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The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Shannon reacts to the comments Terry made to David and to Heather and Tamra's bad behavior.

Amazing that the season is over! It has been a whirlwind to say the least!

And so it begins again. . .Tamra making up more things about me and pulling Heather in. When I first met Tamra, she continually complained about her relationship with Heather. I never suggested that Tamra stay away from Heather, that Heather was evil, or that Heather was a horrible person. I did say that I saw black in Heather's eyes on the day that she kicked me out of her house. My continual suggestion to Tamra was that she should tell Heather how she felt and communicate with her. You can actually see me tell her that early on at Vicki's Fakes-Giving dinner. I never said that Tamra didn't want Heather in her wedding. Tamra said to me that their friendship wasn't real.

Heather says that she "went to the source" and asked Tamra whether certain unkind things were said about her. I did that too. I asked Tamra whether she told Heather about David's email and she denied it. I asked Tamra to confirm what she told me numerous times that Terry wanted to "take the Beadors down," and she denied it. Going to the source has been of no benefit to me, and in fact, has given me false information. If Heather thinks that Tamra is going to be truthful to her, then that is her choice. I think Heather is smarter than that.

As far as my friendship with Vicki, most of the times when Tamra's name comes up, she tells me that Tamra came between her relationship with Brianna. I have been hurt by Tamra and Vicki has been hurt by Tamra. When I am close friends with anyone, I don't want to see them get hurt. I have and will continue to tell Vicki to proceed with caution in any friendship with Tamra.

Heather's version of my interaction with Vicki is once again exaggerated. It almost appears that Tamra and Heather's conversation had been thought out ahead of time. I do not split up friendships. In fact, I always encourage people to talk it out. Both women know what the truth is and I know what the truth is. I have continually been honest and take responsibility for things I have and haven't said.

On our last night in Bali, I was informed that David made the inappropriate comment for Heather to "spread her legs" when she was getting on the bull at her hoedown three months earlier. I was surprised to hear that he would say such a thing, but I knew he consumed many drinks that day. Although I was confused why Terry had not brought up the topic when we had seen him months earlier, I let David know as soon as I returned home for our trip. He told me that Heather was wearing a dress and got on the bull side saddle. That is when he yelled, "Spread your legs!" In his tequila mind, he thought it was funny. If I were Heather and my guests had been drinking all day, I would have laughed at that comment and moved on. . . But that is the difference between us.

Vicki's house looked amazing for her Bali dinner party! She knows how to do it up! I was so impressed with David that he walked right up to Terry and Heather as soon as we arrived to make his apology. I don't know if anyone noticed, but when David stepped forward to give Heather a kiss on the cheek, she stepped away. We should have seen that as a sign that things would once again not sit well with the Dubrows.

David's apology was sincere. We both thought it was strange that we were hearing about how Terry was so upset months after the fact, but David was willing to take responsibility and ask for forgiveness for his statement. He even did it in front of others which I thought was so admirable. True to form, the apology was not good enough for the Dubrows and was coined "bullsh--."

I said my peace to Tamra in Bali. I asked her for an explanation for her character assassinations of me and she gave none. I don't expect to ever get one. I am ready to move on. But yet she seemed to goad everyone on at the end of dinner. I let her know my disappointment with her betrayal and she seemed surprised I said it. Really?And then to the most mind-blowing portion of the night. David  attempted to remind Tamra about how she instigated the argument between he and Terry on the night of Lizzie's party with the whole "take down the Beadors" comment. Terry jumped in and said that wasn't what he was upset about at Lizzie's party -- he was really upset about David's spread your legs comment. What?

Then why didn't we hear about it at Lizzie's party? Why didn't he "go to the source" months earlier? And even more so, why was there no anger towards Eddie with his comment "Show us how you ride Terry"? Aren't they equally offensive?

My husband started his company on his own and works very hard. He has multiple degrees. The fact that Terry called him stupid and insulted him as a construction worker is unacceptable. I also can honestly say that I have heard many things in my life, but I have never heard one man call another a "penis."  He also called David a "douchebag."

I truly thought Heather and I were on a path to potential friendship, and I was completely shocked at she and Terry's air of superiority at the dinner table. To say words and then insinuate that we would have to look them up is truly offensive. And by the way, a thesaurus is used for synonyms. What we would actually need to look up the big words Heather and Terry used would be a dictionary.

I have developed what I know will be a lifelong friendship with Vicki. Since Bali, I have become quite close to Lizzie. Today, my family and my marriage are the most important things to me. The pot stirring and arguing that some of these women are doing is ridiculous. I have no time or need for it. I can forgive, but I will never forget. With time, you never know what will happen, but for now my husband and I are keeping our distance from Tamra and Dubrows.

Stay tuned for the reunion next week! Please follow me on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook! Have a great week! XO

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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