Is love the greatest con of all?
A new study concludes that 65 percent of participants have dated someone that turned out to be a “very different” person than originally perceived. In addition, 70 percent admitted to ignoring red flags in a past relationship, with 70 percent saying they realized the problems after it was too late.
“Men are less likely to identify something as a red flag, suggesting that they are less aware of and perhaps more susceptible to them,” said the survey.
Bravo Media explores this (unfortunate) notion in a new study conducted in partnership with Research Now, focusing on men and women’s viewpoints towards love and relationships. The poll surveyed 1,500 people ages 18 to 54-years-old.
The poll also found that more than four in 10 people wonder if his or her partner have another side to them, while 42 percent occasionally think about what it would be like to escape his or her current relationship. (That many people admitted it, anyway.)
More than three in four women say getting caught in a lie is a red flag. It is significantly higher for women than men, and women are also more skeptical when a partner is private about his or her phone. For women, 71 percent of women consider phone sneakiness a red flag, while 52 percent of men see this as a problem. Half those surveyed had their partner’s password.
On lying online:
Catfishing still exists, with 41 percent of online daters saying t has happened to them in some form.
Nearly 40% of those surveyed admit they have misrepresented something about themselves in an online dating profile, with men guiltier of this than women. Among those who have misrepresented something about themselves in an online dating profile, nearly half have misrepresented their interests, level of success, and education.
Do you discuss past relationships with you partner?
Two in three women consider it a red flag when her partner is unwilling to discuss past relationships. Two in five men surveyed consider this a red flag.
After catching someone in a major lie, 50 percent of people have forgiven someone afterwards. Of those surveyed, one in four people say that they lie at least once a month in their relationship. Those lies included faking an orgasm (36 percent), lying about something in the early stages of a relationship (32 percent), cheating on your partner in a relationship (29 percent) and lying about whether or not you have cheated in a past relationship (18 percent).
As for deal breakers, what would make you walk away?
“In general, women are significantly more likely than men to consider something a ‘deal breaker,” reports the survey.
Lying and stealing are the biggest deal breaker. Lying about serious things (such as addiction) is a deal breaker. “This is the number one deal breaker across the board,” says the survey. Stealing money is the second biggest deal breaker.
“Significantly more women than men also consider lying about your occupation and lying about how much money you have to be deal breakers.”
Across the board, physical interactions are considered cheating, with the large majority surveyed saying having sex with another person (87 percent) and kissing another person (79 percent) cheating. When it comes to emotional infidelity, more women consider this cheating than men.
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