Vicki Gunvalson

Having been there herself, Vicki knows what it takes to keep open honesty going in a marriage. She shares her advice with Shannon and David.

on Jul 8

Adios, Amigos -- goodbye, Puerto Vallarta.

Tonight's episode was the conclusion of our trip to Puerto Vallarta. It was fun for me to take our group to Paso Ancho where I have a lot of friends who live there. It's a small village town outside of the town of Puerto Vallarta and I have known the owner of the horses for over 25 years. I have a lot of history in that tiny village and even bought those horses that we rode on for my friend so he could have a business and make a living. I used to gift him money a few times a year, but after doing that a few years in a row, I realized I wasn't giving him a source of income that he could duplicate on his own -- I was just helping him and his family financially survive. It's the story of giving a fisherman fish to feed his family, or give the fisherman a fishing pole and TEACH him how to fish. For my friend Antonio, gifting him those horses gave him a way to make a living for himself, his wife and their three children. It's truly a blessing to see after 12 years the horses are still strong, healthy and he has a great horseback riding business now from my gift to him.

I don't claim to know everything about staying "happily married for a lifetime" -- but what I do know is what NOT to do. Sometimes it takes us to be removed from a relationship as I have been in order to see the mistakes that were done which caused the demise of the marriage. You can see more clearly what could have been done in order to save it.

I've been encouraging Shannon and David to listen to each other's needs and to keep the communication lines open in order to strengthen their marriage. I know they both love each other a lot and want to make their marriage work, which is what’s needed in order to make it last a lifetime. Sometimes it just takes a little bit of truth serum and honesty (which is what David did on the episode), to be sure the other one hears what you're really feeling.