Jewel Tankard, Wedding Planner

Jewel to Junice: "Let It Go!"

Junice's Out of Character Behavior

Is Brooklyn Playing the Guilt Card?

Jewel: "I Don't Think I am Overprotective."

Ben: Being a Virgin is a Blessing

Ben's Secret to a Happy Marriage

Jewel: "I Know My Sister Loves Me"

Junice's Betrayal

Brooklyn's Heart is in the Right Place

I Respect Juncie's Lifestyle

Ben: I'm Not a Preacher, I'm a Reacher

Jewel: Nothing's Open But Legs

Ben: We Are Thicker Than Water

Jewel Tankard, Wedding Planner

Jewel explains why she wanted to take over the wedding plans for Benji and Shanira. Jewel, Benji and Shanira don’t seem to be holding back on wedding expenses. How did you feel when you first heard the budget?
Jewel Tankard: I was like, NO WAY! That was entirely too much and that money can be better spent with them preparing for their future -- buying a home, furniture, paying off debts, and things like that. Jewel, when your children talk about Brooklyn going out in front of Diamond, do you think that affects her?
Jewel: It’s interesting, because I would like for them not to talk about it in front of her, but on the other end, Diamond knows as well. I think having that open dialogue will allow Diamond to become comfortable with having open communication on how she is feeling. Jewel, you and Ben seem to have different perspectives on how to go about the wedding and how to finance it. How do you two come to terms with how the money is spent and what it goes to?
Jewel: Normally, the father of the bride pays for the wedding, but Shanira’s father passed away. So what I felt was, since we love both Benji and Shanira, let’s pay for the wedding, but let’s cut the expenses Jewel, what were you thinking when you got the phone call regarding Brooklyn’s behavior?
Jewel: We were not totally surprised when we got the phone call, and it just confirmed some of the concerns that we had with her staying out late at night.

Junice's Out of Character Behavior

Ben shares his thoughts on Jewel's sister. Do you think it was beneficial to have Jewel take over the wedding planning? Did you think she'd actually stay on budget?
Ben Tankard: Absolutely. When it comes to money management, she is the Michael Jordan in the family. I would be more like Scotty Pippen (2nd man). She is what I call a KFP (Kingdom Financial Planner). She has an economics degree and is a trained financial planner, so she knows how to shop for the best deals on flowers, designs, etc. She can squeeze the life out of a nickel, so I am happy she is helping out. My patience is too short, and I would just do the big daddy thing and pay too much just to do it quick and get it over with. I'm better with the bigger purchases like shopping for the best home, car, or plane deals. Jewel is best with the hostess type projects. My guess is she will make it LOOK like it is over budget, but she will actually come in UNDER budget. Were you proud to see Brooklyn planning her hair show? Were you surprised by how it turned out?
Ben: YES, we always knew Brooklyn had tremendous potential (which is why we are so hard on her). Looks like all the pressure is paying off! We are very proud parents to witness Brookie pull off this major event. We knew it would be a good event (and better than the last one), but had no idea it would be this high end, New York Fashion Week type event that it turned out to be. We like these sort of surprises. Why can't Brooklyn and Benji work it out? Is there a deeper issue there?
Ben: I don't know, but it is on my nerves! Yes, there’s a deeper issue, and it's called foolishness! I NEED TO GO TO THE BIBLE ON THIS ONE. The bible says, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15) What do you think changed with Junice?
Ben: I have to think it is hormones from having the two kids really quickly, and other life issues pressing in. I have known Junice for 14 years (she worked for me for a few years), and she was sweet as pie. This behavior is so out of character, and it reminds me of some behaviors I witnessed with some other mothers I have seen with post-partum depression. But I'm not a doctor, just a brother in law that still loves her no matter what and will continue to help (and pray) in any way I can. After all, blood is "Thicker Than Water.” How did you feel when you saw Cyrene apologize to Brooklyn?
Ben: Very teary! Finally, some breakthrough! At least the kids are listening to SOME of our words.