Tom Sandoval

Tom opens up about the aftermath of cheating on Kristen and his thoughts on Scheana’s “Tooth Incident.”

on Nov 5, 20130

"Scheana's Tooth". . .Well, don't get me wrong, I understand that an injury like that has to be so catastrophic and devastating, but at times I felt like I heard so much about "Scheana's Tooth" that it could very well be the title of a three part book series that would rival Lord of the Rings in length!

Hmm. . .OK, so let's think about this for a minute. None of us called Scheana the day of her (not even close to life threatening) oral surgery because. . .we are all bad people? Or just maybe, there's more to it than it just being about the tooth. . .I will let you come up with your own conclusion...

Oh, and now her and Pandora are bestie's wearing the same outfits. . .Jeez. . .Watching Scheana dry-hump Pandora kinda says it all. I feel the tooth thing is one more thing that Scheana used to get her to be Lisa's favorite.
 
See, Scheana was insecure at that point because she knew full well that she had violated our trust, and the fact that she refused to admit this further more annoyed most of us. Instead she spent her time manipulating Lisa with constant tears, who facilitated bullying us into formal apologies because of this damn tooth situation. It overall put a wedge between Scheana and the rest of us and further added to the tension between Kristen and Lisa, as well as Stassi and Lisa.

55 comments
289654
289654

Tom I`m going to  keep it real with you k. So everyone is all talking how something is going on with you and Adriana. And you are already having issues with Kristen cause your trust was already questioned  when you cheated on her and when she sees this girl now come in and people are talking and stuff about how you guys hooked up then you can understand how this would make her feel . This is just something that happens to girls . Her heart was already broken tom when you hurt her so when she sees you and Adriana then she feels like oh crap this is happening to me all over again. So tom just put yourself in her position . Say she cheated on you and you forgave her and now some hot guy comes in and people start talking bout how somethings going on between them now. Cant you understand how that would make you feel . You would just have this feeling that oh she did it once she`ll do it again. So, you see Tom that dealing with this can be hard so obviously you care about Kristen a lot and sometimes when your in love which i can tell you guys are you just have to make sacrifices sometimes. So if that means taking some time to just separate from Adriana then do it cause you will know and Kristen will know that you made an effort and cared about how she feels in this . Now tom i`m not saying all this to bust your balls , i just wanted you to see that instead of looking at a crazy girl who gets jealous you see a girl who is crazy about you and just wants to keep you around . I hope you`ll see that and this message Tom.

I wish you the best .

Luv you guys and keep it sexy  always . <3

donuthole
donuthole

you need to do her a favor and get her to break up with you. HER TO DUMP YOU. Do it.

VintageVelvetSoul
VintageVelvetSoul

Tom, You seem to have owned what you have done, but with that comes hurt and heartache. Both You and Kristen are old enough to sit down (without alcohol) and come to some resolution. Once that is accomplished you start fresh from there or seperate. Love is worth saving. Humans make mistakes, but we can find a humane way to resolve them. If your love is true then take it from there, if not, then find a caring way to end the relationship...Best to both of you....

bpster
bpster

Um you are a man are you not? I would never tolerate anyone I would never tolerate anyone treating me like that period. Time to move on and GROW UP.

Gofish
Gofish

You need to MAN UP and be honest with your "girlfriend" Kristen.  You cheated a few times, no matter what your reason/ excuse  you disrespected and hurt someone you once cared for and supposedly love.  I find you are a coward.  Be honest with her, if you are over her and done with the relationship then be honest with her.  Otherwise you are treating her like a fool and your punching bag.  You aren't doing her any favors by stringing her along and making empty promises. 

Get some counseling or cut her loose.  You are seeking sympathy from the audience for being a liar and a cheat. You are way to full yourself buddy...      

phillip.mcgaugh
phillip.mcgaugh

I'm not a fan of a callous undertone in your post. I clearly understand how manipulative people can be, but when it comes to a humanity factor, I'm inclined not to give your post a high mark. If she had used her tooth incident to manipulate, clearly that is improper, and machiavellian, but what is worse is the denial that she is a human being, and that's what I pick up on, and I'm sure that's what she senses also. Heck, if I were up against such heartlessness, I would throw in some manipulation also. I'm a fan of yours, and appreciate the intelligence of your post, but not the heartlessness. 

rose.sherman.372
rose.sherman.372

I had no idea Kristen was 30!  She really needs to grow up and act it.  As others have said, Lisa is your boss and everyone else's and if you don't like it....look for work else where.  Just because you all are on television now, you all have the self entitlement attitudes.  If it wasn't for Lisa and Ken, you all would not have the opportunities you have now.  Think about it.

Blink
Blink

Umm please look up the definition of the word bullying and then comeback and read your blog and see how insenstive it was to use a very serious word in such a nonchalant manner. And to misuse the word to describe your employer, has to be very hurtful to Lisa.  Lisa is your boss, you're lucky she tolerates any of you.  Only in reality tv, would employees be picking battles with their bosses and pretty much calling their boss a "ish stirrer" in a public forum.  If you don't like the way Lisa handles things, just quit...I'm sure there  are other attention seeking wannabe reality stars that will be waiting to take you, Kristen's, Stassi's, Jax's and Katie's place.  And then you can wake up in the morning with peace of mind that you don't have to deal with Bravo cameras or Lisa.

marimay
marimay

You are still with her, who wants to be a punching bag?  I don't think it takes much for Kristen to drink.  If she really wanted to resolve things then she would and would be sober for it.  She seems to love being the victim, Stassi got a lot of air time with her Jax issues and now Kristen wants the camera.  I agree oral surgery is not heart surgery, and how exactly were people suppose to talk to Shaena, I mean she had ORAL surgery.  I am done hearing about it and it is only the first episode.

sue.jacobson2
sue.jacobson2

It not that hard to check on someone who has had a procedure, or surgery is it?  I didn't think so. Lazy and self  centered. 

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

And you spoiled clueless brats need to understand something - you are employees.  Lisa is the boss.  Lisa makes all the decisions.  You don't have one say in anything relating to how she decides to run her own business.  You work for her.  She pays you. If you are unhappy with this arrangement, please quit and Lisa will no longer pay you.  It's just that simple.  

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

From my observations, Lisa put Scheana in charge because Scheana is the ONLY RESPONSIBLE one in the bunch!

From what I can see, Lisa doesn't give two s*^&ts enough about Kristin to do anything on purpose to rattle her.  

You screwed up, and now Kristin's pissed, as she has a right to be.  You two look miserable and pathetic hanging on to each other.  Since she is too damn weak to do it,  just be the man and leave her.  It's for both your sakes.  

shysharon
shysharon

Expecting people coddle you if you break a tooth is like expecting someone you cheated on to never bring it up again.

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

Poor thing...I feel so sorry for you. I can't believe Kristen actually tells people about how you cheated on her.  What a big mouth!

Cards
Cards

Seriously Bro, how have you not broken up with Kristen yet?! Seriously. 

Christiann52
Christiann52

Get a grip, would you!  Lisa is your boss.  She can do and say anything she wants and if you don't like it, take a hike.  You were almost as disrespectful in your blog as Kristen was in person.  Grow up!

Suzanna
Suzanna

If Lisa puts who ever in charge.. it does NOT matter if you are best buddies or not, You are expected to follow the orders of the person who signs your check. Some how you all think just because someone hired you, you should be allowed to tell your boss that she cannot put this person in charge cause you are mad at them. All of you bitch whine an moan about how things are at Sur . Some of you even have the nerve to refuse to do what you are told. I think if Lisa wants things done she will eventually replace the weak links because after all she is not stupid. You all take advantage of her  and you all have nerve to try to get away with things on the job and then blame it on the person you don't happen to like in that minute since you all are nothing but governed by your emotions.. Now I understand when I hear someone say.. The Youth are weak......because you certainly are. There is too much emotion and tears and childish fits thrown. Don't  any of you think that maybe you should not be experiencing this type of emotions in public and how it makes you all look like your all 13 to 16 yrs old?  I didn't write this to cut anyone down.. I hope it would cause self reflection.

Latto
Latto

I can't believe you are being so insensitive to Schenna !!! She thought she had "friends" which she didn't. For you to say that her tooth wasn't a big deal is soooo wrong. That could have become deadly if her infection hadn't healed. You all are so self centered and immature for your ages it's pathetic. You are so over Kristen--just admit it to yourself and move on. You will be doing yourself a favor and it will be the best thing that could happen to Kristen  maybe it will make her grow up. You all need to grow up !!! Try and be a more CARING person. You might like being NICE.

TXGurl
TXGurl

To say that all of you act like little girls would be an insult to little girls.  SMDH 

WHAT PLANET DO THESE PEOPLE COME FROM?!?!?!?  OMG!!!!! 

love_BRAVO
love_BRAVO

First of all, you deeply betrayed someone who loved you. You think three months is enough time for her to get over it and trust you again? Honey, you're delusional. Even if she forgave you, it's going to take awhile before she gets over it. You humiliated her. She found out you cheated ON TWITTER. That in itself is beyond mortifying. 

 

Dose of reality aside, you two look miserable together. I know it's hard to throw in the towel on a five year relationship, but it appears you two need some time apart. Standing on your own for awhile might not be the worst thing in the world. Both of you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy.

 

Regarding the tooth incident: okay, so Scheana might have been dramatic about it, but she was scared. This incident clearly shook her up. Would it have killed any of you to reach out? All I'm saying is part of being a good friend is letting someone know you're there for them when they're scared and showing you care. Even if you think what she went through was trivial, it obviously wasn't to her. You could have at least asked "are you okay?" in a text message. 

WVWorkingWife
WVWorkingWife

#1 you and Kristen have grown out of your relationship.  Part ways before you hate each other.  #2 she CAN'T seem to forgive you, so you need to move on before you hate each other.  (see the pattern here?)  #3 Jax truly does love Stassi to the best of his ability.  Problem is, that isn't very much at his max.  He doesn't have room to love anyone when he loves himself so much.  Please, please don't use him as a role model.  There's no depth there.

mhip
mhip

I know there are dumb and vacuous people in all parts of the country, but what is it about California that seems to attract the dumbest of the dumb? I mean really.

windycitygal5
windycitygal5

It's like you are all in High School again!  You are right about Scheana's tooth drama, she should move on and grow up!  As far as putting her in charge that night, it doesn't matter if you don't like her you all have to do the job you are paid for.  This is Lisa's business and it was a business decision.  If you all do not like the way she makes staffing, etc decisions, move on.  Obviously, she does many things right because she is very successful!

You seems like the most normal person on this program (staff wise).  Your situation with Kristin is sad to watch.  You have broken her heart and trust.  Only the two of you will know if you can win her trust again.  It will take time.  Good luck to both of you!

bunnymunro
bunnymunro

Young man. some how you "seem" to have some depth under there, possibly more brain matter than the rest of them.

SO, elevate yourself and get some friends that are going to make you smarter!

Being in this gang of idiots is only going to keep you stupid and talking about girl problems!

What bunch of guys care about these problems? You bunch of guys!

Can you imagine some really cool guy giving a damn about this stuff?

NO....

Do yourself a favor; don't renew your contract next year, save whatever money you get from modeling and move to the east coast or atleast Chicago.

Get some intelligent friends, a girlfriend who is more mature and has some depth and use what you have left of that brain because if you stay in that vapid life sucking town you will just be another dolt at 35 who can only get a job as a trainer or house care taker like kato, save yourself.

 

louis1111
louis1111

Tom,

 

I've always admired you because in this fishbowl of egomaniacs that work at Sur you have managed to stay above all the self-adoration and high school like behavior that ther others seems to thrive in. You have an elegance that the others just do not possess. I've never been able to understand why Jax and Stassi have always been the centerpieces of this show. You are head and shoulders more mature and attractive. Now...the hard part...Kristen is not good for you. You have to free yourself because underneath it all you are an artist. Your music is important to you and she is an impediment to your musical success...not to mention that she whines, cries and backstabs 24/7. With the way you look and your seemingly sensitive and caring personality I'm sure you will find a woman who will love and support you in an unselfish way...not the kind of bargaining love you seem shackled to right now. I wish you the best. You deserve it.

 

Alex.

JaneGold
JaneGold

Good blog. Very insightful!

leenelvis
leenelvis

You deserve a nicer person that Kristen.

rachel.n.lee.7
rachel.n.lee.7

Tom Schwartz on the other hand, can't decide if he has star power or he's just really nerdy...or which one is better. He's perfectly detached (until that stupid fight... WTF?), dryly humorous and gentle like a giant.

rachel.n.lee.7
rachel.n.lee.7

I don't understand the "Scheana did SOMETHING to us so we ignored her during a time of need" defense. Did she do something to one of you or all of you? NO ONE could share with Scheana why any of you felt betrayed? You ALL felt it was best to handle it by ignoring her during a difficult time? Do you all share a brain? Do you wear friendship necklaces and vote people in and out? I'm embarrassed for all of you. Grow up, act like adults.

RoseWilde
RoseWilde

Weren't you the one crying over Jax because he lied about cheating with Stassi and hurt your group of friends so much? You cheated on your own girlfriend while all of that was happening instead of simply breaking it off for awhile to live your life on your own terms. And now, here you are on a reality show blog bitching about your girlfriend???

 

Quite frankly, if Scheana's sole purpose in life is to drive a wedge between Lisa and Stassi, I will be more than satisfied with the entertainment. And don't get me wrong - I am not a Scheana fan. 

SFViewer
SFViewer

Kristen needs therapy. I hope she's gotten some help.

kalkool
kalkool

Dump her. You don't need all the drama. Are you not a man? If I were Lisa alot of employees would get pink slips. Too much drama. Grow up everyone!!!

 

moonstar312
moonstar312

Tom- Its hard to have relationship trouble but then to have it all out on TV for everyone to give their "two cents worth" can be pretty tough to take. I still believe that there is hope for you and Kristen. I know she wouldn't be so upset if she didn't love you and i don't think you would stay around if you didn't love her. People can yell right and left that you should leave her ,but it comes down to ..Its your choice and if you choose to stay and fight for your relationship.. then everyone else needs to back off and leave you alone

the the Scheana tooth thing really needs to be put to rest. I got sick and almost died and lost some teeth. It was scary and the dentist said i shouldn't be alive.. an infection like that can be deadly if its not treated. I think all she wanted was to know that people cared about her. However, no one should be guilted into say sorry.. and after sometime its time to just let it go and move forward. I think when a group works so closely.. that tension can run high and things tend to get blown out of the water.. I am keeping you and your girl in my thoughts and i hope that in time you both can heal and have more happy times

richiewillie
richiewillie

DUMP HER!   Move on!  Be mature about it! HOW do you tolerate her?!  I'd sooner eat worms.

long4_u
long4_u

Tom, Kristen has chose to still have this life with you, but she can't  let it go, and from experience this will only destroy the two of you.. I understand u two have a lot of years invested but don't stay together just because its what your used to.. you both should of gave each other time to heal from this.. especially Kristen.. a lot of damage has been done but I wish you and her the best of luck.. no offense;  but there is a reason why u felt the need for attention from another woman really focus on them reasons and reflect on your life and the choices u have made and will need or want to make in the future..

9judgenot
9judgenot

Kristen and you aren't equally yoked.  She is very insecure with herself, her self-esteem seems very low.  It's not good if your boyfriend is better looking than you.  Sorry but true.  Your cheating on her just made it worst.  Now there is no going back.  Someone needs to walk-away and someone needs to grow-up.

289654
289654

 @bpster He is a man and he is grown up. He has not dumped her cause he loves her and she loves him. They are just going through stuff and need to make it work. You don`t throw away 5 years . That`s to precious to waste . Just give it some time you guys and i think they just might make it. TRUST and FAITH =the magic words

Sandyblend
Sandyblend

@mhip it's called the "entertainment industry". California basically gets every prom King and Queen from every city in America trying to make it in the business.

Juliana444
Juliana444

 @louis1111 so well said and totally spot on about Tom, he is such a good guy and sorry but Kristen really isnt in the same league as her personality sucks!

rachel.n.lee.7
rachel.n.lee.7

You should watch the first episode (I just happened across it) and it's clear that your little group has its own opinions and brains but you drag each other down, to the weakest link.

Tsandy
Tsandy

@RoseWilde um no... I got upset during the reunion because Jax feels the need to lie on a regular basis about the most arbitrary things. That he feels so inadequate and insecure that he can't even give a simple answer to how his day is going, without making up lies... It just made me sad at the time. It also upset me that he felt like he couldn't reach out to his best friend for help when he knows I would've completely had his back. It wasn't because he cheated on Stassi and lied to the group

cat771
cat771

@SFViewer I think she is substance abusing. Illogical reactions and seething hostility abounds with each of her scenes. I don't know. She is repellent regardless of what may be going on with her.

marimay
marimay

 @Sandyblend  @mhip That's what Kristen and her cronies don't seem to get, she is 30!, there is always someone in the wings for the same parts, younger and with better attitudes.  I guess you'll be a waitress/bartender for every?

nikkicomley
nikkicomley

 @Tsandy  

 Tom-You seem like a down to earth guy and I'm sure you had your reasons for doing what you did. The truth is, that no one on this blog (including me) knows what goes on behind closed doors or what your relationship has been like for the past 5 years with Kristin. What I will say to you is that everything happens for a reason. You are still very young, and you have an acting career to think about which should be the most important thing to you second to family. I mean you relocated to LA for a reason right? Being on the show should open some new doors for you but I'm sure you don't want to be known for the drama that happens either. As long as you are with Kristin, that will continue to happen. Not only that, it is obvious that (even before you cheated) she doesn't appreciate you. If I were you I would cut my losses, break it off, find a job somewhere else and focus on your acting career. Kristin seems to be a negative, condescending, mean girl who has a lot of growing up to do. I know that 5 years is a long time and that is tough to end and move on through but you guys just don't belong together anymore. She also wil NEVER stop punishing you for the cheating. I wish you the best of luck, you seem like good people! Ignore all of the girls on here who are bitter towards you because of the cheating. No one is perfect, everyone deserves a second chance and the old saying of "once a cheater, always a cheater" simply just isn't true! :-) 

windy.clarkwhite
windy.clarkwhite

@Tsandy - see there! This is why he's my favorite. You are so above these people you call your friends. I think you can do great things in life and look forward to following your journey, I think you are in a VERY unhealthy relationship which is holding you back from doing really great things with your life. You are a beautiful and talented young man and should let nothing hold you back from your dreams!! It's nice you read the opinions of your viewers and explain yourself when you need to. Best of luck you. She will never forgive you. Move on. Just my opinion. I'd not you will be miserable forever. Take care.

Annie017
Annie017

 @Tsandy  @RoseWilde A cast member responding to a viewer? I'm impressed! I've never seen anyone bother to do that before.

judy@london
judy@london

 @Annie017  @Tsandy  @RoseWilde

 It is impressive,I agree.The only other time I've seen a cast member respond was on Tribble's blog (fromThe New Atlanta)actually responded  toseveral viewers' comments which I thought was very admirable and sweet.

Hulali
Hulali

 @Annie017  @Tsandy  @RoseWilde

 WOW  More cast members should interact with the comments on their blog!  This is a first where they actually acknowledged their real identity!  Go Tom!!!