Cast Blog: #PUMPRULES

Tom Discounted My Feelings

Ariana: Kristen is a Giant "Preying" Mantis

Katie: Stassi Overstepped Boundaries

Scheana: It's Sad How Few Friends Stassi Has

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Tom: Kristen Manipulates Things

Tom Schwartz to Himself: Wake Up ---hole

Lisa Doesn't Want Scheana's Advice

Kristen: This Episode Was Tough to Watch

Scheana: I Don't Spread Rumors

Our Producer Shares Tom's Hair Secrets

Kristen: Jax Is a Sociopath

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Ariana Is Proud of Schwartz for Fessing Up

Lisa Is Ready to Contribute to Jax's Therapy

Jax: Katie and Tom Are in Two Different Places

Katie: I Felt Gutted

Stassi: I Don't Know What I Did to Scheana

Katie: Jax's Rumor Is a Lie

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Tom: If Katie Cheated Drunk, I Could Deal

Scheana: Katie Didn't Cheat

Jax: Katie Came at Me

Lisa: Stassi's a Brat

Our Producer Almost Bought Jax's Bike

Kristen: How Awkward Was Stassi?

Ariana: I'm Sorry for How I Spoke to Tom

Scheana: Stassi's Not the Girl I Knew

Katie: Tom and I's Future Feels Far Away

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Stassi Feels Bad for Kristen

Lisa Worries Tom Won't Grow Up

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Tom Schwartz: I Was a Pussy

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Tom: My DVR and I Have so Much History

Ariana: Welcome to Adulthood Kristen

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Behind James' Firing and "Club Sandoval"

Tom Tries to Say Something Nice

Lisa: Stassi Could Learn From Scheana

Tom Discounted My Feelings

Katie explains why she was so upset with Tom and what she felt when she got a beer poured on her head.

I was well aware that Stassi had invited Scheana to Cabo months earlier when we were all getting along. In the weeks leading up to Stassi's birthday and Cabo, things between us and Scheana turned really ugly. I was personally very surprised Scheana still wanted to come. Why would anyone want to take a vacation with people they think are evil and don't want to be friends with? It's all very counterintuitive. Had it been me, I would have graciously declined the invitation for obvious reasons. We are were so excited, but the idea of Scheana tagging along was like a little grey cloud.

The trip started off exactly as I expected. Plenty of awkwardness with Scheana there. I thought maybe for her on good she would make some effort to try and smooth things over --but she did the opposite by strongly opposing hanging out with half of the group there. I possibly could have done without Jax filling us in on the details of their ride with Scheana.

It was already very clear what was happening and the semantics made it worse. Maybe Jax was looking out, but it certainly drummed up more drama. Our attitude was simply, if she can't stand to be around us why did she bothering coming.My dilemma with my Tom buying Scheana a drink was that he is my boyfriend. I don't need him to fight my battles or be rude to anyone just because I have an issue. However, being that I am his girlfriend, he should have my back in a way that maintains his own agenda but also respects me. He knew how uncomfortable it was for me being at Pink Kitty with Scheana there.

The reason I got so upset was because I felt that he was more concerned with Scheana's comfort rather than my own. Tom is everyone's friend. He is so eager to please everyone and make them happy or keep them laughing -- but he fails to ensure the comfort of his own girlfriend AT TIMES. This scenario had played out in the past, and I had tried to explain my feelings to Tom. The night at Pink Kitty I think it just all came to a head. I grew even more upset when it escalated into a fight on the street, resulting in getting a beer poured over me by my own boyfriend. I was humiliated in front of my friends and everyone else who witnessed it.

I was in complete shock when Tom poured a drink on my head. I couldn't believe our fight had gotten that out of control. Had I been drinking? Yes. Was I wasted? No. I was of much more of sound mind than Tom. He said that he thought I was going to pour his beer on him, which is not true. I did try to knock it out of his hand though. I hate having to relive this moment in my head. It's completely uncharacteristic of Tom and I and felt destroyed.

Tom is generally an extremely laid back guy. He is very non confrontational and always makes light of situations. This is a quality I love about him, but at times it also frustrates me. I think he forgets that I am a very emotional being, and I don't like when he makes light of a situation that has me very upset. I am entitled to feel however I feel about a matter, and for him to not show compassion towards me is very hurtful. It is as if my feelings are irrelevant or don't matter. It is a learning curve for us. I recognize that our relationship isn't perfect, but we work at it and grow together through times like this.

I was extremely upset and angry when we got back to the hotel. All the girls were in high spirits and having fun, and I was like this wet blanket. I was so happy that I made the decision to go skinny dipping. It pulled me out of my funk and being with my best friends was exactly what I needed.

I knew when I saw Schwartz the next day that he was going to try and sweep it under the rug. I was still upset and angry though. He started defending his actions as if it were my fault and that I had caused him to react the way he did. I can account for my contribution to the fight, but ultimately I wanted a sincere apology. I didn't feel he was willing to take any responsibility.

I know how Stassi is about her birthday and I didn't want to be the one who spoiled it. I was certainly still dealing with my feelings and thoughts and had yet to have a conversation with Schwartz. Even though it was Stassi's birthday, I did appreciate the sympathy from her.

My intentions were to suck it up for the night and celebrate Stassi's birthday with everyone regardless of how I was feeling. Of course, Scheana had to bring it up at the table. I found it so inappropriate of her to do so. First of all, it is none of her business. It should not have been the topic of anyone conversation at that table. Of course, once everyone is talking about it. I got upset. Then Schwartz, tries to dissolve it, which in turn made me feel worse. Schwartz telling me to"get over it" broke me. Again, MY feelings were discounted.

When Schwartz and I began bickering at the table, everyone started to gang up on me. I couldn't control my emotions though. I realize I was spoiling the evening, but clearly I wasn't able to control myself. I could have used some sympathy from my friends.

I know Schwartz didn't mean it when he said i was making him miserable. He didn't want to talk or fight about it and he got frustrated. Everyone at the table was screaming at me and I knew I just had to go.

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Scheana: It's Sad How Few Friends Stassi Has

Scheana discusses the very, very slow day at SUR and what she thinks of Stassi's controlling ways.

Gay pride is one of my favorite days in West Hollywood out of the entire year. I love supporting the gay community and being part of the craziness. This year at SUR however, there was no fun and no crazy. I've never worked a day so slow since I've been at SUR. Even a Tuesday night when it's raining is busier than that day was.


The one thing that was good about it not being so crazy was I got to know Vail a lot better. She and I met many, many years ago and have several mutual friends -- however I hadn't seen her in so long! I've always really liked her. She's such a doll and absolutely gorgeous.

 

When I saw her sitting down with Stassi I figured I'd come and make sure Stassi wasn't trying to control the new girl. Stassi doesn't work at SUR anymore, yet she's always there, and by herself might I add. It's sad how few friends she has left and pathetic that she actually admits to bossing them around. I just don't understand how these girls could be friends with someone so controlling and who only cares about herself. I guess it's because they don't have a mind of their own.

 

I'm SO proud of Katie for finally standing up to her. Look, I get that she was trying to be a good friend to Katie and defend her, but the way she talks down to her is just sad. Katie is an amazing girl and she doesn't deserve to be treated like that. Stassi calls her weak and a doormat. I mean what kind of friend says those things about their best friend who's going through a hard time? I guess I will never understand the science of Stassi, and for that I'm thankful she's no longer a part of my life.

 

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