Slip Happens

Dr. Ramani knows that mistakes happen, but the participants can't let that discourage them.

If a shark stops moving it dies.

I was told that this happens because a shark's dense body mass is such that it would sink if it didn't move. 

That analogy may apply to our warriors running in the rain. The key for them was to not stop –- and psychologically, if they stopped, they would sink.  

Jackie grew impatient with Nikki during the initial workout –- saying, "She's like a child that needs attention."  Well, yeah, we sort of established that during our therapy sessions –- the world quit Nikki as a child, she is quitting herself as an adult.  

Ironically, Nikki won the grocery store challenge. Well, not so ironic. Let's face it, in general terms people know the "right" way to eat. This isn't rocket science. Marshmallows bad, grilled chicken good. Grapefruit in syrup bad. Grapefruit you peel good. Most smokers know smoking causes lung cancer, most overweight people know calories cause weight gain. We eat badly because eating is driven more by emotion and less by common sense.

When I saw Jeana and her friends on the yacht, it made me wonder yet again how rich women stay so thin.  Their lives are filled with parties, great food, good wine and time. I know many of you at home have thought this -- she has money, time, trainer, and a chef and if girlfriend can't lose weight –- how they hell am I supposed to? Eating is about MINDFULNESS. About stopping and thinking before you eat. Jeana couldn't even meditate for 60 seconds. You want to lose weight? Turn off the damned noise in your head for a few minutes –- that applies if you are rich or poor.  

Nikki's seeming indifference to the criticism of her peers makes her the most powerful person in the group. What are your thoughts? Will this Lone Wolf thing pay off for her and lead to bigger gains? Does selfish pay off when it comes to weight loss?

Let's talk frankly about the session. Listen gang, therapy obviously did not last 10 minutes. We sat for long hot hours in that therapy room and did some real work which you will never see. I talked. A lot. In fact, Dr. Ramani's vocabulary does go well beyond "okay." So when Jeana was called out by Stacy –- I called both of them on it and forced Jeana to confront her feelings and Stacy. When Joe was mad at Nikki about being the favored child -- yes, again –- I called them on it. While their 1-2 pound weight loss goals may not be what you would expect on such a strict regimen, it is the level of progress most mere mortals can expect to make on a normal weight loss plan. Eating clean and working out intensely is aspirational –- and should be the goal to which we aim, but life interferes – and on the days we "slip" –- our next meal is a chance to get it right again. Slip happens. 

The clients are getting defensive, Jackie is getting defensive, and here even I am getting defensive. Makes sense, weight loss is frustrating, and can often bring out our inner cowards rather than our inner warriors. But let it be said that the key buzzwords of the session are STOP and DISTRACT (it's like drop and roll). Put the excess food down –- you have the power –- and then immediately distract. Take a walk, call a friend, exercise, masturbate -– just don't eat.  

Are they doomed? Have we run out of insights for therapy? Are they just lazy, vodka drinking, injury prone spoiled children, or are they all of us? Again, place your bets. Who is going to post the greatest losses next week? I can all but guarantee you will be surprised at the answer.


So Long, Farewell, Auf Wiedersehen, But Not Goodbye

Bryan thanks the many people involved in his 'Thintervention' experience.

What an incredible journey this has been. There are so many words that come to mind when I reflect on the past 13 weeks. At times the process was overwhelming, frustrating, challenging, inspiring, hilarious, painful, intense, sweaty, but at the end of the day, the experience for me was life changing. I got to learn so much about myself along the way and made some amazing friends throughout the process. It was interesting to watch everyone's journey package on the finale and see how we all dealt with our time away from Jackie.

I found Shay's honesty in coming clean with Jackie and Dr. Ramani incredibly brave, I think Joe turned a major corner, Jeana found the strength to stand up for herself, Stacy fought like a champion, Nikki figured out a way to incorporate Jackie's program into her lifestyle, and Mandy knocked it out of the park. I was tremendously proud of everyone at the finale for all of the hard work and hurdles we each had to overcome. And Jackie was right; it wasn't just about a number on the scale but how each of us now relates to food, and how we have been able to incorporate exercise into our daily lives.

However, none of this would have been possible to achieve had it not been for the following kindhearted, motivational, and inspiring teachers: 

I really gained a lot of respect for Dr. Ramani when she first opened up and told us that she also struggled with food. I appreciated her courage and I quickly came to realize that she could honestly relate to our battle. We could not have asked for a better role model than this articulate, intelligent, and beautiful woman. To be able to talk to someone on a weekly basis that has walked a mile in my shoes was immensely valuable to me. Dr. Ramani truly understood food addiction and was instrumental in helping me turn my life around. She taught me that it was okay to express my pain and not hold on to my secrets. She taught me that honesty could really be rewarding. She taught me how to view food as a friend not an enemy. I am humbled by her story and blessed by her wisdom.

Craig might be one of the kindest, foxiest, and most knowledgeable trainers for men that I have ever met. In those 6 weeks away from Jackie, Craig pushed me harder then anyone I have ever met. There were days when I just wanted to say, "ENOUGH ALREADY," and throw in the towel. Thankfully, Craig taught me how to push myself to intensity. He taught me "the ropes of the gym" and how to workout in the future on my own. He also taught me about self worth and self esteem. Craig talked me off the ledge many a day, and I will forever be indebted to this man. He is not only beautiful on the outside but also just as beautiful on the inside.

Then we have the woman who made it all possible: Jackie, or Herr Warner as I affectionately like to call her. My first impression of Jackie was that she was going to be incredibly tough and that I was going to have some type of screaming match with her, where only one of us would walk away alive. (*Note, never mess with a hungry, cranky queen.) I did loose my cool with her once, but it wasn't because of something she did, it was more with me just being uncomfortable and in pain and just wanting to "finish the f------ workout." Jackie is an AMAZING teacher. She is the Mrs. Miyagi of the fitness world. She taught me how to dig deep and push through the burn. She taught me that cookies were pain. She taught me how to connect mind, body, and spirit. She taught me how to call on Ethel when I truly needed her. She taught me how to wax on and wax off … oh wait, scratch that. Most of all she taught me how to take responsibility and live a better, healthier lifestyle. Jackie not only changed my life, she SAVED my life. I will never be able to truly thank her enough for allowing me to go on this journey. It was the most rewarding experience of my life so far. 

Then there is the love of my life, Miguel. He has been a thoughtful, generous, selfless, benevolent, caring, beautiful, loving and most importantly, the best teacher that I have ever met. He taught me to love myself in spite of my faults. He taught me the importance of standing by someone's side through the good and the bad no matter what. He taught me the importance of self worth. He taught me about patience. He taught me about love. I feel the same way now as I did those 7 ½ years ago when I first laid eyes on him, incredibly blessed and fortunate to have found my soul mate. I appreciate that he never gave up on me, and I am honored to spend the rest of my days growing old with him.

Last but not least, there are the fans. "You" who read the blogs and have taught me encouragement. "You" who watch the show and have taught me that I am not alone in this journey. "You" who have taught me that one person can make a small difference in someone else's life. "You" who have made me want to become a better person. I thank all of "you" for your constant words of motivation and support. While this might be my last blog for Thintervention and Bravo, this will not be the last you hear or see of me. 

1) Follow me on TWITTER @BRYANTDONOVAN. Everyday I will be tweeting about my journey after the show, what I continue to learn, what challenges me, and just life in general. And if you like my humor, this is where you want to be!

2) Become a fan of BRYAN T DONOVAN - THINTERVENTION WITH JACKIE WARNER on FACEBOOK. I use this fan page to connect with everyone and engage in all sorts of conversations, share my reflections and lessons, answer your questions, share ideas, and really just have a forum for all of us to support each other and stay connected! I love sharing pictures as well! 

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With a humbled heart and immense gratitude-

Xoxo Bryan