Dr. Ramani

Dr. Ramani explains why certain teams worked better than others in this week's episode. 

on Sep 10, 2010

Gaining weight is a team sport.  For most people struggling with weight loss – you didn’t get here alone, and you aren’t going to get out of here alone.

This week on THINtervention, we learned that despite the snarky remarks and their outright antipathy for each other – that there was real power in coming together and holding each other accountable.  If you want to drop the pounds, then you might need to work with other people.  Yes, at the end of the day, we are responsible for every pound since we ate the food, but we don’t become us in a vacuum.

Sometimes motivators may come in the most unlikely packages, and our underminers may look just like us.  Despite their nasty remarks about each other, Nikki and Joe were actually able to get up that hill together;  Bryan and Kim found a collective sweet spot in their competitive natures.   Ironically – the “well-matched” duos in terms of age, economic status and lifestyle – Jeana and Mandy as well as Shea and Stacy – didn’t get as much out of their matches.  Shea and Stacy were locked in an enabling space of insufficient effort.  During their time together, Mandy reflected on her health and her children, while Jeana reflected on the martial artist’s loveliness and a future of sexy bikinis.  Finding a workout partner who is “off-type” may push us in unexpected directions.  Now, our group faces new collective challenges, Kim will no longer be with us, and everyone will now come together in a different way. 

The darkest side of how others shape our present selves was revealed in the courageous disclosures of Nikki and Bryan during our session this week.   Our 2 resident humorists exposed childhoods impacted by notable betrayal and loss, and their humor has been a successful tool for keeping the hurts of the past at bay.   We learn how to treat ourselves by watching how others treat us.  When trauma and betrayal characterize development, self-abuse in a variety of ways including food or alcohol can frequently follow.  Despite the past, now is the time for all of them to learn how to treat themselves and hopefully each other, respectfully.