Tamra Barney

Tamra regrets making fun of Vicki's face and explains the transition of moving in with Eddie.

on Apr 5, 20130

Hello everyone, and I hope you enjoyed the first episode.

We moved in with Eddie and couple weeks after getting engaged. . .me, Sidney, Sophia, Spencer, Bronx (dog) and our three birds. Our plan was to live together for a year to make sure the kids got adjusted and everyone was OK with their new living situation before we got married. You can Imagine how scared I was the first three months of living together. Eddie is a VERY disciplined guy, you can tell by his amazing body at 40 and work ethic. Growing up with very little as a child he takes pride in his accomplishments and pays great attention to detail. Controlling was clearly not the word I was searching for -- maybe anal retentive?

Eddie has never had kids of his own and now there are three kids running the house with backpacks, shoes, and toys laying around the house. I would make myself crazy following the kids around making sure everything was picked up, lights were off, beds were made, the dog was fed, etc. About three months into it Eddie said to me, "Babe you need to stop! Let things happen so we as a family can fix them. Nothing will get get fixed if you keep doing it yourself." Truth was I was afraid I was going to scare Eddie off and upset the kids if Eddie had to discipline them. I was so afraid of a Simon versus Ryan repeat.

It's been over a year since we moved in together and although it took a while for everyone to adjust we are very happy and well adjusted. . .and YES Eddie lost the battle of NO shoes in the house.

309 comments
Violet12
Violet12

Here I am watching the new episode and there you go again - insults - you have some nerve to talk about Alexis - have you watched yourself from the beginning when this show aired!!!!

I am so on the side of your ex-husband now - you need therapy!   Vicki should run far away from you and your rudeness.  You are a mean girl

 

joy2daworld
joy2daworld

I"m glad to see you and Vicki reconciling. I hope you two can just keep your friendship stronger than ever.

Philsbelle
Philsbelle

I LOVE the maxi dress you were wearing when you met Vicki at CUT. I believe it had beiges with turquoise big stripes horizontally. What brand is it?? Gotta have one!!!!

kevche44
kevche44

I actually just wanted to ask what brand sunglasses you were wearing they are very cute! Wont ask about any of the negative.

k217
k217

i believe it is wrong to bring children into a living together arrangement.   but then you always do seem to put yourself number one.   and yes, your taiking about your 51% is already very annoying.   i used to think eddie seemed like a good guy, but his telling you not to reconcile with vicki is just plain wrong.  i don't care about his reasons.  you and vicki were BFFs for years.  don't let your petty emotions stop you.  and who cares what eddie and gretchen think?  it's your business, you don't need to solicit everyone else's opinions.  gretchen is worried about losing her new BFF status.  lastly, are you certain that pit bill dog is ok around your children?  i am sure he is a sweet dog, but sadly many have said that until something awful happens.  

embr8cethejourney
embr8cethejourney

Tamra, I have enjoyed watching you as you've grown since your divorce.  A new relationship/life has it's own set of growing pains and I wish you and Eddie the best of luck in everything.  Nobody is perfect and when we're angry many of us say hateful, spiteful things because we're HURT.  I don't think that makes you a mean girl, I think that makes you human.  We all say things we regret, we all make snarky comments before we think about them, but a good friend knows your heart better than everyone and will know if and when you're responding out of hurt and anger and if and when you're sincere in your apology.  Nobody is perfect and I'd love to dissect the perfect lives of everyone who says you're mean.  There's been a LOT of mean stuff thrown around on these shows by almost everyone. It doesn't necessarily define the person, but it's a lot more obvious when there's a microscope put on it and it's edited to the nines.  Anyone who's been through major life changes like a divorce/being a single parent/starting a new relationship as a single parent, knows that it comes along with emotions you couldn't even imagine existed.  I don't think you and Vicki talking makes you fake or her fake or anything, you're clearly 2 people who have been friends for a long time, both have been hurt and you're trying to work through it.  I wish you luck w/that!  You look better than ever, absolutely gorgeous and good luck to you with your fitness studio. 

Dcooper@jhsph.edu
Dcooper@jhsph.edu

Tamara, you talked numerous times about Simon(your ex) and his control issues.  But you are acting just like him.  Sometimes we bring our old bad baggage into a new relationship.  Stop trying so hard and things will work themselves out.  Eddie seems to really love you and he understands this is a different life with you and your kids, dog, etc., etc.  Respect, Prayer, Love and some patience, can fix any situation.   Be happy your entitled.  Also, why are you so mean to the other woman, your not perfect by any means,  In previous years I have though of you as a little low life, and small thinking but you seem to have it together at some points.   Stop starting trouble with other people and enjoy your blessings in life!!!!

Samson44
Samson44

And did you "miss" Vicki?  I didn't get that at all.  Looked like you were just having fun making fun of her behind her back, being "open" to her face, then turning around and being mean about her again. 

lovelymimi
lovelymimi

Tamra,

 

Did you not get the memo last season that no one is fooled by your fake crying?! At Heathers dinner when Vicki said you weren't there for her durning her divorce, all of a sudden you got up, fake cried, and said "I can't do this"... Do what???? Is it that you couldn't come up with a response fast enough, or is it that you couldn't admit that Vicki was right???


merry5
merry5

Not normal for a 45 year old middle age woman to be so mean and catty about looks.  Even if reality show, to say something so hurtful on national tv?  You get fillers and botox so what is the problem?  

Ldenver
Ldenver

Immature, classes and Mean...you are ruining this show....

laurator
laurator

Tamara, Guess what!!  You dont have to be mean or talk bad about other people in order for someone to like you.  Get some help for your esteem issues .

V1020
V1020

Look at your comments below, look at all the webs you weave, how people are DIVIDED by you and your two mouths.  You and Gretchen are definitely doing your jobs, keeping people watching the show BUT .... is this REALLY who you want to be?

vesnaMI
vesnaMI

Tamra, after 45 years you should know that making snaky comments about Vicky's look especially behind her back is classless and rude - no excuses! And you used to be BFFs...

 

It was interesting to hear your reasons for creating all that drama around Brooks - you were trying to figure him out and because he was saying and doing all the right things, you thought he was not being honest! Really, that's it?  You would need something bigger to justify your bad and mean behavior and breaking the friendship (although I do think that Vicky is better off you, since you have never been a true friend to her)! Btw, I didn't hear you telling Edy to shut up when he was giving you advice on not to be friends with ("lying and cheating") Vicky, what Eddie was saying to you is no better what Brooks was telling Vicky.

 

One more thing, unless other things were said and not aired last night, you and Gretchen completely twisted what Vicky said about not dating Brooks. It's impossible to lie without being caught when it's all on tape, think about it, you are a smart woman, you should know better.

nbeck
nbeck

You and Gretchen acted like mean girls at Heather's party.  You have definately changed since hanging out with Gretchen and not for the better.  I think you should watch yourself and see how you act.  To think your a mother and this is the model for your daughters is really sad.  Vicki is a great person and she may not always say or do the right thing but she does not deserve to be treated the way you are treating her. You should be ashamed of yourself and your behavior.  I thought it was funny too how you told Vicki Eddie would never tell me what to do blah blah blah and there he is telling you who to be friends with.  Very Sladish!  Hopefully you get back to who you use to be.

Lhaywood
Lhaywood

Tamra,

 

I am not a big fan never have been because you are a mean girl, nasty and very immature.  I was gaining some respect when you realized Gretchen wasn't so bad and you stopped being jealous of her.  Stop blurting mean things out of your mouth, stop judging (or ye shal be judged and you won't like the verdict). Try to be nicer

TheWayISeeIt
TheWayISeeIt

Why is it, Tamra, that you're at the heart of each argument? It's been Tamra vs. (fill in the blank) pretty much every season and it's exhausting. There's got to be so much unhappiness and hatred inside of you, as you obviously feel the need to be on the attack with someone at all times. MYOB and live your own life. Why can't you be happy unless you're putting someone else down? You have two daughters, for gosh sakes! How would you like someone tormenting them like you've done to others?! Would it be OK for your kids to be tormented by a fellow classmate as long as the person did it because they were "just saying it like it is" or "I'm just being honest!" (your usual BS reasoning excusing your hideous behavior). How many people do you have to make miserable and drive to tears? There is something seriously wrong with you.

liz.regan1
liz.regan1

I happen to be in the bookstore the other day pick up a dictionary and look up the word "Mean" and guess what your picture was next to it. 

joyceelaine
joyceelaine

Tamra, you are one of my favorites, I miss how close you and Vickie where and hope you can repair it. We all have friend we have disagree with, that's just being honest, but you women have been such good friends for such a long time and very close.Good friends will always be there for you threw think & think. Please work on you and Vickie! had, Great Times! All friends fight and get over it.The ball is in your court..take baby steps! Try ti get Grethen on board, you ladies are one of  the best groups on Tv, IM glad you have found the amazing man you have found and good times are on your way! Every over one make, just be there for them and help them to pick of the pieces.

saiz7
saiz7

I think you are moving to fast you would think after bad marriage you would take time for your self what's the hurry marriage is a serious thing.

Lisasmacky
Lisasmacky

MEAN MEAN MEAN MEAN MEAN MEAN MEAN.  I went from liking you to feeling like you're a selfish, immature baby!  You have kids!  Ask yourself; how would you feel if some girls were huddled together talking and whispering in plain view of her, ABOUT HER LOOKS?!?!  Disgusting!

Ruaca
Ruaca

I am curious why you felt the need to put a spin on your conversation with Vicky when talking with Eddie? The version you shared with him was completely opposite of what I saw. You seemed to be ashamed to admit you wanted to be friends with her and that you initiated it. I was confused. My first reaction was... You were afraid of how Eddie was going to react and wanted to appease him. Possibly, he is more controlling than originally thought? If you're afraid to speak your truth then I fear you're going to have the same issues you had in your previous relationship. Be honest. You wanted to be friends again, you missed her, you reached out to her and you apologized. You made it sound so different, it was weird.

mp.212
mp.212

Tamara, congrats to you and Eddie on your fitness studio! I'm sure it will be a big success! I'm glad that you agree that "controlling" was the wrong word to use in reference to Eddie's personality. While we viewers obviously don't see everything behind closed doors, we do watch the show and I'm sorry but him wanting you to take off your shoes when going upstairs and shutting the lights off when they are not needed is NOT controlling. If anything, you are a little too controlling hun. Don't get me wrong, I think it's amazing that you are so head-strong, you know what you want and you refuse to settle! i just think your previous marriage to Simon still affects you, in the sense that you are extremely (borderline overly) analytical of your "new" relationship, and make continuous comparisons between the two, which I know is a competely normal thing to do. However, you have to realize Eddie WILL make some mistakes, just as you yourself will. It's just how you two deal with them that should be the "deciding factor" of your relationship. Looks to me like it's going rather well! :)

Beckyy
Beckyy

Tamara, I thought when you divorced Simon you had finally got some ball/guts and grew up.  You seem to have just gotten rude and obnoxious.  For YOU as a grown woman to make fun of someone (who was once your best friend) is so sad.  As the previous person said, you keep saying you wanted the best for Vicki but you were rude and cruel to both her and Brooks.  Vickie is a grown woman and has the right to date or marry anyone she wants to.  You should have just been there for her and KEPT YOUR BIG MOUTH SHUT.  You have become a "big mouth" instigator.  Eddie doesn't need to tell you who you should have as a friend....you got that from Simon.....  Oh, did you say you moved in with Simon or Eddie?

piperoni
piperoni

I think by mid-season you will be kinder to Vicki and Alexis. i keep saying will she ever be nice like on season 3.season 4 with you and Gretchen is when it got mean.i think all of you ladies will get along because Lydia and Alexis will teach you a few things.Well Gretchen not sure! I do not think you 2 are true friends.

ImTuckersMom
ImTuckersMom

Shame on you Tamra...I'm surprised you actually realize you are 45...and the only proof is that you look every day of it.  Every time I think you could not be more fake and juvenile...POW!  You top yourself.  Grow up.

chrisdan
chrisdan

I don't understand how Eddie does not see through Tamra. It nauseates me to see how he ignores her catty behavior. Wake up Eddie!

Sjomohr
Sjomohr

How does no one see how you always suck up to the new woman on the show, or the most popular and one with the strongest footing in the group? What? Are you 12? You act like a teen mean girl. Grow up.

divamom0126
divamom0126

Here we go again......apologing in blog after blog about a stupid, meangirl, immature comment that you "regret."  Perhaps instead of always having to apologize, you should think about what the hell you are saying.  You are far from funny and completely insincere.  YUCK!

monkeylikebanana
monkeylikebanana

Tamra, you know that saying cream rises to the top?  It was not meant for you.  No matter how many layers of makeup or pieces of hair or jewelry you'r wearing, what is inside comes out, and it isn't pretty.  Your behavior at the clambake was crass.   Just for the record, Vickie has always been prettier than you. 

globarn@@
globarn@@

Tamara is a trouble maker. She is classless.

Pacific
Pacific

Eddie is a control freak. Watch out, you may have traded one abusive man for a younger version of same. That said, you are one drama mama. Lay off the sauce and you may be able to have more restraint. Not the time nor the place to have a chat with Vicky at the clam bake.

peqn8
peqn8

Tamra you’re the phony one!

leenelvis
leenelvis

Tamara - I like you and think you are funny.  But you were way over the top in meanness last season to Vicki about Brooks - How would you like that if she did that to you -- oh wait she did- with you and Simon.

Passion8Lily
Passion8Lily

Tamara,

I'm so happy that you and Gretchen are now friends. I've enjoyed you on the show more than ever now that you two are buds! Both of you just light up the show :) Congrats to you and Eddie and may your wedding planning be a lot less stressful than mine was! Looking forward to the season :)

cdavis5125
cdavis5125

 @merry5 I agree.  Tamra you are mean and nasty.  I can't help but see how you've evolved throughout the show.  When you first came on, you looked normal, you acted normal.  Now you think you are all that!!  You've changed and not for the better, that's for sure

 

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @V1020 Not really!! I literally fast forward through the Gretchen Tamara scenes!!!

Ldenver
Ldenver

 @joyceelaine So joyceelaine....you enjoy watching mean girls bully people and make fun of them like mean school girls?....SAD..

JenTeamTre
JenTeamTre

 @Ruaca Yeah because Eddie won't ever see the episode and KNOW she lied and what a liar she is..she is showing her TRUE character..I love how the tides are turning..they all went too far bullying Alexis and now everyone sees the REAL Tamra and Gretchen..FINALLY!!

Ldenver
Ldenver

 @Ruaca That is because she is a lier...she can not tell Eddie the truth..or she will loose her latest money bags...

laurator
laurator

look, Vicki isnt perfect but she is beautiful inside and out, tender hearted and sweet.....hope she stays away from tamara

dobnerk
dobnerk

 @leenelvis Let's face it, Tamra rarely has anything nice to say about anyone or anything.  She's been exactly the same horrible person since day 1.  I'd recommend that you check your standards.  I see Tamra as the most mean spirited of all the housewives in all the cities.  

coloitalian
coloitalian

 @Passion8Lily Really?  I don't get it.  I never even got where people thought she was funny.  At best, she tried to imitate Bethany Frankel's wit (even mimicing some of her phrases) and couldn't pull it off.

dobnerk
dobnerk

 @Passion8Lily Are you serious?  This absolutely has to be a joke!  They give a wholr new definition to mean girl.