My compassion for Kristen and Tom was wearing thin going into this weekend. I have been a support system for Kristen, and Tom at times, for years. I knew them at their best and worst. I always wanted to see them overcome their issues and be the solid couple I knew they could be.
However, I began to see patterns in their relationship. I felt they had gotten to a point where it wasn't as simple as having a conversation. There needed to be action. The fights became more consistent without any resolution. It became very difficult to be around, as I didn't have much patience left.
We made that trip to support Tom and his band, and the fighting was very counterproductive. It involved all of us, and rather than enjoy a weekend together, it became a mediation. I was becoming aware that this was no longer healthy and I didn't want to see Kristen continue to be unhappy. We all have our trials and tribulations in our relationships and no one is perfect, but the time comes when enough is enough.
I have seen Tom and Kristen through it all. I had encouraged and supported Kristen for years. Holding her through hard times and always reassuring her. I felt like I was only encouraging the patterns to continue. My heart really ached for her as my best friend. She was really trying to be strong and save her relationship that has been her world for so many years. I really can't blame her. I saw my best friend beginning to self-destruct as a result of so much hurt that had accumulated that she couldn't cope with.