Vanilla and Cinnamon

Dr. Ramani confirms Joe's rice pudding comment. And don't worry, she didn't let Nikki's eye roll go unnoticed. 


How you treat others is often a window into how you treat yourself. 

Thus, it is no wonder our group of seven got to this point of weight gain and is now struggling to take it off. This is no longer novelty, and tempers are flaring as they make some real lifestyle changes. They treat each other horribly, and that is clearly a parallel process for how they treat themselves. Weight loss is not just about exercise and diet. It is about valuing yourself enough to treat yourself with respect.  When you eat badly, avoid physical activity, drink too much, and put yourself down – you are disrespecting your body and your mind. Treat yourself with respect and it logically stands that you will treat others with respect.

Mandy, who may be the consistently kindest of the bunch, states that she was told by her grandmother, "If you are kind to people then your kids will be lucky." If that proverb is true, then I don't want to take any of their kids (with the exception of Mandy's) to Vegas.

The disdain and antipathy was oozing out of everyone – Shay's infuriating interaction with Joe at Mandy's dinner, Nikki's nasty ribbing of Stacy about an upcoming date, Nikki and Bryan's comments about Jeana. While you didn't hear my comments about it – Nikki's mean-spirited eye-rolling about Stacy's tears in therapy did not go unnoticed. 

The exercise in therapy was an interesting one – Jackie had them bring in a childhood photograph of themselves so they could connect with the vulnerability of childhood. Not surprisingly, the pictures evoked childhood patterns about food and weight. Joe's love of cheeseburgers may be less about cheeseburgers and more about dad. A photo of little Stacy recalled the cruel criticisms of a grandmother. Nikki's self-loathing was revealed in her characterization of her childhood self as the "little fat girl." When we see our own childhood pictures, we see someone who may be "pre-pain," who hasn't yet experienced hurts we know will come, who hasn't developed harmful habits. 

Jackie and I keep trying to move these clients into the present – to be present when they exercise and when they eat. All of us have the freedom of choice, but we can only exercise that freedom if we acknowledge our past.  At some level, losing weight means letting go of the past. The best way to let go of the past is not to deny it, but to invite it in, and see that it does not rule us. 

Time for you to weigh in: Will the escalating tension between Joe and Shay come to an explosive head? Will Nikki's willingness to delve into her past pain help to extinguish her self-destructive patterns such as showing up late and treating alcohol as a food group? At this point – who do you think is going to lose the most weight?

What about you? What life lessons would you want to impart to the " 6 year old you?" When you look back at childhood, what lessons about food did you learn that you wish you could undo? 

And I couldn't let the rice pudding thing pass. Figures that a client in a weight loss therapy group likened the psychologist to food (by the way – he's not that far off – I smell like vanilla and cinnamon). Until next week...


Everyone Deserves a Thintervention

Craig thinks everyone can achieve their goals just like the Thintervention clients.

For all our viewers at home, please answer these questions for yourself:

What is holding you back from your Thintervention success? 

When and why did your self destruction start with unhealthy eating and lack of exercise? 

Now let me answer this next two questions for you:

Do you deserve, and can you achieve, a healthy fit body?  


Where does this start?

With you! With you wanting and accepting the fact that you are worthy and deserving of self love.  

One of my training mottos with my clients is, "Borrow the love I have for you until you find it for yourself". 

Success is not just measured by inches and by the scale. It's definitely a proper indicator that you are on the right track with your program. 

All of these clients found out what is truly necessary with a weight loss program. They now have the ability to do it for themselves.  

Let me break it down here:

Mandy -- Week two into this program we could see she was a champ! Mandy trusted us and followed the program perfectly.She worked out so hard that I literally would finish the session, step away without her seeing me, and cry.  Obviously, this training is what she needs. She is capable and seeing how hard she was working would bring me to tears. Thank you Mandy for showing mothers, wives, and all women that they are capable of having the dream body they never thought possible. You are a true example of hard work.  

Jeana -- As viewers could see, I was not in therapy sessions, and I actually never had a conversation with Jeana about her depression. I could tell that she battled this but did not hear it from her mouth. She had trouble finding the workout intensity necessary to drop serious weight. Depression does effect the ability to workout to intensity.  It slows down this process. But Jeana always showed up with a smile and willingness. And for that, I appreciate and love her. Jeana has such a wonderful soul. I'm so happy that she has discovered this about herself through this program. She is just as beautiful on the inside as the out.  

Joe -- I had the opportunity to spend some good quality time with Joe. I needed to have that talk with him at the resort, because I knew he was hiding behind what he thought was the "fat, funny guy." Well, he's not overweight anymore and his routine is not funny! So when he cuts the crap he is really a sweet, caring guy. He has so much to offer family, friends, and hopefully soon, a loved one. I trust that he will carry on with his new found self. His workouts were intense and impressive. For him to pack on that much muscle mass (muscle weighs more than fat) and lose 42 pounds is extremely impressive. Congratulations, Joe! Hard work pays off! 

Shay -- I'm really proud of her facing and addressing her eating issues. So many women can relate to Shay. They think they are alone, and Shay showed them that they are not. You are a true leader Shay. I hope this motivates you to gain control of these issues and reach out to advise the millions of other women who are struggling with the same problems. I have a fondness for this girl for many reasons, but especially because she let me see her true inner self, and let me tell you, it's beautiful. 

Stacy -- Before working with Stacy, I would have said she "suffers" from  PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). A disease of too much insulin production and resistance to using that insulin effectively. But now I say Stacy "battles" PCOS and WINS! Like all women with PCOS, she never asked for this challenge. This condition can leave women confused, and feeling helpless with so many unanswered questions. They know something is wrong, but they just don't know what it is. Stacy never asked, "Why me?" Instead she asked, "What do I have to do?" I told her you have to work twice as hard, and she did! Her determination, hours in the gym, and researching her condition, makes me so proud of her. Stacy and I together recently reached out to Monika Woolsey ( for answers. Monika is a leading expert for PCOS and Stacy is well on her way to gaining control over what she needs to do for herself. As a trainer, I feel very comfortable and confident working with this, and I have gained knowledge and understanding of PCOS. With Monika's help, I have the knowledge to train these brave women battling this obstacle. Stacy, you look gorgeous! My very good looking boyfriend, celebrity hair stylist Brandon Liberati, treated her to one of his incredible cuts for the finale. (shameless plug). 

Nikki -- Nikki has her demons, she recognizes this, and bravely is on her path to healing. I had an opportunity to talk with Nikki at our resort retreat after the pool workout, where she explained her focus during this workout was  her confidence and to simply be present in her bathing suit. The physical outside of one's body will not change until their insides are changed and issues are dealt with. 

Bryan -- Bryan himself will tell you this program is literally, and figuratively, not a piece of cake. He had his ups and downs, but when there were downs, he got back up and stayed strong. He leaned on the support of his loved ones, including Jackie and I. He was determined to finish every work out to intensity. He ate clean and really followed the program. 

These Thintervention clients make me proud to be doing what I do. Thank you all for showing me that the long hours, tears, and sweat we trainers put into our clients are all worth it. I love you all. You all have inspired the unhealthy world we live in.  

Now for all my Thintervention viewers -- Please stay in touch, tell me your story, your struggles, your successes.   I will be posting blogs on my website focused on fitness and eating tips, even information for my PCOS battlers out there with specific tips that can get you on your way to success.