BravoTV.com: What were you thinking when Charrisse asked you if your mom bought the ring?
Candiace Dillard: My thoughts aligned completely with what came out of my mouth. It was a shady bitch moment — I said what I said! I try not to be quick to anger (operative word: try), so it wasn’t necessary to pop off on Charrisse in that moment. She knew she was reaching when she fixed her mouth to ask about my ring.
While my family is blessed to be able to provide me with opportunities to grow and work in business together, Chris goes above and beyond to fulfill his duties as a man, as my future husband, and as the head of our family. He has never wanted or had a need to ask my family or my mother for anything — my ring included. As a matter of fact, the ONLY thing Chris has ever asked my parents for is my hand in marriage. He was financially comfortable before he met me, and he will continue to provide for us without a handout from anyone.
BravoTV.com: Tell us about getting emotional in the shop.
CD: While my emotions are most definitely tied to my tears (I cry when I’m happy, angry, sad... it’s always tears lol), I really didn’t expect to start crying like that! It kind of woke me up to how much I’d been holding in my feelings about wedding planning. I’m a control freak and hate to feel out of control of any situation, so dealing with so many opinions on a day that’s supposed to be all about Chris and I brought out the tears. Wedding planning can be polarizing. It brings out the crazy in people. Friends who you thought would be supportive sometimes aren’t; family who you expect to support you let you down. People showcase their selfishness and their unwarranted opinions...it’s a lot.
All that compounded with tackling the beast that is planning a wedding with blended families is NUTS. I don’t want to let any of my parents down or make them feel like they don’t matter. It’s such a delicate balance, down to the order of my parents’ names on the wedding invitation. What about dances? I have to dance with my dad AND my stepdad, but here comes my mom claiming her role as the most important person in my life and therefore worthy of a dance. And she IS worthy of a dance, but am I diminishing my dad and stepdad by giving my mom a dance as well? Then there’s the aisle walking saga. It’s bad enough that I’m stressed over my dad and stepdad, but my mom also throws her hat in. It’s like...how do I choose? At this point, since I came from Jesus, maybe He should walk me down the aisle so we can just call it a day. Lol!
BravoTV.com: Did you expect saying “shady bitch moment” would turn into such a blow-up with the ladies? Did Hurricane Candiace come out? Tell us about that car ride.
CD: I had every intention of sitting back and enjoying my trip up to Nemacolin. Ashley did a fabulous job of stocking our shade-wagon with libations, and I just wanted to enjoy my champagne! Monique loves to tell a good story, and no good story is complete without (my) entertaining (and shady) commentary, chyle! The bottom line is, anyone with a pulse and decent fashion sense (read: everyone but Gizelle) knows that what Charrisse said at cryotherapy was shady as hell: a moment in history that could only be categorized as a moment of the shady bitch variety. True tea. Facts. Joggers — whatever you want you call it, it ain’t no lie!
If I’m being honest, what you all saw was closer to Tropical Storm Candiace than Hurricane Candiace. I was laughing at her attempts to be in her feelings and claw at some semblance of relevance. In short, GIRL, BYE. Keep trying me, though. Your number will come up.
The highlight of the whole soirée was drunk Monique (one of my favorite versions of Mo lol) trying to “hold” Charrisse back. Girl, where were you trying to go? Don’t cross this side of the bus unless you’re prepared. This “little girl” is always ready.
BravoTV.com: What were you thinking when Gizelle said that you owed Charrisee an apology?
CD: I don’t owe these ladies anything but a middle finger and the blackest part of my behind. Gizelle and her fair-weather friendships. In five minutes, she’ll be talking cash money sh-- about Charrisse, and all be right with the world again.
But since we’re out here requesting apologies all willy nilly and such, allow me to commission a few apologies from Gizelle for her most grossly offensive indiscretions. I am requesting apologies for:
-the unrelenting visual of Sherman eating that damn strawberry
-for being the tacky, tactless, and just generally the unpleasant person that is Gizelle Bryant
BravoTV.com: Tell us about this clash at lunch. What are your thoughts on it now?
CD: It completely baffles me that women who exist squarely on the dime of their ex-husbands would take issue with, find humor in, or place judgment on my financial favor. The gag is, NONE OF THIS IS MY STORY.
Didn’t marry for money — he has his, and I have mine (CHECK)
WELP. Looks like some of you need to spend more time working on your next victim and less time judging me and my coins. We good over here.