Once we returned home from Mexico, I decided I wanted to plan a party for everyone. The girls have all been so sweet and welcoming and I wanted to host an event. I love celebrating life with the people I love. I am a goofy kind of girl and I love a good theme party. I think it is fun to get all dressed up and not take yourself too seriously.
Since we had just returned from Mexico I came up with the salsa theme. I thought it would be fun to all learn to salsa dance together. In Mexico, Heather had mentioned that she didn't want to come to my party if Alexis was coming. She said she felt like it would create an awkward vibe and she didn't want to ruin my party.
Once we got home, I decided to call Heather and see if I could encourage her to come. I have become part of this "clique" of ladies. However, I want my friend Alexis around too. I missed her in Mexico. Walking into the CUT party, I didn't know the dynamics between the ladies. However, now I feel like I have my own friendships with them and I'm confident that enough time has passed where they could all be in the same room again without an explosion.
Tamra and Alexis have made up. I know Heather can be civil and so I made the call to Heather to see if she would reconsider and come. I am really thankful Heather did. The party wouldn't have been the same without her and I didn't want to choose between the girls. Heather wasn't making me choose since she took herself out of the equation, but I wanted everyone to get along and be there.
I know you have to do something to get some attention but this is making a mountain out of a mole hill. He didn't say anything about your looks. You like to create trouble by calling everyone out for something! Maybe your mother smoked too much pot when she was pregnant with you!!
You are an instigator. You create trouble and call people out all the time. It is RUDE! There are more appropriate ways to confront someone and you need to learn them. Rudeness does not mean being upfront with people. Get a clue.
Lydia, people change over the years you came onto the show listening to other people and already had a bad opinion of Slade. Agreed to other comments stop listening to Vicki!
So your comment about Gretchen "Malibu Barbie" is not any better than Slade. Grow up, let it go and stop listening to Vicki!
lafield09 I, totally, agree with you. Lydia is such a hypocrite. She treated Slade and Gretchen very badly and they were GUESTS in her home. So young and so immature.
I have never understood how people feel it is okay to tell someone that they need to eat more, or they are too skinny, but if you tell someone they need to put down that cheeseburger or that they are too fat, you are in the wrong! Weight issues, whether you have problems keeping weight on or keeping it off, should be handled with a little bit of sensitivity..period!
@smmtty I get your point, but it is because society values one (being thin), and abhors the other (being overweight). One is something most of us aspire to, the other something we fear and dread. When folks see someone who is very thin (especially in OC) it doesn't register they have an eating problem. You assume this is the look they are going for and are lucky enough to have achieved. The one thing that Lydia said that I didn't believe was that no one has ever mentioned her weight to her before in that kind of manner. I find impossible that as thin as she is, she has never had anyone joke around about it before.
Teresaisnuts smmtty It is rude to discuss women's bodies in the way that Slade did, period. I hope that Gretchen realizes that she isn't a immune to becoming a punchline herself. She better not ever get too skinny or too fat or too anything for that matter.
Slade and Gretchen tried to explain that he was NOT the one who said Vicki looked like Miss Piggy, Lydia. You wouldn't hear them, and said "I see what you are"...really? I think you need to see who YOU are. You have had it in for Gretchen from the day you walked on set, and take whatever anyone says about her as "gospel" (pun intended!). I love how those who say we shouldn't be judgmental, are the MOST judgmental. I was ready to like you, Lydia, and you do have a pretty good sense of humor but it is outweighed by all your criticism of everyone, starting with your Mother.
rinneree He didn't say it but he used it to make a comedy skit out of. He put a spotlight on it and he called Tamra fat. I agree that Lydia was wrong for calling Gretchen Malibu Barbie. But the fact that Lydia was wrong does NOT mean that Slade was right.
I was really ready to like you until the Gretchen and Slade thing. I don't understand how far you took the cheese burger comment. It wasn't that serious. You told him you're hurt by his comments he apologized. What do you want his kidney? When you make a mistake you want people to get over it ASAP. But you don't give what you want (forgiveness).
I agree with Slade. You seriously need lots of cheeseburgers! I am sorry for this but tonight is the first night I have watched Housewives since last season and I was truly shocked when I watched the show. You seriously need to look in a mirror. Your looks and attitude are not appealing at all. Every time the show spot lighted you, I cringed. It truly hurt to look at you! Please work on your looks before criticizing others!!!
Did you sincerely apologize to Gretchen for calling her Malibu Barbie? Or for your rude comments in the limo? Your apology was as insincere as a 3 dollar bill.! Dont throw rocks if you live in a glass castle.
mmcruz5 Right on. Lydia's awfully easily wounded for someone that absolutely radiates judgment - she can dish it out but she can't take it. She is supremely and utterly convinced of her moral high ground any time she has a disagreement with anyone. It is vexing to watch.
Absolutely right! Lydia acts as if she is untouchable royalty!
And she does need to get to a healthier weight.
You need to accept that you were innapropriate in Mexico and you hurt Gretchen's feelings. Your attitude in the limo was deplorable. Take ownership of your own issues before you expect others to do the same. You talk behind your friend's back and other people's back and then condemn them for doing the same. You are called to a higher standard. And you are no measuring up right now. Stop bickering with Slade and Gretchen and pay more attention to your own behavior. That is how you can be light in the middle of darkness.
I think you standing up not only for yourself at the salsa party, but for Vicki as well, is admirable. I think it is disgusting for Slade to go after women's looks and appreciate that you called him out for it. I find you to be a level-headed and fun-loving gal and love the new dimension you bring to the show!
Lydia is a trouble maker, in Mexico she goes and leaves Heather and Gretchen. Then in the limo she was very rude with her comments. Then at Tamras' party in Mexico she can't stay, but dances on bars, walks the streets and drinks!! I feel she is being hypocritical, make up your mind and take a stand on what you will and won't do. Plus you mom spokes pot, which to me is not a big deal, but it is not the norm for a child to have a mom do that. That doesn't give someone the opportunity to make fun of and talk about you. So you should be a little more tolerant of people and what they say and do. I still don't know if I like or don't like you.
colpep41 I agree! Lydia calls her mom a stoner and she looks like a tweaker. I really hope Brovo lets her go and brings in a real housewife.
@colpep41 Hello - Heather and Gretchen kept saying they wanted to go home and go to bed. They were just mad because the other ladies wanted to, and did, go out and have fun!!!
Slade should have apologized even if he didn't make the comment maliciously. The fact that it upset you should have been more than enough to make him take a step back and say "I'm sorry. I didn't mean to offend you." Done. But in classic Slade style, he continued to make excuses and come up with reasons why he wasn't wrong. I've personally always thought that he was a poor excuse for a man. I still don't know what Gretchen sees in him. The fact that he sat in a corner with Heather's husband discussing her and other women in bed was revolting.
Time to get rid of Slade, Gretchen, and Lydia its boring tv. Plus I find Lydia too puerile to watch for any length of time it's very annoying !
How is Slade calling you cheeseburger behind your back any different from you calling Gretchen Malibu Barbie behind her back? You say you are direct and never talk behind anyone's back, but your actions prove otherwise. To me, this whole "I'm a direct, straight-shooter who NEVER talks behind AYONE's back" persona seems like something you just decided you wanted to be for the cameras.
I think her marijuana smoking mom blew a bit too much "fairy dust" in her face as a child for her to be so critical and insecure about herself when truly there is no need. She is a pretty girl but as well all know.....pretty is as pretty does. I hope you don't get pulled in when all the name calling and taking one side or the other starts and it looks like you have an idea which side you've chosen to be on already. You're already about 1/2 way up Vicki's....well, let's just say nose so we don't get nasty because as she's said so many times, Lydia is a real Christian and although wouldn't stay to see strippers in the hotel room, didn't hesitate to go to the Mexican bar where I'm sure there were much more shady things happening that didn't get on camera. What do you say Lydia? Wanna share some of those pics at the bar and let us in on what was going on there. Oh, and that wasn't very Christian of you to ditch Gretchen and Heather and not think twice about it. I was raised a Christian and I didn't see anywhere in the Bible where it said only be nice to someone when it is convenient! Shame on you Ms. McLaughlin. I'm sorry we share the same last name.
I loved that you said "I see what (or who) you are". It's true that he tries to deflect his rude and catty (is a man catty or a cad?) comments off as humorous when confronted.
You were right to call Slade out. Why is it okay for him or anyone else to comment on you and then try to cover it up. He just should have said it directly to you. Isn't it funny that both Gretchen and Slade hate people talking about them but they do it to others. KARMA
Lydia, love that you call it as you see it at the moment "it" occurs ... and don't wait to another time to whisper behind the others back. Your calling out Slade and Gretchen (she thought it was fine to whisper behind you back until they were called out) on the whole commenting on your and others physical appearance was great. You re keeping it real .... also loved it when you told Slade you "got him" meaning how he never takes responsibility for anything that he says or does - he is the school boy whose dog constantly ate his homework.
MiaAmore I actually think How Lydia "calls out" people in the exact moment in front of everyone is quite childish and seemingly insecure, not such a classy good look for lydia.
MiaAmore Theres a time and place, not screeching out "What did you just say about me"? Not classy at all.
I think Lydia is a big girl and realizes that the more dramatic her responses are to the nastiness that is Slade the more relevant she will be on this show. That is the goal behind the drama in this franchise isn't it? To remain relevant and entertaining when the cameras are rolling. However, I agree with Neszoe's comment. If you have nothing good to say then don't say anything. The fact that that Lydia's husband was discussing his wife's weight issue doesn't license Slade to have a tear at Lydia. Sure who wants to hear 'lay off the cheeseburgers' as opposed to 'have a cheeseburger', but both comments are hurtful and imply that your physique is unattractive and that is not nice.
While you intentionally "stir the pot" I was certainly content to see someone finally call Slade out. What bothered me most about the entire interaction was the was Slade's non verbal body language. He stepped forward towards you in an attempt to intimidate you. Good for you for not backing down from him. He's just pathetic.
December89 Thanks for reminding me about his aggressive body language. Yes to this entire post.
Wow, if you aren't the pot calling the kettle black. Can someone PLEASE send her back to Kindergarten?!?!?! I can't take her anymore.
Lydia, I thought you were a breath of fresh air to the housewife mix but after your comment about the "Malibu Barbie" you may want to study up on giving into the flesh. The comment was mean... just as you intended.
He told you to eat a cheeseburger. Big deal. You should have zinged him back and smiled in that passive aggressive way that you seemed to have mastered. Turn it around. He's not perfect. Either are you.
I loved the Malibu Beach Barbie comment, it's time that someone called both Gretchen and Sleazy Slade on their comments and actions. Slade has always made comments behind the other women's backs. But then Slade needs a reason to stay on the show and draw a paycheck, other than just being Gretchen's "gopher".
Little-T Whatever you may think of Gretchen and Slade, neither have done anything to warrant Lydia's behavior towards them. Lydia is out of line.
Lydia is out of line how? Both Gretchen and Slade talk behind everyone's back and make rude comments, she just called them on it in public. Good for her. Maybe Slade should worry about how Gretchen eats, she's getting a little to thin and boney. We, including Lydia, are entitled to our own opinions.
Little-T You are not getting it. Lydia, at this juncture in the season, having not watched the previous seasons and having little interaction with Gretchen up until this point in the season, would not have been privy to the alleged behavior that you are citing. So she is either going off of second/third hand information or she's a nasty person. You must remember, she didn't watch the show and doesn't know what you know, so she has little reason to act the way she has towards them.
brendawalsh It isn't about the past so much as it's about present. Lydia referenced the past to show that Slade has a nasty habit of criticizing women's appearances. But the past isn't what she is upset about; she was obviously upset about him mocking her weight. She was right to call him out. Even if he didn't make the comment maliciously, the fact that he didn't apologize when he hurt Lydia's feelings and the fact that he continued to justify his actions was disgusting. Slade is a pig. He stood in a corner only moments before comparing his sex life with Gretchen to his sex life with other women he had been with (including some who happened to be in the room). Tasteless.