Lizzie Rovsek wants to know why Tamra Barney didn’t come to her birthday party.

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ShadyBoots13
ShadyBoots13

Tamra had told Vicki early that morning that her daughter was sick.  It seems like a valid reason not to go to a party that night and to stay home with her child.  Why didn't Tamra tell Lizzie ahead of time instead of Lizzie having to call her while waiting for her on the lonely party bus?  It shows that indeed Tamra is inconsiderate and has no class.  Me thinks that Tamra is intimidated by Lizzie's beauty, class and confidence.  Not an easy target and perhaps Tamra doesn't want her husband around that beautiful, smart woman.

bluebell
bluebell

Love Lizzie, she seems fair & open minded. She thinks for herself, not what is popular. Way to go Lizzie!

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

should Tamra be fired for not keeping her role real and fabricating lies to create drama she is making the show a platform for her out of her desperation to continue being in the cast.....I fast forward her because I have seen enough of this phony bitch........ 

RitaAnn
RitaAnn

how awful to see women like Tamra and Heather....I am speechless. please stop showing this kind of people....

Bohorodeo
Bohorodeo

If anyone has ever been subject to gas lighting or a witch hunt or both, they know how disorienting that is is. When they have fair~weather friends yet, actually they have none at all during a time that has generated out of nothing and nowhere. When it happens, it can be just after, say, the birth of a baby. It doesn't make sense when it happens. Sometimes, one doesn't even have the support of their husband. He may be behind it. He may be beginning to roll the snowball to start a devastating divorce. One may live in a city where folks are so vapid they don't even have to know the subject to participate. The subject could find themselves on the waaaay losing end of an organized attack so vicious that takes them down so far in which people create a profile of them that becomes unrecognizable. A profile with such backing that the fiction becomes fact and they become a pariah of the first order. Only does this happen because of a name that was viable in a conversation and rumor so easily passable that it only took a carpool lane to begin the distraction and dismantling of a person's life. If you think for a moment that little remarks like, "should we call an ambulance" by a doctor's wife set on destroying another woman is innocuous, you are wrong. Seeing someone who has never been subjected to deliberate hearsay meant to harm for the first time will illustrate to you the unfair nature and imbalanced effect. That someone who has lived their own life in a quiet, fair and private way will, at first, try to make sense of it ~ which is impossible. Hopefully, that person, will have an intelligent, devoted partner at their side. Next, ideally, that sensitive, insightful person being subjected to the gas lighting and the witch hunt will distance themselves as much as possible. Such a horrible blood sport is motivated sometimes by jealousy...yet, sometimes just by a juggling of hierarchy and sometimes, sadly, just from the viciousness and boredom of the species called woman. I think it is important to shed real light on this phenomenon.

bajarosa_82
bajarosa_82

wow we can actually comment on videos, hopefully blogs will be next!!! @MissPuff danielle is only on the show because they thought she would be an interesting addition to the show but during filming bravo realized she was just too boring,  giving her the title of friend of the housewives is easier than trying to edit her out of all the drama!!

Chicagogirl12
Chicagogirl12

Heather I cannot believe that you had the nerve to say that Lizzie shouldn't gave spoken to Tamara about her b-day party at the opening of your party. Do you not remember all of the trouble that you and Terry caused at her dinner party hypocrite?

MissPuff
MissPuff

Why is Danielle on this show? She is super annoying.

randrew
randrew

@susanzavagli 

ICAM with this comment. When she told Andy that, I'm glad he came back with, "we want you to be yourself". Tamra doesn't even know what that means... the idiot!   IMO she does need to be fired. She's WAY overstayed her welcome. As has Vicki.

zookeeper93
zookeeper93

@RitaAnn I have been disappointed in Heather, for the most part, this season but I think the lies of Tamra have a lot to do with it and Heather has been to blind to see that she has been played all this time by Tamra. 

joysnote
joysnote

@Bohorodeo Yes,  you are so right.  They tried to do this to Lisa too on BH  but luckily she has been around on the show a little longer and was able to figure it out and hold it together.  I don't understand why Andy does not step in and stand up on the reunion and what happens live.  He is so cute and funny, and classy,  he could do it in a way that just shuts it down.

ShadyBoots13
ShadyBoots13

@Bohorodeo What a fascinating post.  I had never heard of that term before.  Perhaps that is what used to be called "crazy making"; when someone purposely manipulates things to make YOU look crazy when it is they who started it and were expecting such a reaction from you.  Thank you!!

nexxie
nexxie

It's so important to help people understand gaslighting, though some here don't want to hear about it.

sandi2
sandi2

@Bohorodeo  excellent post.   I am a mental health counselor, and I see the effects of gas-light technique on the targets of such behavior.  It is intentionally cruel manipulation intended to harm. These shows are a study in human behavior that we utilize in my practice to build resilience.  Thank you for posting.  

KMCoffey
KMCoffey

I agree with you. Heather has a rule book that's crazy. Heather has a self righteous tone in her voice and her opinions. Did you notice she didn't have the nerve to say it to Lizzie's face but in the confessional interview it was a problem lol

freshidea
freshidea

@MissPuff I wondered that myself because she adds NOTHING to the show. How did Tamara pull this one off? They minds well bring back Gretchen without Slade.

Brenda.Maria
Brenda.Maria

@randrew @susanzavagli I have a feeling her being herself is the way she portrays herself on the show.  I think she very much exaggerates it, but nonetheless, at some point her actions reflect upon herself and if you can cause rifts/drama for money, it says a lot about someone's character.

sandi2
sandi2

@zookeeper93 @RitaAnn Heather has no difficulty attempting to establish her intelligence. She has selective blindness.

Yali
Yali

@joysnote @Bohorodeo Not the same. Im sorry but Lisa is what she is accused of being. The difference is that she is a great manipulator.

Brenda.Maria
Brenda.Maria

@sandi2 @zookeeper93 @RitaAnn As much as I like Heather, I think so too.  I also think that Heather might be scared of Tamra in some sort of way.  Tamra has been known that when a friendship ends, secrets come out of her mouth.  Maybe Heather is scared of what she could have possibly told Tamra or that Tamra fabricates something about her family?

zookeeper93
zookeeper93

@housewifeforreal4 @KMCoffey I have been disappointed in Heather this season as well. But if you will bear with me a second, I think it all boils down to Tamra's lies and Heather has not realized yet how she has been played by Tamra. I am hoping by the finale in Bali (or wherever the stomp out scene is) that she has caught on. Heather was terrible at Lizzie's party (and so was her idiot househusband, Terry). That said, Tamra is the one who got everyone going and Heather fell for it, once again. I don't know that I believe Terry said "Let's take the Beador's down but I do think Tamra made it up and said as much to Shannon and Vicki. I can understand Heather being a little gun shy when Lizzie brought up her disappointment to Tamra about her BDay Party. Because it involved Tamra, and being the unpredictable hot head with no class or self control, Heather was worried how Tamra would react to being confronted. I just don't think Heather has realized yet how much she has been played. Hoping she does.