Cast Blog: #PUMPRULES

Kristen Spills on her Breakup with Tom

Katie: It's Insulting and Frustrating

Tom: Stassi Is Like a Fallen Dictator

Our Producer Shares Secrets From Peter's Date

Stassi: It's Hard to Watch

Lisa: Stassi Likes to Control Everything

Our Producer Got Hit With a Sandwich in Miami

Kristen: I Wanted Validation From Tom

The #PumpRules Miami Trip in 7 GIFs

Scheana: I Shouldn't Have Let Kristen Come

Lisa: Kristen Missed the Point Entirely

Jax: John Takes Care of Everybody

Tom on Jax: There is Barely Any Trust There

Behind-the-Scenes Secrets From Miami

Ariana Takes the Positivity Express

Lisa Doesn't Get Those Penis Straws

Scheana Is Happy Katie's Free

Tom's Main Miami Objective

Katie Wasn't Letting Jax and Kristen Ruin Miami

Our Producer Shares Secrets From That Trip

Tom Has Partied Enough for Two Lifetimes

Ariana: Facts Are Facts

Scheana Has Nothing Left to Say to Stassi

Katie: Tom Wasn't Following Through

Lisa: You Would Think Jax Wouldn't Lie

Katie: Stassi's Island Really Is Shrinking

A SURver's Guide to Male Grooming

Jax: I'm Getting a Taste of My Own Medicine

Our Producer Shares Scheana's Wedding Invite

4 Tom Sandoval GIFs for When You've Had Enough

Lisa: What Really Pissed Me Off

Scheana: I Don't Need Kristen

Ariana: Kristen is a Giant "Preying" Mantis

Katie: Stassi Overstepped Boundaries

Scheana: It's Sad How Few Friends Stassi Has

Our Producer Shares the Dirt on New Girl Vail

Tom: Kristen Manipulates Things

Tom Schwartz to Himself: Wake Up ---hole

Lisa Doesn't Want Scheana's Advice

Kristen: This Episode Was Tough to Watch

Scheana: I Don't Spread Rumors

Kristen Spills on her Breakup with Tom

Kristen tells all about Tom's painful decision to walk away and her subsequent hookup with 21-year-old James.

This Reunion was like the end to an era for our group. One year ago, I never would have pictured my life the way that it is now.

In mid-November, Tom had gone out with friends one night and didn't come home. After waking up several times throughout the night/morning, he suddenly appeared in bed around 10 am. After finding a photo booth strip on our living room floor of he and Ariana, I went through his phone (not proud) and found all of the evidence that I needed to prove that he was at her house around 7 am. I asked him simply what he did the night before, why he didn't come home, and if he was with Ariana. As you can imagine, he lied. He claimed he did not see her and was at Scheana's all night. Why lie if there is nothing to lie about? My heart sunk. After a lot of tears and some arguing, he finally admitted the truth and that they had once again "kissed." Now that time has passed, the details of their affair aren't as important, but I know in my gut that it was more than a kiss.

Pathetically, I continued to convince myself that this was something we could work through when Tom put the final nail in the coffin and broke up with me. Over the course of the next few weeks, we were hot and cold. . .still living together and I was in complete denial about our breakup. He still needed to borrow my car, get rides to places and once in a while we would go out together with our friends. I convinced myself that if I gave him the space that he had asked for, he would eventually miss me and we would get back together.

As you can imagine, I was a wreck. I battled with knowing that this was probably for the best and convincing myself that he was the one for me. I want to take a second to thank Shay and especially Scheana for selflessly being the most amazing friends to me during this time. As hard as it was for Scheana to be in the middle man position, she didn't condone the cheating and was there for me at the drop of a hat. A few weeks after the break up, Tom packed a few bags and started staying with Scheana and Shay. I think this was partially to take his space away from me and also to reiterate that we were really over. As I said at the Reunion, the only thing I can thank Tom for is leaving. Out of sight, out of mind was really the only way that I would be able to start becoming independent and be strong enough to be without him.

Tom and I are both guilty of pointing fingers and playing the victim in our relationship. I can repeat ten times over that I don't condone my infidelity and that two wrongs don't make a right, ever. To set the record straight: I did have an emotional/sexual affair with someone years ago and I did sleep with Jax. Tom cheated with five girls in five and a half years.



In hindsight, it's obvious that Tom and I should have broken up a long time ago. We both had so much resentment; there really was no bouncing back. For so many years, I didn't feel like his girlfriend. I felt like his mom, his personal assistant, his maid. I focused more on his day-to-day then I did my own. He didn't have a car for a year at a time on two separate occasions, so it was my job to make sure he could get around, even if it meant sacrificing my own schedule. I would make sure he was up in the morning, on time for appointments. I would open his mail, pay the bills, clean the house and basically wipe his a--. I'm aware that these were choices that I made and I wasn't forced into them, but I cared about him so much that I was willing to sacrifice my happiness to make his life easier. The fun and the attraction dissipated over time and it felt like more of a business arrangement than a relationship.

Back to December. . .I want to be very clear that James was not "Tom's friend" who stole me away as a ploy for revenge. James was our friend and after our break-up, Tom stopped coming around. He fell off of the map and was only hanging out with Ariana, Scheana, and Shay. I didn't plan for James and I to start dating. He is an amazing friend to me and I truly thank him for giving me the tough love I needed after the break up. He put his foot down against my tears and told me to move on the way that Tom already had. He wasn't trying to woo me in to bed or screw Tom over -- it was a natural transition that neither of us expected or planned. He became one of my best friends and the chemistry was undeniable.

After Tom found out about James and I were seeing each other, he gave James an ultimatum that he could either be friends with Tom and stop speaking to me or vice versa. I was home for the holidays when James called me to say that the situation was too complicated and that he would have to stop talking to me in order to reconcile his friendship with Tom. A few days later when I got back to LA, James and I naturally fell back in to place and he made his decision. It is easy for Tom to play the victim in this situation -- that I "stole" his bandmate when the truth is, Tom was using James to produce his tracks. As Tom's ex-girlfriend, I owed him nothing. He had already moved on to a relationship with a girl he had cheated on me with. It was not my responsibility to deny my happiness out of sensitivity for him anymore.

The way that I felt at the Reunion is different than how I feel today. The wound of seeing Tom and Ariana together was still slightly fresh for me although I was beginning to accept it. I thought it was tasteless and tacky for them to throw it in my face the way that they did. I also think that Tom just wanted a reaction out of me so that he could reiterate how emotional I could be. Although I had begun seeing someone else, it was hard to see my ex-boyfriend of almost six years with someone else -- especially the one person I had been so insecure about for so many years. No s---, I was insecure. No s---, I was emotional.

It's laughable that they label me as "crazy" when every fear that I had regarding Tom and Ariana became true. I don't wish them unhappiness, but I don't wish them well. I try to let go of my anger because it isn't serving any purpose other than taking time away from my happiness and Tom doesn't deserve that satisfaction. At this point, I don't ever see Tom and me getting back together. As difficult as he is currently trying to make my life, I do care about his well-being and hopefully one day we can be friends.

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Tom: Stassi Is Like a Fallen Dictator

Schwartz has had enough of Stassi's superior attitude. 

We get back from Miami feeling a bit bedraggled but given how little sleep we had, pretty damn good.

Kristen trying to organize some sort of ambush with Tom and this Miami chic. HUGE eyeroll.

Before I roast Stass, let me just say I don't enjoy talking sh--. It makes me feel dirty inside. Anyways, I hear Stassi say things like, "I'm done." Get over it and yourself. It's exhausting me to see her behave this way. She is seriously corny and is starting to seem like a parody of herself, minus the redeeming stuff. Dressing like she is 40 to try and project a more mature image, like a little girl who walks out of her mom's closet. Can I remind everyone who has been boasting about how she's grown and matured all season? Surely someone who has grown could quicky asses this situation and see that it's barely worth an argument and surely not worth jeopardizing a beautiful friendship. Surely someone who has "matured" so much would have perspective on this situation. Someone who has matured wouldn't be so rigid and judgmental in their thinking. So quick to judge everyone but herself.

I try and look at both sides objectively on this matter involving Katie's so-called "betrayal."  I could see how Stassi may be slightly hurt or feel a little betrayed, but her reaction is completely over the top and unwarranted. Nine out of 10 would agree. It really exemplifies just how immature Stassi can be. Her pea brain can't even fathom how Katie can hang out with "these people." I want to believe she knows her case is tenuous but is too damn stubborn to cave. Also, she has got it in her mind that cutting off all ties with us is imperative and integral to her well being. I think at one point she cries that Katie is "her last link to these people." That comment says so much about her, and it's not good.  She has to dehumanize Katie in the moment to subconsciously feel like less of a sh--ty person, referring to her as a "last tie," as opposed to a great friend, then refers to the rest of the group as "these people." By this logic she should sit her dog Zoey down (who originally was Jax's family dog) and explain to her that she has to give her up because she's her "last, last link" to Jax. Another example of her lame and completely unwarranted superiority complex. It was kind of sad to see her sit there and defend herself so stubbornly, like a fallen dictator who hopelessly still believes her own propaganda.

It's like Stass has always been a pain in the ass, but she always balanced it by maintaining some endearment. Well that has worn thin quicky in light of recent events and behavior, leaving her pretty unbearable. I always have been quick to defend Stass, but her stock has plummeted in my book, and that's saying something. I mean, I may just be one of the most forgiving, understanding guys out there. She knows how much Katie cares about her, and Katie made it perfectly clear why she went. A good person and true friend would be able to step outside of their shoes and really try and see the issue from the other person's POV. Katie wants to let go of these petty grudges and move forward. If anyone has grown in the matter, it's clearly Katie. Being able to let go and forgive are massive steps in maturing. Inability to forgive is a telltale sign of small-minded person. For Stass, in regards to issues involving the rest of us, it's always black and white. Her way or the highway (I'll gladly take the highway). That's not realistic, though. Life's gray. Lots of gray.

Anyways, who really gives a shite what I think. I have plenty of my own problems at the moment. There's some stuff weighing pretty heavily that I want to get off my chest.  

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