The Sur Dish

Kristen discusses her reaction to Tom's past and what she thinks of Jax and Stassi's relationship.

Jan 20, 20130

Bravotv.com: Why did you think that Jax and Stassi would get back together?
Kristen Doute: Over the past couple of years I've seen Stassi and Jax "break up" a million times. Their relationship has been a broken record and they both live in absolutes, so when they broke up this time I just felt like, "OK, I'll believe it when I see it."

Bravotv.com: And why did you want them to?
KD: As unhealthy as their actions had become, they really are perfect for each other. It's also heartbreaking to have our group torn apart. I know that they both love each other and I felt like they both just checked out. Relationships are not effortless.

Bravotv.com: Why did it upset you so much running into Casey?
KD: It was just really unexpected to have Casey at the photo shoot. When I first realized who she was, it didn't even occur to me that she and Tom had hooked up before. I just thought, "What a small world!" She and her sister were living with Tom when he and I met. Earlier that day she and I were conversing about my apartment etc. so when it later came up that she was the one who slept with him it just grossed me out. I'm well aware that Tom and I both have pasts but honestly -- who wants to picture their boyfriend having sex with someone else?

Bravotv.com: Do you think Stassi made the situation worse?
KD: Stass loves to rattle the cage. She wasn't trying to upset me but she definitely wanted to stir the pot and keep it going for her own humor. She would have reacted the same way as I did and wanted to feel justified that it would have bothered her if she were in my position.

53 comments
Hollywood-if-she-could
Hollywood-if-she-could

You girls are pretty and sweet. It's ashamed the way Stassi treated you. She needs to learn not to be the nasty mean friend....she can blame everyone but the way she acts backfired on her. You girls were great friends to her and are supposed to tell the truth to your friend. She was so self centered that she didn't want to hear it. She was mad because you didn't kiss her butt....but Fank was a jerk and you knew it. The only reason she likes him is because he's not that into her....makes her work for it. But you guys saw him for what he was and were trying so hard to understand what was going on. Hope next season is more about you beautiful girls and hope Stassi leads her lesson and grows into a better sweeter less self involved person.

el.van.777
el.van.777

IS there something missing here? On tv they act like Stassi is all at fault for the break up of her and Jaxs. Did no one see the past shows of how he was treating her! 2Nd These girls are saying they were her friends! Really!!! Did no one see the same show, where they all are there to be by Jaxs and not Stassi.  I saw where Stassi did get called a Bi... and she did throw a drink. Take a rewind people, her friend states OH SHE PULLED MY HAIR! It was not one sided! she was right in there fighting stassi! Then like stassi said. ""These are sapose to be her friends yet they all leave in her b-day limo with Jaxs! s  " Who stayed to console her? No One!  As for Stassi, I think Carma is coming back at ya! Learn and move on.  Treat others as you want to be treated. Oh and ex friends watch out carma might just come back at you next! If this is how you treat your friend. Jaxs, Please he may have a bod but take a look at the face. I don't call that good looking! as for being a model don't surprise me. They look for the differant look and his is differant!. If this new girl he is dating does have a past of drugs and alc. she needs to run! run ! Run. he is just useing her. Hmmm wonder what the so call friends will do when that breaks! 

JEBFP6969
JEBFP6969

Give Stassi a break?  Please, if she would treat Jax like a boyfriend & not  a dog he might react differently.  She could make him want to change instead of bitching at him every second of every day & night telling him what he's going or not going to do.  She's a B & she knows it.  A self-centered, spoiled rotten brat!  How can you defend her after the way she treats you & others?  Something is wrong with all of you for putting up with her ways.  I think you all need a shrink!

lnr8787@yahoo.com
lnr8787@yahoo.com

Give Stassi a chance the girl has EVERY RIGHT to act the way she does!!! Her boyfriend would leave at night!!! Get your minds right people!! Who knows who he was sleeping with those nights!!! You REALLY THINK HE WAS SLEEPING IN HIS TRUCK?

JenniferFM
JenniferFM

Stassi may be bossy and rude, but at least it's all out there. Kristen is 100 times worse, because she's a terrible person who thinks she's a good one.

 

"As unhealthy as their actions had become, they really are perfect for each other. It's also heartbreaking to have our group torn apart."

 

This is so incredibly selfish. Obviously Kristen doesn't care if Stassi, who she calls her "friend," is in an unhealthy relationship with a 30-something man-boy. All she cares about is that they're two people who should be together because they're beautiful and because their break-up would wreck their group of friends.

cndaneli
cndaneli

half the people on here are dumb women sorry to say being antiwoman against Stassi. Stassi is being smart not eating Jax's  sh!+ and calling it caviar .. like i'm sure many of you would. yeah we get it, jax is good looking, but ever wonder why your bf's leave you after cheating on you? ANYWAYS, Kristen is not the kind of friend i would want. breaking up is always hard and when you need the most support, not the most conspiracizing. on top of that she is being extremely hypocritical. based on her reaction to seeing her bf's 1 night stand from before they even met, i am assuming if she heard such a rumor as Stassi did about her bf she wouldn't take it well either. ps. get some sleep Kristen girl, or some under eye concealer !! 

Marie1987
Marie1987

Stasi is ur friend your supposed to support her and let her make her own decisions. The way u and tht other girl acted towards her while she's clearly having a hard time with the break up is horrible. If u would have supported her she wouldn't have leaned on frank so much. Who she dates shouldn't matter so much in your life and it really reflects the I security you have in your own relationship. It is pathetic really

WolfmanNC
WolfmanNC

Jax should just walk away from the worthless drama queen!

joc.wiley
joc.wiley

I have never posted on any blog before but... I feel like Stassi is ruining my favorite network!  If I have to listen to her whine about dumb crap anymore I will scream.  Thank goodness no one put my early twenties on film.  That's just embarrassing.  

Goodtaste1
Goodtaste1

Frank is doing Jax a favor............Jax grow up and get rid that sociopath girl's school daddy's lunatic baby, Stassi.  You will NEVER be good enough.  Actually she doesn't know it, but she did you a favor by ending it. 

zeona
zeona

You are so sweet and trusting of all the wrong people. One day you will understand that someone that stirs the pot to the extent that your "friend" did at that photo shoot, is not your friend. She will never be your friend. Given the chance she would push you in front of a moving train if she thought it would benefit her, or just for a giggle. 

phillyb
phillyb

Kirsten, I understand how you feel about what Tom did, but it was before he met you and he loves and wants to be with you.  You two just need to talk without others around.  Please don't get caught up in Stassi's drama.

feistyfish84
feistyfish84

you are one insecure woman but then again you are not really up to par with the other girls... i found it hilarious that they really didnt seem to want to use you much at the photo shoot, in fact it looked like they pulled you out and stuck in the girl who used to be with your man. you might have been considered hot back home but this is LA sweetheart and pretty girls are a dime a dozen. you two are not special in anyway, get over yourselves.

WandaP
WandaP

I can't believe u get so up set at Tom having history with another woman, he's with u, he picked you, take confidence in that. Believe me life will throw u a lot more drama, than an ex! how nice of Stassi to bring it up at a job, she's projecting her insecurities on to you, that's NOT a BF. Stassi while beautiful on the outside needs to grow some beauty on the inside, what you all did to Jax, by drinking his booze, was so mean girl. You followed Stassi even though u thought Frank was being deceitful for his own gain, to manipulate ur friend, and sleep with her.. REALLY, GROW UP Stassi has a hissy fit, u and Katie go mute, can u say followers.. Really you all need to get your priorities straight, ALCOHOL destroys everything it touches, ur beauty, ur brains, and ur organs, oh and when they are gone, it's FOREVER.. It would be nice to actually see the SUR staff come down to realty,( maybe do something charitable, so u see the ramifications of what partying leads too) sober, the try and live a life with someone clean, because in the end alcohol has destroyed more relationships then all drugs combined! Try and remember that BEFORE u get plastered!

jody.reece2
jody.reece2

I love the show and all the drama...I'll say this, that's a low dirt bag move that Frank is pulling on Stassi (at her vulnerable moment).  Why after two months of that incident in Vegas that he thought this would be an appropriate time to bring it to light? Stassi is hot, but i would consider the source and the whole situation before coming to a conclusion.  Btw drinkin that crystal NOT cool. 

Shirey09
Shirey09

Gotta agree with Tom and Lisa. It's not a big deal! What is in his past should STAY in the past. Have enough confidence in yourself to know that he is with you and comes home to a Life with you NOW! If you stay in the past what kind if future can you have?! I know!!!! One Without HIM! And Stassi is not a friend to keep. If "Stassi ain't happy...NO ONE IS HAPPY!" Just sayin'

Stephen_C
Stephen_C

I agree with u that Frank is manipulating Stassi in order to get into her pants. I also think u should cut Tom a little slack, he's not sleeping with the other girl, he's with you. She may very well b jeaulou of you seeing as he is with you. Did you ever think of that?

tcm1150
tcm1150

What kind of friend is Stassi? Why would she even say that?  She is miserable so she wants everyone around her to be miserable also... YOu girls do not need her... She is a spoiled, immature , diva...   Grow up all of you...

sweetracy
sweetracy

Stassi is a spoiled little girl who acts likes she is all that.  I hope she grows up and gets over herself . As for your man . i say who the hell cares who he slept with ?He is with you now.  This show should be renamed  The life of the Insecure and Immature ! 

funkygranny
funkygranny

Grow up girl, this is the real world, you act Like a schoolgirl, the past is gone, don't dwell on It

 

Taymac2013
Taymac2013

Really Kristen?!?! DBR... He slept with someone several years ago, I'm sure he's not your first... Get over it!!! Yea, it might be an uncomfortable situation to be in. Do you want to be her bf? No, but to have say that it's about to make you "throw up." Get over it... This show Is worse than Jersey Shore. Y'all are ridiculous. I love a good drama show, like RHWBH... I feel like I should go back to middle school watching y'all!

beverlyhillsaddiction
beverlyhillsaddiction

tom is a funny character and he and you are the most normal people on the show.

JustAnnie
JustAnnie

Kristen you should get a good therapist and address your insecurity and immaturity issues. Getting upset just because you cross paths with your BF's former ex who never did anything to hurt you directly and whose relationship existed with Tom BEFORE the two of you even met), and then attacking her reputation and calling her a wh0re on a paid photo shoot is extremely unprofessional, and reflects a mentally unstable individual.  I hope casting agents and photographers take notice and put you and Stassi both on the "Do Not Book" list.  Perhaps you should focus on your relationship with Tom instead of behaving like a jealous 13 year old.  Honestly, you and Stassi are a joke on every level.  While you might be attractive, neither of you possess any class, intelligence or integrity and are basically the mean girls we all hated in our teens and twenties. [Note to Tom and Jax:  You both deserve and can do and so much better than Kristen and Stassi -- they're both ignorant twits.]  

Viewer33
Viewer33

I have tried to get into this show because I love Lisa and the RHOBH so much, but I find myself saying or thinking 'GROW UP' about every other minute.  Sorry, but this show is for the MTV crowd.... 

mellowyellow
mellowyellow

Kristen,  it really seemed as though you didn't add two and two together, and then once you realized it gave you an opportunity for some Kristen attention (a rarity around Stassi), you ran with it and blew it out the best you could. To me it appeared somewhat contrived, or forced, if you will....maybe it was truly a delayed reaction, but nevertheless, something that will cause you more harm than good.

1RHOKennewick
1RHOKennewick

The fleur-de-lis chandelier art work is very cool! I would Fast Forward the rest but my button doesn't seem to be working on this blog!

judy@london
judy@london

I get it, I really do.I'm 50 years old and have been married to the love of my life for 33 years.When he runs into old girlfriends now,it doesn't bother me at all because I know that he dated them long before he ever met me but if I had met any of them when I was younger( in my twenties like you are)It would've bothered me alot because I wasn't emotionally mature then.So,I get it but Stassi enjoyed that,you best believe it!She's not your friend.                                           

partee1
partee1

Hi, you and Stassi need to grow up!  You can't blame Tom for his past just as he can't blame you for yours.  If you don't see what Stassi is doing to you, then you're dumber than a brick.  She's manipulating the whole team for her own inadequate self.  Find yourself and your voice as far as Stassi, don't fall into her b.s.

Kme
Kme

Satssi is very pretty but she is equally unstable. And sorry Kristen, but you are not far from Stassi's brand of crazy. Not only that, but Stassi is a bully on steroids. She arrogantly brags that so many men want to get into her pants, but  f*%&ing you is one thing honey,  loving you is another. There are plenty of beautiful, stunning women (and men) in the world, and as much as you like to brag about your looks, you will be an old has-been before you know it like thousands of others have come in Hollywood. Even if you are one of the rare lucky ones who can have a decent career, you will find money and fame make cold bed fellows and unless you learn to be a decent person, expect toxic relationships the rest of your life. Quality begets quality. 

ggg1964
ggg1964

Kristen why did you get so mad at your boyfriend because you ran into one of his ex's? Really? Causing a scene at work and making him feel bad for NOTHING? He did nothing wrong!! You need to grow up and stop being so selfish or you're going to lose him. In fact, you don't deserve him! And the poor girl (Casey) did not deserve any of your attitude or nastiness; she also did NOTHING WRONG! Girl, you need some serious help. I hope you learn something from this incident and reflect on your bad attitude.

SFViewer
SFViewer

I'm shocked Stassi's personality doesn't get in the way of more relationships. Beauty only goes so far; just look at Jessica Simpson and Paris Hilton. 

TristateFan
TristateFan

 

Jax, remove yourself from this toxic relationship.  Stassi brags about her schooling yet she lacks relationship skills and maturity but Jax you too lack maturity in your relationship.  Frank obviously is not a in a good place in his life to be the bearer of bad news about Jax and honestly I think Stassi wanted something to happen with Frank.  She had every opportunity to say “wait a minute, let me close one door before I open another”.  Instead she is welcoming Frank into her life without setting the boundary lines.  Believe me Stassi wants this to happen, that girl is far from being vulnerable, she is as phony as a two dollar bill.  Most of you I assume are in your twenties and you're lucky because you get a pass for making outrageous mistakes.  You all need to grow the heck up.  Kristen, getting mad because your boyfriend slept with someone before he met you really….I take it you were a virgin when you met Tom, if not shut up and put your energy into something that’s relevant.

bravoshowhoe
bravoshowhoe

ARE YOU FOR REAL??!!

 

Your having a meltdown because 'OMG!!!  CASEY DOESN'T REALIZE IT'S THE SAME IKEA FURNITURE IN MY HOUSE THAT WAS THERE WHEN HE WAS WITH YOU!!!!'

 

WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU FIND OUT WHO HE WENT TO HIS HIGH SCHOOL PROM WITH??  

We're ALL worried you'll collapse from the trauma girl!!!!

wiscfan
wiscfan

All of you really need to get a "real problem" in your lives.  Grow up.  Take the opportunity to hear how you sound when you are talking.  Insipid dolts.

widemajm
widemajm

Hopefully everything that happened with your boyfriend is a lesson learned. If you don't like worms...don't open a can of them. Simple as that. As for Miss Stassi...good grief! Get a better friend. I sure she's different off camera than she's portrayed on this show. But that movie Mean Girls...is that y'alls group 5 years ago? Be nice to people. It goes a lot farther than being superior and rude. 

promotepeace
promotepeace

You do realize he didn't even know you when he slept with Casey right??  The way you reacted and lashed out on that poor girl wasn't only immature but pathetic to say the very least!! You will drive a man away real fast with that kind of mentality! 

catlady123
catlady123

Why cant you people see how toxic Stassi is.  She is the Kyle of this show and starts all the problems.  You dont stir the pot just for kicks if you are her friend.  You people need to wake up and see that Stassi is all about her and no one else.  She does not like any one else having the limelight, and when they do, she causes trouble to get the camera back to her.  SHE NEEDS TO BE FIRED AND SUR HAS THE GROUNDS TO FIRE HER.  You overreacted to Tom's ex.  That is what she is, an ex.  He like you have slept with other people.  Get over it!!!!!

jamo_22
jamo_22

Stassi, Where can I find your chain necklace with the blue stone on the side that you were wearing at brunch in one of the first episodes!???????

observer12
observer12

I  loved it when you said since  you were doing a photoshoot you would not have to fix your hair.  I have never seen your hair fixed it is always a total mess.  Tom spends an excessive amount of time grooming and you spend hardly any time on it.  This is not the norm.

TeresaToo
TeresaToo

All of you act like you're 11 years old, for chrissakes.  And that Chelsea Clinton look-a-like-without-the-brains, Stassi, is just unwatchable.  Everything from the affected names to the sleeping around...just yuk.

sandy47
sandy47

You and your big mouth friend asked that poor girl in front of everyone if she slept with your boyfriend and then YOU tell them to quit talking bout it. You really need to grow up or you and Tom will never make it, Don't you see what Stassi is doing to Jax and how immature she is, i don't know  those guys put up with all of you. None of these relationships are never going to work, The guys will eventually finally get tired of the immaturidy and move on.

mac5
mac5

Lisa's right you are an oversized drama queen. But you all are and this show is so high school. I thought it was going to focus on the restaurant biz not the silly childish drama.

njmomof3
njmomof3

@phillyb you're absolutely right. My only question -- when is Tom going to come out of the closet?

sanatroy
sanatroy

 @feistyfish84 Wow feistyfish. What a nasty comment and completely low. There are plenty of things to pick on her for withought going so childish. Her insecurity is one. She's a pretty girl and you must have issues with the way you look to attack like that.

socialbutterfly908
socialbutterfly908

 @Kme Stassi is a college grad. No one can take away her bachelors degree.She has mentioned going back to grad school so she doesnt have to be a server. I say do it. Stassi is only 23, Jax is 33. OMG, he's suppose to be the more mature one. The other guy Frank? He to was a drunken mess. Stassi has plenty of time to figure it all out. I think it's good she's watching herself on this show, maybe it's teaching her a valuable lesson. I hope Stassi goes back to graduate school.That's where she's going to meet a nice guy and find herself.

laurdre
laurdre

@ggg1964 shes insecure because she knows shes nowhere near as good looking as cassandra

gibsontara34
gibsontara34

 @promotepeace made herself look childish and ridiculous.. I was embarassed for her. You know Casey & her friend were laughing their asses off when they left there

widemajm
widemajm

 @promotepeace I was pretty frustrated when she asked Casey to stop talking about it. SHE BROUGHT IT UP! Casey was probably just as uncomfortable as she was...probably more since the Harpy Stassi yelled her business across the room...

feistyfish84
feistyfish84

 @sanatroy  @feistyfish84 actually im a working runway model in LA, i've lived here my whole life and know how crazy high the industries standards are... i wouldnt have said anything if she wasnt constantly talking about how shes so hot and everyone should get over it. she needed to be put in her place. sorry if it upset you.