Lizzie: "'Wanting It All' Is Different For Everyone"
Lizzie opens up about juggling her husband, her kids and her career.
I hope that everyone had a great weekend and is enjoying their summer! Fourth of July is right around the corner... July 4th is an extra special day for me as it is also my oldest son's birthday. My sweet Preston will be four!!
This is an extra extra special birthday as we are doing away with Preston's Pull-Ups because "big boys" don't wear diapers. I don't know how potty training has gone with you fellow moms out there, but Preston has really put up a fight in regards to using the potty. I have tried every method and read all the books! We tried the three-day intensive, the laid-back approach and just going cold turkey. We just can't keep it consistent. Preston is a smart little guy and I think he probably knows exactly what he is doing. However, he knows that four is the magic number. We are saying goodbye to the diapers, for good. I'm sure it doesn't help to see his little brother going on the potty before him! My two-year-old, Kingston, has started potty training and it's going much smoother the second time around. I think with Preston I missed the window. I had two under two for a while and it was just a crazy time. Any tried-and-true potty training methods are greatly welcomed!!
On tonight's episode you see me trying to juggle it all. As many of you working moms out there know... it's definitely a juggle running a household, being a mom, and running a company. I got a little teary eyed talking about keeping it all up. Some days the answers are all very clear and everything seems to make sense, right? And then there are just days where I'm like, "What am I doing?" And everything can just seem so overwhelming!
You saw a glimpse of my faith tonight. I thank God daily for the blessings in my life and I also call on him to help me figure out this crazy world we live in. Let's be honest, we don't have ALL the answers. I find great comfort knowing that HE does. And let’s face it when all else fails, sometimes you just need to pray for answers or the strength to get through tough times in our life. I do strongly believe that when you are on the right track in life the appropriate doors easily open for us. If you keep running into a dead end or are dealing with impossible circumstances you may be on the wrong track. I do believe in following your dreams and working hard. Sometimes we just need a different approach.
The biggest obstacle running Sun Kitten Swimwear and raising my boys is finding the perfect balance. Or perhaps it's knowing that there isn't a perfect balance. Christian would prefer I just be a housewife. We talked about that before we were married. We were both from very traditional upbringings and I thought I would love being a super mom housewife like my mother was. My mom is the most fantastic woman, mother, wife and grandmother you could ask for. She is the most selfless, loving, compassionate woman on earth and I know without a doubt, is the glue that keeps our family together. She made our lunches, our beds, didn't miss a game or a recital and always had a home-cooked meal on the table at dinnertime. If you were going to grow up and be a housewife, well, she was just about the best role model ever! But something came over me and I realized that I did want all of that, plus a career. Wanting it "ALL," I think, is very different for everyone and also very personal. I think women have a different definition of what having it "all" means to them.
I really appreciate Heather's advice. Heather has a lot going on and she seems to really have a great balance. I got quite a bit of flack from last week's episode and my friendship with Heather. Do I agree with what happened between Heather and Shannon? Look, I did not witness Shannon going over to Heather's house. I watched it happen just as you did. I feel bad for Shannon. I don't agree with how Heather treated Shannon when she went to her house. All I heard was each of their sides of the story. I can see why each would feel the way they did. There are always three sides to every story... his, hers and the truth.
Heather has been nothing but good to me. Heather really took me under her wing and seemed to really care about what was going on in my life. I am new to this group and I really appreciate that. Also, I felt like the feud between Heather and Shannon was neverending. It was one fight after another. Watching the show now, I really feel bad for what Shannon was going through with her marriage. It definitely seems like a lot more than a 24-hour fight.
It hurt me to see Shannon struggling in Mexico this week. I know Shannon has been married longer than me, but I know marriage is a lot of work. Marriage can be hard work. Christian and I have had our fair share of hard times. Shannon and David were obviously going through a rough patch and having a hell of time seeing eye-to-eye. I feel bad I didn't understand her pain earlier. In my defense, I didn't really understand the extent of what was going on. Shannon had not confided in me about the details of the email and she actually just told me it was nothing more than a little 24-hour fight. So I didn't understand how serious the whole situation was. Heck, I didn't even know what was in the email!
I like Heather and I like Shannon. I would really like for them to be on better terms with each other. They are both lovely women and I look up to both of them. I don't know about you all, but I totally dig the friendship between Vicki and Shannon. I truly see a genuine friendship between the two of them and I really enjoyed seeing that on their trip to Mexico.
How funny is Tamra with that robot baby? Seriously, Tamra should have just called me. I could have just dropped Kingston off with her for a few days. I could use some free childcare.
Wishing everyone a safe and fun 4th of July! Enjoy your week.