Kristen Doute

Katie discusses her Korean BBQ adventure with Tom and Katie's trip to the "dark side."

on Dec 16, 20130

Oh, that damn Korean BBQ! Tom and I thought we would try something new, something different. It might appear as if I was being dramatic, but seriously, the smell of burnt animal flesh makes me ill. I could hear Hitchcock's Psycho soundtrack playing as they slapped the meat on the grill. But, let me be crystal clear that it wasn't Tom's fault! We actually laughed about it, pounded our beers and went out for sushi. (Yes, I eat vegetarian sushi).

When it comes to our relationship, Tom and I handle certain things completely differently. I have my heart permanently tattooed in 3D on my sleeve. I like to talk about things, communicate, problem solve. Tom doesn't sweat the small stuff. It's a great balance, but it also makes us butt heads. When he wants to run away from a problem, I chase harder -- but you can't chase something that doesn't want to be caught. As badly as I wanted to get to the bottom of the rumors, the harder I pushed the further he ran.

When Katie drinks too much, there is a very fine line. . .if that line is crossed she heads to the "dark side." She turns into her own worst enemy. I've experienced this with her in the past, but never to the degree as the night of Peter's birthday. She gets very aggressive and very angry. . .almost hateful. Sometimes she means what she says because there are bottled up feelings -- and sometimes she just says mean or wasted gibberish. Nine times out of ten, she will call the next morning and apologize for being drunk.

38 comments
grandislandmom
grandislandmom

NO blog since Dec 16th?  You are30 years old. Grow up. Your behavior on WWHL was embarrassing the other night.

you were clearly on "something".

ick.

CherMay
CherMay

Here is my take on your situation.  If Tom  wants to be with Arianna he could just leave you and go be with her.  She enjoys the attention and the fact that it's upsetting you.  Maybe she wants him, but she knows that she would be number two so she is toying with him.  If I don't want a man and I see that our friendship is make his girlfriend upset, I would seek to reassure her that nothing is going on and she has nothing to worry. 


You and Tom make a great couple and you looked smashing when you visited Andy the other night.  Your red dress and your necklace was flawless.   No one wants to be cheated on.  All these people who are badmouthing you, don't seem to know what is it like when you love someone and things are not going the way you want it.  Just try to keep your emotions together and not let everything upset you....as long as Tom is coming home, everything should be fine.

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

Are you 30 or 13?  Grow up!  The man cheated on you.  It's not the first time it's every happened to any woman and unfortunately it won't be the last.  There is nothing you can do to change it, or prevent it from ever happening again, except to BREAK UP WITH HIM!!!!  But you'd rather do what all pathetic girls do, stay and torture him, and cry and cry and play victim, because the prospect of finding another man is whole lot scarier than the thought of living in misery forever.  Have some self respect.  

LPR011
LPR011

You and Katie are beyond terrible people.  Just awful.  You act like middle school mean girls and you're 30.  Watching you two conduct yourselves in that manner is like Its embarrassing and painful to watch.  Vomit.

cldd6
cldd6

You are a train wreck ! Your vulgar language and constant crying is so childish. I can't watch you, seriously, you look through his phone, he has cheated on you , end it! It's that simple, you don't trust him, never will, he will leave you because of your actions. Get yourself together because you are really a mess. My daughter is your age and have enough respect for yourself and your family to not act like this on TV, it will be a record of your life forever!

AwShux
AwShux

If the man cheated on you three times and you are so unhappy, then break up with him already. This constant complaining and accusing is so disgusting, but what's even worse, is that you're consistently irrational, but then justify it by playing the victim because of Tom's cheating past. And you do this over and over. Good grief take a long good look at yourself. Your behavior is pathetic and gross. Petulant child.

Angrytaxpayer
Angrytaxpayer

Kristen you are too smart to fall for this Ariana crap. She's one of those girls that gets a kick on stealing a guy without trying. You need to find a hot guy not in your group and strike up a relationship/ friendship with him. Tom will realize how his relationship with Ariana feels. I am concerned that Tom is texting and tAlking to her so much. You need to be the one he talks to if you plan too keep him.

piscesgirl33
piscesgirl33

Kristen, where is your blog for this week? Don't have one? Can't imagine why. You look like a damn fool and if Tom and Ariana end up hooking up, you have yourself to thank. Ariana is cool as a cucumber and you're a raging alchoholic fool. Don't talk about Katie's drinking. Every week you are drinking and slurring.  Get some help.

Jcmorgan
Jcmorgan

You really need to move on. If you keep accusing him he may as well do it! Your friends aren't helpful they are just as insecure as you are.

faith.tuohy
faith.tuohy

Kristen, for the sake of your own well being ...LEAVE TOM...unless this is a "storyline" in a fake "reality" show and you two happily ride off into the sunset when the show stops taping for the day. Otherwise...shut the F(8c&K up and quit your whining...grab your balls, man up and leave him!!!

Elizabethsheila
Elizabethsheila

I hope you see on tonight episode how Stassi feeds off of making trouble. She doesn't seem to like to see her friends happy in a relationship. The old saying MISSERY LOVES COMPANY.

angelwings9195
angelwings9195

Kristen: Just one thing to keep in mind... If you keep accusing them of doing it...eventually they might.  So the less it is said the better.

Vicky88
Vicky88

Just dumb Tom already! If you really love him, why don't you want to move on? And if you really slept with Jax, which I am sure was a moment of weakness maybe, you are now even. Forgive him. And let it go already!

ClosetedHousewivesWatcher
ClosetedHousewivesWatcher

You were loving Katie when she was being mean to Scheana. But when she talks about YOU it's not ok. You're nuts!

JillTJ2010
JillTJ2010

Kristen,

 

I am by no means a blogger of any sort but I had to come on to tell you that I watch the show every week and think its great that you show your emotions.  You're a real person and not trying to be someone else.  Think of all the time people spend trying to act differently or a certain way.  What a waste of time.   I couldn't imagine focusing so hard on not being myself!  I always say, Don't mistake kindness for weakness but unfortunately, sometimes people in this world do. 

 

Please please please tell me where you buy your jewelry.  I love every necklace you wear on the show!!!! I am so picky with stuff but really like your taste!

 

If you could let me know that would be great :) Thanks!

jillyc
jillyc

I feel sorry that your so unhappy right now but you are choosing to be miserable. You have to figure out if you want to live like this with Tom or if you can get over it and start talking steps to trust him again and move to a happier place.. How long do you plan to be unhappy and make sure Tom is too?

marina_
marina_

Katie was being such a disgusting drunk that night, and you were encouraging everything she said.

 

You should have taken care of your friend instead of helping fan the fire.

tonya.liscombe
tonya.liscombe

Kristin, yes Tom made a mistake by cheating on you. If you can't forgive him and stop throwing it in his face every five minutes do yourself, him and the viewers a favor and BREAK UP with him. Tom obviously loves you very much, try to stop listening to everyone's bs ( the Arianna rumor) you could probably use some therapy. It would help with your insecurity and trust issues. Oh yeah, you should stop being friends with stasis. She treats u and EVERYONE she comes in contact with like total crap. STASSI IS A TERRIBLE PERSON. STASSI IS SUCH A BAD PERSON!!!!!!!!

AwShux
AwShux

After tonight's episode and watching you bring up the cheating thing at dinner with Tom I can't wait for him to break up with you. Just keep doing what you're doing and I'm sure he will. No person wants to keep being beat up over and over again for something they did in the past. If you can't get over him cheating on you THEN BREAK UP WITH HIM!!! It's that simple!!  It's such a drag to watch you constantly bringing up the past. Just end it already if you can't get over it. But I guess you don't want to do that because you want to make him as miserable as he made you when he cheated on you. Is that it? Good grief you're miserable. 

PJGambler
PJGambler

The drinking excuse is getting old-Katie can't drink-she is wasting away the best nights of her life-get her in to therapy.

As for you, knock off the jealousy rumor crap--act like a gift, instead of the booby prize, and you'll never have to worry about Tom or any boyfriend in the fuutre--wise up - be a real w o m a n

Sjomohr
Sjomohr

Being with you would be like dating a sour rag. I don't know how your boyfriend can stand you. Negative, mean spirited, sour disposition....no wonder he went out on you.

shysharon
shysharon

Katie was on another level? YOU ALL ARE!

cgdg00
cgdg00

Grow UP! Stop all this pity party about YOU!!!!!!! If I was your boyfriend I would drop you so fast! He's trying and all your doing is knocking him down. If you can't accept it break it off and move on..Not good for either one of you!!!

vlite78
vlite78

I can't belive you have the nerve to even comment on another person's behavior when you consistently treat others so poorly. You are so nasty and mean spirited.  What goes around comes around and I'd hate to be in your shoes when it does.

magdalaenia
magdalaenia

I love how you so kindly say how you love Katy and you hated seeing her cry... because you're such a good friend right? NOT! It's funny how you discuss everything else besides the fact that Katy accused you of being a backstabbing friend to Stassi, is it because you are? That Little RUMOR, if true, in my opinion, voids out any argument you could possibly have against Tom and Ariana.

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

You're so emasculating, ungrateful and severely, publicly rude to your boyfriend.  Your insecurities are alienating.  

donoharm
donoharm

You are a total hypocrite if you had sex with Jax.  You defended Jax last season and befriended Laura Leigh against Stassi.  Now we find out you slept with him too.  You have always been a horrible friend to her.  Stassi was right all along about you people.

cheflisapc
cheflisapc

You need to seek intense therapy! How on earth Tom has stuck it out this long with you is a friggin miracle! He must have extreme low self esteem. Seriously you need to grow up and bless and release.

shanlea
shanlea

Ummm. I can't be Team Anyone. I don't even like Scheana but you are were all so cruel and catty that I don't give a fig about any of you.

Carrie14
Carrie14

 @marina_ She is so jealous of Sheenas beauty it's too obvious.

Carrie14
Carrie14

 @magdalaenia I'm with you 100% , she has made so many obvious signs that she is guilty!!!

Carrie14
Carrie14

 @donoharm She did, some of the proof is in her body language. Katie knows waaaay more than she's letting on too!!!