Cast Blog: #PUMPRULES

Stassi: "I Lost My Best Friend"

Stassi gives us the scoop on her break-up with Jax Taylor, confronting Scheana, and Lisa Vanderpump's advice.

Bravotv.com: What are you in grad school for? Can you tell us a little bit more about that?
Stassi Schroeder: I'm not in grad school; I made a joke about wanting to go to grad school! Haha. I graduated from Loyola Marymount University with a Bachelor's Degree in English Writing. I absolutely love school, I miss classes, and would die to go back. But my parents aren't too keen on paying for grad school just because I enjoy it!

Bravotv.com: How did you meet Jax, and how did you get him to start working at SUR?
SS: Kristen actually played matchmaker with me and Jax. She had tried to set us up a while back, but nothing came of it; then a year later Kristen and I took a trip to Vegas. Jax and her boyfriend Tom were there. I had gotten a little too hammered for my own good, and apparently, Kristen and Tom wanted to go play poker; I didn't, so they pawned me off on Jax. The next thing I remember is waking up in his hotel room, and he was just so enamored. I couldn't remember the night before, but he was just acting so in love. I remember thinking, "Damn, what did I say to this guy to get him to fall so hard in only one night?!" If only I knew, I'd like to share that secret with every other female in the world! Haha.

After that morning, we were inseparable, and never spent a day apart. A year and a half into our relationship, his modeling career had slowed down a bit, and bills were piling up, so I begged Lisa to give him a job at SUR. 

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Jax saying that you held him back from his modeling career? Did you really unbook him from a job?
SS: I've always been uncomfortable with the idea of dating a model or actor. I don't want to be dating someone whose job is to be half-naked, sometimes making out with other girls. I don't think that's healthy or normal in a relationship. When we got together, he promised he'd be respectful of me and be very selective about the jobs he'd take. He made the decision to date me and agreed with that, so I don't agree with his saying that I held him back. He's his own person; he makes his own decisions. No one can hold anyone back if they don't let them. And yes, it was a job with another woman alone in Mexico for only a few hundred dollars. I don't think many women would want their boyfriends alone in Mexico half-naked with another model for only $300 bucks. He had promised me he would never do something like that, so I told him I was emailing his booker. A 300 hundred dollar job isn't exactly ruining someone's modeling career.Bravotv.com: Why did Scheana putting sunscreen on Jax bother you so much? Do you think she was out-of-line? Did her apologizing help at all?
SS: After Scheana and I spoke, and I made it clear that I did have several insecurities with Jax, she assured me she would never cross that line with me. Next thing I know, she's up on a float, dancing with him, and rubbing sunscreen all over him. I mean, really? She claimed she wanted to show me that I could trust her and then she just kind of proved me right. She has since explained to me that he had asked her to do that and she didn't want to be rude. I was more angry with Jax to be honest, because he used that to throw in my face, knowing it would fire me up. I appreciated her apologizing to me; I think she's just a flirty girl who doesn't mean any actual harm, but her actions often come off a little too strong.

Bravotv.com: What did you think when Lisa pulled you aside to discuss your behavior with Jax?
SS: That honestly really upset me. That whole day up until that point, I felt like I handled the situation so well and was professional. I didn't freak out on the float, and when I got to work I tried to suck it up and keep to myself. But when she came up to me, I didn't understand why, because I had been holding everything in. Lisa knows me very well, I swear she can tell what I'm feeling at any and every second! So I think she saw that I was upset and assumed I was having a tantrum. But having her come up to me and bring it up made it all come pouring out. 

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Jax taking the seven shots and showing up the way he did to Peter’s birthday party?
SS: Obviously I was seriously disappointed and upset. We had been going through a hard time, and his partying and drinking were a huge huge part of our problems. I felt like I was giving him chance after chance after chance, and everyday he kept saying he was going to try. So when I saw him come into Peter's party and do seven shots, it really hurt. It felt like such a slap in the face. After I had been so patient and willing to give him more chances, that's his response? It was disheartening.Bravotv.com: Why did you decide it was time to break up with Jax? Why now?
SS
: It got to the point where I realized nothing was changing, and I was essentially enabling him. Our relationship had gone from absolutely magical to absolute hell. We used to be the couple that people looked up to and somewhere along the line, we fell apart and the arguing was out of control. We weren't a partnership anymore, we were roommates; and Peter's birthday just really did it in and made me realize that. Even though I was constantly asking him to grow up, I think he always assumed I would never have the balls to leave and that I'd always still be waiting at home. It was time for me to stop babysitting and focus on myself, and if he ever was going to change, he DID have to see what it was like not to have me. It saddens me: I not only lost my boyfriend, I lost my best friend.

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Tom: Katie Is the Total Package

Schwartz discusses what he really thinks of his fellow SURvers.

In honor of our finale and because I felt like I was drowning in negativity this year, I decided to write something nice about about this group of friends. This is pretty boring, and given some things that transpired this year, it will be especially hard for some, but I must do it. Mostly for selfish reasons, I suppose--a mini cleanse. Like a little warm bath of positivity. There's room for you, too! You'll find that it feels nice and rejuvenating. It's just temporary, too. We go back to haterading right after, I promise. Shall we?

Me: I always try and bring levity to Sigatoka (That's supposed to say situations, but autocorrect insisted on Sigatoka. Is that even a word? I like it, it seems like a proud word.) when possible and help keep perspective. I learned a lot from my indiscretions. A LOT. Quick to forgive. Experienced feelings/emotions at ends of spectrum I only knew through movies. So many feelings. Able to see silver linings. I said silver linings like 400 times in the past year. If there is one word I'll give myself credit for being, it's original.

I love her more than ever and can't wait to see what the future holds for us.

Tom Schwartz

Katie: She showed a new confidence and assertiveness that looked great on her. Didn't freak out and try and sever my genitals. In comparison to the old Katie, she has grown so much and learned to keep her composure. I love her more than ever and can't wait to see what the future holds for us. She's sexy and goofy, and I fear I've set both of our conversational skills years back due to incessant baby talk. She continues to love a vaguely ambitious man-child (me).

Jax: He's capable of being an utter ---hole (I know this better than anyone), but he's also capable of going out of his way to be there when you need him. He's always fun to go out with and has a real drive/hustle that's admirable. He's a natural networker. Very hospitable to new friends or when he meets new family members. Still doesn't think before he acts or talks. That's a compliment tailored to him and, admittedly, somewhat backhanded. It's one of his greatest weaknesses that is also a strength at times. He compensates ---hole behavior with sweet headphones and swag.

Ariana: She's witty and unique, has great commentary and a solid sense of humor. Composure level: wizard for having to deal with Kristen's antics and the proverbial crazy ex-girlfriend. She would get even more praise, but she went to UF instead of FSU. That's automatically minus two compliments. Just knowing she's done the gator chomp casts a dark shadow over her. Kidding. All love for UF.

Sandoval: My dude ran the damn gauntlet all year. Having to deal with the Jax/Kristen combo will put any sane man to the test, but he passed with flying colors. He's got killer style and is truly hilarious. He was able to make me laugh when I was at my lowest point this year. Dude can talk about just about anything with sincerity and full attention. He can riff with Ariana about a customer at work in depth for like two hours where I would just be like, "Sh-- happens." He is always there when I need him. Unless it's before 2 pm, then he's not available. Bonus points for referring to me as The Last of the Mohicans because Katie and I are the only ones left out of our original volatile sh-- show of a group couple friendship (Jax + Stassi, Tom + Kristen, me + Katie). I wish we could go back in time and have a spin-off of Vanderpump, the early years. You thought shit was crazy now...

Scheana: She is a great friend and cooks the best food. She's bubbly but also capable of having deep, meaningful chats. Still accident-prone, but it's endearing as hell. She's probably stubbing her toe as I write this. Style stays true to herself.

Shay: Is there anything bad to say about this lovable teddy bear? Love him. He loves Scheana so much and vice versa. Beautiful couple, so huggable. But, still a bear, so don't f--k with him.

Stassi: She laughs easy and is punchy. She is outspoken, charismatic with good camera presence. Froze over but will thaw out again someday. Needs lessons in humility to accent her bold style.

Kristen: She has a determination and perseverance, albeit sometimes misguided. Once redirected, it will be a powerful asset. Great at splitting up tabs in restaurants when no one else will. When not in self-destruct mode, she can be a good friend.

James: strong jawed and burgeoning DJ career. Eager.

Peter: hard-working, unique man. Sexy as all hell. "Big Sexy" they should call him. He's interesting! Loves in-depth film chat and laughs easily. One of few people I know who can pull off cowboy boots without having to have a sense of irony. Always fun to grab a drink with.

Lisa: She is the total package. Smart, witty, wise, ambitious, successful, caring, has a beautiful family, drop-dead gorgeous, tasteful, great entrepreneurial spirit, forgiving, elegant...should I go on? This is sincere. Hope she sees it, because I plan on working with her again! Ken is also a big inspiration for me. He's got the Midas touch and a killer wit. Dapper and wisdom to spare. 

Special shout outs to:

Production and evolution and everyone working behind the scenes to make this happen, the great state of MN, FSU, my amazing parents, and all of my truly great friends I've made all over this beautiful country.

Poker gods, if you are listening, I'm ready for a first place finish.

And lastly,

GORDO, the best damn dog there ever was. He makes me laugh and smile every day.

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