This week they looked for, and in some cases found, their "inner sexy." Sex is one of the first things to go when we gain weight. Sex is a place of tremendous vulnerability, and it is about literally and metaphorically bearing ourselves. Weight often ends up numbing and covering us up –- so sex suffers. After being overweight, finding sexy again is a tricky journey. Mandy and her husband have managed to keep the passion alive through an interesting mix of sex incentives and keeping it fresh. More power to them, I think it's wonderful. Joe came clean about some of his "hide the fat" sex tricks (though after watching his barroom approach to women, it is a wonder anyone is signing on). As a former chubby gal I know the tricks -– lights off during sex, the most flattering positions to hide the rolls of fat (lying flat on the back pushes the belly fat down and to the side), ways to sneak the Spanx off before sex.
This may have been the funnest therapy session of all. They were high off the fabulous Pussycat Dolls routine and the topic is one of my favorites. The session was about teaching them that sexiness is not about weight. It is in fact about confidence and self-love. About accepting our physical selves and knowing ourselves sexually. Weight numbs, and once it starts coming off, we start feeling again –- physically, emotionally, mentally and sexually. But as they find their bodies and sexuality, the process becomes self-reinforcing. They make healthier choices for their enjoyable new bodies, and exercise is a celebration of all of it working together so well.
Jeana and Nikki the week's big losers? How did that happen? Simple –- it was stimulus control. And this technique can help anyone out there trying to lose weight.