Love is the best thing in the world—but you don’t have to shove it down everyone’s throat with social media posts.
People who post mushy “couple shots,” including kissing, presents they got from their partner, or are always declaring their love for each other, annoy most of your friends on Facebook, a study finds.
“Does the visibility of a relationship affect observers' perceptions of that relationship?” the study asks.
That’s because people witnessing your love can find the posts come across as smug and it makes a bad impression. The more you show off your love, the less you are liked by others, it showed.
The romantic information people shared on FB influenced how others also saw their relationship quality—as in, the more posts about your relationship, the weaker your relationship is.
And it gets even more specific. Relationship visibility, the extent to which people's relationships are displayed in pictures on the site, made the poster less likable. But the study also showed that just posting details of your relationship—relationship disclosure—that connected with others, made the poster more likable.
“Social networking sites promote self-disclosure, but sharing information on Facebook can have social ramifications,” the study says. “For instance, although those with low self-esteem believe that posting on Facebook elicits support from others, their posts tend to be highly negative, making others like them less. People also disclose information about their romantic relationships on Facebook, and doing so is diagnostic of relationship quality. People can discern strangers' personalities from their Facebook profiles and have fairly accurate perceptions of close friends' relationship quality. Yet, on Facebook, one's profile is often accessible to those outside of an immediate social circle, enabling even strangers to form impressions.
“Sharing information about one's relationship is normative on Facebook, perhaps because this information is explicitly asked for when creating a profile. However, people may react negatively to those disclosing highly personal information or intimate details about their relationships. Self-disclosure generally increases people's likability, but those who disclose inappropriately or share overly personal details are perceived as unlikable and psychologically unhealthy. These findings have been extended to the context of Facebook; highly personal self-disclosure, including about relationships, is perceived as inappropriate, making the discloser seem unlikable.”
Participants in the study included 108 heterosexual couples ranging in age from 19 to 31 who had been dating for two to 73 months.
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