Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki wishes she and Tamra's friendship had gone differently -- even if Tamra's still lying about her to Eddie.

on Apr 8, 20130

So. . .if you have anything negative to say about it -- please do me a favor and refrain. I agree with you that I looked BAD! The fortunate part is now that it's been six months since the surgery, I have full movement of my face and mouth and most people say that I look just "refreshed," and can't really tell that anything was done surgically. Phew! Thank God.

The "Radio Slade" segment was a joke. Slade's sole purpose of being on the radio was to bash the Housewives and, for that matter, anyone else he felt compelled. He thought it was funny.I thought it was disgusting. For him even to comment on my looks at the party was very wrong. He wasn't even there, and it's obvious Gretchen came home and told him I had surgery. I guess Slade isn't happy unless he's making fun of a person's looks. Since when did he become so perfect? Stay tuned for more of Slade's wonderful comments on the other women as well. It's not just me. He simply thinks that by making fun of women is a "normal" thing to do. I, on the other hand, find it classless and rude. 

I don't know of anyone that can deny the fact that when life is tough it's tough. You try and put a "poker face" on to show your friends everything is fine -- however they can usually see right through it. For the past year or so, Brooks and I have had a ton of outside pressures that simply we didn't know how to handle and we went through times where we were not seeing each other or talking one another. That didn't mean we didn't care for each other, we just decided it would be best to cool it for awhile. What that meant was we were not in communication daily and I didn't bring him around the group. I was focused on getting myself healed from the inside out. I was taking time for myself and he was taking time for himself. I'm sorry if people didn't understand it, it was what we felt needed to be done. The truth of the matter is I cared for him a lot, loved him but we both were tired of all the negativity. I was tired of everyone telling me what I should do instead of me making the decision myself. Brooks is an amazing man, a caring man, and he became my best friend. We realized if we had ANY chance at all of making our relationship work, we needed to not only take a break, but also to be private and not to discuss our relationship with anyone.

I don't know if any of you have been in that place before, but it's really tough. I am 51 years old, and I know what's good for me and what isn't. I don't need anyone watching out for me. I will be the one who makes the final decision on my future. . .and God.

229 comments
carmen.rentschler.1
carmen.rentschler.1

What's with the new "look" this season Vickie?  Your hair is stringy and disheveled all of the time. It doesn't look like you brush it. Eye makeup is way over the top for a woman your age. Too dark, too much, messy, and hard looking. Do you wear your new "look" to work too? The older a woman gets, the subtler the make-up. Trying to look younger using too much make-up makes  older women look like clowns.

carmen.rentschler.1
carmen.rentschler.1

What's with the new "look" this season, Vicki?  Your hair looks disheveled ,   all of the time and your heavy dark eye make-up do not suit you. You look like an older woman trying to look "sexy" or something. Frankly, I don't get the plastic surgery.you don't appear to look younger or refreshed. Do you wear that "look" to work now? So different from the previous seasons.

katbad
katbad

Some on here think they have all the answers ....but they only see edited episodes, it's amazing.  If I were to give Vicki any advice I would tell her to just ditch Tamra, Gretchen and Heather.   The parts of their personalities that I see on TV are not good and they all seem to be very cruel and vindictive.   I have never spoken to any friend or ex friend in the manner that they do and I never will...neither do any of my friends.   They may be just trying to make the show more exciting but some could do it with a lot less cruelty and hatefulness.

bravofunny
bravofunny

Vicki, you should know that you didn't see the "whole" conversation between Tamara and Eddie.  And you should know that Eddie's first place is protector of Tamara, just as Brooks would be yours.  Also, as far as Slade, you were mean and nasty to him and never resolved that.  You picked up with a man that was in the same place as Slade and never said, "Hmm, I see where you're coming from!" so I can see why he's still holding a grudge!  As far as the surgery, Good for you!!  I don't think you needed it but I'm glad you're happy with it!

critic
critic

 I can see why Vicki feels bad about Briana's elopement. Every mother wants to be at their child's wedding.

Realfanhouse
Realfanhouse

Vicki, oh please let it go. You continue to refer to Briana's "elopement." I do not blame Briana for wanting her wedding to be her day, and not all about what you wanted. You would get rid of so much pressure if you just let it go.

critic
critic

Tamra is two faced!  She seems to start something with everyone. I wouldn't waste a minute trying to repair a friendship with someone like her. Gretchen is no better.

Barbarajean
Barbarajean

Vicki, You seem to forget all the junk you poured into Tamra and Simons marriage. You felf it necessary to point out to her all of Simons wrong doings. What kind of friend does that. At least Simon had a home and was supporting his family, Your motitve for stirring this pot was for them to split and I blame that on you. Can you blame Tamra for showing her feelings towards Brooks. This loser doesn't even have a job nor can he support all four of his kids. When are you going to realize that he really is using you. Now you can catch his lovely family pic on line. Who does that? I think you are pulling your pitty party a bit too far. So what if Briana or anyone for that matter doesn't like Brooks.  Stop whining and either give him up or go on with your life as sad as it may be with this loser. For a woman as smart as you, I am amazed that you can't see through him. As far as being Alexis friend, that is just so fake on both your parts. You know that you are trying to push Tamras buttons but believe me, it isn't going to work. Eddie is right! You are lieing about everything and Tamra should not trust you. I hope you take this seriously and straighten out and get off your pity party.

bravo12
bravo12

I feel pity for you Vicki. You have become a mellow dramatic, moody, victim, in the past few seasons. All the whining, blaming others, loud embarrassing outbursts and now the plastic surgery, clearly shows desperate spiral you are on. A classy, elegant woman of your age should never act the way you have.  (take a lesson from Heather). You have become a neurotic, judgemental, insecure mess. You do make for good tv.

sassylady9600
sassylady9600

Dear Vicki, I have watch you since the show first started. I am really disappointed in your insecurities that have happened since your divorce. Brooks is a user and if I was your daughter I would hire a privite investergator to check him out. I do not trust him and you can do a lot better. He is using you. It may be lonely for a while, but enjoy your daughter and grandchild when you are ready you will finally find someone that is worthy of you. 

tjjpt
tjjpt

Vicki, I used to dislike you a lot when you hanged out with Tamra. When you finally broke off with her, I see you a kinder, more sensible woman. I think you feel guilty screaming at her about Brook but Tamra was so aggressive and nasty first and unless you came up with that volcanic scream,she would not buck down. Anyway she is naturally mean and as the camera shows, she twists words. It is a very good idea to keep a distance from her and never says any thinkg that she might use to disquote. I know you miss her because she is fun to be around but for your sake, wise up. I see the mean streak developing in Gretchen now that she becomes close to Tamra. She and Tamra said very unkind stuff when you walked into the clambakeparty regarding your look. It is very low of them.

saoirse.churchwood
saoirse.churchwood

Vickie, You are stunting your daughter, it is a disservice to provide the roof,food,free babycare...for your married adult R.N. daughter and her husband. Briana and her family should immediately MOVE or be tossed OUT so they live and raise their OWN child within their OWN (albeit reduced) means in their OWN home. Briana's ugly ugly control is emotional blackmail. Briana and her husband are ungrateful freeloaders  berating the hand that provides the roof as they gobble the food and BRAVO TV facetime dollars.  Nasty UNHEALTHY treatment of her OWN mother and his MIL.

ryanroni
ryanroni

I just started watching tonight's show and was appalled with Brianna's attitude. While she may be paying rent, she has no right to tell you who can or cannot come into the house, as this is YOUR HOME! She needs to leave and go on her own. I cannot believe I would say this about your daughter, but she is ungrateful as well as disrespectful. While I am not sure I like Brooks, this is your decision, just as Brianna made her decisions about her life. As you've had to do with Brianna, she too must learn to live with the decisions you've made with YOUR life and try to be more supportive or just mind her business!

BVR
BVR

Vicki,

As a wife of a plastic surgeon I want to tell you that I think the results of your procedures were very good.  You look natural, not overdone; just refreshed and rejuvenated.  You were very brave to tell your surgeon "to do what he thought would look good!"  But then you have always been a "gutsy" lady.  I would like to suggest however that you ditch the false eyelashes or at least perhaps try a different pair that are more natural looking.  The ones you are currently wearing draw people's eyes directly to your lashes (not in a good way) and take away from your lovely face.  Just a suggestion from wife of a plastic surgeon.  Congrats on grandbaby Troy!

Ona47
Ona47

Vicki, Would you please not cross yourself in that joking and disrespectful way.  It is not a joke to millions of people and it is offensive.  Please respect that.

Hulali
Hulali

Vicky you are a grown ass woman that has made a turned a small home insurance company into a a very successful multimillion dollar company. You have earned the right to choose who ever you wish as you boyfriend. Of course your son and daughter are going to care about your well being, but you need to set them straight. They are grown adults now with a life of their own (did Brianna consult YOU before eloping...) You just need to reassure them that Brooks is not going to defraud you of your hard earned money. What you choose to share with him is your own business, not theirs. From what I see on the show they are lovely kids that have had a very privledged life because of you and they are probably worried that Brooks is going to interfere with your continued care of them.

Nemo22
Nemo22

Hey Vicki, How about this....be a damn adult. Your daughter is more mature than you. You act like an insecure 14 yr old. Insecure women in their prime and you are on network television for the intelligent to make fun of and the ignorant aspire to be.

bevgal
bevgal

Vicki, Brooks is a loser.  The sooner you get rid of him the better off you will be.  Your family should come first and you are going to lose all contact with your grandchildren if you don't get rid of that loser.  Tamra was just trying to help and you go all out to show your a.....

lareinaps
lareinaps

Vicky I have to say you are VERY high strung, but you are a VERY GOOD MOM and raised Great kids.  I actually watch the show now because I really like how well spoken and great Breanna...sorry if I spelled it wrong, but your daughter is has a very good head on her shoulder and ABsolutely gorgeous!  So I say screw all those other phony wench's and be happy!

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Vicki, it does not matter if Tamra is lying to Eddie....he needs to man-dle his own feelings about her friends the way most real men do when their wives and girlfriends disagree and squabble with their female friends....its just not manly in my neck of the woods to see men get so involved in the fighting...I grew up with a Dad who never took sides with his daughters or wife when they disagreed with another woman.....Eddie needs to allow Tamra to work it out, the way a mom has to when her three year old is not being played nice with by the other playground toddlers...you don't get involved on the playground by taking a toy from the other child and giving it to yours.....thats just not done...I say he needs to MANDLE his emotions

zannie
zannie

Vicki, what happened to you that you felt insecure about your looks? You have as much to be proud of as the other ladies in that category and perhaps even more in others. Slade was really showing how very low class he is.  Gretchen better wake up! What was so wonderful about her was her freshness and sweetness. Between Slade and Tamra she is now going in a downhill direction. Tamra is wickedly abusive to others  as she is trying to control everyone with ridicule and nasty comments. Stand up to her! Remember, she goes through jealous cycles with each of the girls. Remember the Red Harley Gretchen got and how jealous she was? She is equally as nasty to others. Gretchen is a follower and not wanting to feel the sting of Treacherous Tamra again, but she will be sorry! Slade could call Gretchen a horse face and get laughs and I am sure he would if she ever showed him the door. So you are not in the Slade club, at least you are strong enough to take his creepy mean comments. He would not have a job if not for the HWOC! He is a moocher and lowlife and Gretchen by association is not looking so good!

 

911422703
911422703

Vickie ,, your daughter should be happy that you are happy ,, instead she is trying to run your life ,, you are a very smart person and i know your kids mean everything to you ,, but honestly take back your life just like you did when you left Don ,, i say do whatever makes you happy in your personal life just like your daughter did when she ran off and got married without telling no one ,, she was very selfish then and still is very selfish 

bravo-tv-viewer
bravo-tv-viewer

Vicki...I think your picture looks so pretty. However, I think you should ease up on all the dark eye makeup and false eyelashes because it tends to date an older woman. I also think you should go back to bangs and layer your hair a little. It brings out your beautiful blue eyes. As we get older, not all women can carry off the current trends, i.e. dark smokey eyes, and long hair. I think your hairstyle from three or four years ago made you look adorable, and so young. It brought attention to your big blue eyes. and since it was shorter, it didn't drag your face down, as longer hair tends to do to older women, which is why most women tend to go shorter as they get older. I hope this season will be easier on you than last season. Tread lightly with Tamra...don't let your emotions and memories of times past, make you jump back into your friendship with her. You have seen for yourself on tv last week how manipulative she is. She says one thing to your face and something altogether different to the next person (as Gretchen realized if you read her last blog. She said she was shocked to hear what was said in the privacy of the wine cellar, to your face because she was telling Gretchen the exact opposite for months...and apparently Tamra has done the same thing to Eddie). Good luck Grandma!! You sure do have an adorable grandbaby!! :)

PLSB
PLSB

Vicki, don't listen to anyone but yourself!  I think you and Tamara will find each other again.  I think that you should enjoy your grandson living in your home, for that will be for a short while and babies, as you know, grow so fast.  I am so jealous, I want to be your grandbaby!   And on Brooks, glad you are taking a step back, I don't judge, and I am glad you know when you need to slow down and/or just breathe and think.  Anyway, I love your face, even with it swollen, glad to see in the current photo it does look like a refreshing, but either way, I am like Heather, plastic surgery is a personal choice, and I am proud of you for going on the show with your face still healing, you are a strong woman and that is something I don't think you get to hear enough.  (btw, strong women still have feelings, and you have had a hard year!)

 

Go enjoy your grandbabers Glamma!

dani310
dani310

Vicky, you are a beautiful and strong woman, keep above the nasty comments from Gretchen. Congrats on your grandson, he is just perfect! 

joydiatribe
joydiatribe

Tamra had your best interests at heart but chose a really bad way to show it. She then stopped having your best interests at heart and felt that it was in her best interests to prove that she was right.

 

If Tamra behaved like an adult she would have voiced her concerns and then supported your decision - she didn't do this, not because she doesn't want to have your back but because she is immature and doesn't really know how to have your back without siding up with other people.She always has to have a side kick with her doing the dirty work.

Hulali
Hulali

I find it amazing that such a successful woman wouldd take such drastic measures to physically alter her face because one spiteful man calls her Miss Piggy.   I thought the analogy was sweet.  Miss Piggy was the glamorous, outgoing muppet character that was completely confident about her appearance.  You do resemble her, but not because of an upturned nose, but because you have a big frame (ie boobs) and in no way fat,beautiful blue eyes, swooshy blonde hair and are an outgoing woman who is head over heals in love with her man (Kermit = Brooks).

Being rerferred to as Miss Piggy is a compliment!  I'm amazed that you are so insecure about your appearance after being on a reality show for over 6 years

ilcntrygrl
ilcntrygrl

You did not need surgery.  I am happy that you just "tweaked" and still look like yourself!  It seems like your surgery was time for a re-start after such a horrible year.  Enjoy your "grandma-time", they grow up sooo fast..   Please stay away from Tamra, she is poison.  Alexis is much more stable, so much less drama, and she too seems to be looking for more calm.  The way that Tamra and Gretchen planned ahead to verbally attack Alexis in a group shows the mindset of these women.  It is childish behavior, not at all right.  It won't change. 

tigerlilly43
tigerlilly43

Don't be embarrassed because you filmed while still healing. You looked beautiful and you could not tell you were still swollen. I think you were very brave to film while you were healing. 

Your grandson is adorable. 

NeutronBomb
NeutronBomb

We love you, Vicki! Hold your head high, and remember that you are the only original Housewife and the viewers have been watching you the longest...so you have the biggest fanbase!

 

It's pretty rich of Gretchen to be mocking your plastic surgery...when she herself has had more work done than Mount Rushmore!

momofadamandandy
momofadamandandy

Vicki...Tamara is my second least favorite Housewife HOWEVER,  I agree with her and Brianna when it comes to Brooks

piperbeau
piperbeau

Dear Vicki, I f I were you I would run as far away from Tamara as I could... She has done nothing but throw you under the bus, continually for the past three seasons!! There always seems to be Tamara's side, and then the truth!! She just isn't able to distinguish between the two!!! 

kenda.anderson
kenda.anderson

Vicki, I have to say the last yr or two of my life has been identically hard n different but similar ways. One thing I see, is u piling too much on urself, I totally get why u wanted a fresh look in ur home but maybe too much stress all things considered? It doesn't matter tho- ur blog was so sweet, honest & from the heart who couldn't love you? You, Alexis & Heather, seem to be the only nice ones on the show.

rmohlerr
rmohlerr

Vicki, I like your softer side!

SandraFan
SandraFan

Vicki, all I have to say is that since Troy's birth you are more beautiful and more sensitive to what and who is important: FAMILY! Focus on YOU and your precious grandson Troy and all will work out fine. Love seeing your sensitive side.

RitaAnn
RitaAnn

Vicki, have no fear. Continue to be yourself. You are the only one who from the beginning has a real job , is independent from Bravo . One of this days this Tamra will be at your door asking for a job!! 

They will always attack anyone who is genuine. So just keep being yourself. 

Debbieinmissouricitytx
Debbieinmissouricitytx

Vicki...really who is Slade? he is nobody and you let nobody influence how you feel and think about yourself...really...he and Gretchen refused to pay child support for his children...and when he did not have the money to pay...why didn't Gretchen help him? that right there is enough to tell you that these 2 sleeze bags are losers! and you should not have let what they say about you matter....stay away from junkyard dog tamara....she is soooooo mean

mizzymomo
mizzymomo

Vicki, your behavior...at least after editing....seems to be purely reactive in every situation.  You yourself mention Slade's junior high comment about your looks as being one impetus for making a huge decision like going under the knife.  Incredible, especially considering your statement that at 51 you know what's good for you.....ha.  Slade's development seems to be arrested at about the age of 14, with the accompanying lack of ability to express himself in any kind of adult manner.  Why you would let that pull you into an equally juvenile response....changing your appearance to suit some external influence....is beyond me.  Your daughter seems to be in the unenviable position now of having to mother both an infant AND her own parent....yikes.  What a job.  Incidentally, Miss Piggy was apparently modeled after Loretta Swit's character Hot Lips Houlihan on M.A.S.H.....so I'd say the reference to both Piggy and Hotlips was an unplanned compliment from Slade.  Too bad you're both too dim to have considered this.  Turns out your original face was most likely a) just fine and dandy and 2) not really the point of Slade's comment in the first place.  Hopefully you're a shade more reasonable at the ol' insurance agency....I'd certainly think twice before taking any business advice from you based on what I've seen....I'd be concerned I was getting third hand advice on life insurance from something Slade said in 2002......snort.

sinsin
sinsin

I still believe that you should listen to Tamra. You say you did everything right when it was her turn to get divorced and remarry or choose. Yet you get defensive when people around you who love you and care about you raise any concerns.....I still believe Tamra and your daughter both know you better than anyone and had only your best interest at heart its a shame you chose not to listen to either.

I don't know why you even bothered to get any surgery done! I don't think it made such a huge difference-but that is your choice.

Velee
Velee

Vicki, I don't think that your surgery was that evident (leave it to Tamara). In any case, you look great. It's your face, your body and you don't need to explain to anyone. I have to admit that I also had reservations about Brooks. All of the women seem to be of the same opinion about him...also Brianna. I don;t know and neither do they, just be careful and keep your eyes open. If there were someone that you felt was taking advantage of someone you love, you'd be right there to warn them Remember, there was a time that you and Tamra were giving Gretchen all kinds iof hell, so "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" Try to look at it this way...if they're talking about you, they're leaving someone else alone. Hang in there Vicki and don't let anyone else govern your feelings.

grayfox007
grayfox007

Vicki I must say quality job, "U look marvelous" I realize tamra may have cross the line but as good friends I see it as someone who cares and was afraid U were falling for a man who was giving U a line. The Psych reality is that a real friend tells things to U they believe is correct even when it hurts because they believe U R going to get hurt in the long run. I guess the Tack time of presenting the situation was in correct but I think the reality show brings the time out of perspective and words that should be done privately R made public at this inappropriate time. Hunter

leyabubbles666
leyabubbles666

I never really liked Vicki she always seemed so fake from the beginning & now she after surgery she's more of a fake.  Although many probably had some sort of surgery and it's okay I think whatever helps you feel better about yourself - but you know people are going to say something - I do not think the others girls should of responded the way that they did it's just wrong so Vicki "Congrats to you"  I do have to say that it's amazing how on all the housewives shows not just this one but all the woman have $$$$$$$$$$$$$$ but still bitch.

 

Ilbtvrealfan13
Ilbtvrealfan13

You are beautiful inside and out. It took guts to show up to Heathers clam bake alone knowing Tamra and her new BF were going to be there. Listen, I think you can do better than Brooks, don't settle so soon. Keep your options open, you are smart, kind, generous and very pretty. I liked how you looked prior to surgery but seeing you healed you look amazing. The swelling scared me at first. Btw Slade, or "Slave" is a mooch. Those two are perfect for eachother. I know I have bounced around a bunch just want you to know I'm a huge fan! If you ever want to teach me your industry, I am a really hard worker and I like your style. Id be a great student. Anyway, take care and keep your pretty face up. God bless you.

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

Vicki can be stunning but considering post surgery her appearence was not good.....I would like to see less makeup on all of them....the prettiest face on the show is Tamra too bad she is so evil.......Gretchen has the best body.....she is also the youngist .....I give Alexis the best hair love the new cut........Heather is the best dressed......worst dressed Tamra and Vicki ......worst hair Tamra and Vicki

valo555
valo555

 @Barbarajean Are you for real blaming Vicky for Tamras marriage breakup Simon was a control freak.

 

 

KikiLou
KikiLou

 @saoirse.churchwood

 LIKE!!!! Thank you for saying it. That girl and her irritating husband need a reality check. Brianna knows her Mom is in a delicate state right now, and is really using it against Vicki. No matter how successful a person is financially, sometimes matters of the heart show a person's insecurities and vulnerability. I was so pained last season as brianna sat there and let those two high school girls berate her Mom. In the public eye, keep a united front. You can disagree with Mom in private.

HonestMama
HonestMama

 @saoirse.churchwood Unfortunately, I agree with you. I was a young single mother in college and lived with my mother, but I never treated her like Briana treats Vicki. I was in college, working two jobs and only had my mom babysit so I could work. I always felt bad for my mom because I felt that my daughter and I being there interfered with her personal life. I would never threaten my mother for dating someone I didn't like unless he was dangerous. Briana should look out for her mother, but emotional blackmail is not the way to go about it. I have always wanted my mother to be happy and I would never stand in her way. Briana is married with a baby now and without Briana, Vicki is alone. I personally would never want my mother to be with someone like Brooks, but at the end of the day people have to make their own decisions about their relationships. Brooks is not an upstanding man, but he does not appear dangerous, so there is no reason why Vicki should lose her daughter and grandson because she chooses to date him. 

bravo12
bravo12

 @911422703

 I sure wouldn't want that embarrassing, controlling, loud mouthed mother at my wedding either.

Nica432
Nica432

 @911422703 Well, I tried posting about how much I have respected Brianna in the past but she is being childish and manipulative.  I also tried to say that her husband is the one who is the opportunist. Afterall, he married into a family with money, got her pregnant right away so at least his kid is assured of money and now he is living in a great big mansion that he didn't have to pay for ...who is the opportunist?

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@911422703 Not to mention that son in law....he is going to be a short sale, mark my words....we won't miss him, he comes off arrogant, demeaning and bossy to Vicki....seriously needs to be put in his place and let the chips fall where they may...she need not worry...its her daughter....