Cast Blog: #PUMPRULES

Kristen Spills on her Breakup with Tom

Our Producer Had a Front-Row Seat to the Miami Girl Show

Katie: This Is Just Plain Creepy

Tom: What a Train Wreck

Scheana: I Don't Trust Kristen Anymore

Lisa: It Looks a Little Guilty

Kristen: I Made It My Business

Katie: It's Insulting and Frustrating

Tom: Stassi Is Like a Fallen Dictator

Our Producer Shares Secrets From Peter's Date

Stassi: It's Hard to Watch

Lisa: Stassi Likes to Control Everything

Our Producer Got Hit With a Sandwich in Miami

Kristen: I Wanted Validation From Tom

Scheana: I Shouldn't Have Let Kristen Come

Lisa: Kristen Missed the Point Entirely

Jax: John Takes Care of Everybody

The #PumpRules Miami Trip in 7 GIFs

Tom on Jax: There is Barely Any Trust There

Behind-the-Scenes Secrets From Miami

Ariana Takes the Positivity Express

Lisa Doesn't Get Those Penis Straws

Scheana Is Happy Katie's Free

Tom's Main Miami Objective

Katie Wasn't Letting Jax and Kristen Ruin Miami

Our Producer Shares Secrets From That Trip

Tom Has Partied Enough for Two Lifetimes

Ariana: Facts Are Facts

Scheana Has Nothing Left to Say to Stassi

Lisa: You Would Think Jax Wouldn't Lie

Katie: Stassi's Island Really Is Shrinking

Katie: Tom Wasn't Following Through

A SURver's Guide to Male Grooming

Jax: I'm Getting a Taste of My Own Medicine

Our Producer Shares Scheana's Wedding Invite

4 Tom Sandoval GIFs for When You've Had Enough

Lisa: What Really Pissed Me Off

Scheana: I Don't Need Kristen

Ariana: Kristen is a Giant "Preying" Mantis

Katie: Stassi Overstepped Boundaries

Scheana: It's Sad How Few Friends Stassi Has

Kristen Spills on her Breakup with Tom

Kristen tells all about Tom's painful decision to walk away and her subsequent hookup with 21-year-old James.

This Reunion was like the end to an era for our group. One year ago, I never would have pictured my life the way that it is now.

In mid-November, Tom had gone out with friends one night and didn't come home. After waking up several times throughout the night/morning, he suddenly appeared in bed around 10 am. After finding a photo booth strip on our living room floor of he and Ariana, I went through his phone (not proud) and found all of the evidence that I needed to prove that he was at her house around 7 am. I asked him simply what he did the night before, why he didn't come home, and if he was with Ariana. As you can imagine, he lied. He claimed he did not see her and was at Scheana's all night. Why lie if there is nothing to lie about? My heart sunk. After a lot of tears and some arguing, he finally admitted the truth and that they had once again "kissed." Now that time has passed, the details of their affair aren't as important, but I know in my gut that it was more than a kiss.

Pathetically, I continued to convince myself that this was something we could work through when Tom put the final nail in the coffin and broke up with me. Over the course of the next few weeks, we were hot and cold. . .still living together and I was in complete denial about our breakup. He still needed to borrow my car, get rides to places and once in a while we would go out together with our friends. I convinced myself that if I gave him the space that he had asked for, he would eventually miss me and we would get back together.

As you can imagine, I was a wreck. I battled with knowing that this was probably for the best and convincing myself that he was the one for me. I want to take a second to thank Shay and especially Scheana for selflessly being the most amazing friends to me during this time. As hard as it was for Scheana to be in the middle man position, she didn't condone the cheating and was there for me at the drop of a hat. A few weeks after the break up, Tom packed a few bags and started staying with Scheana and Shay. I think this was partially to take his space away from me and also to reiterate that we were really over. As I said at the Reunion, the only thing I can thank Tom for is leaving. Out of sight, out of mind was really the only way that I would be able to start becoming independent and be strong enough to be without him.

Tom and I are both guilty of pointing fingers and playing the victim in our relationship. I can repeat ten times over that I don't condone my infidelity and that two wrongs don't make a right, ever. To set the record straight: I did have an emotional/sexual affair with someone years ago and I did sleep with Jax. Tom cheated with five girls in five and a half years.



In hindsight, it's obvious that Tom and I should have broken up a long time ago. We both had so much resentment; there really was no bouncing back. For so many years, I didn't feel like his girlfriend. I felt like his mom, his personal assistant, his maid. I focused more on his day-to-day then I did my own. He didn't have a car for a year at a time on two separate occasions, so it was my job to make sure he could get around, even if it meant sacrificing my own schedule. I would make sure he was up in the morning, on time for appointments. I would open his mail, pay the bills, clean the house and basically wipe his a--. I'm aware that these were choices that I made and I wasn't forced into them, but I cared about him so much that I was willing to sacrifice my happiness to make his life easier. The fun and the attraction dissipated over time and it felt like more of a business arrangement than a relationship.

Back to December. . .I want to be very clear that James was not "Tom's friend" who stole me away as a ploy for revenge. James was our friend and after our break-up, Tom stopped coming around. He fell off of the map and was only hanging out with Ariana, Scheana, and Shay. I didn't plan for James and I to start dating. He is an amazing friend to me and I truly thank him for giving me the tough love I needed after the break up. He put his foot down against my tears and told me to move on the way that Tom already had. He wasn't trying to woo me in to bed or screw Tom over -- it was a natural transition that neither of us expected or planned. He became one of my best friends and the chemistry was undeniable.

After Tom found out about James and I were seeing each other, he gave James an ultimatum that he could either be friends with Tom and stop speaking to me or vice versa. I was home for the holidays when James called me to say that the situation was too complicated and that he would have to stop talking to me in order to reconcile his friendship with Tom. A few days later when I got back to LA, James and I naturally fell back in to place and he made his decision. It is easy for Tom to play the victim in this situation -- that I "stole" his bandmate when the truth is, Tom was using James to produce his tracks. As Tom's ex-girlfriend, I owed him nothing. He had already moved on to a relationship with a girl he had cheated on me with. It was not my responsibility to deny my happiness out of sensitivity for him anymore.

The way that I felt at the Reunion is different than how I feel today. The wound of seeing Tom and Ariana together was still slightly fresh for me although I was beginning to accept it. I thought it was tasteless and tacky for them to throw it in my face the way that they did. I also think that Tom just wanted a reaction out of me so that he could reiterate how emotional I could be. Although I had begun seeing someone else, it was hard to see my ex-boyfriend of almost six years with someone else -- especially the one person I had been so insecure about for so many years. No s---, I was insecure. No s---, I was emotional.

It's laughable that they label me as "crazy" when every fear that I had regarding Tom and Ariana became true. I don't wish them unhappiness, but I don't wish them well. I try to let go of my anger because it isn't serving any purpose other than taking time away from my happiness and Tom doesn't deserve that satisfaction. At this point, I don't ever see Tom and me getting back together. As difficult as he is currently trying to make my life, I do care about his well-being and hopefully one day we can be friends.

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Tom: What a Train Wreck

Tom thinks this was all typical Kristen behavior.

Let's keep it positive. Positive, OK? I just don't think I can do it after this episode. Before we dive in, let me just say I don't write this from atop a high horse. I know I have plenty of my own issues and shortcomings. Anyways, Kristen's attempt at being humorous while she's knee deep in crazy with that girl is painful to watch. She's like "We're gonna need a whole bottle," and says it as if she doesn't want to cope with the situation at hand that SHE set up. It's like a split personality syndrome.

I think Tom did the right thing in removing himself from the situation at SUR, his place of employment. You don't want to cause a scene in one of Lisa's restaurants. Take me, for example. It took so much courage for me to walk away in the middle of my bar shift at Pump and leave my comrades hanging (sarcasm--just in case it doesn't read). So this girl making these bs claims shows up out of the blue?I I would have run for the hills. You never know what people are capable of and honestly I wouldn't have waited around to see her intentions. After the failed confrontation, Scheana comes out and puts Kristen in her place. Kristen belligerently gets defensive and keeps saying, "Why are you making this my fault?" to Scheana. Ahhhhh! Maybe because you instigated this whole situation and facilitated that girl's confrontation.

 

Kristen went to great lengths to get in touch with this girl. She was so excited about the prospect of trying to make Tom look bad, she was practically frothing at the mouth. With her sidekick sitting nearbye. Who would want to be a part of that scenario? You guys get a glimpse of the type of crap I had to live with for three years: Kristin going off the rails and not giving a sh-- about anyone she is affecting around her. The fact that she's in a public place and there are guests around, but she still doesn't give a shite. This is my biggest beef with Kristen. When she has a problem, nothing else in the world matters, and she has ZERO consideration for those around her. You saw the way she made that scene in a public place, completely disrespecting Diana without any remorse. So dismissive of her manager while she smokes cigarettes and pounds wine. Her ability to disregard authority when she's upset is unreal. I mean what a train wreck. It's like a child who throws tantrums in a store when they don't get something they want. I have a complex with people who have meltdowns and lose consideration for those around them. By all means, have a meltdown or two, but be considerate of your neighbors. She will have hissy fits with reckless abandon, then instead of taking responsibility, she'll drop a cheesy quote like, "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." When I'm pissed at her sometimes she'll ask me, "What have I ever done to you?" Um, you kept me up all night, countless nights for years. I don't hold a grudge, of course, but when I see her behave this way, those feelings of resentment resurface quickly. It is true that I have a very short fuse with Kristen and maybe sometimes it's too harsh, but not in regards to this issue. She needs lessons in self awareness (I know, I know, I need lessons in not being a pussy). I had a goddamn flashback watching that episode.

When she has a problem, nothing else in the world matters, and she has ZERO consideration for those around her.

Tom Schwartz

 

Now this Miami girl seems strange, and I'm 90% sure she had a lobotomy at some point. Maybe she's a droid? Also, she has so much Botox, she can barely emote. I wouldn't talk shit about her personally, but she slandered my friend in the most trashy way. Trying to belittle my friend's Chipotle-sized penis. She's gotta be asking herself, what the hell was I thinking? You really have to wonder how someone can have such poor decision-making skills. What a waste of time and energy. All she did was succeed in making herself look like a stage four cling-on.

Even if these accusations were true, which they are NOT, I don't understand her motives. We all had a good time together in Miami--drinks and laughs--but it was always innocent good fun. Not sure why she would make up these false claims then fly to L.A. to "confront" him.  Some sort of ulterior motives at hand here. People's logic is "Well, she wouldn't fly all the way across the country if it wasn't true." What if it was true? Would that justify flying all try way across the country? What does she get out of it? What was her end goal or ideal outcome? Doesn't she have a job, hobbies, things that keep her busy? I think the girl wanted to be on TV. There were crucial details to this story that didn't make it into the episode, because they can only fit so much into each episode.  She may be a perfect candidate for a "Bye Felicia." I feel deeply for my good friend Sandoval. He was ambushed, and I think given the circumstances, he handled himself pretty damn well. Also, Ariana handled herself like a champ, too, and I was happy to see her put that girl in her place. She totally burned her, and that chick had no comeback. Nice comeback.

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