Is It Ever Right to Support Your Man Financially? (We Ask a Relationship Coach to Get the Answer.)

Is It Ever Right to Support Your Man Financially? (We Ask a Relationship Coach to Get the Answer.)

Renee Zellweger has been bankrolling her rocker boyfriend for years.


By Delaina Dixon

Renee Zellweger’s relationship with musician boyfriend Doyle Bramhall comes with a price tag. It was recently revealed in divorce court documents from estranged wife Susannah Melvoin that he’s being financially supported by the A-list star.

According to the documentation, Renee, who has been dating Doyle since 2012, has let her boyfriend live with her, rent-free. The Bridget Jones actress has also paid her boyfriend’s credit cards, which range between $4,000 and $5,000 a month. Doyle's former wife wanted to use the numbers to adjust how much alimony Doyle should pay her and for their two children. The rocker counteracted that the money from his girlfriend Renee is a loan – one he has yet to repay. A judge has ruled that Renee's income should not affect what Doyle pays in spousal and child support.

If it seems that only an A-list star would bankroll her man, think again. Medical administrator Wanda, 36, admits she paid for her ex-husband’s expenses while he was in medical school. The reason she didn’t mind shelling out the dough was “I believed in his goals and I believed in his dreams,” declares the New York City native.

However supportive it seems, carrying your man financially can have a detrimental impact.

"Healthy relationships are based on being there for each other in a partnership way, so when it comes to money it becomes very tricky,” says dating and relationship coach Fran Greene, author of Dating Again with Courage and Confidence.  

"When you are taking care of someone because it's your way of keeping him dependent on you, or it's the only way you can keep him interested in you, that's not a good thing. The more you give the more he'll want."

While it may seem you’re helping him out, Greene warns, "being beholden to you could make your guy angry at himself - and he's likely to take it out on you. As we all know you can't buy love and a loving adult relationship is not based on treating your lover like your child. I'm all being there for your guy but please make sure that he's not taking advantage of your generosity!"

Indeed, Renee’s boyfriend cost her $60,000 in 2015.

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