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Shannon: "David and I Love Each Other"

Shannon clears the air about her "delivery and tone" when she responds to her husband's dry sense of humor.

Another uncomfortable week sprinkled with bits of fun!

I am having a difficult time with the fact that you are only seeing a small snip of my life! I talked a little bit last week about the sarcastic banter that my husband and I have with each other, and you all were fortunate enough to be able to witness more of it this week! (That was sarcastic, by the way...)

David has a very dry sense of humor. He will say something sarcastic to me and I will respond in an irritated way --that's how we typically act, especially around our friends. They laugh when they hear it because they know us. The other Housewives, however, feel awkward and I am sorry for that. I can understand why they feel that way as I watch the episode.

Let's begin the dissection... Ah, the dinner party. Dinner is finally served tonight and everyone seems to like the food! It makes me feel good! To clarify, though, I do cook every night. If there is a meat that we are cooking on the grill, then David takes over that task. He thinks he cooks the meat portion of the meal the best, and he is probably right! Most nights when he is not working late, he cooks the meat and I make the rest of the meal. It is the time of day that we always spend together and something I really look forward to.

David references his dry sense of humor at the dinner table, and you are able to see my typical response. When David and I got married, I was so excited about becoming partners in life. I did want to get involved with his business is some way so that we would function in that capacity as a team. He did not want any part of that. As we enter into our 14th year of marriage, I understand where he was coming from. It has just been a running joke between us since we have been married. Both David and I are able to see how our banter may make people uncomfortable and it is something that we have been working on. It is important to both of us for people to see that we love each other!

It was nice to hear Tamra and Vicki say that I was down-to-earth. While I know that certain parts of my life appear over the top, David and I do pride ourselves that we are never afraid to get our hands dirty. It is our ultimate goal to raise our three daughters so that they are humble, gracious, and respectful girls. Hopefully we will get there!

I mean it when I say that one of the signs of a successful party for me is a "little bit of crazy." I think we accomplished that this time. It's always fun to have our guests go down to the basketball court and see some of the testoserone fly. And on this night, it was an added bonus to get some of the gals down there. By the way, nice shot Vicki!

Tamra and I clearly started to bond that night. I haven't had a shot since before I was married, but when she suggested it, I was game. I have never been one to turn down something wild! But let's make it clear -- Tamra poured the shot -- I think there were probably four shots total in the glass! When I offered her one of my herbal Party Smart pills, I thought it was hilarious that she climbed up and laid on the kitchen counter. Did she think I was going to do a body shot? Give her an injection? And by the way, on those nights where you are going to have more than a couple drinks, the Party Smart pill does wonders! I don't know who makes this supplement, but it's my secret weapon for those zany and outrageous evenings which I love to have from time to time!

As the night wound down, we all sat in my family room and Vicki invited us to her home for "Fakesgiving." I want to explain myself about how I reacted to David. Some people don't understand his dry sense of humor and may get offended. I wanted to let Vicki know that most of David's comments are jokes so that she wouldn't think he was serious when he made a face about coming to her neighborhood. But even so, I didn't sound like a kind and loving wife when I said it. I need to work on my delivery and tone. You see that dry sense of humor and my reaction again at Vicki's. Do you notice the uncomfortable pattern yet???

I am bit bothered that Vicki and Tamra are commenting on the state of my marriage when they really don't even know me. The most ironic thing is that I was not mad at my husband at all after the party and he was not mad at me.

I am a bargain shopper. I truly am. Come into my formal living room and I will show you the antique chairs that I bought for $100 apiece or the twin beds for Adeline's room that were $150 for the pair. David and I splurged on one item in our home and that was our foyer chandelier. We certainly did not pay the 50-percent off price of $120,000 -- we paid substantially less. I looked for chandeliers for our foyer for about three years and found nothing as spectacular as the one we purchased. Our thought process was to make an investment in the first impression and focal point of our house. If I told you the price tags of all the other chandeliers we purchased, you would be impressed. One of my passions is having a story behind each piece of furniture I buy. That bargain is part of my story.

I had a great time at Vicki's house for "Fakesgiving." I tend to host all of the holidays (which I love to do), but it was nice to be at someone else's home for a meal. It made me sad to hear Vicki and Tamra say that they felt judged or "less than" by Heather. I suggested they speak to her about it. I am direct (sometimes to a fault, though) and believe that being honest and communicating how you feel is the best way to address concerns you are having.

You all get to meet one of my favorite people of all time in this episode, Larry Gust. We have worked with him for the last 10 years. He is an environmental consultant and guided us throughout our entire building process. You got to see Larry walking through my house with a meter that reads electromagnetic radiation (EMF). I believe that EMFs are a stressor on the immune system and can cause damage to one's health. I mean it when I say that I don't care if people take me seriously about these issues. Sleep is one of the most important components of maintaining good health, and I want my family to have the healthiest sleep environment possible. To be honest, I hope I am wrong. I truly hope that people are not being harmed by EMFs and cell phone radiation and that no one can come up to me in 30 years and say that I was right. If there are reports out there, however, that support my choices, I am going to err on the side of caution. Larry can be contacted at lgust@gustenviro.com.

Check out my website at ShannonBeador.com! Next week I am going to start featuring some short videos that give you easy and inexpensive tips to a healthier home. Also, please follow me on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. I am starting to get this whole social media thing down! By next week I should be completely on top of it!

See you next week! XO

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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