Dating has always been somewhat of a game, but when online dating and dating apps came into the picture, the game was taken to a whole new level. While some may enjoy swiping until their thumbs go numb, others are taking their time on dating apps seriously, crossing their fingers that they will meet their perfect match.
That’s why it can be super frustrating when you spend hours looking for matches and find that nobody seems to be matching with you. If you’re wondering what you might be doing wrong, here are tips from four dating coaches on why no one is swiping right on your profile.
1. Your profile says nothing
“Your profile can be full of words, but do they say anything? Things like, 'I like to laugh and have fun,' or 'I'm comfortable in jeans or black tie,' are meaningless cliches. To avoid typing a lot and saying nothing, be as specific as possible. Tell a story about who you are, what you love to do, when you do the things you love, with whom, where, and how. If you're not sure whether or not something is important, use the 'So what?' test. Read whatever you wrote and then ask yourself, "So what?" If it doesn't say something important about you, try again.” -Suzanne Casamento, Founder, Fantasy Dating
2. Ditch the selfies
“Stop taking half naked selfies! This applies to both men and women. No pictures without your shirt standing in your bathroom. There is nothing appealing about this. Ladies, you don't need to flaunt everything. Don't put pictures of yourself in a bikini. No one wants to swipe right for someone who is self-obsessed.” - Sameera Sullivan, relationship expert, psychologist, and the Founder and CEO of the elite luxury matchmaking service Lasting Connections
3. You have other guys in your selfies
“I don't care if you look your absolute fiercest in a photo with your ex or your gay best friend: if there is a guy in your photo, either fully crop him out or choose a solo shot. There is nothing more unappealing to a potential match than a woman who is gorgeous with a man who is also gorgeous. Even the most confident men are turned off when they see a woman with an attractive guy; they automatically begin to compare themselves with him, and when you have .5 seconds to make a first impression, you want to give him no reason to swipe his thumb to the left, to the left.” - Alessandra Conti, Matchmaker and Dating Coach
4. Your pics are blurry
“With smartphones, there is no excuse to use anything other than a clear headshot. When you use a group shot, blurred image or a picture taken too far away, you aren’t showing your best self. A potential partner might not be able to tell who you really are or could even think you are trying to catfish. Why would you make a potential partner overthink dating you before you’ve even communicated? It’s just easier to move on. The whole point of dating apps is that they require minimal effort. Furthermore, if you have to make someone jump thorough hoops just to look at a picture online, you're probably really difficult to deal with in real life.” - Amanda Lauren, Dating Writer
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