Cast Blog: #PUMPRULES

Kristen Has Such a Skewed Idea of Herself

Katie talks about how she feels about Jax, Kristen's grasp on reality, and on accusations that she is too loyal to Stassi.

After everything that's happened, I don't think the vibe is any better at SUR. It's just different. Obviously with all the time that has past its allowed the dust to settle and lift the tension from the air. Whether or not Stassi was still working at SUR or not, it would still be the same. The dynamic has shifted big time and relationships have changed all for the better. I am thankful that all of us are able to be cordial and still work along side one another.

I have heard Scheana speak on wanting to do hosting work in the future. I think that would really suit her! I do feel that if that is what she wants to do she should be getting a little more serious about it. I don't think trying to pursue a singing career is a productive use of her time if she ultimately wants Andy's job. I think it's sometimes very hard to be taken seriously in this industry and you really have to prove your credibility and your own integrity before anyone can even give you a chance.

I have felt that Jax is a sex addict for awhile. His behavior is far too promiscuous to be considered anything less. He is very animalistic in his approach towards sex. I don’t think he is capable of being in a monogamous relationship. I think Jax should really consider the severity of this issue and the detriment it will have on his future and future relationships.

I have seen Kristen and Tom be the amazing couple that Tom boasts about. But, those moments were really more of a flash in the pan. I used to hang out with Kristen on a daily basis, and while it's common for anyone to have frustrations with their partners, it's very uncommon for it to be a daily ordeal. Kristen and Tom's relationship was void of anyone romance and intimacy. Every couple goes through dry spells -- but this was a permanent basis with them. I think Tom is trying to remain optimistic as a bit of a coping mechanism and that's fine because he really does like to see the good in people and situations. If he chooses to remember the good rather than the bad that's perfectly fine.

I am actually very happy to see Tom and Ariana dating. I think while they maintained a (mostly) platonic relationship before, there was always something bubbling just below the surface. I think the fact that they had a brush with passion in Vegas only kept that fire burning. I had always felt that something more than a kiss happened, but at this point who cares? At least there were feelings and a true desire not just for sex, but for an emotional connection. I think sometimes people fall in love with someone even when they are in a relationship, and it's a messy hurtful process to sort out but when all is said and done, one has to follow their heart.

Kristen has always been suspicious about Tom and Ariana's relationship. It's something we have all been aware of and even questioned ourselves. This is also the reason I couldn't understand why Kristen continued to stay in a relationship with Tom. If I had a strong suspicion about my boyfriend and his female friend, I wouldn't stick around. I couldn't imagine staying with someone who I was certain had feelings for someone else. As for Tom, I think he should've recognized what was happening way early on and maybe taken the initiative to end his relationship and pursue Ariana.

I have watched Tom and Kristen stick it out in a relationship that they themselves deep down knew was over. With that said, I wouldn't be surprised if they did get back together. More of me feels like this really is the end though.

If I was asked who was the kinkiest of the group, I would never say myself. In Stassi's eyes, I guess I am though. I would say I am moderately kinky. We all like to spice it up a bit, maybe I do more than others. That part of me will always and only just be displayed for my man!

This entire season it's been hard having people point out my drinking. When Andy addressed it once again, I wasn't any prouder. I am actually thankful, even through my shame, that I have been able to witness myself in that way because now I know that reaching that level of intoxication could and has an impact on my relationship. It was publicly broadcast. I could not hide from it or lie about it, I really had to take a hard look at myself and own it and learn from it.

Stassi has absolutely no control over me. Stassi is my best friend, my loyalty is to her within obvious reasons. I wouldn’t go jumping off a bridge because she told me too. I saw my best friend betrayed by two of the people closest to her. Doesn't anyone realize the toll that takes on a person? My heart ached for her.

I was having my own personal struggle with my feelings towards Kristen. I felt that my friendship with Kristen was poison to my life. I still cared deeply for Kristen and my heart ached for her as well, but what it boiled down to was me making a healthy decision about my friendship. It didn't help that right after the truh about her and Jax surfaced. It did confirm for me that I did make the right decision to cut Kristen off though. I realize that everyone wants to think that I'm not friends with Kristen anymore because of Stassi and I will relinquish that to them. They aren't entirely wrong. Let's face it besides my own personal feelings, if someone f---s my best friend over in such betrayal and destruction, regardless if they are my friend or not, of course I am going to have my best friend's back. And if that person is also my friend, than why in the world would I in the right mind continue to trust that person with my friendship?

I don’t think "being mad about how in love you are with someone" is a real thing. I think it's more "being delusional about being in love with someone." I think Kristen was addicted to her relationship and was constantly trying to convince herself and justify all her reasons for wanting to stay in it. My brain doesn't process these things the same way, so I had a really hard time supporting it. My only advice was to get out.

I'm not friends with Jax. During the reunion Jax was speaking about Schwartz and saying he doesnt get to see him anymore because of me. I started to say "I don't have a problem with you. . ." and then was cut off for the 3469058 time. But what was following that was ". . . I don't have a problem with you hanging out with Tom or being his friend, so I would like to not be held responsible." I actually felt bad for Kristen in this moment because she seemed to really have no grasp on reality. First of all Jax was never my best girlfriend like Kristen was. How can she say she doesn’t really understand why I have a problem with her? It's simple, our friendship was tumultuous and I was over it. She lied to my face, she was a complete mess for months on end, and refused to be an adult about her life and just cried about it, then she did something completely unforgivable and repulsive. Any other questions?

I can never look at Kristen the same again.

I couldn't believe my ears when Kristen was proclaiming her maturity and how adult she is -- and then acted like a little punk teenager brat. It was so tactless to attack Ariana and then in the same breath talk about screwing Jax. The hypocrisy was unbelievable.

I don't think there is any correlation between Arianas and Toms relationship and her decision to be on the show. I think Ariana was a natural fit in addition to SUR. When rumors of Jax and Kristen started flying I think by default Kristen projected everything on to Tom and Ariana. I don’t think it was so calculated of her, she just wanted to play the victim card as long as possible.

Of course, Kristen stormed out. I was expecting it. Kristen has such a skewed idea of herself. In what way was she exemplifying any maturity. She really needs to learn how to get a hold of her emotions.

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Tom: Katie Is the Total Package

Schwartz discusses what he really thinks of his fellow SURvers.

In honor of our finale and because I felt like I was drowning in negativity this year, I decided to write something nice about about this group of friends. This is pretty boring, and given some things that transpired this year, it will be especially hard for some, but I must do it. Mostly for selfish reasons, I suppose--a mini cleanse. Like a little warm bath of positivity. There's room for you, too! You'll find that it feels nice and rejuvenating. It's just temporary, too. We go back to haterading right after, I promise. Shall we?

Me: I always try and bring levity to Sigatoka (That's supposed to say situations, but autocorrect insisted on Sigatoka. Is that even a word? I like it, it seems like a proud word.) when possible and help keep perspective. I learned a lot from my indiscretions. A LOT. Quick to forgive. Experienced feelings/emotions at ends of spectrum I only knew through movies. So many feelings. Able to see silver linings. I said silver linings like 400 times in the past year. If there is one word I'll give myself credit for being, it's original.

I love her more than ever and can't wait to see what the future holds for us.

Tom Schwartz

Katie: She showed a new confidence and assertiveness that looked great on her. Didn't freak out and try and sever my genitals. In comparison to the old Katie, she has grown so much and learned to keep her composure. I love her more than ever and can't wait to see what the future holds for us. She's sexy and goofy, and I fear I've set both of our conversational skills years back due to incessant baby talk. She continues to love a vaguely ambitious man-child (me).

Jax: He's capable of being an utter ---hole (I know this better than anyone), but he's also capable of going out of his way to be there when you need him. He's always fun to go out with and has a real drive/hustle that's admirable. He's a natural networker. Very hospitable to new friends or when he meets new family members. Still doesn't think before he acts or talks. That's a compliment tailored to him and, admittedly, somewhat backhanded. It's one of his greatest weaknesses that is also a strength at times. He compensates ---hole behavior with sweet headphones and swag.

Ariana: She's witty and unique, has great commentary and a solid sense of humor. Composure level: wizard for having to deal with Kristen's antics and the proverbial crazy ex-girlfriend. She would get even more praise, but she went to UF instead of FSU. That's automatically minus two compliments. Just knowing she's done the gator chomp casts a dark shadow over her. Kidding. All love for UF.

Sandoval: My dude ran the damn gauntlet all year. Having to deal with the Jax/Kristen combo will put any sane man to the test, but he passed with flying colors. He's got killer style and is truly hilarious. He was able to make me laugh when I was at my lowest point this year. Dude can talk about just about anything with sincerity and full attention. He can riff with Ariana about a customer at work in depth for like two hours where I would just be like, "Sh-- happens." He is always there when I need him. Unless it's before 2 pm, then he's not available. Bonus points for referring to me as The Last of the Mohicans because Katie and I are the only ones left out of our original volatile sh-- show of a group couple friendship (Jax + Stassi, Tom + Kristen, me + Katie). I wish we could go back in time and have a spin-off of Vanderpump, the early years. You thought shit was crazy now...

Scheana: She is a great friend and cooks the best food. She's bubbly but also capable of having deep, meaningful chats. Still accident-prone, but it's endearing as hell. She's probably stubbing her toe as I write this. Style stays true to herself.

Shay: Is there anything bad to say about this lovable teddy bear? Love him. He loves Scheana so much and vice versa. Beautiful couple, so huggable. But, still a bear, so don't f--k with him.

Stassi: She laughs easy and is punchy. She is outspoken, charismatic with good camera presence. Froze over but will thaw out again someday. Needs lessons in humility to accent her bold style.

Kristen: She has a determination and perseverance, albeit sometimes misguided. Once redirected, it will be a powerful asset. Great at splitting up tabs in restaurants when no one else will. When not in self-destruct mode, she can be a good friend.

James: strong jawed and burgeoning DJ career. Eager.

Peter: hard-working, unique man. Sexy as all hell. "Big Sexy" they should call him. He's interesting! Loves in-depth film chat and laughs easily. One of few people I know who can pull off cowboy boots without having to have a sense of irony. Always fun to grab a drink with.

Lisa: She is the total package. Smart, witty, wise, ambitious, successful, caring, has a beautiful family, drop-dead gorgeous, tasteful, great entrepreneurial spirit, forgiving, elegant...should I go on? This is sincere. Hope she sees it, because I plan on working with her again! Ken is also a big inspiration for me. He's got the Midas touch and a killer wit. Dapper and wisdom to spare. 

Special shout outs to:

Production and evolution and everyone working behind the scenes to make this happen, the great state of MN, FSU, my amazing parents, and all of my truly great friends I've made all over this beautiful country.

Poker gods, if you are listening, I'm ready for a first place finish.

And lastly,

GORDO, the best damn dog there ever was. He makes me laugh and smile every day.

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