Kristen Doute

Kristen reflects on her emotional fight with Tom, and how his breakdown helped heal their broken relationship.

on Nov 14, 20130

I was surprised that Tom wanted to start a three hour car ride and the beginning of that weekend by talking about the fight we had the night before. We didn't fight about face wipes or anything else trivial. We fought because Tom was coming home at 5 a.m. most nights, and was completely absent from my life. He would stay out all night and sleep in all day. I didn't have a boyfriend, let alone a best friend or a live-in partner.

It's easy to watch the episode and think, "I would run away from her, too," but I acted that way beccuase of the months of Tom not being present in my life -- or in our relationship. I actually had my headphones on most of the car ride because I didn't want to fight, so I didn't know that Stassi had stuck up for me until I watched it back. It's nice to know that in that moment, I wasn't as alone as I had felt.

I totally understand how annoying and tiring it was for Katie and Stassi to be around our bickering as often as they were. But let's not pretend as if Katie and Schwartz don't fight and that Stassi and Jax didn't fight. Endlessly. The tables had then turned. I was desperately clinging to the way Tom and I used to be, hoping it would turn around. There was never a point where we both threw in the towel at the same time, so I thought he was worth fighting for. We fell in love for so many reasons and I just wanted it back.

15 comments
Caramel96
Caramel96

You need professional help. You look extremely psycho and unstable and I  don't think that you need to be in a relationship. I know that Tom cheated on you and you decided to stay. If you are going to keep bringing it up and throwing it in his face you two don't need to be with each other. In one episode you have a face to face talk with Ariana. OMG!! really hard to watch you make a complete fool out of yourself. Tell Jax to give you the number for his therapist.

Bernie-mate
Bernie-mate

OMG your such a cry baby! You're so insecure and immature!!!! So tired of your drama! I don't even know why Top stays with you!

amerikiss
amerikiss

Please grow up and quit looking for that pitty party that you think you so deserve.  Break up with Tom and get on with your life.  No one like a debbie downer.

mhip
mhip

I hope, at some point, Tom will grow a pair and run away from you as fast as possible. You have serious emotional issues, and you would be wise to work on them. You are depressing to watch.

nvt
nvt

Messing with Tom's head the night before his show was nasty and low down. Why don't you leave that boy alone? How many times does he have to cheat before you get it? He's dependent on you, not the same as in love.

miranda99
miranda99

Oh brother!  I felt SO sorry for Tom the entire show.  He needs to save his money, buy a fast car and HIT the gas pedal as quick as possible and get as FAR AWAY FROM YOU as possible.  I cannot believe his poor family had to see him treated like DIRT by you on national television.  You need to be alone for a few years (lol) or at least until you grow up.  And WHY would this cute kid Tom deal with this nastiness?  I'd be out till 5am too if the alternative was to come home to you!

9judgenot
9judgenot

Girl, you made your man cry in front of everybody, check his ball sack immediately!

VintageVelvetSoul
VintageVelvetSoul

If what you say is real about You and Tom , then I hope we will see a couple that has put the "ugliness" behind them, and not bring it up again....Move forward with love for each other, it's a much nicer place to live....

RealityCheque
RealityCheque

Kristen - you are cruel.  Either forgive or move on.

 

We get it - he hurt you.  It was a betrayal and painful.  You have every right to be angry however you need move forward, with or without Tom.  Staying with the guy and being a bitter cow, only makes you look awful and Tom justified in cheating. 

You've managed to turn any viewer sympathy away from you toward Tom by being so bitter.

Not healthy for either of you.  

Cards
Cards

This season is NOT a good look for you……..last season was not much better. You and Tom need to break up and move on. You need therapy and Tom needs to be happy. 

Carrie14
Carrie14

You can't see me - but I'm rolling my eye's at you. Your ridiculous!

Monika
Monika

Kristen...move on already.. It's like beating a dead horse..... If you aren't going to forgive and move on then why do you stay???? Please put us all out of our misery... Leave Tom... He really can do some much better.