First of all, Happy Canada Day! I know everyone will be celebrating the Fourth of July this week. Nothing beats fireworks, family, and freedom. Yay America! A little known fact though, July 1st is Canada Day so pour some maple syrup on your pancakes, eh? On to this week's episode. . .
Who doesn't love a day of dress shopping with all of your girlfriends, right!? I was so excited to watch Tamra try on all sorts of dresses and find the wedding gown of her dreams. Doug and I just went to her wedding a couple of weekend's ago so, it was perfect timing to watch this episode. Tamra looked beautiful in every dress she tried on. It's no wonder she choose three! (You can see all of Tamra and Eddie's wedding day bliss in September in a multi-episode special all about their big day.)
Anyway, this was the first time I'd see everyone since the Salsa Night. So on the drive up to LA, the girls asked me all about Slade's now infamous "cheeseburger" comment. Some fans have commented that they think I overreacted, and they are entitled to their opinions. However, my feelings were hurt by Slade's whispered "joke." That is my reality. I am a direct person and I told him right then and there that it is never OK for a man to put down a woman's appearance. End of story. Slade should have just said sorry and moved on, but that didn't happen, and instead it grew into more then his mere comment. It was validating to hear that the girls understood where I was coming from and affirm my feelings. I felt really supported and justified by my friends.
Lydia, you should stop trying to make yourself relevant by creating drama where there shouldn't be any. For example, the cheeseburger comment and the dancing with the stars comment. Slade said you looked beautiful. You say Slade shouldn't put down women. Didn't you call Gretchen Malibu Beach Barbie. Poor little rich girl needs to get a life.
Isn't it possible, that Gretchen, who lost her fiance not that long ago, was thinking about him since she was about to go wedding dress shopping with a friend. Going through that process again, I'd want to have a piece of my would have been husband with me to in order to get through the day.
You may occasionally speak like a Christian, but the similarity ends there. You may have come to this show in a positive light but the darkness is now upon you. This group tends to enable "tale bearing", I thought you may change some of that but instead you have transformed into a very carnal Christian.
Slade wasn't talking about you behind your back, you must have issues, and his joke about your weight wasn't to be mean. You are right about Laurie, absolutely had no business talking about Brooks to others before pulling Vicki aside
Lydia, you're stupid !!! You say "its not ok for a man to put down the way a woman looks". Yes you think its ok they way Vicki and Tamara talk about Slade and call him a dead-beat and that he dosent support his children??? Let me guess , this is what Jesus wants you to do right??? You make me sick.
O.K. miss goodie two shoes, Slade said nothing out of order it was just a joke and a compliment to you. Get over yourself.
CarmenE I had to laugh when Lydia said that because, as a whole, Canadians do notice that Americans know way less about our country and don't seem to want to know anything about what goes on outside of the USA. Canadians take great pride in our country, however we also like to know what happens in the USA and outside of North America. We are neighbours and friends. It is just the type of people we are.
That made you laugh, but it insulted many. Maybe Canadians need to learn humility. Many Canadians learn about America because you come here, just as the American's that go live in Canada, learn about them Lydia should make sure that as a Christian she does not think herself BETTER than others.
Lydia, I like the way you stood up to Slade. You go woman. And please stand up to all those other cast members. if you don't they will walk all over you. You are my fav.
Lydia hopefully after seeing yourself on the show you'll recognize that you aren't the friend fairy! You are the biggest pot stirrer! They wouldn't have you on the show if you were perfect, direct and a friend to all. You said Gretchen wearing her ring wasn't a big deal yet you asked her about it the second you saw it and though you say you don't have a dog in this race and have no real comment, you comment about it for an entire paragraph and close it with "I'm curious about her reasoning"...
The cheeseburger issue grew into more than Slade's comment bc you took it there and refused to let it go...
If you felt it was so wrong to be discussing Gretchen behind her back why didn't you say something and by the way Lydia, the ladies talk about you when you're not around so I hope you don't think you're exempt from this behavior? Those who gossip with you, gossip about you...
So far I've liked you but . . . . you're walking a very thin road. That confrontation you had with Slade was totally strange and then making fun of Gretchen? Shame on you. You seem to always be stirring this up in the hopes of looking innocent. That will only work for so long . . . be careful.
I love that you called Gretchen out for being hypocritical and not being able to let anything go. You are becoming a great addition to the show. You came in with an open mind and made decisions based on the experience you had with each woman. You made the right choices and I think you see people for who they are ie Gretchen.
I have signed up here only to say, I just love you. :) You are so funny... Favorite line tonight, 'How did this conversation come up? Its like we're skiing down the mountain and, "I heard you had a threesome..."' hahaha!
Please Lydia, move on from the cheeseburger comment! Girl, you are on the wrong show if you are that sensitive! And, please - if Gretchen wearing her engagement ring from Jeff was no big deal, then why mention it?!! You knew exactly what you were doing - stirring the pot yet again.
Eegads, Lydia, get a grip! Slade was NOT putting you down!!!!!!!!!!! He was actually trying to GAIN your affection the only way he knows how --- with a JOKE!! Shoot girl, don't get your panties in a bunch over NOTHING.
I agree with what you said about Heather, Vicki, and Tamra attacking Gretchen's character when she was not at the table and not able to defend herself.
Gee, I cannot imagine why Gretchen had doubts about going wedding dress shopping with Tamra.
You are new to this group and you may not know how vile and abusive Vicki and Tamra have be to Gretchen and Slade in the past. If you do not know the history, better for you to stay out of the situation.
Lydia, for all the niceness you claim to have I was utterly aghast at the way that you went along with Tamra and Vicki and left Gretchen and Heather in the limo. That was so wrong on so many levels. You as the honest person you claim to be should have stood up to Tamra and Vicki and confonted them about leaving Gretchen and Healther.
She said she was sorry. Why does she have to shed blood in order to receive forgiveness?
jessriabbit, are you not reading callie88's comment right??? Let me try to help you, she said she should have confronted Tamra and Vicki about leaving Gretchen and Heather. In other words, DON'T LEAVE WITH THE MEAN GIRLS, LET THEM KNOW THEY ARE DOING WRONG SINCE SHE IS SO HONEST. It would have been one thing if Heather and Gretchen made it clear that they definitely were not going with them, but they ditched them while they were in the bathroom!!! An apology with sarcasm is not an honest apology period! OK hope you got it!
Lydia, I have to say that at first I didn't like you but then I thought awww she is really nice. Then I saw your true colors coming out and knew my first instinct was correct. With that being said, you are such a trouble maker. You bring up things that don't need to be brought up and at the worse times. You act like you're the friendship fairy but you were so quick to jump on the "ditch Heather and Gretchen" wagon with Vicki it was sickening and so catty and high school. Then your apology was so fake. I wanted to smack you in your weird looking face. You definitely over reacted to Slade's comment. It was cute and actually a compliment like he said. If you were 300lbs and he called you cheeseburger then I could see you taking offense but I just think you didn't like him to begin with because you know about his riff with Vicki and you are so stuck up her ass and dying to be her BFF that you immediately got mad. It does not matter what he said you would of had a problem with it. If all the girls suddenly loved Gretchen and Slade to death you would follow that too. You are Fake, a Follower, and a wannabe!!! I too hope this is your only season.
jessie6975 I was thinking the same thing myself. The first time I noticed it was at the after party Heather had for being on Hot in Cleveland when she asked Vicki if Tamra and Vicki had a chance to talk after the name calling incident at the wine tasting. No the right place to question that.
Lydia, I do generally think you're a breath of fresh air on the show, but i do find some of your behavior interesting. You are awfully quick to react, calling people out on perceived slights... I appreciate your forthrightness, and you definitely have a right to express how you're feeling, but there is something to be said for timing. If you're truly trying to resolve the issue and move the situation forward, there is a lot to be said for how and when you approach it. Just an observation.
The other thing that I noticed is that you went out of your way to encourage Alexis to talk with Tamra and Heather, but I have never once seen you encourage her to work things out with Gretchen. I do think you come from a good place, but I was genuinely surprised when you said something about "all being together as a happy family" while dress shopping for Tamra, when that was clearly not the case. Have you encouraged Alexis to talk with Gretchen? I do think you are coming form a good place, but you really have encouraged everyone to get along.
Lydia, the next time your feelings get hurt, I want you to rip them apart like you did to Slade and like you do to your mother. You sure do like being "justified " whenever you go after somebody's jugular. Your apology to Gretchen was as phony as you are. Your sole reason for living is to make sure you let Gretchen and Slade know how horrible thy are. Good luck with your BFF's, they'll tear you apart if you befriend Lauri or Gretchen. I wouldn't keep bragging about anything right now. You are sort of a big joke.
Lydia, you have a beautiful body and why be so insecure? I have been very thin and have heard all the comments. Don't you know by now that most people are just jealous of thin people? Come on, I really think that you are judging Slade too harshly. He didn't mean to hurt you at all. I really like you, Lydia, you are refreshing, have an awesome husband and mother and the most beautiful eyes I've seen in a while. Please forgive Slade and don't hold onto this stupid comment. I truly believe that he meant nothing negative - he just said the wrong words. Guys are so stupid sometimes. I used to take the too skinny comments to heart and let it get to me as well, and now I realize that I was so lucky to be so skinny. Show it off with pride. You go girl!!
I wouldn't talk about her body or weight, especially if you are male. She might hunt you down and rip you apart.
I thought you were a little more evolved than the other girls until I saw that episode. You practically jumped down Slade's throat. It didn't come across like he was being secretive and certainly it is a complement to be thin in this culture. Then, by calling him a tool, you showed that you are just as petty as the others. I really want some one to show high moral character and stay out of the fray. You can still redeem yourself, but think of how you portray yourself when you are so hard on someone else. Nobody is perfect. On a positive note, I really like how you owned you mother's behavior and didn't shy away from explaining it and how it effected you.
Lydia, You are spending WAY too much time on the "hamburger" comment. Get over it or we might think that you don't have enough to think about.
Lidia, I think you shouldn't have said anything to slade. He wanted to be funny and he just made himself look like a jerk. I tell you this, because if anyone heard him say that to gretchen they would have assumed how mean and stupid this man is; by you calling it out, it made him feel important that you acknowledge him. You should have called him aside and told him "you did not appreciated that and not to say something so stupid like that, to you ever again". That would have made him think twice before joking about you or anyone close to you.
Some people don't deserve so much attention, because that is exactly what they are looking for.
Don't let anyone put you down.
You seem like a good person and a good friend. God made only one of you. Be proud.
Lydia, as long as your mom's not babysitting or driving what's wrong with her smoking some bud. I love your mom. She's awesome. I'd love to smoke a fatty with her. Based on what I've seen of her on the show, I can tell your mom and I would get along like peas and carrots. Treasure your family. Anyway as far as Slade I feel the "cheeseburger" comment is much ado about nothing. I really don't think he meant any disrespect to you. He just has a big mouth sometimes, call in foot in mouth disease. I do respect you for standing up for yourself but I think you're making more about this than needs to be. If Slade's comment is your biggest problem in life, consider yourself royally blessed by God. I wish I had your petty problems....wanna trade??
Hey Lydia, Americans are acutely aware of Canada as well as all the Canadians who desert their country for a better life here, like yourself. I hope this is your last and only season as a housewife because you're as entertaining as a two-year old. Cute at first but once you start your wailing you get annoying real quick.
mpaigemax Um, I think we should consider the possibility that Lydia's parents moved to SoCal and brought her with them. Apparently, she went to middle school in the La Jolla area. It's bizarre to accuse her of "deserting" Canada along with the droves of other Canadian refugees you suggest have fled here. I cannot imagine what you are implying about Lydia and Canada. Also, I doubt most Americans give Canada a second thought. If they do, they should feel warm and fuzzy. Our neighbor to the north has been one of our staunchest allies.