy things to say about him. I Don't understand what the difference is from him and any other housewife. He was loud and incorrect but so is Vicky.
How did you enjoy Tamra's wedding? Hopefully it would keep her happy and forget to be nasty for a season or two. Keep your value and stand your ground against the likes of Heather and Gretchen and Tamra and you will come out unscathed.
Lydia is the least Christian Christian I've ever seen! If someone insults her, she attacks and attacks and attacks, and never ever lets it go. If she insults anyone, they're expected to DROP IT RIGHT NOW. No turning the other cheek or forgiveness for this faux Christian.
Brianna's husband has anger issues and did you notice how he was about to say that he owned that house. Ryan is a renter and far from being the man of the house. I think that Brianna and her husband should find a home of their own. He was completely out of line! However, it was Vicky's job to deal with Ryan. If this is Ryan's behavior every time he gets upset or people don't do as he says, I worry about Brianna and her child. That child should not be around someone with obvious anger issues. He has never had respect for Vicky and Brianna needed to put her foot down from the get go. It appears to me, that she is afraid of Ryan and that is not good.
I am not a big fan of Vicky however, that is her home and she needs to put her foot down.
Brianna's husband has anger issues and did you notice how he was about to say that he owned that house. Ryan is a renter and far from being the man of the house. I think that Brianna and her husband should find a home of their own. He was completely out of line! However, it was Vicky's job to deal with Ryan. If this is Ryan's behavior every time he gets upset or people don't do as he says, I worry about Brianna and her child. That child should not be around someone with obvious anger issues. One of them may get hurt.
I thought your mother handled the situation with the utmost of grace and maintained a very dignified manner upon returning to the party. There is no excuse for such ill mannered behavior. Noone deserves to be spoken to in such a crude fashion. I think your mother is an angel and has an amazingly interesting personality. Why just look at the beautiful daughter she raised. Your very lucky. God bless.
Your mom did not deserve to be spoken to that way by anyone but I don't agree with you on Brianna. She never said your mother spilled red wine and mudd on the couch she said that she cleaned if off the couch later that night. She never said it was your mother. I think you take things just a little to serious. I agree that your attack on Slade was wrong, went way over board on the cheeseburger deal. I agree that Ryan has some anger issue but I also take into consideration what he is up against going to war, alot of things on his mind, that is no excuse for what he said to your mother. I think all of it is out of contrl
J.Mobile chatty I know it's hard to recognize sarcasm in emails and replies so I hope you are being sarcastic. And if you are not, please ignore my reply.
Ironic that in the argument with Slade, Lydia actually looks like the mean girl. Slade is not a very likable person, but the attacks on him were personal and extremely judgmental. After the nasty, personal attacks against him, he actually showed a lot more restraint than Lydia or Vicky did.
When one sets the bar so high -- self-identifying as a Christian, moral individual, be careful with the nasty behavior. The sarcastic comments and snide asides don't fit into the whole cute, hippy, Christian persona. Slade's comments were also snide and sarcastic -- actually a lot like yours. Don't play holier than thou....
I really think Brianna was desperate to have a man in her life and she has gotten caught up in a big mistake online meeting Quickie wedding ,elopement, and instant pregnancy .I would watch this guy Ryan and protect all my investments and funds around this guy he comes in like a lion as if he owns it all and is the man of the house there is no need for a man Vickie is doing pretty good without him .Before she doesnt need him there and Brianna may be getting brainwashed to protect Vickie from men so Ryan can have it all in the end .He is 1 scary little guy and I say little not a very big man but in his own mind he is up to no good . And as for what he did at the party he should have been thrown out and if Brianna does not respect her mothers home she should go with him and see how things go maybe she will wake up but hopefully she doesnt suffer his wraith .I honestly think Brianna is after her mothers money too Vickie should watch out for being too good.Vickie should apologize for him ,take back her home and tell them to move out .What a MAN!!!! for picking on an older woman now the marines should straighten him out fool.
Lydia, I agree with you 100%. No one, but especially your mom, deserves to be spoken to the way Ryan spoke to her. I was mortified. I know that their family is going through some rough things, but he is completely out of line. He and Briana both. It is none of their business who Vicki decides to be with and it is completely uncalled for what was done to your mom.
You claim to be the nice, easy going peace maker of the group but you aren't. My granddaughter watches with me and you are the one housewife who she really does not like. She says you are passive aggresive and play games with the other housewives to cause problems. At first I didn't agree with her assupmtion but I saw what she was talking about. I am not impressed with your little rich girl attitude. Shape up!
golfcar48 seriously because she is a Christian she should play dead... not!!
go express yourself Lydia
think your great for the show, but had issue with your reaction and treatment and comments of Slade..... awful lot of bashing for such a small error! his history with Vickie is horrendous. she has been as truthfully MORE) abusive to Slade, and in ways that gave his children pain! other than that I've enjoyed your open end honesty. hope you revisit the Slade issues, and can see them for what they were, your not Vickie., And I wonder why they continue to say Slade can't talk about women like that. But they ALL say some pretty ugly hurtful things about Slade in every episode? I have decided that they have REAL Double Standards and they can do it, but shame on anyone else for doing it to them..... hmmmm It's wrong on all levels. But if you can dish it out, then prepare to take a taste of your own medicine. Vickie again is the one that fired the first shot, and drew the first blood, she was the sniper, and still is today. hope you read and pray on it, I really don't believe that Slade ever meant you harm in any way. He just isn't perfect, that's all, but are you? am I? and we all know Vickie isn't either.
Thanks for being on the show, not sure that Reality TV is for you, as most of it is brutal, and negative, and demeaning. I often chastise myself for watching it at all.
Vicki is afraid that if she confronts Briana about Ryan then one day...she won't see that grandbaby anymore. The writing is on the wall. Ryan is a loose canon and very troubled. Briana enjoys the power she yields over her mother and while Brookes might not be the best...she uses that as a wedge issue to control her Mom with. I've lost a lot of respect for Briana and have none for Ryan.
I saw first off that Ryan had real attitude issues with Vicki from the get. He didn't respect her role as Briana's mom and let her know it. Briana has become less and less appealing overall. While I'm not a huge Vicki fan, she at least is a decent mother and has given a lot to Briana. Brookes aside -Ryan has major anger problems and is stirring the pot and Briana is in denial.
Lydia, I like how you 'handled' Heather...she tried to twist and deflect and you didn't let her. Please try to stay friens with Alexis even Gretchen and don't get sucked into Heathers, Tamra's and Vicki's chaos.
Lydia has grown on me this season, at first I was unsure if she was a real deal but she certainly seems like she is. She is too sweet to go head to head with those crazies!! I also love how honest she was about her mother and how she accepts and loves her mom regardless of her enjoyment of a lil' ganja. The world would be a better place if we all partook now and again. Gain some real perspective and not take yourself soooo seriuously in life. Lydia if you do not come back for another season we understand!! You will be missed!
Four Twenty for all!
I am so glad that you are standing up for your mom. Ryan had absolutely no right to talk to her the way that he did and Briana, even though I like (d) her, was just trying to make stuff up so that he would look better and your mom would look bad so Im happy that you called her out on that. He needs to apologize, period!
I do not think you make a good fit for TV the show or this group of women. You are like a hand scratching on a chalk board
It's been a wild ride for you this season.
I have, at times, doubted your sincerity and your presence on the show.
However, I did feel bad for you and your mom at Vicki's party when Ryan viciously attacking your mom. He was 100% wrong and he AND Brianna should apologize to you both. And him being in the military is no excuse (besides, he has always been quick to insult and speak up to Vicki in her own house when he gets agitated).
And, as you can see, Vicki will look the other way when it comes to her children and their business. She's also afraid of Brianna and Ryan--though Vicki won't cop to that either.
I also appreciated seeing your reaction (and the other women) when Vicki was on the bus talking about the "Greek Guy with teeth issues." Vicki denies it completely on the reunion but there it is--the LIVE footage captured and for all the viewers to see. Lauri isn't the liar, Vicki IS!
Hope you come back for a second season because there's got to be more to you than just your inflated rage at Slade for that somewhat small comment. Maybe, it was blown out of proportion by editing, but it did seem to be your "storyline" this season. Maybe, as a newbie, you wanted to be cool with the older, meaner women.
It sounds like you and Gretchen are in a better place and, maybe, a real friendship will develop.
It would be interesting to see more about your magazine and what goes on as it pertains to you and your husband.
Thought it was great that you called out Heather on the reunion. She has such a sense of entitlement and always acts beyond reproach. It's like she's acting like she needs to "school people" as a higher authority. You rightfully called her out ---and this is when I thought there is more to Lydia...
Lastly, hope you can see how much Tamra and Vicki manipulate the truth, and arrogantly so. Perhaps, you and Gretchen (and maybe Alexis) can team up and not let the older--and unhappier for whatever reason--women run the show.
You are definitely no "shrinking violet" and that's a good thing.
For some reason my comments aren't getting posted so I will try editing it thi time and see if that works. I can't believe Ryan got a pass because Brianna played the military card. If you are abusive and out of line, I don't care who you are, you should be held accountable. What Ryan did was wrong and egregious - PERIOD! If I were Lydia I would be more than upset.
I love Lydia; she's a great addition to the show. I totally agree with her on Briana's behavior at the reunion; she was so disrespectful and what broke my heart was when Vicki broke down and Briana didn't even come over to comfort her!!! I actually said out loud, "Come on, Briana, hug your mom!!!" I honestly think Ryan's influencing her in a negative manner, which one could see when confronted with Ryan's abusive behavior. I was expecting Briana to be remorseful and say "I'm sorry and expect a call from Ryan when he gets home." Briana totally defended Ryan's nasty behavior. I really hope Briana sees that her husband has issues and has the strength to leave. All we can do is hope and pray for her and her family.
I applaud Lydia's decision to wait until marriage to have sex. I, too, have made the decision to wait until I am married to have sex. Part of the reason is because God wants me to because a more important reason is that because sex is such a powerful things and I feel that it should be shared with someone that I have entered a marriage with. I believe that Lydia is setting a great example to those viewers who have made that decision because if Lydia can wait, other people who have made that comment can wait as well. GOD bless.
Yes, I understand Ryan is serving in our military, and he may have had too much to drink that night, but that is no excuse for vile, rude behavior. Looking back, when he was sober, should of made him realize how disgusting he was treating a guest in their home. A guest should ALWAYS be made to feel welcome and comfortable in your home, that's why it's called a "guest". Get a clue!! Briana should of owned up to Ryan's poor judgement and apologized to you and your mother at the reunion, that made her look just as bad as Ryan. BTW...Andy, can we replace Lydia next year for her mother, Judy. I just love everything about her!!!
A spin-off with Lydia and her mom!!!!!! Laughter instead of screeching would be great!!!!
Lydia, your sweet nature and good intentions helped breath new life in the show this season! Not to mention Judy is my favorite new housewife. Your family is beautiful and add a cute new dimension. I wish you had seen more of how evil Tamara and Vicki have been to Gretchen for years, because you always say you don't know anything about that. Maybe watch a few old episodes sometime? I think you have the best character of all the women, and the fact that you got so upset at the reunion speaks well for you.
Also, I really like you Lydia. You are a breath of fresh air. Hope you come back....the ladies need your positivity! God Bless!
Can anyone see that Ryan may be suffering from PTSD?!? I commend him for his sacrifice , but sadly this seems to be the outcome and what family and friends have to endure after the fact. Unfortunately until he addresses those issues Lydia's mom will not be his last victim. Good luck Briana, and do yourself a favour and do not enable this behaviour! This is not a blame game, just stating facts and hopefully something gets done about it.
Just because Ryan may be suffering from PTSD doesn't mean he couldn't offer your mother an apology later.
Lydia, I couldn't agree with you more. Brianna's response to your questions were almost as rude as her husband's behaviour towards your poor mum. As much as everyone respects and understands the pressures of military service. This cannot be a default excuse for behaving in an aggressive, threatening manner towards anybody. I think Brianna is a little madam who really just needs to grow up. Maybe one day she will realise that Ryan's treatment of your mother was appalling...maybe when that temper eventually turns torward her, which I'm afraid it will if he can't resolve his anger issues. My symapathies are with you and your mother..i would have taken further action towards Ryan if he had treated my mother that way, I think Brianna and Ryan should count themselves lucky that you haven't. xxxxx
I agree that the way Ryan acted towards your mom was completely uncalled for and out of line. In your blog, you mention that there was no excuse for the way he acted, however in one of the episodes Ryan talks about how he's seen some of the people in his bunk killed while overseas. So, there is a good chance that he could be suffering from PTSD. I disagree with the way he acted that night, but keep in mind that the things that he's seen the past few years are much more traumatic than your mom getting yelled at and that he could be suffering greatly.