In regards to Susur's comment to Carmen on the wedding buffet episode, I didn't find it sexist at all. I think what he meant by that statement was "Tony is a man so it is only courteous that he do these things; you're a woman, women shouldn't have to lift heavy things." Well, at least that was what I interpreted it as, taking into consideration that he is a little rocky in English. I agree with others that if he had understood to use the word 'woman,' he would have used that instead.
My sister on the other hand, thought Susur was clueless and took Carmen's question LITERALLY.
Susur: "Tony is the man." Carmen: "What about me baby?" Susur's translation- "Am I a man too, Susur?" thereby Susur responds: "You? You're the girl!"
I think my sister's analysis might be more accurate...Susur seems to be oblivious to the planes flying over his head, lol. But the man sure can cook!