Unexpected Results

Dr. Ramani explains why certain teams worked better than others in this week's episode. 

Gaining weight is a team sport.  For most people struggling with weight loss – you didn’t get here alone, and you aren’t going to get out of here alone.

This week on THINtervention, we learned that despite the snarky remarks and their outright antipathy for each other – that there was real power in coming together and holding each other accountable.  If you want to drop the pounds, then you might need to work with other people.  Yes, at the end of the day, we are responsible for every pound since we ate the food, but we don’t become us in a vacuum.

Sometimes motivators may come in the most unlikely packages, and our underminers may look just like us.  Despite their nasty remarks about each other, Nikki and Joe were actually able to get up that hill together;  Bryan and Kim found a collective sweet spot in their competitive natures.   Ironically – the “well-matched” duos in terms of age, economic status and lifestyle – Jeana and Mandy as well as Shea and Stacy – didn’t get as much out of their matches.  Shea and Stacy were locked in an enabling space of insufficient effort.  During their time together, Mandy reflected on her health and her children, while Jeana reflected on the martial artist’s loveliness and a future of sexy bikinis.  Finding a workout partner who is “off-type” may push us in unexpected directions.  Now, our group faces new collective challenges, Kim will no longer be with us, and everyone will now come together in a different way. 

The darkest side of how others shape our present selves was revealed in the courageous disclosures of Nikki and Bryan during our session this week.   Our 2 resident humorists exposed childhoods impacted by notable betrayal and loss, and their humor has been a successful tool for keeping the hurts of the past at bay.   We learn how to treat ourselves by watching how others treat us.  When trauma and betrayal characterize development, self-abuse in a variety of ways including food or alcohol can frequently follow.  Despite the past, now is the time for all of them to learn how to treat themselves and hopefully each other, respectfully. 

Overweight people often become invisible.  To the world, and to themselves.  As their weight comes off, they will start experiencing the world differently, and the world will experience them differently.  The personal excavation of weight loss sometimes unearths old stuff or hopes they don’t wish to remember.   Jackie is teaching these clients to physically reach for things they think they cannot grasp.  Jackie and Craig aren’t building muscles – they are building courage.  That courage then comes into the therapy room. They start peeling off the psychological layers and pounds that numbed them and take honest stock of their lives.  

Losing weight is not just treadmills and protein shakes – it is about discarding old scripts and facing old demons.  A new body can be both exhilarating and terrifying.   That terror of the unknown can make people hold back and sabotage well-intentioned weight loss attempts.

This week – let your reach exceed your grasp.  Push yourself – inside and out, even if it hurts. Challenge your stereotype of yourself.  Workout with a mismatched partner – and push yourself out of the comfort zone to a place of change.    

Now it’s time for you to weigh in.  What’s going to happen to the group with Kim gone?  Will Nikki’s revelations be a wake-up call?   How will Shay fare now that her mom is gone?  What about you?   Who has been a supporter in your weight loss struggle?  Who has undermined you?   What were the key lessons you learned about food at your childhood dinner table and how do they shape your eating now?   We can learn from the past, but we are not governed by it.

 

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Everyone Deserves a Thintervention

Craig thinks everyone can achieve their goals just like the Thintervention clients.

For all our viewers at home, please answer these questions for yourself:

What is holding you back from your Thintervention success? 

When and why did your self destruction start with unhealthy eating and lack of exercise? 

Now let me answer this next two questions for you:

Do you deserve, and can you achieve, a healthy fit body?  

HELL YES!

Where does this start?

With you! With you wanting and accepting the fact that you are worthy and deserving of self love.  

One of my training mottos with my clients is, "Borrow the love I have for you until you find it for yourself". 

Success is not just measured by inches and by the scale. It's definitely a proper indicator that you are on the right track with your program. 

All of these clients found out what is truly necessary with a weight loss program. They now have the ability to do it for themselves.  

Let me break it down here:

Mandy -- Week two into this program we could see she was a champ! Mandy trusted us and followed the program perfectly.She worked out so hard that I literally would finish the session, step away without her seeing me, and cry.  Obviously, this training is what she needs. She is capable and seeing how hard she was working would bring me to tears. Thank you Mandy for showing mothers, wives, and all women that they are capable of having the dream body they never thought possible. You are a true example of hard work.  

Jeana -- As viewers could see, I was not in therapy sessions, and I actually never had a conversation with Jeana about her depression. I could tell that she battled this but did not hear it from her mouth. She had trouble finding the workout intensity necessary to drop serious weight. Depression does effect the ability to workout to intensity.  It slows down this process. But Jeana always showed up with a smile and willingness. And for that, I appreciate and love her. Jeana has such a wonderful soul. I'm so happy that she has discovered this about herself through this program. She is just as beautiful on the inside as the out.  

Joe -- I had the opportunity to spend some good quality time with Joe. I needed to have that talk with him at the resort, because I knew he was hiding behind what he thought was the "fat, funny guy." Well, he's not overweight anymore and his routine is not funny! So when he cuts the crap he is really a sweet, caring guy. He has so much to offer family, friends, and hopefully soon, a loved one. I trust that he will carry on with his new found self. His workouts were intense and impressive. For him to pack on that much muscle mass (muscle weighs more than fat) and lose 42 pounds is extremely impressive. Congratulations, Joe! Hard work pays off! 

Shay -- I'm really proud of her facing and addressing her eating issues. So many women can relate to Shay. They think they are alone, and Shay showed them that they are not. You are a true leader Shay. I hope this motivates you to gain control of these issues and reach out to advise the millions of other women who are struggling with the same problems. I have a fondness for this girl for many reasons, but especially because she let me see her true inner self, and let me tell you, it's beautiful. 

Stacy -- Before working with Stacy, I would have said she "suffers" from  PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). A disease of too much insulin production and resistance to using that insulin effectively. But now I say Stacy "battles" PCOS and WINS! Like all women with PCOS, she never asked for this challenge. This condition can leave women confused, and feeling helpless with so many unanswered questions. They know something is wrong, but they just don't know what it is. Stacy never asked, "Why me?" Instead she asked, "What do I have to do?" I told her you have to work twice as hard, and she did! Her determination, hours in the gym, and researching her condition, makes me so proud of her. Stacy and I together recently reached out to Monika Woolsey (www.incyst.com) for answers. Monika is a leading expert for PCOS and Stacy is well on her way to gaining control over what she needs to do for herself. As a trainer, I feel very comfortable and confident working with this, and I have gained knowledge and understanding of PCOS. With Monika's help, I have the knowledge to train these brave women battling this obstacle. Stacy, you look gorgeous! My very good looking boyfriend, celebrity hair stylist Brandon Liberati, treated her to one of his incredible cuts for the finale. www.brandonliberati.com (shameless plug). 

Nikki -- Nikki has her demons, she recognizes this, and bravely is on her path to healing. I had an opportunity to talk with Nikki at our resort retreat after the pool workout, where she explained her focus during this workout was  her confidence and to simply be present in her bathing suit. The physical outside of one's body will not change until their insides are changed and issues are dealt with. 

Bryan -- Bryan himself will tell you this program is literally, and figuratively, not a piece of cake. He had his ups and downs, but when there were downs, he got back up and stayed strong. He leaned on the support of his loved ones, including Jackie and I. He was determined to finish every work out to intensity. He ate clean and really followed the program. 

These Thintervention clients make me proud to be doing what I do. Thank you all for showing me that the long hours, tears, and sweat we trainers put into our clients are all worth it. I love you all. You all have inspired the unhealthy world we live in.  

Now for all my Thintervention viewers -- Please stay in touch, tell me your story, your struggles, your successes.   I will be posting blogs on my website focused on fitness and eating tips, even information for my PCOS battlers out there with specific tips that can get you on your way to success. 

Visit www.craigramsayfitness.com 

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