Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki just wants everyone to get along -- but she has no interest in being anything but cordial to Gretchen.

on Apr 23, 20130

First of all, I want to express my sincere sadness for the victims and families of the Boston Marathon bomb attacks that happened last week. At my office, I had CNN on in the front lobby and watching the devastation happening live on TV. It reminded me of the 9/11 attacks at the World Trade Center. To see all the innocent people hurt and killed really made me realize how precious and fragile our lives are, and that we should never take anyone for granted. As my son-in-law Ryan is deployed in Afghanistan, it made me wonder why we have so many armed forces in other parts of our world when we are being attacked right here in America. I feel it is appropriate, too, at this time, to thank all of the people and everyone responsible for finding and arresting Dzhokhar Tsarnaev. He will be no longer free to hurt any one else and justice will be served.

I don't want to be remiss in not mentioning the Texas explosion which caused so many injuries and deaths. It again made me realize how vulnerable we all are and once again the "unknown" is always there. I pray for the injured and the deceased families and the people of Texas that have experienced any type of loss due to this disaster. It's been a tough week for America.

What both of those instances reminded me of is this: Life is precious and never to be taken for granted. We never know when someone that we love will be taken from us, which leads me to my feelings about this week's episode. There is so much sadness, so much destruction, so much poverty, so much illness, so much death lately in this world, that I just had hoped whatever ill feelings these ladies feel towards one another could be put aside so we could go back to being cordial and classy women -- this includes myself. It doesn't mean we have to love everything about one another, but what it does mean is to embrace our differences and to appreciate one another because at any time, one of us could be taken away. I know we all care for each other, however I just wished we could treat each other better and show the compassion that I know we have.

507 comments
AndyJean
AndyJean

Vicki,

Every time I've seen parts of the dinner at Tamra's gym it's just plain infuriating because you are beyond opinionated, judgemental and just a radical jerk. Again, you set up that whole fiasco and then you augmented it with your inane and completely useless comments certainly about Gretchen (which by the way were completely uncalled for).  I would certainly prefer that Bravo drops you from the show because you keep running your mouth and it's just not even on the smallest level, useful.  Take your boyfriend and your girlfriend Alexis, run your insurance office and take a walk away from the show. 

vforbes
vforbes

I really believe you were sincere about trying to move forward. But, it was not the right time or the right group of friends to do this with.  TEAM VICKI~ And do not let young people tell YOU what to do in  YOUR OWN HOUSE!!!

piperbeau
piperbeau

Vicki I can really appreciate that you are definitely a person that learns from their mistakes! I can see that you have grown each season!! I know that you think Tamra is being a bully, that being said I wish you would just tell her once and for all that she is a bully!!

beggs909
beggs909

Vicki I was so angry iat you at Tamea's party. You did not speak up and say YOU wanted Alexis there and almost begged for her to come with you as support. Was that you real motive or did you want to have the heat on Alexisnso everyone would leave you alone? You did not help Alexis one bit when Tamra asked her why she wanted to come to her party. Shame on you

gaeljo
gaeljo

Bull. Vicki is full of it. It's funny to watch you manipulate people and then act so innocent. You are the cause of a lot of the problems on the show, I can't understand why they keep you.

indyswim
indyswim

Vicki asked Tamra and Tamra could've said NO but didn't!!! Talk about a BAD HOST for a party to kick one person out and threaten another guest to leave! If I was at that table I would've got up and left for the way she treated and talked to her guests! Alexis said she would meet somewhere else and talk to them. Gretchen, Tamra, and Heather are so NASTY! Vicki love you on the show and I'm glad that Alexis and Lydia and you are all friends. 

addictedtoHW
addictedtoHW

You are a BAD FRIEND.  Who brings someone to a party (knowing that said person isn't liked by several people in the group) and then proceeds to watch them torn apart and does nothing when this person is literally thrown out!?  Doesn't even get up and walk out with her??  You don't want to get in the middle??  No, you wanted someone to take the heat off of you.  You used Alexis because you knew that everyone would go after her instead of you.  You and Lydia call yourself Christians but I sure didn't see that in your behavior.

 

p.s. YOU ALWAYS MAKE IT ABOUT YOU.

Kef526
Kef526

I am glad that you understand the scraifice that son in law is giving to our country. Being a former Marine's wife I was upset with the comment you made about the cameras he installed this week. You may not think that your suburb is not a war zone,but to someone who lives with what he is currently going through,everywhere is and always will be a mental war zone. I would think about educating yourself about why he feels that way instead of thinking that he wants to keep Brooks away. Just some advice to make your living arrangement healthier. Having a true education on PTSD will open your eyes to what being a war hero truly means.

NanaMadonna73
NanaMadonna73

Vicki, hang in there. You have pretty much impressed me from the beginning of the series. You do have a history of being or wanting to be a controlling mom. What is amusing is watching your children's coping skills as adults. They block your attempts in a way that it has made your relationships stronger now. You have raised 2 great people, and I commend you! I hope you continue recent efforts to use the "less is more" approach when being confronted by the mean girls on the show. I think responding less to Gretchen's obvious attacks on anything you do is obviously because she wants you and Tamra to continue to argue. Let them hang themselves. And thank you for mentioning West, Tx. This little community's tragedy was overshadowed, but I feel that they have been blessed with countless gifts of love and concern!

ntbrewer50
ntbrewer50

I agree with everyone else.  You knew what you were doing when you brought Alexis and exactly what would happen.  Also Gretchen wasn't being stupid by her statement of you saying "your baby."  She was saying it in a joking way but of course you've got to turn everything around.  She never said you shouldn't be a proud mother and grandmother and love your grandson.  Get over yourself.  And by the way I'm a grandmother also and from Mississippi.  You and Brooks do not mix well.  He does seem shady.

shegraves
shegraves

Vickie, I don't know why your so hated on.  When you made the comment about your grandson being "our baby" or "your baby" or whatever Gretchen jumped on that so fast and it was totally out of line.  It was obvious that you werent saying he's YOUR baby. 

Pamila
Pamila

Just had a grandson, and yes, I have a new baby.  Grethen can put that is her pipe and smoke it.  Stay from those petty, childish women.

rufuserb
rufuserb

The house belongs to Vicky!!! Not Brianna, husband and baby!!!  Vicky gets to say what the rules are in HER house!  Let them leave if they don't want Brooks or anyone else around.  They have no right making demands - period!!!

krystal_clear
krystal_clear

Vicki, you should have gotten up from that table and followed Alexis out...but both you, and Lydia, wanted to stay-it was obvious to many. Don't think you are a true friend. Alexis did you a favor; you should have returned it at that moment.

All of you are such game-players; Don't know WHY you  call each other "friends", because really, you are not, Everyone came together because of this job on Bravo...  Having said that, you are all grown women, and should have conducted yourselves accordingly. Everyone like SOME drama, don't get me wrong, but you guys have become uncomfortable to watch. I change channels when it gets ugly, because it makes my skin "crawl"

babybird
babybird

Vicki, ignore the haters on this forum. You have a beautiful family and I stand in admiration of all that you have accomplished in your life. As the only original OC housewife, you've been through good times and bad but you were a lady at that gathering. Obviously Gretchen, Heather & Tamara have deep-seated issues that cause them to treat others hideously to make themselves look superior. Ha! Wicked witches is more like it. I, too, have called my granddaughter 'my baby' as a form of endearment since her birth. I've also called my husband & pets 'my baby'. Look up the definition of "a figure of speech". Tamara: 

southerngirl29
southerngirl29

Vicki is my favorite housewife.  She needs to stay away from Tamara because Tamara is bad news. She talks like a trash can all the time and she is just a control freak.  Vicki might be controlling in her own right - her children, business her life.  She does not try to rule her friends lives, etc. 

 

I think you need to bring back your original friend and co-worker who was on the original show - Laurie she was real.  She dealt with so many personal problems that her son caused and came out on top.  She fought and fought to keep her son drug free (I hope that she one).  You also need to make amends with Jeana - I think the only reason you strayed from her was because of Tamara - go back to your true friends.   In the long run being around the people who love you for who you are will make you a happier person!!! 

curlyloxau
curlyloxau

Stick with Alexis the rest of them are nasty, mean bullying shrews! You should have walked out with Alexis as should the new woman (forget her name already). Tamra is evil

kaman2222
kaman2222

Vicki you are a real piece of work!! Shame on you.  You need to get your ears checked because Gretchen NEVER said anything negative about your grandson.  Pay attention.  What has happened to you this season?  You use to a person that had a head on her shoulders,now you are showing your true colors- one mean person. 

IrvineMichele
IrvineMichele

Vicki, I like you so much more this season,.,and I'm glad you are doing things strictly for yourself (like the plastic surgery). Sometimes as Mothers/Grandmothers/etc we "lose" ourselves and forget to take care of ourselves.

Keep it up, and use your head when it comes to your gal-pals. Remember Tamra is the one who sat on the couch @ Reunion-time last season and did the unforgivable..she broke the girl-code and blabbed.

Never forget that. True colors came out...she cannot be trusted. EVER.

peppper
peppper

You're right about Gretchen being stupid, I'm also a grandmother who calls my granddaughter my baby.  

 

Gretchen also proved once again in her blog how stupid she is by the following statement: "When I confronted Vicki about her making the "my baby" comment I reacted that way because ironically about 15 minutes before they showed up some of the woman were talking about the pictures that she posted with Troy on her facebook page. They were saying how strange the pictures were because it was pictures you would normally see of a mother and child -- not of a grandmother and child."   Exactly how are pictures of a mother with her child supposed to be different than pictures of a grandmother and child?  The woman (Gretchen) sounds nuts, and is obviously groveling for excuses for her stupidity. 

B3th32
B3th32

Vicki you are my favorite. Don't be afraid to stand up to the mean girls. Thanks for standing up for Alexis. There is no valid reason for Tamra Gretchen and Heather to gang up on her with their unsolicited opinions. She is no more materialistic than the others...certainly not the 'mean, loud, foul-mouthed person Tamra is.  You're the first to say what I'd be thinking about Gretchen...she's stupid, not the most intelligent, intellectual person. Don't let those girls disrespect you.  Keep standing up for what's right.

DirtTrail
DirtTrail

Vicky you look great. Taking the high road suits you. Your face looks beautiful. You're not going to like this, but, there's something not right with Brooks. Were you able to hear Ryan talking about how Brooks was sizing up the hookers in Mexico? I know it's a sacrifice to have Bri., Ryan, and baby Troy in your house...for now. Although Brianna cares about you, she should not be able to run your house. I agree with Ryan and Bri., but after a while, you're going to have to put your foot down. And Brianna and Ryan better not give attitude if you decide to take your house back!

laura81880
laura81880

Why is NO ONE commenting on the fact that Gretchen asking if "you had a baby?" was in no way shape or form of discounting her position as a Grandmother or her love for the child?!? And Gretchen is the stupid one, HA! Nor was it implying that Vicki doesn't love her family, holy insecurity Vicki!!! Get a grip, this looks DUMB!!!

MAJ-Seattle
MAJ-Seattle

OK, so while I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, I don't understand why some of you seem to think it's OK for Tamra to treat Alexis the way she did??? If Tamra didn't want her to come she should have said no to Vicki. At least Vicki asked and didn't just bring her. That would have been stirring the pot. BUT Tamra knew she was coming and was waiting for Alexis to say anything to jump all over her. The last time I checked they were supposed to be grown women and I have NEVER seen Tamra not be able to speak her mind. So if she didn't want Alexis there she should have said, 'No I don't think that would be appropriate" and that would have been that. As for Gretchen, you don't need to jump in and defend Tamra. She is perfectly capable of defender herself. You need to get away from Tamra. I didn't really like you at first, but grew to like you over the years because you were a true person. It seems like now, all you want to do is not be on the other end of Tamra sharp tongue. I also think it's a shame that you didn't stick up for Alexis, because she was your friend from the begining.  Just remember, as fast as you and Tamra became friends is just as fast she can turn on you.  The minute you disagree with her, watch out!!

 

Everyone, get off of Vicki's back. She's is not the calculating person you all think she is. She has way to much on her plate to worry about trying to ruin anyone's evening.  She is far from perfect, as we all are, but at least she's trying to better herself. She was a single mom with two kids and no one to support her. She had to make something of herself to support her kids and herself. I think she is now realizing that she spent too many years buidling up her business so she is never in a situation like that again. and I have to applaud her. However, she is realizing that she wasn't putting enough effort into her marriage and now its too late. That's ok. Now all she wants is what everyone else wants LOVE.  Maybe Brooks isn't the right guy, but everyone needs to stop yelling their opinions at her and let her lead her own life. If she makes a mistake ok, learn from it and move on.  That's what being a grown up is all about. 

funkygranny
funkygranny

Vicky,  you are such a fake person.

LadyLogical
LadyLogical

 

 

A) you knew what you were doing bringing Alexis. 

 

B) The mood at Tamara's dinner party was so awkward and filled with so much tension, that Gretchen was just trying to lighten the mood and make a joke about you (weirdly) saying "I have a baby now". No, you don't. You have a grand-baby, you have a baby in the house, but you dont have a baby. It was a weird thing to say, and Gretchen just made a joke about it. She was not, in ANY way, implying you shouldn't love your grand baby. You're stupid and dramatic to think that and spread that to others. 

CaptainMurfy
CaptainMurfy

You are the most egocentric, narcissistic person I've ever seen! You can't see anything beyond yourself. You don't invite someone to a party that you know will turn out bad for ten and then ditch them when they're thrown out! Furthermore, if Alexis is such a good friend why didn't you show soe empathy for her in the car? Why didn't you support her during the dinner? Instead you sounded angry at her in the car and it was all"I" and "me". Ugh!

donnam1
donnam1

Vicki:  you tried to tactfully get your way out of the party. They wouldn't let you go.  They tried to suck you in and you weren't buying it.  Good job.  Tell them all the  blank blank.

groovey
groovey

Vicki you are a grown woman. If my daughter and son-in-law told me what to do in my house I would kick their a__ __ to the curb rent or not. I don't know if Brooks is the right one or not but I do know their behavior is very disrespectful. You are a smart woman so use your brain to protect your heart and enjoy your life.

HousewifeFan@54
HousewifeFan@54

Vickie, You say Gretchen is stupid (which you know is not true) yet you say when you invited Alexis you did it pure intentions.  How could you say you thought it would be a good time for all of you to talk things over when Tamera, when you asked if you could invite Alexis, she asked if you were kidding.  You tell your brother that "he" being Ryan, was telling you that Brooks couldn't come over while he and Brianna were living there.  I think your daughter was the one who just last week repeated what you had agreed to prior to them moving in, but said it was up to you.  If you chose Brooks then they would move out.  You made your choice.  As young as this season is, you're are not making very good choices.  And $1,000/mth, are you kidding me?  Sounds to me like you give Brianna about as much slack as she gives you.  Obviously you can't any longer get along with these women, so why do you stay?  Is it the money?

fleabrain333
fleabrain333

I adore you Vicki. You are a kind person, and always can see a situation for what it truly is. You are fair minded, and a good friend. Stay just the way you are. You are my favorite.  And you look beautiful.

Jenniffrm
Jenniffrm

Vicki not sure where you stand now. When you were the one talking about everyone else it's ok. Now that everyone is standing up to you and talking about you and your man, it's not ok. If you can dish it that you can it! While you talked about Gretchen and her man, it was all great but now that it's about you it's not ok. Come on Vicki be a big girl and put on your big girl panties!

Happening
Happening

I respect you more than anyone else on the show for your hard work and successful business but i think you should stay away from Tamra, it brings the worst in you out.  You and Tamra were mean to some of the women in past years and i think it caught up with you finally.  Alexis may not be perfect but I think she has a much kinder heart than anyone else on the show.  Heather is horrible and so is Gretchen.

 

Hope you meet a nice man to share your future with.

bugsea54
bugsea54

I would really watch it with Tamara.  She is the one who really has issues.  Why does anyone have to be on a team.  Can't you all get along?  

cindy1963
cindy1963

What has happened to you since last season? Ever since you broke up with Donn you have been completely different. Who are you to be calling people "stupid?" You said it to Gretchen and you also said it to Lydia. Poor thing, she just joined the group and she has to be called stupid, for not even doing anything? What is the matter with you? As I wrote to Alexis, APPRECIATE LIFE BECAUSE THOSE LITTLE "ARGUMENTS" THAT YOU WOMEN HAVE ARE NOTHING COMPARED TO "REAL LIFE" PROBLEMS!! You've always thought you were better than everybody but since last season you have really taken it to an extreme. Remember the true joys in life...your beautiful grandson Troy, God bless him. That is what is important. FAMILY.

laurie.morgan.58
laurie.morgan.58

No one said you should not love your grandson.  You are such a drama queen.  

laurie.morgan.58
laurie.morgan.58

Wow.  The only stupid person at the dinner besides you was Alexis.  The two of you are made for each other.  You are always diverting the attention to you.  You did say "my baby".  He is not your baby, he is your daughters baby.  You're also a liar.  You are so still seeing that douch bag boyfriend of yours.  The only person your fooling is your self.

myguiltypleasure
myguiltypleasure

you still are too full of yourself, you are so self-righteous.  The entire evening was a disaster and you played a very big part in it, starting with your asking if Alexis could come with you and 'needing' drinks before you got there, knowing it was going to be a bumpy ride.. . which it was. 

Realatily2wives
Realatily2wives

You of all people know what Tamara is about! She already stab you in the back you have her a second chance how many more is it gonna take before you see her for she truly is! She alway has to have someone who is her favorite to pick on! They are the 3 mean girls with no other purpose in life! Stop entertaining it your better than than.

gasalgal
gasalgal

Vicky,

They were "mean girls" at the dinner party.  It's surprising that old women like them can act so childish- immature.  If I had a sweet grandbaby like yours, I'd call him "my baby", too as the grandMOM.  Gretchen was picking apart every single word that you & Alexis were saying.

polishmom
polishmom

Really  Vicki....you must know by now what a toxic and horrible person Tamra is.  Do you really want to be her "friend"???   I would leave her to dimwitted Gretchen and equally dimwitted Heather.

mercedes7
mercedes7

Vicki, I have lots to say, not much time. Mainly Why did you call Gretchen stupid? you probably feel this way but come on, that was low class and below the belt. She may not be the smartest out of all of you but beyond that she is a pretty nice person. And second, what the hell is wrong with your face? Sometimes you have a whole bunch of bumps all over and your makeup person is not helping. And why did you need plastic surgery. You were just fine the way you were. But, if this makes you happy then so be it. I really like your hair when you curl it, it's so pretty but sometimes it looks straggly, kinda greasy like. Hope you get feeling better and hope you and Tamra can be cordial.

AbbyFarrow
AbbyFarrow

 @gaeljo

 Vicki has forgotten in her rant against Tamra and Gretchen that she was right beside Tamra bashing everyone from the first episode. (In the limo talking to Lydia about Tamra "bullying everyone"!) From Slade, Jeana, Gretchen, Lynn and all the other housewives and husbands, she was right in Tamra's ear giving her 2 cents. Thought it funny that she stated she was smarter than Lydia! Lydia's answer to that, "I'm a genius by the way". You knew what you were doing when you invited Dumb belle Alexis to Tamra's party, you knew she isn't liked by any of the other women there. You made it look as if they'd done something to you at Heather's party, when the only issue there was no onion rings. IMO there's only 2 real people that are true honest friends if you let them be and that's Lydia and Heather. Heather has been trying with honesty to get Alexis to see her major egotistical problems with blatant honesty and Alexis can't handle truth about herself. It's really a shame too because it would make a more cohesive show. Oh and Vicki did say, "I HAVE A BABY NOW"! As a Grandmother, I've never called any of my grandchildren "my baby". I call them what they are, Granddaughter/Grandson. Gretchen is far from stupid for making the statement she did, while Vicki made herself look a fool for creating such a scene at a party that she invited the enemy to. How classless can one be to bring the person she knew would ruin what should have been  happy occasion for Tamra. Not a huge fan of her but it was wrong to even bring up Illiterate Alexis' name to Tamra. Vicki is the s**t starter and master manipulator, underhanded and devious.

 

indyswim
indyswim

 @addictedtoHW No, Vicki doesn't. Tamara could've told Tamra NO but didn't!!! So, Vicki and Alexis were fair game going. I'm glad that everyone is seeing how mean Tamra and Gretchen really are. The lunch table comment from Gretchen was just awful. I wonder if she will teach her kids to sit at the 'cool' table....

gaeljo
gaeljo

 @southerngirl29 Laurie won't have anything to do with her! She was smart and got out before the Vicky mess splashed all over her.

il0veyuz
il0veyuz

 @kaman2222 Couldn't agree more. Even though Gretchen got confused with Vicki saying "my baby", she never said that Vicki didn't love her grandson. That came out of left field. Vicki also shouldn't have called Gretchen "stupid" from misunderstanding the "my baby" comment. Tamra, Gretchen, and Heather were already on edge with Alexis being there so I'd like to think everyone had it in their best interest NOT to start any sort of argument.

msjmj
msjmj

 @laurie.morgan.58

 I refer to my grandchildren as 'my babies' all the time and in presence of their parents, my parents, siblings, family and friends. Seriously, I think most people knew Vicki's referral was from a common place as the 'grandmother'! 

 

Seriously? 

gasalgal
gasalgal

 @mercedes7

 Maybe it wasn't nice to call Gretchen stupid, but she is truly far from what people would call, smart!!

grianagh50
grianagh50

 @indyswim  @addictedtoHW indyswim are YOU serious? I found that Tamara at least made an attempt to be civil, and it was Vicky who spit out the first insult by calling Gretchen "Stupid". And as a grandmother, I have never called my grandchild anything but what they are my grandchild. Vicky was controlling in inviting Alexis and as addictedtohw stated she was NOT a good friend to her when she was attacked. To me, it's interesting that the qualities Vicky can't tolerate in others, are the ones she has herself..