Cast Blog: #PUMPRULES

Stassi: "I Lost My Best Friend"

Ariana: Kristen is a Giant "Preying" Mantis

Katie: Stassi Overstepped Boundaries

Scheana: It's Sad How Few Friends Stassi Has

Our Producer Shares the Dirt on New Girl Vail

Lisa Doesn't Want Scheana's Advice

Kristen: This Episode Was Tough to Watch

Tom: Kristen Manipulates Things

Tom Schwartz to Himself: Wake Up ---hole

Scheana: I Don't Spread Rumors

Our Producer Shares Tom's Hair Secrets

Kristen: Jax Is a Sociopath

7 Shocking Over-Reactions from Ep 6 of #PumpRules

Ariana Is Proud of Schwartz for Fessing Up

Lisa Is Ready to Contribute to Jax's Therapy

Jax: Katie and Tom Are in Two Different Places

Katie: I Felt Gutted

Stassi: I Don't Know What I Did to Scheana

Katie: Jax's Rumor Is a Lie

15 GIFs as Adorable as Katie's New Puppy

Tom: If Katie Cheated Drunk, I Could Deal

Scheana: Katie Didn't Cheat

Jax: Katie Came at Me

Lisa: Stassi's a Brat

Our Producer Almost Bought Jax's Bike

Kristen: How Awkward Was Stassi?

Ariana: I'm Sorry for How I Spoke to Tom

Scheana: Stassi's Not the Girl I Knew

Katie: Tom and I's Future Feels Far Away

13 Eyebrow Raising Gifs From #PumpRules

Stassi Feels Bad for Kristen

Lisa Worries Tom Won't Grow Up

Before and After: Jax Taylor's Nose Job

Tom Schwartz: I Was a Pussy

Our Producer Spills on Jax's Surgery

Tom: My DVR and I Have so Much History

Ariana: Welcome to Adulthood Kristen

11 #PumpRules GIFs That Prove the Struggle Is Real

Behind James' Firing and "Club Sandoval"

Tom Tries to Say Something Nice

Lisa: Stassi Could Learn From Scheana

Stassi: "I Lost My Best Friend"

Stassi gives us the scoop on her break-up with Jax Taylor, confronting Scheana, and Lisa Vanderpump's advice.

Bravotv.com: What are you in grad school for? Can you tell us a little bit more about that?
Stassi Schroeder: I'm not in grad school; I made a joke about wanting to go to grad school! Haha. I graduated from Loyola Marymount University with a Bachelor's Degree in English Writing. I absolutely love school, I miss classes, and would die to go back. But my parents aren't too keen on paying for grad school just because I enjoy it!

Bravotv.com: How did you meet Jax, and how did you get him to start working at SUR?
SS: Kristen actually played matchmaker with me and Jax. She had tried to set us up a while back, but nothing came of it; then a year later Kristen and I took a trip to Vegas. Jax and her boyfriend Tom were there. I had gotten a little too hammered for my own good, and apparently, Kristen and Tom wanted to go play poker; I didn't, so they pawned me off on Jax. The next thing I remember is waking up in his hotel room, and he was just so enamored. I couldn't remember the night before, but he was just acting so in love. I remember thinking, "Damn, what did I say to this guy to get him to fall so hard in only one night?!" If only I knew, I'd like to share that secret with every other female in the world! Haha.

After that morning, we were inseparable, and never spent a day apart. A year and a half into our relationship, his modeling career had slowed down a bit, and bills were piling up, so I begged Lisa to give him a job at SUR. 

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Jax saying that you held him back from his modeling career? Did you really unbook him from a job?
SS: I've always been uncomfortable with the idea of dating a model or actor. I don't want to be dating someone whose job is to be half-naked, sometimes making out with other girls. I don't think that's healthy or normal in a relationship. When we got together, he promised he'd be respectful of me and be very selective about the jobs he'd take. He made the decision to date me and agreed with that, so I don't agree with his saying that I held him back. He's his own person; he makes his own decisions. No one can hold anyone back if they don't let them. And yes, it was a job with another woman alone in Mexico for only a few hundred dollars. I don't think many women would want their boyfriends alone in Mexico half-naked with another model for only $300 bucks. He had promised me he would never do something like that, so I told him I was emailing his booker. A 300 hundred dollar job isn't exactly ruining someone's modeling career.Bravotv.com: Why did Scheana putting sunscreen on Jax bother you so much? Do you think she was out-of-line? Did her apologizing help at all?
SS: After Scheana and I spoke, and I made it clear that I did have several insecurities with Jax, she assured me she would never cross that line with me. Next thing I know, she's up on a float, dancing with him, and rubbing sunscreen all over him. I mean, really? She claimed she wanted to show me that I could trust her and then she just kind of proved me right. She has since explained to me that he had asked her to do that and she didn't want to be rude. I was more angry with Jax to be honest, because he used that to throw in my face, knowing it would fire me up. I appreciated her apologizing to me; I think she's just a flirty girl who doesn't mean any actual harm, but her actions often come off a little too strong.

Bravotv.com: What did you think when Lisa pulled you aside to discuss your behavior with Jax?
SS: That honestly really upset me. That whole day up until that point, I felt like I handled the situation so well and was professional. I didn't freak out on the float, and when I got to work I tried to suck it up and keep to myself. But when she came up to me, I didn't understand why, because I had been holding everything in. Lisa knows me very well, I swear she can tell what I'm feeling at any and every second! So I think she saw that I was upset and assumed I was having a tantrum. But having her come up to me and bring it up made it all come pouring out. 

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Jax taking the seven shots and showing up the way he did to Peter’s birthday party?
SS: Obviously I was seriously disappointed and upset. We had been going through a hard time, and his partying and drinking were a huge huge part of our problems. I felt like I was giving him chance after chance after chance, and everyday he kept saying he was going to try. So when I saw him come into Peter's party and do seven shots, it really hurt. It felt like such a slap in the face. After I had been so patient and willing to give him more chances, that's his response? It was disheartening.Bravotv.com: Why did you decide it was time to break up with Jax? Why now?
SS
: It got to the point where I realized nothing was changing, and I was essentially enabling him. Our relationship had gone from absolutely magical to absolute hell. We used to be the couple that people looked up to and somewhere along the line, we fell apart and the arguing was out of control. We weren't a partnership anymore, we were roommates; and Peter's birthday just really did it in and made me realize that. Even though I was constantly asking him to grow up, I think he always assumed I would never have the balls to leave and that I'd always still be waiting at home. It was time for me to stop babysitting and focus on myself, and if he ever was going to change, he DID have to see what it was like not to have me. It saddens me: I not only lost my boyfriend, I lost my best friend.

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Katie: Stassi Overstepped Boundaries

Katie discusses why she didn't give Tom and ultimatum and why Stassi's advice was out-of-line.

The days following Tom's admission of past infidelity were taxing both mentally and emotionally. Tom and I spent hours pouring our hearts out, crying, and taking a hard look at the current state and the future of our relationship. While I cherish and value the opinions of my friends, I was not interested in their opinions of how I should handle this situation. For weeks, everyone was weighing in on Tom and I's relationship to a point that felt it was invasive and frustrating. Tom and I are good match. We are each other's best friends. We don't have a perfect relationship. We understand there are areas where we really need to work on, but we decided to make that a priority. I wanted to go over the recent events and revelations in solidarity. I wanted to focus soley on what my heart felt. I didn't want my thoughts and feelings to be colored by anyone else.

 

 

 

While I understood that Stassi did have good intentions, she began to over step certain boundaries. I didn't need Stassi to fight my battle, but rather to just support my decision and be there for me. Of course I didn't want Tom to continue having a close relationship with Jax. I was fed up with Jax's lies and meddling. I didn't understand why Tom so passionately defended his friendship with Jax, especially when I felt he should have been passionately defending OUR relationship. I began to understand that I was going to have to just compromise with Tom -- and I confidently I could do that with out compromising my feelings and integrity. I wasn't going to let Jax be the reason that Tom and I end our relationship. Sometimes ultimatums are necessary, but this wasn't one of those times. I didn't want to be the ultimatum girlfriend, nobody wants to date or be that girl. Tom assured me that he would take necessary measures to ensure that his friendship with Jax wouldn't interfere with our relationship and that no matter what that I was a priority to him. I felt comfortable with our compromise, and I don't think that makes me weak. Relationships, and life for that matter, are not black and white. They are full of compromise and benefits of the doubt. Stassi was maybe just giving me tough love, but to call me weak during such a critical time for me was hurtful. Stassi hasn't always made the best decisions in terms of relationships. She's made decisions I wouldn't personally make, but I allow her to make her own decisions and do my best to support her. I would have liked to have had that in return. Stassi has removed herself from this group of people and no longer worked at SUR, so it's very easy for her to tell Tom to cut it off with Jax and tell me to disassociate from anything having to do with these people. That isn't really want I want, nor isn't it realistic. I still work at SUR and Tom and I both are friends with people in this group. It's nearly impossible to avoid certain people, and it makes life easier to try and co exist.

 

 

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