Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki clears up Briana's living situation, Ryan's security cameras, and her relationship with Brooks.

on Apr 30, 20130

Seeing the episode tonight of Tamra's gym party, it makes me sad how crazy it got. It was never my intention to bring Alexis to cause drama -- it was only because I was trying to help the situation and mend fences. Tamra knew that my intentions were pure and to see her say differently in my interviews was sad. Oh well, it's in the past and we've moved on from it now. It just stinks to see it being replayed when it happened so long ago.

I didn't know what was being talked about when I went out to see Alexis, and to see Gretchen's smart comments and clapping her hands when she left was just rude. I sure hope that never happens to her, because its very hurtful. I think Alexis was genuinely coming from a good place by showing up, and it's too bad the other girls couldn't see that.

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Cynthia225
Cynthia225

Should a thug be allowed to verbally and hatefully abuse Lydia's mother, simply because he is a soldier? Not in my opinion. His behavior was explosive and frightening and then Briana's behavior just poured salt on the wound. Horrible, horrible people...Vicky included.

Cynthia225
Cynthia225

Her daughter and son-in-law, two disgusting liars. She should be completely ashamed of them.

Anne49@btv
Anne49@btv

I WANT to know why Ryan's verbal and uncalled for assault on Lydia's mom is being swept under the carpet

michelle.mccall
michelle.mccall

And Ryan felt upset that he was disrespected, well, that's something you earn and needless to say he hasn't He deserves absolutely no RESPECT. I don't care how much stress under that's no excuse.  So what's going to to happen next time he's stressed out, who's he going to abuse?  His behavior makes Slade look good which is no small feat.  I can hardly bear to see his face.  Let's see if he has the balls to go off on a man like that.  If so, he may get the butt beating he deserves.  

michelle.mccall
michelle.mccall

In the beginning I thought Brianna and Ryan had your best interest in mind where Brooks was concerned considering the rumors and behavior, because honestly I'm not sure about him either.  That said, Ryan's behavior at your party was inexcusable.  He lied to everyone about what happened and was said.  So on top of being a controlling jerk, he's a liar with serious issues.  I've always loved Brianna however was very disappointed to hear her defending his behavior because there's ABSOLUTELY no excuse for it.  Get them out of your house.  Brianna should focus on the issues and behavior of her own husband who's a complete but job.  I wouldn't want him near me, my daughter or my grandchild.  For god's sake he bullied and was abusive towards a 60 year old woman who's such a sweet person.  He's disgusting and deplorable. 

Hopefull92
Hopefull92

Vicky I work in the mental health field.  Ryan needs serious help.  Brianna needs help for accepting this behavior.  I hope when  scene at the party  is replayed to you and your family, everyone sees the truth of what happen.  Remember he outright lied to you, your daughter and everyone else regarding the exchange. The anger that Ryan is expressing, the way he got into a 60 something year old womans face? How he was a complete bully?  The look in his eyes looking like he could have punched her if it wasn't for the camera, his controlling abusive behavior, I worry for your daughter and grandchild.  It is really scary. 

jane.robertson.5832
jane.robertson.5832

Vicki, I think you are a very lovely lady and a caring mom, but I was so shocked by the way Ryan acted at ur party. I hate to think if he acts like that on camera what he is like off camera. I pray for your daughter what if she disagrees with him on anything. You have worked very hard in your insurance business and have earned your own respect from the both of them. I know how hard it is to let them move into their own place. If they are old enough to make a family they are old enough to live on their own. You can still be a incredible grandma to to Troy, by babysitting, visiting with him and going out on outing like a great grandmas would do. I hope all goes better for you all with a lowered stress level next year.

Muffie239
Muffie239

Your daughter should be ashamed of herself. She started this whole thing by talking about you to her husband. He thinks hes entitled to take over your house. I can't believe it.  Girl take your house back.Let them move and go visit the baby. Listen to your brother. Briana is using the baby to control you.

Muffie239
Muffie239

Vicki Vicki. What in the world. Why are letting Ryan take over your house. I'm sorry but sometimes you have to let your kids go, especially when your house guest is telling you what to do. Your daughter is manipulating the whole Brooks situation. She also looks like she is scared of her husband. He looks like a monster. And the episode tonight was a mess. He disrespected an elderly woman at your home. Go rewind the tape. Ryan lied. Your son in law was talking about you to Gretchen and Slade at your party. How dare him. Vicki if you want to be with Brooks, then be with Brooks. Your daughter is married now. She needs to move out. You are so unhappy now because of your daughter. Throw them out.

Kazawi
Kazawi

Ryan seems,to be controlling and manipulative. If he is this abusive while the cameras are rolling I fear for Brianna behind closed doors. She seemed awfully defensive of his unreasonable behavior as if she were going to get it later if she didn't defend him. I love and respect my husband but would never blindly defend him if he was acting like a jack*ass. I would call him on it discretely or remove him from the situation. You don't blindly defend someone's crazy behavior. That's enabling or fear right there.

smerc1949
smerc1949

Vickie, when are you going to stand up to Ryan? You do all this big talk to your friends about what you are going to say to him, but you never say it. You act like you are scared of him. He is a hot tempered smart ass that's only going to get worse with time. You need to make a stand now. Just be prepared for him to dangle the baby like a carrot on a strig and threaten to keep you from seeing him. Threaten him with grandparents court. He has no right to say who can come to your house or what they can and can't do when they get there.  He was a total embarrassment on tonights episode. You need to watch the rerun and see how many people he was disrespectful to. I can't believe Brianna let him talk to you the way he does. Let him know he will never be the man in your house

C-D
C-D

Vicki said she was uncomfortable with the cameras that her son-in-law, Ryan, installed at her house.  She said the cameras made her feel like she is being watched.  Vicki, what are you thinking?  A successful business woman, who is on a reality show and a public figure, should have had those cameras in place several years ago.  Security and safety is serious business for someone in your position.  Ryan, appropriately took matters into his own hands by looking out for your safety and installed the cameras and security system, but you whined about his actions.   Not cool!  You should have been flattered that he cared.

Od34t1na
Od34t1na

I don't always agree with Vicki but as far as setting boundaries on who she can date or who comes to her house is not in Ryan's place at all. Him and Brianna are grown-ups, they can go get their own place and set those boundaries  over there. They have no right whatsoever.

Merida
Merida

As much as Brooks appears to be a loser on the show... Ryan is equally (if not more) creepy. Video cameras? Really? I'm sure that E6 pay isn't close to the monetary contribution needed to maintain that home. Man of the house... Really? I'm pretty sure Vicki is the one and only master of that domain.

jenai
jenai

Vicki is a grown woman.  She has the right to live her life anyway she chooses.  Briana and Ryan may not agree or approve with her choices, but as her family, they need to respect them or the relationship will not be good.  I thought Ryan was very possessive and disrespectful.  He is in no way the "man of the house", so he has no right to say who can come in the house and who cannot.  Billy's right, if Briana and Ryan aren't happy there, move out! However, if that happens, Vicki's gonna miss out on special memories with her family because Briana and Ryan are taking that away from her.   Bottom line, it's Vicki's life, she should live it how she wants and if Briana and Ryan really care about her, they would be more respectful.  I have the feeling that Vicki and Ryan are gonna have it out and Ryan's gonna make Briana choose.  Hopefully, it won't come to that. GOD bless.

bristow_mom
bristow_mom

Some of these comments about Briana are unbelievable!  She has every right to be concerned for her mother.  Brooks is obviously a sleezy sociopathic jerk, and Briana wants to do anything she can to keep that creep away from her family.  Thank goodness Ryan is so adamant about the issue as well.  Vicki, you are blinded by this user!  Please wake up!  You deserve better!!!

Dish-tain
Dish-tain

Brooke's makes my skin crawl. He's so off putting on the show. I still get irritated that he started he fight between Tamara and Vickie about the evil eyes. It wasn't even that and if Vickie was so smart she should watch that episode and see what a creep Brooke's is. Vickie loves her daughter and nothing is wrong with Brianna and family living with her. Vickie needs to get her priorities straight. Brooke's is broke and its embarrassing Vickie is buying a creep like that when she had Don. He was handsome and normal. Poor Vickie ugh. You bought him teeth Vickie!! Lol! He never bought you a fur coat! Lol!

GirlFromKY
GirlFromKY

What you say in this blog is COMPLETELY different than what people saw with their own eyes playing right in front of them on tv Vickie.  And because of that, it's just indicative of the pot-stirring drama queen reputation you've created for yourself which is SO unbecoming and the reason a lot of people don't really like you.  When Tamra quietly asked Alexis why she would want to come to the dinner after e'thing had gone down between them, which YOU had to go and stir up BY THE WAY, Alexis took an immediate snarky and defensive position putting her boxing gloves on SNAPPING back at Tamra STARTING the downward spiral with, "Well Tamra, if you didn't want me here why did you invite me???" in her whiny, victim, aggressive, and defensive comeback.  Alexis could have EASILY replied with a diplomatic, polite, and truthful response rather than taking that whole thing into the direction it went!  Heather wasn't being mean to Alexis when she said she hadn't said a word, but then Alexis was the one who had the unnecessary mean comment back, "I WASN'T EVEN LOOKING AT YOU HEATHER!"  I mean, COME ON!  Things were going fine until Alexis took her defensive tone and was the one who went there creating the whole domino effect which erupted that night.  Go back and watch it. And why in the world are you whining about Gretchen when you're constantly belittling her & calling her stupid????  You've got a NERVE to talk about your feelings being hurt by her! Really Vickie???  What is WRONG with you people???? 

Jerseyitalianmom22
Jerseyitalianmom22

Vicki, It's so obvious that lil Briana got all upset cuz for once she was being judged rather then doing all the judging. And you jump to her rescue and now twist things so briana comes out the good girl who was a victim. Please. Ur not teaching her consequences.............either bad or good when u give opinions on tv. Wa wa mommy!!!!!

valerieinez
valerieinez

Vicki,

I believe you are a good person down deep.  What I see is a woman who is trying to make everyone happy.  You are expressing very codependent traits.  You own your own home and you pay the house payment.  Your daughter and son in law are grown ups and should be living their own lives.  You are the grandmother and you need to set your own boundaries and stop trying so hard to control their lives and make everyone around your conform to your ideas.  This is what I see on the show...  Its really sad.  As far as Gretchen goes, Gretchen is a smart person who knows her own boundaries and seems to respect others'...  I adore Gretchen.   Gretchen has shown an attempt to be a true friend to Alexis in expressing to her the truth in her behavior but she has gotten tired of trying to help her....  Don't blame Gretchen.  Alexis is fake and stupid....  She should think about how she is perceived.  She thinks the world evolves around her and her family...  guess what!!!!   It doesn't!   I couldn't be Alexis' friend for long.  Now I have to address the new brunette!!!!   OMG!   Shes new and all the sudden she is going to begin judging people she doesn't even know.  Shut up Please!!!!   These people are so narcissistic!!!!!   RATINGS!!!!!  

Bluesky25
Bluesky25

The scene where Vicki is out to dinner with Brooks was disturbing to me.  He was totally manipulating Vicki.  First he said he was dating other women, then he said she needed to make a choice.  He is obviously a master at manipulation and Vicki needs to pay attention to what her daughter is telling her.  She is a very smart girl and can see right through this guy. She knows her mom deserves way better than this tool of a guy.

laylagirl
laylagirl

Vicki for a smart women how can you not see what a phony brooks is,.he gives me the creeps.please listen to your daughter she is a smart lady,she sees what u don't see.i would not want him around my kids he is a con artist and discusting!

cassmar
cassmar

Ryan and Briana have every right to not allow Brookes into the house. They are living there and do not want him part of their lives. We all know it is not going to last between him and Vicki. My granddaughter and her mom live with me and I respect their wishes because my granddaughter is the most important girl in my life right now. Vicki will find some one who is stronger and more of a real man. She can do much better than Brookes. Good job for putting your family first

 

Addicted.to.Wives
Addicted.to.Wives

Vicky, you should be dating whoever you want.  Why are you letting other people tell you who you can see.  I don't care if Brook's head spins around in circles.  If you want to date him, date him.  Briana sure didn't let you have a say in who she chose to date.  For heaven's sake she didn't even bother to tell you she was getting married.

serenal
serenal

Vicki I admire your work ethics and your a great mom, but please listen to your daughter and everyone else Brooks is not good for you, you can find someone better he is so fake he is clearly not a nice guy! I just hate to see that your going to get hurt he is clearly not for you!

 

TheresaToo
TheresaToo

Vicki - I've watched RHOC since day one.  I just watched the WWHL clip of you calling in with Natalie Maines.  I do understand we only get to see Brooks for "7 minutes a week" as you put it, however I have watched and re-watched episodes with him, and those 7 minutes are always less than flattering.  He is a fame whore.  Every time he gets his 7 minutes he acts like a drama queen and stirs the pot with the ladies and causes ill will between you and your friends.  What man does that????  He wants you to himself because he knows he's got you snowed but your friends saw through his charade in a NY minute.    You looked so pitiful in the restaurant begging him to love you.  He clearly told you he's seeing other women and asked you to choose between him and your daughter.  He is controlling - get out now.   You deserve far better....don't let that fake southern charm fool you (BTW - Ryan is more authentic) - your friends don't lie.  They see him without the rose colored glasses you have on.    Wake up - if he were the great guy you think he is they would all welcome him with open arms! 

 

mjane1999
mjane1999

Vicki needs to do what makes her happy. Briana is rude and disrespectfull. After all who's home is she living in! She needs to grow up! And get her own place to live! Who does your husband think he is telling Vicki what she can't do in her own home. Dude find the door with your selfish wife. And get some help you are not normal. Honey you are not the man of the house. You are a guest who was invited. You are both making Vicki miserable! So what you are paying rent. You can do that somewhere else. Why do you think you have the right to tell her what to do?

Vicki: fix the problem. It is not fair to you! Don't put up with that! You have offered them your home to live in and what do they do for you in return? Who is running the household you or your daughter and her paranoid husband! I really feel bad for you! Listen to your brother!

CrisMic81
CrisMic81

Vickie you should of got your ass up and left when she kicked Alexis out. Hello you brought her!!! Trying to understand my ass. Call when you get home! You invited Alexis!! I like you but stay true... You know Tamera ain't right. "Choose your side right now". really. I would of got my ass up. Obviously she doesn't care about you if she will break up with you if your choose Alexis's side. Lame!!

jbenny
jbenny

Vicki, it's not all about you.

Turtlemom
Turtlemom

Vicki, Still no time to give us a new blog. Maybe you are to busy to do the show to! I really am still pissed at what you said to your brother about Ryan. Billy's replies about him not being family and the cameras, that we are not at war here. I have blogged this before, Ryan can also see his wife and son and watch his son grow, smile and all the changes that happen everyday when they are babies. You keep throwing Ryan under the bus, stop it! Ryan, Thank you for the very hard job that you do watching out for all of us and our Country! Briana, Thank you for being a unselfish wife that understands what your husband does for all of us!

annesworld
annesworld

Wishing you all the best with your new addition to the family Vicki. Praying that you find the happiness you are so deserving of.  Best wishes to you all...

pattistarz
pattistarz

Miss V...Brooks is a chump. He plays games with you, wants to keep you desperate for him and it shows. I am not that crazy about you but I feel empathic to how pathetic you look trying to keep this creep in your life. EVERYONE!!! is trying to clue you in...LISTEN to them. Surely, there will be someone that is sincere and REAL out there for you. Let this creep go back to where he came from...go love on your nes grandchild, don't throw away time spent on Brooks away...mentor, support and be there for your daughter, don't loss those moments that bring the two of you closer over that slug...respect your son-in-law, that has all intentions to protect you and kick that creeper out. You have so many people to love, have fun with, enjoy and make moments to recall after the years have past...please don't let this opportunist take up space and time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

loisminturn
loisminturn

Happy Mother's Day Vicki!!!! I am also a mother of grown daughter's and have been blessed w. grandchildren. Congrats on having a beautiful grandson. Two of my daughter's have recently moved back home while they finish college. Two of my granddaughter's live w. me also. It can be very stressful. I work as a nurse full-time and have a very busy sched. I am used to having my home a certain way so that is also a compromise. I see the love that you have for your daughter, son in law and grandchild and I totally understand and it melts my heart. You are a very loving mother and grandmother. With this all being said I want to say that I feel that your choices as the matriarch of the family should be respected and accepted. You are a very smart business woman and as you stated "Just want to enjoy the other half of your life." Right or wrong that is your choice to make. Your daughter of course wants her mother to be happy and make the right choices and I think her opinion comes from a loving place BUT you need to stand your ground bc you deserve to be happy too. If the relationship w. Brooks does not work out as planned that's what family is for, to help us heal and pick up the pieces.  I'm sure if things don't always go smoothly in your daughter's marriage in the future you would be supportive of their decisions. I am not sure that Brooks is THE ONE for you but I respect your decision to figure that out. By the way I think that you look awesome this season!

Have a great Mother's Day w. your family!!!

Lois Minturn

penny2
penny2

I just watched the clip from the wine tasting event. I'd dissolve the Wine by Wives business ASAP. Who needs to have a business partner like Tamra?

kattroyal
kattroyal

Happy Mothers Day, Vicky!

 

You are a wonderful mother and grandmother and deserve to have the love of a man in your life.

 

Thank you for sharing your life with us.

 

Katt

 

PS: You LOOK great!

alma13
alma13

Happy Mother's Day to all the mommies out there....

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

 @Hopefull92 If you work in the mental health field, it must be as a receptionist or a janitor because you clearly don't know what you're talking about.  And if you do have a degree in any form in mental health, it must be from online.

Get real.

Hopefull92
Hopefull92

 @jane.robertson.5832  I totally agree!! I work in the mental health field and all I can think is, if he will act like that on cameras how will he act when noone is watching.  He needs serious help. And I totally agree with it being Vicky's house.  I am just so scared when they do move out what will happy.  Ryan truly scares me.

 

Ridgebriar
Ridgebriar

 @smerc1949 Ryan will never be a "man" in Vicki's house ... or in any house.  Real men do not say and do the things he does.  His behavior is disgusting, obnoxious, controlling and bullying.  I don't ever remember seeing anyone act like Ryan in my entire life. He needs counseling, because he is a very troubled individual.  Brianna also needs to grow up and stop being a stepford wife and realize what a monster she married.  It is ironic... that the only real threat in Vicki's house ...is Ryan.

Reallifewife
Reallifewife

@bristow_mom Are you serious? Brianna should be concerned about her mother, but that does not give her the right to try and control her mothers life. Vicki is a grown woman and needs to make her own choices, right or wrong. She never should have made an agreement with Brianna and Ryan about Brooks being allowed to visit her home. As far as Ryan is concerned he is a hot head with serious anger issues. I was completely disgusted with his behavior toward Lydia's mother. He acts like he runs the house and that is Vicki's fault. No one would ever speak to a guest in my home the way Ryan spoke to Lydia's Mom. He lied about what transpired and would not let it go, he is a complete jerk. Vicki said that he was stressed, that is no excuse for his disrespectful behavior. Vicki thinks that Slade treats women poorly, well maybe she should look in her own backyard. How come Vicki will stand up to everyone except her own children?

Socialebritey_SF
Socialebritey_SF

 @Dish-tain You are totally weird...why would you wish for VIcky to live with someone she is not happy with (don), when they have clearly grown apart.

Socialebritey_SF
Socialebritey_SF

 @cassmar No, wrong wrong wrong. Ryan and Briana, they have every right to "not want" him there, they have no rights as far as "allowing" anything, they do not own that house. So as far as that, they can move into their own home and then decided who is allowed or not allowed in their house. I find it odd yo would even say they are allowed to control who comes and goes out of a house they do not rent or own.

pyin
pyin

 @ittybittyone

 What are you not understanding about a BOUNDARY?? Brianna and Ryan ASKED Vickie to not have Brooks there. Vickie is a big girl! SHE MADE THE CHOICE over Brooks to have them live there. If she wants Brooks over them she can choose to go back on her word. It really is her choice. No-one is MAKING Vickie do anything. She made a verbal agreement because she WANTED to. It really is pretty simple people!!

Babsfromcc
Babsfromcc

 @Turtlemom

 Seems Ryan might be overly trying to be the man of the family. It not a renter who tells you what you can and can't do in your own home. I agree he has the right idea and i don't like Brooks but it is Vicki who needs to figure that out and telling her she can't date or see him is not Ryan place. I had a daughter in Iraq so I appreciate his serving our country too, but he is the son in law, not the owner of her house or her Daddy

cherriegirl
cherriegirl

 @pattistarz Well stated my dear!! I could have written this from beginning to end. I hope she reads this... 

Babsfromcc
Babsfromcc

 It takes two to tango Penny

 

 

cutiepatootie
cutiepatootie

 @pyin  @ittybittyone Pyin, do I need to post your outragous comment back up for the world to see? I've been on these boards for years and I've never made a post.  I had to register just to reply to your rude comment to her.  I've never seen anyone (on here) misunderstand someone like you did (not once but twice).  And then to turn everything around and talk about her kids and religion.

cherriegirl
cherriegirl

 @Babsfromcc  @Turtlemom Vickie is an intelligent grown woman! SHE agreed not to have Brooks in the home. Briana stated that she & Ryan found out some things about Brooks that made them concerned for Vickie, with Ryan being deployed he just wants to make sure his family is safe & sound can you blame him. This was an agreement made before they moved in with Vickie. Bottom line; According to Vickie this is a temporary situation. 

 

Turtlemom
Turtlemom

@Babsfromcc Vicki agreed to all of this before they moved in. Now she plays this victim, tells her Ahole brother a untrue story. Of Course Vicki wants to change the rules. Let her go to Brooks' place, oh yea, he does not have one. He planned to be living in Vicki's big house, driving her car and her supporting him. I bet that Briana will have them there own place the second she knows Ryan is on his way home. Her and Ryan I bet are sick of the nasty blogs and being thrown under the bus by her mom!